need someone to talk to

[jellea88]

hi

right now im a mess. we did the test this morning even though i knew what the answer would be, and now i have just finished the ring around to find out costs and days the procedure is performed. Although atm living in Queensland I'm not sure if any centre is willing to go put themselves at risk of being prosecuted.

I don't know what i feel. i feel scared and angry but sad at the same time. we have two gorgeous children 3 and 7 months and looking after them is taxing enough on my mental ability atm that I know that this decision is the right decision. I would self destruct having another one right now.

so I'm asking for someone to talk to, someone to help me get my feelings out that could possibly actually understand my position atm. I don't need to be judged, I do that enough on my own thank you. And please don't try and talk to me about God, I have already tried that route as I was brought up in a strict catholic household while living with my grandparents. and i feel abandoned, i know it's not true and blah blah blah but when someone feels this way it is true for them at that point in time.

thank you for reading my ramble

Jess

[lambjam]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

I don't know anything about how to go about this in Queensland so am no help whatsoever there, but I couldn't leave this post without some hugs.

I haven't needed to have a termination myself, however I also have 2 children and a couple of years ago I also could not have coped with another one. I recall my period being late one month and the realisation dawning on me that if I was pregnant I would need a termination.

Being a parent is hard work, physically and emotionally draining at times, and I say good on you for knowing where to draw the line and say "this is what is best for me and for my family". I have no moral objections to terminations whatsoever, however I do have a moral objection to anyone who would rather see someone have a baby than keep their existing family happy and healthy.

I wish you all the best and hope you find all the support you need.

[Monster & Boof]

Jess - Add me to msn.. its megan777726@hotmail.com im not here to judge im 22 i have a healthy 15 month old and have had a termination too... if you need to talk to someone about the process etc im here xx

[Chickadee]

:hugs: for you Jess.
It's a very tough position to be in. Many women on here have been in the same place and won't be judging you, so ramble away.

[2girls&1angelboy]

jess ur not rambling.
big hugs for you hunni its a hard thing to go thru i went thru one when i was 11 weeks when i was 16 years old. pm me if u want or whatever is easiest if u want to talk. ((big hugs))

[jellea88]

thank you girls :) you made me cry with your kind words :)

meegzz adding you now :) thanks

[MumNeedsCoffee]

:hugs: I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
I haven't had a termination myself but I would have to do the same. I had terrible PND with DD and I just could not go through it again.
Big hugs to you.

[naget]

Hi Jess,

I live in QLD too and had a termination last year. it's such a hard decision to make but in the end we did what was best for us and i'm sure you will too.
I was under the impression that it was public hospitals that were not willing to perform terminations atm. I went to a private clinic over near Mt gravatt and they were great and very non-judgmental. i can find the address, phone number if you would like it (just pm me).

i'm so sorry that you need to go through all of this.

[Myztik]

:hugs::hugs:

[Just Add Water]

*hugs* I haven't had a termination but have recently had a friend go through it for similar reasons... it was hard and it sucked. But she's getting better at dealing with it.

I hope you can find some help on what to do in QLD - it looks like the girls above have already offered you some fantastic support. Look after yourself :)

[sosie]

hey there, im sorry so sorry to hear about your predicament.

I realise the situation at the moment is not ideal, i thought they ruled in favour of the continuation of such services on the 3rd of september?

anyay thats irrelevant, have you considered popping over the border to the Tweed Heads clinic? im not sure where camp hill is but hopfeully this is an option for you.

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Goodluck :hugs: