How long before you moved in together when children were involved?

[Tieko]

My partner and I will be moving in together, as well as my two little boys at the end of the year. By that stage we will have been dating eachother for almost a year (and known eachother for almost 2 years). This is the first partner I will have 'made the move with' since becoming a single mum. We have a fantastic relationship and the boys adore my partner, and he stays over as much as centrelink will allow, so I think it's a fairly reasonable time progression to the next step of living together...however it has shocked me a little that so many people we have told think/have commented that it's all too soon :confused: I thought a year seemed a great figure lol! Is it because I have kids that people think this way? Obviously we will go with what we feel is right anyway...but now I'm curious to hear how long it took for other couples to move in together when there were children/step-children ivolved?

[SweetSerenity]

Me and DP didn't even wait as long as you guys!!! Lol :laughing:

We started dating Aug 08, me and DS moved in Dec 08 :D

Still living happily together and wouldn't change a thing. So we've now been together for 13months and living together for 9 of those months :yes:

Do what feels right, I personally think you've waited long enough :yes:

All the best :goodvibes:

[Sarieslittlemen]

You need to do what is right for you and your little ones. It's nice for people to be concerned, but you know in your heart what is the right path for you.

[SimplyMum]

I think you'll know if it's right or not. You don't sound like a women that dates allot of guys so I'm sure you've given this much thought. Also, if it doesn't work out- so what? I mean, it's not like your bringing random guys into the house.

DP and I have just moved in together. We started dating at the end of 2007- we've been together now about 21 months but other factors came into that decision as well.

He's not around kids allot so it took a while for him to tolerate DS let alone have fun with him.
I wasn't quite ready to jump in just yet. Things were starting to go really good for me and wanted to........find myself first.
He lived with his sister, and when her and her partner started talking about moving in together- he didn't want to stay there (thought the idea of 'hearing them DTD' was gross :laughing:).

Lots of other circumstances. Go with your gut. A friend of mine moved in together about 3months after they met and started dating. She had 1 kid, he had 3 weekend kids. They seem happy enough.

[Zada]

We didnt wait long lol. Started dating july 08 and moved in sept 08. Do what feels right for you :)
We have been together 14 months now and living together for almost 12 of those

[werdxela]

My partner and I met in July 03, started seeing each other long distance in October 03 and moved in together in January 04. I had my 4yr old son at the time and my parents thought it was to quick. We have been together 6yrs this October. So I think 12 months is heaps long enough if you guys are ready!

[Just Add Water]

... pfft to them.... do what's right for you guys - congrats on your new journey together!!!!

I met my DH in Jan 06, moved in with him in June 06, got married in Aug 07 :) He had 3 kids that he had full custody of and we added another little boy in March this year - so we have fun full house of four kids (they see their mother for a day visit once a fortnight).

Our families and friends were really supportive - which made everything easier :)

Good luck & good on you.