child support help

[Sarak7]

Hi i'm not quite sure how child support works.:confused:

If the father signs the birth cert do i have to give his last name to my baby?

If he pays child support can he see his child?

If he dosn't pay child support can he see his child?

When is the first visit for baby seeing father? (how early)

If he denies baby is his what happens then?

[MeeG]

hay there,

im going thru the same thing and ive recently seeked legal advice so heres what i know:

- you have to put him on the birth certificate to recieve child support, but it doesn't have to have his last name

-whether he pays child support or not he is entilted to visit, with your supervision he can see the child as early as he wants... cept when ur in hospital he has no right to be there, as long as your breastfeeding he can not have 'sleep overs' or take the baby away from every second day etc...
-you can order a DNA test if it comes back its his then he has to pay for it
-when u sort out all the legal thru mediation or court then u can sort where visits happen,how oftern etc


hope ive kinda helped and Goodluck i know how hard this situation is

:hugs: MeeG

[Lunar]

If the father signs the birth cert do i have to give his last name to my baby?

No, you can give your baby whatever name you want.

If he pays child support can he see his child?

If you both agree on this yes.

If he dosn't pay child support can he see his child?

He still can if you let him yes. If you don't agree with him seeing baby then he can take it to court, but if he is not paying child support it doesn't look that good for him as he will be playing no role in raising baby financially.

When is the first visit for baby seeing father? (how early)

This is entirely up to you. You can tell him when the baby is born and he can come to the hospital if that is what you want.

If he denies baby is his what happens then?

You can get a DNA test done if he agrees with it, it costs a few hundred dollars but maybe you could go halves in it....? It is a tricky question but I think you should wait and see if he actually does question it.

Welcome to bub hub by the way:wave:
And good luck with your pregnancy!

[Sarak7]

Hey that was really helpfull thanks heaps.





Goodluck to you and your baby girl.:)

[Little Gorilla]

Just because he might not be paying child support though doesn't mean you should withhold contact from his child.
Obviously I know nothing about your case at all (and there may be many more complicated issues that would contribute to you deciding that it is not right for him to have contact) - but I don't think whether or not paying child support should be a factor that contributes to whether or not a father gets to see his child.

[sunnyflower]

sorry i have to disagree with you.a child costs money,plain and simple.if a male fathers a child it is common decency to support that child.someone that refuses to support their own child smacks of insensitivity,immaturity,nastiness and a complete lack of ethics/morals.even those on the dole are required to pay something.i certainly wouldn't want anyone displaying these attributes coming anywhere near my child.

[Sarak7]

Too right!!!!!!!!!!

Some fathers are just too immature and selfish to give a F**k so why should they get the privelege of the child at all.

I would never deny my child seeing it's father.. but when older i would tell them exactly why daddy isn't around nothing more, nothing less.

[Veritas]

Just a quick note, you can still file for child support against him even if he is not willing to sign the birth certificate....

The CSA website is pretty helpful....www.csa.gov.au...

Obviously it is an easier process if his name is on the birth certificate, but there are other ways and means around it!

[malinda84]

I went thru this and are still going thru this for the last 2 years. the baby can have what ever name you choose, but the father can take you to court to change it if he wishes. No matter what if the father wants to see his child he is aloud. The min is 2 hours every other week and then the court will increase this unless they see it is best to stay like that. My son has to go to this contact centre to see his dad because he tried to kill him. He also never pays child support and turns up when he wants, but on the other hand my brother sees his son anytime he wishes and he gives her money when ever she needs it. Do what you think is right alot of people think i should let my son spend more time with his father but i don't trust him. If you have any questions make sure you ask a lawyer and get everything in writing just incase. i hope that helps. :thumbsup:

[malinda84]

sorry i have to disagree with you.a child costs money,plain and simple.if a male fathers a child it is common decency to support that child.someone that refuses to support their own child smacks of insensitivity,immaturity,nastiness and a complete lack of ethics/morals.even those on the dole are required to pay something.i certainly wouldn't want anyone displaying these attributes coming anywhere near my child.

I agree with you, unless they are ill or are generally in money trouble and came to you and discussed it. I also think that the government should raise the min child support of $21.67/ month, i gave up and when he pays (in a blue moon) it goes into an account for my son. after 2 years he has $117.37 i think most of it was interest lol.

[Gribel]

Hi Sara


If the father signs the birth cert do i have to give his last name to my baby?
No - absolutely not. My ds Dad signed the BC (after much hassle), but my son has my last name - this will cause less issue down the track (eg when registering with School etc)

If he pays child support can he see his child?
If he wants to see his child, yes you wont be able to get around that unless you can proof that he is unstable - but even then he would be allowed to see the child with a minder.
Also, the more nights he would have his child in his care, the less he would then need to pay in Child Support.
DS DAD pays's Child Support, but refuses to see his kid.

If he dosn't pay child support can he see his child?
This all depends wether you register with Child Support. In a general rule, if you have no regulations with CS, you can refuse for him to see the child. BUT he can drag you in front of Family Court to get a Court Order for him to see his child, so it all depends how far you are willing to push this.

When is the first visit for baby seeing father? (how early)
As early as when the baby is born I believe. Depends what you mean

If he denies baby is his what happens then?
I posted a simiar answer under your other post..

Hope this helps :D

[SweetDreams]

The only question I can answer with any real certainty is that you can lodge to register baby as whatever last name you want to but if father registers with a different name as well and the parties cannot come to a resolution then the registrar of BD&M decides. Usually it will be hyphenated last name of Mother'sLastName-Father'sLastName

Cheers :)

[Gribel]

Back to the BC - you can't legally have the father's name on the BC if he doesn't sign OR denies being the father.
And even when the DNA Test has come back positive, and he still doesn't want to sign the BC, there is absolutely nothing you can do. I just went thru it and rang the Family Court to get some advice, and even they said it was not worth going to court with it.
I got DS Father to sign the BC AFTER i threatened him to go to FC (which is naughty and just a bluff) and i offered to pay him the $385 for the DNA Test he had to pay - that's how much it was worth to me.

[Illusional]

sorry i have to disagree with you.a child costs money,plain and simple.if a male fathers a child it is common decency to support that child.someone that refuses to support their own child smacks of insensitivity,immaturity,nastiness and a complete lack of ethics/morals.even those on the dole are required to pay something.i certainly wouldn't want anyone displaying these attributes coming anywhere near my child.

You cant legally with-hold contact in any case based on those reasons. - it would be nice if you could.. id certainly be one of those who did. I get a whole $9.80 per month for my son.. and nothing for my other two.. the fathers are still entitled to normal visitation though. (go figure)

If the father signs the birth cert do i have to give his last name to my baby? No

If he pays child support can he see his child?
.. Yes - unless there is a court order stating that he can't.
I saw the other answers saying that he can't and that you can stop him.. - but he can take you to court to contest and he will be awarded visitation unless there is a court order. (that usually applies to domestic violence, child abuse.. etc)

If he dosn't pay child support can he see his child?.. Yes, unless there is a court order stating that he cant (as above)

When is the first visit for baby seeing father? (how early).... depends on if you go to court.. or whether you arrange something outside of the court (you do NOT have to ring and advise him when you give birth tho - if you do not wish to - so first visit is pretty much up to when you advise)

If he denies baby is his what happens then? ... [B]This one - no idea - all of my babies dad's were all too willing to have their last names attatched to my children.. but not much else unfortunately[B]