DS already calling DP "Dad"

[Benji]

Very cute but I honestly have no idea where it is coming from!

We have never encouraged it, he's just made it up himself.

I don't really know what to do. Refer to him as Dad or his name?? DS seems to want to call him Dad or Daddy.

I asked him who his dad is and he said *** [Dp's name].

Is it too confusing for a three year old to refer to two men as Dad?

He also calls MY Dad Dad sometimes :laughing: but mostly Poppy.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

i could see that one coming:D. i think that is absolutely gorgeous and if big B honestly doesnt mind, i would let little B call big B dad. coop calls sharons husband dad and i know, he is far from being my partner but i am glad he has someone who can call dad(mainly from repetition from the other kids but who is to care as i dont mind and he doesnt mind)

when i was younger, my dad was engaged and the woman didnt mind us calling her mum as i we saw her a our mum. we knew the difference but she was always around unlike our birth mother. we were a tad bit older than binky though.

congrats to big B, he really is a great role model for B:D

[Benji]

DP doesn't mind at all.

I know, in reality, DP is more of a father than DS's bio father, as sad as that sounds. But it's true. DP is the one who tucks him in at night with me, takes him to the playground, plays games with him, makes his dinner etc. I know that as DS gets older DP WILL be his only real dad.

DS is lucky, he has two sets of grandparents, one set (my parents) who he sees on a very regular basis, still has my grandparents - who aren't going anywhere anytime soon! He's got a LOT of people who love him.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

big B is great for binky. it must be a great feeling for you to know that binky sees someone who he can call dad, someone who wont let him down all the time

[Benji]

big B is great for binky. it must be a great feeling for you to know that binky sees someone who he can call dad, someone who wont let him down all the time

It's amazing. I love the feeling of knowing we won't be abandoned again.

And when he tells him he will do something with him, he does it.. amazing stuff hehe!

I hope you can find a man as good as mine and soon, you so deserve it.

[Zada]

im in 2 minds about this. My kids have never called DP dad anyway but if they did Id be explaining he isnt dad he is *******. As far as I see it they already have a dad and I wouldnt like them calling someone else mum.

[Benji]

im in 2 minds about this. My kids have never called DP dad anyway but if they did Id be explaining he isnt dad he is *******. As far as I see it they already have a dad and I wouldnt like them calling someone else mum.

Yeah that's where I get confused too. I think my situation might be a bit different as his bio dad doesn't act like a parent iykwim. It wouldn't bother me if he called XDP's partner mum, she's lovely. And she is the one who does all the parenting when DS is at their house.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

It's amazing. I love the feeling of knowing we won't be abandoned again.

And when he tells him he will do something with him, he does it.. amazing stuff hehe!

I hope you can find a man as good as mine and soon, you so deserve it.

your a spunky little family i must say:D. it must be a great feeling for binky as well. b is so good with binky and with you, he has such great respect for you:yes:

i hope to find a good man as well. who knows when, i got no idea, would be nice though

[~Temet Nosce~]

DP doesn't mind at all.

I know, in reality, DP is more of a father than DS's bio father, as sad as that sounds. But it's true. DP is the one who tucks him in at night with me, takes him to the playground, plays games with him, makes his dinner etc. I know that as DS gets older DP WILL be his only real dad.


in that case, I think this is awesome :yes:

I hate seeing a child being forced into calling someone dad etc. but when they make up their own mind it's good.
Although.. having said that, when I met my dp's stepson for the second time, he called me mum.. which was a very awkward moment. I decided it's best for me to not reply to him when he did that, and he was corrected on it anyway. The poor kid was just confused really.. messy situation but yeah I wasn't comfortable with it, especially since I am not overly active in his life. It just doesn't feel right for me.

But if your partner is comfortable with it then :yes:

[Benji]

in that case, I think this is awesome :yes:

I hate seeing a child being forced into calling someone dad etc. but when they make up their own mind it's good.
Although.. having said that, when I met my dp's stepson for the second time, he called me mum.. which was a very awkward moment. I decided it's best for me to not reply to him when he did that, and he was corrected on it anyway. The poor kid was just confused really.. messy situation but yeah I wasn't comfortable with it, especially since I am not overly active in his life. It just doesn't feel right for me.

But if your partner is comfortable with it then :yes:

Yes I agree, I don't like it when children are forced to call step parents mum or dad it really doesn't seem fair as they didn't decide for their parents to split.

WOW second time meeting him - you must have made a great impression on him. Poor little sweet boy. But I can certainly understand how it could make a situation awkward.

It has taken 6 months for DS to call DP Dad, and DP is at my house every night so I suppose he really is, in a way, a Dad to him.

I think I might just refer to DP as his name iykwim but let DS decide what he wants to call him. DP is more than fine with Dad so I'll leave it be. He ain't going anywhere!

He's over at his house now in fact while I'm busy "cleaning" :p

[~Temet Nosce~]

I think he has just never really known where he fits in.. his bio father left when he was really little, his mother also left when she and dp broke up and he now lives with his brother and sister and their paternal grandparents (as in dp's parents, but not his real grandparents iykwim so it must be confusing for him)

[Benji]

I think he has just never really known where he fits in.. his bio father left when he was really little, his mother also left when she and dp broke up and he now lives with his brother and sister and their paternal grandparents (as in dp's parents, but not his real grandparents iykwim so it must be confusing for him)

Poor little boy :( he must have been yearning for a consistent parent.

I can't ever imagine leaving DS, I would feel like a part of me was missing.

Does he still see your DP? Call him dad?

[~Temet Nosce~]

We haven't seen any of them for quite a few months now unfortunately :( we don't get much contact now that they have full custody and don't need dp to sign forms every few months etc.
He did call him dad at one stage, as he was the only dad he knew, but as he has been seeing him less and he has also started having a bit of contact with his real father, he doesn't really call him anything now. Sometimes his name, sometimes by dad, we let him decide what he wants to call him (which might be confusing him even more I don't know)
blah the whole situation is kinda crappy really :(

[Amara]

I always used to correct my ex's daughter when she called me mum. Each child only has one mum and one dad, any subsequent partners are step mum or step dad. She mostly used to call me by a nick name she made up. I think it's important to make it clear with the child. I feel this even more now that we are no longer together because she doesn't get to see me much & in some cases the step kids don't get to see the ex step mum or dad at all.

[jaidynsmylilman]

MY 3 yr old son calls my fiancee of 2 yrs dad, daddy or by his name. He still see his bio dad every fortnight but he was only in my sons life for 1 yr b4 he left me and really only get him every fortnight no calling him on the phone etc etc.
I let my son call my partner watever he likes. he goes to school and made a fathers day present i asked who he is giving it to and he automatically said my partners name i told him wat about ur dad and he goes no im giving it to DP name.
He is 3 yrs old and is already saying that he is getting married to my DP and refers his last name to my DP last name saying he is JT instead of JW.

[Benji]

I always used to correct my ex's daughter when she called me mum. Each child only has one mum and one dad, any subsequent partners are step mum or step dad. She mostly used to call me by a nick name she made up. I think it's important to make it clear with the child. I feel this even more now that we are no longer together because she doesn't get to see me much & in some cases the step kids don't get to see the ex step mum or dad at all.

He sees my DP more than his bio dad... I'm not even sure if his bio dad would see him at all if it weren't for his partner. She picks him up, drops him off, bathes him, gives him dinner etc. XDP would lose interest very quickly if it weren't for her I imagine.