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Hi
Just wanted to say that my baby is due last week in Jan 2010 and my DS was born on 1st Feb. He will be 21 on 1st Feb 2010. DS has moved out of home, so for me, this will be like having my first all over again.
What am I going to do for DS's 21st though as I may still be in hospital.
Trace
How exciting!! If I were you, I'd do something special with your son and familyBEFORE you go into labour just incase and maybe suggest/help him organsie a celebration with his friends on the actual birthday night. If you are out of hospital, you wont feel much like doing something in the evening anyway, so it gets you off the hook.. you can always have a special bithday lunch. It's a tricky one but as someone who is in a similar situation to your son (I was an adult when my sister was born), you may think he'll understand, but it's improtant to still make time for him and let it be all about him sometimes. I coped ok with it all but my older brother STILL has issues and he's now 30!
Good luck!
How exciting!! If I were you, I'd do something special with your son and familyBEFORE you go into labour just incase and maybe suggest/help him organsie a celebration with his friends on the actual birthday night. If you are out of hospital, you wont feel much like doing something in the evening anyway, so it gets you off the hook.. you can always have a special bithday lunch. It's a tricky one but as someone who is in a similar situation to your son (I was an adult when my sister was born), you may think he'll understand, but it's improtant to still make time for him and let it be all about him sometimes. I coped ok with it all but my older brother STILL has issues and he's now 30!
Good luck!
Thanks, it's great to hear this from someone who has been in the same position as my DS. You're right, it never occured to me that at his age he wouldn't understand, but of course, I'm still his mum and it is his "special" birthday. I think it's a great idea to celebrate prior to his actual birthday so neither of us miss out. Now I have to get my thinking cap on as to what to do.:)
Congratulations on the impending arrival of your new little one. I'm sure you'll find a way to make his day special and to let him know that no matter what he is very, very much loved.
Congratulations on the impending arrival of your new little one. I'm sure you'll find a way to make his day special and to let him know that no matter what he is very, very much loved.
Thank you - I read your story and it brought tears to my eyes and I really really hope you find your special donor. You will be a terrific mum all over again. Big Hugs for you:hugs::hugs:
Thanks so much, that's so kind of you to say :hugs:
Gruffalo
07-09-2009, 11:08
Maybe you might have bubs earlier or later than expected Trace but definately not worth taking that risk :laughing: Have you had any ideas on what you are going to do?
Maybe you might have bubs earlier or later than expected Trace but definately not worth taking that risk :laughing: Have you had any ideas on what you are going to do?
Hi Steph
I've no idea what I'm going to do. I have suggested that he pick a bar and we put a tab and food on for him and his friends but he doesn't want to do that, advising us that he has "two" different bunches of friends and he doesn't feel the "two" groups would mix well - typical :laughing: We have spoken about buying him a return ticket to Canada, now that would be great and so so easy and means we would only need to take him for dinner. I think I need to organise a December dinner for him as like you said, I could deliver early.
MMelissa
13-09-2009, 07:15
I come from a quirky blended family.
My sister and I were 22 and 26 respectively when my half-sister was born in Feb 2007. My sister had a 9 month old at the time our little sister came into the world (so the aunty is younger than the niece).
For us, we're both adults now so we're super excited for Dad and so glad he's happy!! We love our little sister to bits, just as if she was one of our nieces really. Dad is done with 'parenting' us, so we're excited for him (no jealousy etc) that he's getting that opportunity again. We've all got kiddies around the same age now!!
As for the 21st, I agree that the family dinner a bit earlier is a good idea... and if you can afford to, help out with organising a big party with his friends. I know that the real fun of my 21st happened when the oldies went home so I doubt he'll be scarred by you being in hospital. In fact, I am sure he will be thrilled about a new sibling being born and he'll be grateful for all the thought and effort you put into wanting his 21st to be special no matter what role you end up playing in it.
Trip- to Canada!!! I wish you were my mum!!
I come from a quirky blended family.
My sister and I were 22 and 26 respectively when my half-sister was born in Feb 2007. My sister had a 9 month old at the time our little sister came into the world (so the aunty is younger than the niece).
For us, we're both adults now so we're super excited for Dad and so glad he's happy!! We love our little sister to bits, just as if she was one of our nieces really. Dad is done with 'parenting' us, so we're excited for him (no jealousy etc) that he's getting that opportunity again. We've all got kiddies around the same age now!!
As for the 21st, I agree that the family dinner a bit earlier is a good idea... and if you can afford to, help out with organising a big party with his friends. I know that the real fun of my 21st happened when the oldies went home so I doubt he'll be scarred by you being in hospital. In fact, I am sure he will be thrilled about a new sibling being born and he'll be grateful for all the thought and effort you put into wanting his 21st to be special no matter what role you end up playing in it.
Trip- to Canada!!! I wish you were my mum!!
Well this is the problem, he doesn't want a "party", I can't believe it lol His reasoning, he has two sets of friends who he doesn't think would get on :eek: and he doesn't want to choose which group of friends to invite. The trip to Canada would be his airfare only, he would have to take his own spending money. I'm keen on the idea as I believe travel is such a wonderful way to grow up and become an adult.
Gruffalo
14-09-2009, 14:50
I think the nice dinner and airfare is an awesome idea :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
You'd have to be pretty happy if somebody gave you that as a gift even if you had to take your own spending money :D
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