We're young... NOT dumb!!!!

[Emi]

i was thinking the other day... after reading another thread, and it got me thinking...

why do people always assume they know whats going on in other peoples lives?

why do people stereotype 'young' mums and dads?

why is it seem that because we fall pregnant young we've ruined the rest of our lives?

why do people assume that because we're young we don't know what we're getting into or what we're doing???

that... "oh they're too young to be parents... blah blah blah"

does anyone else feel like this???

does anyone else have anything to share or add???

or is it jsut me that feels this way???

[Oya]

Because they have nothing better to do.

Who cares what others think though, there are fantastic mums of all ages and crappy mums of all ages too.

[Greenhorn]

What frustrates me the most (even though I am not a mum yet, i have voiced that i plan to have kids early)
is the 35+yo that decide to have kids and fall pregnant first try..... Do they not realise how lucky they were??

They assume everyone else can do the same & feel it important to tell everyone.

I don't even argue about it. I know in my heart Ive always wanted to be a mother & having endo has made me more frustrated at people putting off kids for stupid reasons. don't complain to me because you decided to climb up the corporate ladder & are now 41 & can't have kids...

[bumMum]

i only felt the need to reply cos my user name is youngnotdumb lol..
like crazy cake i occasionally am guilty of not feeling sympathetic. although i should. becos it is sad that anyone who can be a good mum doesnt get the chance. but they are probably thinking don't complain to me you have no money and too much school work to finish, you should have waited lol.. not that i agree with that.. i enjoy having chaos in my life lol.
i have a friend who had children quite young because she knew she had very limited chance to fall pregnant when she got older. and about six months after she had her second son found out she needed a hysterectomy.. which is horrible for her!! :( at only 22.

anyway it doesnt really matter what people think. I am occasionally bothered by stupid comments. my old boss (i was a nanny) fired me when i got pregnant, but first mentioned to me that she had a lot of friends who couldn't conceive and was I interested in adoption lol. yer, I'll give you my baby, so then you can hire someone like me to raise him/her.

but like someone else said, there are good and bad parents of any age. why do people judge? why do people assume we are morons? I dunno..
what is that saying.. when you assume, you make an *** of U and ME?! lol :laughing:
oh well..

[Teley]

Yeah, the amount of 'research' against young parents is exciting too.

Here are tidbits that I found the most hilarious out of wikipedia teenage pregnancy:

Studies have also found that boys raised in homes with a battered mother, or who experienced physical violence directly, were significantly more likely to impregnate a girl.[50]

Lol. All I can say. Lol. Tisk tisk tisk, you only have sex if your mother was battered.

Studies have also found that girls whose fathers left the family early in their lives had the highest rates of early sexual activity and adolescent pregnancy.

Early sexual activity + teenage pregnancy = wheres the link??? Or are they talking about the typical time people in this society start to do the deed?

Low educational expectations have been pinpointed as a risk factor.

Clearly:rolleyes:

One-fourth of adolescent mothers will have a second child within 24 months of the first. Factors that determine which mothers are more likely to have a closely-spaced repeat birth include marriage and education: the likelihood decreases with the level of education of the young woman – or her parents – and increases if she gets married.[74]

This is the most hilarious finding of all. Isn't the typical age spacing two years anyway? Isn't an absense of a husband a barrier to concieving? These people crack me up.

Wait, it gets better: A son born to a young woman in her teens is three times more likely to serve time in prison.

Charming:rolleyes:. Has nothing to do with poverty, no? No, of course not, all to do with those feral teenage mothers running around with their legs open.

Teen pregnancy and motherhood can influence younger siblings. One study found that the younger sisters of teen mothers were less likely to emphasize the importance of education and employment :confused::confused:and more likely to accept sexual initiation, parenthood, and marriage at younger ages

Lol.

Okay sorry. Had to let it out. Wouldn't you be sick of reading reports like this if they were targetting you? Like, we don't like the colour of your skin, because of this you are going to fail school. Or, we don't like the suburb you live in, because of that you are going to end up in prison. Etc. etc. etc.

[Whispers]

I'm almost 23 I have 3 kids, (yes all to the same dad, yes we are still together).

So I guess that one of their statistics seem to be right, I was pregnant with #2 6mths after I had my first :laughing:.

People make stupid little comments to me all the time I just smile now, the #1 Question im asked is "are they all to the same father". I just feel like yelling at them and saying "yes they are but what is it your business if they were not, would that make me a bad mother if they had different fathers." And what I hate the most is when they ask how old I am and when I tell them they give me a look of shock and say your still just a child yourself.

So to anyone who has a problem with me being a young mother, I say take a look at yourself why is it you are judging me, maybe your jealous?? or maybe your feeling bad about your own parenting skills?? What ever your reason's are thats your problem don't try and push it on to me.