Do you remember ur parents rocking/patting or staying with you until you fell asleep?

[UmmInayah]

I remember up until I was about 8, my mum or dad used to pat me to sleep.

Sounds nuts, I know. But I couldn't fall asleep any other way. My dad used to tell us the exact same story every night as well.

Do you remember your parents doing this for you when you went to sleep?

And how old were you?

[Baldie's Mum]

I can remember my mum singing. I can remember her sitting next to me patting my back. I can remember my paddy sitting next to me with a ticking clock in his hand and singing scottish folk songs!

:bee:

earliest memory probably around 4.........

[Hollywood]

No, I have no memory of that whatsoever. Mum said I self settled from about 6 months onwards, and she was able to just leave me in my cot and I chatted a little bit (or occasionally grizzled) before going to sleep (at the same time each night I might add....I wish DS had been like that from 6 months :rolleyes:).

[Annabella]

No I don't remember them patting me to sleep but I remember them coming in and giving me a kiss and praying for me when they went to bed. Sometimes I would wake up but pretend to still be asleep. I can't describe the exact feeling but knowing they did that every night made me feel so so loved, I have never forgotten it and do it now for my kids :)

[SalTheGal]

Not so much when I was little little...but I have the fondest memories of my mum stroking my forehead and counting to 100 with me whenever I couldn't get to sleep in my primary school years. She would count softly and slowly in the gentlest voice, and stroke my forehead in time with the counting- I loved it, never ever made to 100, a very special memory!!!

(Still now- if I am really unwell or struggling to sleep DH when he is feeling really kind will stroke my forehead for me, and I love doing it for DS when he is not sleeping well)

[Myztiks#1Fan]

i have no memories of my parents putting myself or my siblings to bed without being yelled at, without getting the threat of the belt etc. when i stayed at my friends house though,her mum would always kiss us good night and i always went to sleep without any problems.

[JATS]

No, I remember being about 5ish after a horrible nightmare running into my parents room to be slapped and told to go back to bed. :no:

[Hollywood]

i have no memories of my parents putting myself or my siblings to bed without being yelled at, without getting the threat of the belt etc. when i stayed at my friends house though,her mum would always kiss us good night and i always went to sleep without any problems.

:( :hugs: How terrible



No, I remember being about 5ish after a horrible nightmare running into my parents room to be slapped and told to go back to bed. :no:

:(

[Benji]

I remember I used to make my dad sing "Yellow Submarine" by the Beatles to me every night :o more than once a night too.. my dad is such a nice guy he's too polite to say no! He's the same even with DS now.

My mum used to stroke my chin, especially if I was sick. I do that to DS now if he's having trouble drifting off.

[studyingECS]

I remember sleeping with my parents from about 4+, anything early then that I can't remember.

I do remember them trying to get me into my own bed though and coming out of my room sitting in the hallway while my parents were watching tv in the lounge because I couldn't stand going to sleepp alone.

It wasn't that I felt neglected etc, but I always had a fear of being kidnapped and taken away from my parents, so I used to wait for them to go to there room and then call them into mine to lay with me.

I remember my mum stroking my arm though.

Weird memories.:yes:

[jembelina]

I don't have a memory of it, but my mum layed with me until I fell asleep till I was around 4.......not because I wanted/needed her to, but because she wanted to be with me while i fell asleep. Even though I don't rememebr it, I feel warm and fuzzy knowing she did it. And I have always been welcome in my mums bed. As an older teenager, if we had a big arguement, I would sleep in her bed that night.

I have very fond memories of my Dad(when I stayed with him, my stepmum and 4 siblings) singing Hey Jude to us in bed. Whenever we all get together we put it on and have a sing along! I sing it to my kids too.

[jembelina]

I don't have a memory of it, but my mum layed with me until I fell asleep till I was around 4.......not because I wanted/needed her to, but because she wanted to be with me while i fell asleep. Even though I don't rememebr it, I feel warm and fuzzy knowing she did it. And I have always been welcome in my mums bed. As an older teenager, if we had a big arguement, I would sleep in her bed that night.

I have very fond memories of my Dad(when I stayed with him, my stepmum and 4 siblings) singing Hey Jude to us in bed. Whenever we all get together we put it on and have a sing along! I sing it to my kids too.

[elleandsam]

Sure do, I've always been a side sleeper and if I couldn't sleep mum would pat me gently on the butt til I fell asleep. I also remember dad holding me until I slept wheni would get bad headaches a child. I remember my Nin (great grandmother) rocking me to sleep. And I remember sleeping in my parents bed when I was very sick.

[misskittyfantastico]

Jats, dats 'orrible:(:hugs:

My parents patted both my bro and I to sleep, I had a dimmer switch, and after being read the little golden book version of "Heidi", there was patting. Later in the night/early morning, I'd go to the toilet and jump into the big bed. I stopped doing this when I was seven. Best, most fuzzy, lovely memories ever.:goodvibes::goodvibes:

[FiveInTheBed]

I remember my mum tucking us in, kissing our foreheads and then from the doorway saying, "Goodnight, sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite"...and then after a minute or two one of us would call out 'muuuuumm', then she'd come to the door and say, " nigh nigh, (and then sing in a funky tune) I'll see ya in the mornin', tell ya what to do!"

:bee:

[Boobycino]

Yeah, I can remember being maybe 7 or 8 and still having my mum come in to sing to me to put me to sleep - I can clearly remember asking for one more song, one more son, one more song.... even at that age. And she'd pat my hair. It was nice. I dont have an issue continuing to give my son comforts like these until he no longer wants them, because they're such wonderful memories.

My dad when I was 12 and my mum had just left us would play me puff the magic dragon on the guitar to go to sleep. That was really nice too!

[squiglet]

I have no memories of anything nice that either of my parents did for me or my brothers:(

[BigRedV]

I remember being out to bed and kissed and cuddled but I am one of 6 kids so it would have been almost impossible for my mum and dad to do it everynight for all of us.

[Oya]

Mum and Dad used to sing to us and lay with us till we fell asleep till we were about 12 or so.

[UmmInayah]

i have no memories of my parents putting myself or my siblings to bed without being yelled at, without getting the threat of the belt etc. when i stayed at my friends house though,her mum would always kiss us good night and i always went to sleep without any problems.

Aww that's terrible. I am so sorry :(


No, I remember being about 5ish after a horrible nightmare running into my parents room to be slapped and told to go back to bed. :no:

oh no.. i hope that didn't happen often :(



i think i took for granted how much my parents did for me. i remember my mum carrying me to the bathroom as well to have a shower and i must have been around 8 then too.

i wish i had the patience to do the same with my children :(

[sahm]

I remember my dad reading us stories in funny voices for different characters, every night without fail. I thought it was so cool when we went to chapter books, like the Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe and we would read a few chapters each night. This continued long after I could read myself.

I also remember waking up when he would come and tuck us in or check on us when he went to bed. It always made me feel safe.

There were a few nights when I got a smack because I wouldn't go to sleep (mucking around, we shared a room), but that is definitely not the dominant memory, that was just when I was naughty!

[~Temet Nosce~]

Nope. We had a bedtime thing that went on for quite awhile though, lol.. flavoured kisses :p I would get to choose what flavour kiss I wanted, I think my fav was caramel :laughing:
no idea how that one came about.

[Leisa21]

Hmmm my Mum would still do it now it I asked LOL. I remember when I was 19 and I broke up with my boyfriend and I was sad because I thought I'd never meet anyone I really loved - yep at the ripe old age of 19 :rolleyes:. Funnily enough a month later I met my husband LOL. Anyway she layed with me and stroked my hair and sung you are my sunshine until I fell asleep :goodvibes:. I love my Mum.

Honestly she never really stopped. When we were young she'd do it every night, when we got older as in 10+ she used to only do it if we were sick or whatever and when we were teenagers she used to rub our heads and cuddle us to sleep when we had a bad day. I remember I had really bad gastro when I was five and Mum craddled me in her arms and sung you are my sunshine and paced the floors. I remember her twirling my fringe and kissing my forehead. I remember hearing her sing Popeye the sailor man to my brother up the hallway. I have so many fond memeries of my mother singing and rocking us to sleep.

[WorkingClassMum]

I have no memory of my parents ever touching me in a loving or kind manner

[AM]

Mum and Dad used to sing to us and lay with us till we fell asleep till we were about 12 or so.


Thats so awesome! :thumbsup:

I dont think i was ever patted rocked or sung to sleep. Just left to it I think... :gloomy:

Ill be helping my children to sleep for as long as they need it.

[naiwen]

I was always read a story until I was about 8, no patting or stroking etc but I was a very independant child and prefered to have my own space even then.

Much to my dismay DS is similar and refuses to co sleep!

*GBH* to all those with crappy parents.

[Zada]

no cos mum said I slept 6pm-6am from a few weeks old. Now if only my babies did the same lol

[Seekrit]

The earliest bed time memory I have is we'd get into bed when told and then mum and dad would come and give us a kiss good night. On occasions I'd "hide" from dad under the covers and he's pretend he couldn't find me while I giggled :D But I remember times he'd go "Oh well, she doesn't want a kiss then" and leave, I'd end up crying until he came back in... a few times he didn't come back in (I guess he got sick of my "game") and I'd just scream and scream until i fell asleep :( Then I wouldn't hide anymore.

[EmPowering]

I remember sleeping with my parents from about 4+, anything early then that I can't remember.

I do remember them trying to get me into my own bed though and coming out of my room sitting in the hallway while my parents were watching tv in the lounge because I couldn't stand going to sleepp alone.
Weird memories.:yes:
i remember this toooo i would have alot of bad dreams and want to sleep in my mums bed and she would always tell me to go back to bed so i would just sit out in the loungeroom as i was too scared

[JATS]

oh no.. i hope that didn't happen often :(



No, after that I'd just stay in my room and cry myself to sleep after nightmares, my younger (by 5 yrs) sister always came to me when she was scared as a child. Our parents lack of interest made us very close.

I'm determined to give my children all they need to feel loved and secure, something I, and by the looks of it at least a few others here, never had.

[Leisa21]

I just rang my Mummy and said thank you :goodvibes: I didn't realise how lucky i was until reading this thread. I'm so sorry to all the hubbers out there that have bad memories :hugs::hugs:.

I didn't realise how amazing my Mum was until I had Aidan, she's just beautiful and filled with love. I hope my son can look back when he's older and remember how much love I give him.

[UmmInayah]

I have to agree with some of the other posters.. so sorry to those who didn't have the best parents. I guess not everyone has the patience etc.

I know with my bub I get SO angry with her and I do want her to cry to sleep because I honestly couldn't be bothered trying to get her to sleep because she hates sleeping..

But reading this thread has made me realise that bedtimes are important. Obviously some of us have been affected by the negative things that have happened at bedtimes :(

[kar]

the sad stories on here have made me cry.

i always had a story in bed (same story, over and over for months and mum would just keep reading until i wanted a different one) then hugs and kisses and i don't remember ever having an issue then just popping off to sleep but when i was sick or couldn't sleep for some reason i was always welcome in our parent's bed or they would sit with me until i were ready to go to sleep.
and mornings were always everyone in the big bed before getting ready for school/work.

i remember just stirring and waking a little when my mum came to check on me and give me a kiss before she went to bed. i do the same thing for my son every night. if i go to bed without doing it for some reason i have to get up and go and do it.

i certainly don't remember bed time ever being a trauma in any way because if we couldn't go off to sleep on our own for some reason our parents would help us.

I get so frustrated with my DS who refuses to sleep and this thread has reminded me how important good memories are.

[BabelFish]

My main memories were Mum singing a goodnight song to me, or `All Through The Night' which I now sing to my daughter (or I did, when she was younger and needed soothing off to sleep). The other day she was tired and I turned the radio off in the car and sang that lullaby to her until she went to sleep. It always makes me cry but I love doing it.

I always used to say the same thing to Mum though `See you in the morning when the world turns `round'. I don't know where that came from, but I remember it like it was yesterday.

Also I would go and sleep with my Mum and Dad sometimes if I had bad dreams - I remember it quite well, but then I'd get annoyed at having no space so I'd go back into my own bed after a couple of hours hehe. I wish my daughter needed to sleep with me sometimes - she's SO independent and God knows that if anyone disturbs her sleep (even at the tender age of 13 months) you'll hear about it - loudly. :D

To those in this thread who don't remember loving touches or treatment from their parents - I'm so terribly, terribly sad for you. What an awful thing to have in your memory bank.

If you don't mind me asking - what is your relationship (if any) with them now?