View Full Version : First night of Controlled Crying.
Wish_Bear
05-07-2006, 07:09
Well i decided last night to do c c with my 7 month old ds as he has been waking every 2 hours when his dummy falls out. So after much umming and ahhing I took the plunge.
Was very nervous about it, not sure why, but thought if i am going to be awake anyway i may as well take a positive step towards getting him to sleep on his own.
He only cried for 10 mins when I put him down at 7 so I was very excited. he then woke agin at 8 and cried for another 10 mins but then went to sleep. So here I am cocky as anything assuming that was that and he was down for the night. Not so!:no: At 2:30am he was awake and wow, it took over an hour of crying and of me going in before he went to sleep. I almost gave in and stuck his dummy in but kept being positive and stuck it out. So by 3:45 am i could hear a little chatter from his room but that was it till 7 this morning.
So now we tackle the day sleeps. Not too worried as if he sleeps at night i am happy.
Thanks to Draught for her 'how to', it came in handy.
Lets hope in a few days it's all done and we can all get some well needed sleep..:sleeping:
Has anyone else been trying CC recently..hows it going?
Taryn.
Mrs Little
05-07-2006, 07:19
Well Done Taryn! :smiliedance:
It's not easy to do a first time, and you've just made it through your first night.
Keep up the great work, it will all pay off in the end.
Sometimes when DS was younger, i would work on one day sleep at a time. It was all my heart strings could handle for a few days. Then i'd start the next sleep.
Be encouraged to continue your positive thoughts in the middle of the night when your lying their listening to him and tempted to give in. You're a great mum.
The more consistent you are with the CC the better off both of you will be.
Mrs Little & Son.
hi taryn :wave:
last night was our second night at trying it. ds2 uses me to fall asleep on a feed, so have to get him out of that!
sometimes he could cry / scream solidly for two hours while we were walking around bleary eyed trying to get him back over, so we are trying this.
so far it hasnt been too many tantrums, more grissles (is there such a word?!). we have been up 4 times last night, and most times he settled by the 3rd or 4th attempt at going in. he did fall asleep on a feed at bedtime, so need to try it without doing that.
tried two daytime ones yesterday and they worked after a few attempts too. i am not expecting it to continue to be this easy! :fingerscrossed:
let us know how you are getting on too!
Wish_Bear
05-07-2006, 08:15
Well I just put him down for his first dummyless day sleep. Cried for 10 mins but all is quiet, so :fingerscrossed: !!
Taryn.
our 'nap' is not working! you can probably hear the screams.......!
no, actually they have stopped - ds1 has gone over to speak to him. maybe i can just get him to stand there all day! :D
twolittlegirls
05-07-2006, 08:53
Congratulations on being so strong. I know how hard it is but it has definatly paid off for us. Our little girl very rarely wakes up in the night now. If she does we know that there is something wrong (usually made her way to the bottom of her cot!!).
Good luck for the next few nights!!
Shan
Mrs Little
05-07-2006, 09:26
Are you doing the CC because you don't want him to have the dummy? I admire you for doing it without the dummy....i don't think i could do that right now.
We did/do CC but he still uses the dummy. He never wakes for it during the night or day. I never give it to him again once he's fallen alseep. I generally give it to him when i put him down, he may whinge for it and then i go back in and give it to him (Often he finds it himself and puts it back in). But if he wakes i don't go in and give it to him...so i guess i never formed that habit.
Well done!
Mrs Little & Son.
are you planning on eliminating the dummy, or just want him to fall asleep by him self.
I was told to help with the dummy situation. Set up a halo of dummies around his head. That way when he wakes at night with no dummy, he can easily find a dummy and put it back in himself. Might work for you.
Good luck with CC.
twolittlegirls
05-07-2006, 10:00
Our little girl still has her dummy when we put her down. Its on a dummy chain so she finds it easily when it comes out.
She use to wake once a night for it and I got sick of it. I let her cry and it took about 2 minutes and she stopped. I went to check on her to see if she had found her dummy but she had just gone back to sleep. It had obviously become a habit for her to expect me to get up and put it back in, I just had to break the habit. When I didn't come she obviously decided that she couldn't be bothered crying!!
We have used controlled crying since she was 4 months and have had nothing but success with it!
darkangel_23
05-07-2006, 14:03
i'm on day 3 today. the first day and night went really well much to my suprise. last night not so well. he was all over the place yesterday and slept longer and later than normal. i think it was 9. 30pm i started trying to put him to bed and was still going after 11.30pm so i caved and picked him up and not even 10 secs later he was asleep. i know they say not to do it for more than an hour or something like that but it wasn't a constant cry. he would stop and start so he wasn't going hysterical or anything like that.. hopefully tonight will be a lot easier. he decided to have another big sleep so hopefully i can keep him up till after dinner and bath etc without too much trouble!
sounds like you're on the right track dark angel. Just be consistant.
Our 15 month old has started not wanting to go to bed, so we now put him in, but if we need to go in and change his nappy or calm him down we don't bring him out of the room. We keep the room dark also, I also try not to talk to him too much, just do what needs to be done and get out.
Stick at it girls, its definately worth it in the end!
Luckily it only took me 1 full day and now he needs to be put in his cot to sleep.
A little sad now though, miss the cuddles to sleep:crying: But its fantastic because it helps set a routine. Bailey rubs his eyes and i put him to bed he goes to sleep. Perfect!
With the dummy thing, Bailey just decided he didnt want his dummy anymore and decided to suck his thumb to help drift off to sleep ( think I would prefer he still had the dummy!)
Wish_Bear
06-07-2006, 18:34
Second Night of CC....
Well our second night of CC was pretty good!! He went to bed at 7pm cried for 10mins then went to sleep. At 9:30pm he woke again, I heard him whinge and then......nothing...he went back to sleep:smiliedance:
Then at 3.30am I heard him whinge again but I didn't go in and he went back to sleep on his own....YAY!!
Put him down at 6.15 tonight as he hasn't slept well today and he cried pretty hard for 10mins but again went to sleep. So we'll see how our 3rd night goes:fingerscrossed:
I have completely taken the dummy away at night as he was waking when it came out of his mouth so he was waking every 1-2hrs. Not sure what to do about the day sleeps though. Should I do it with those sleeps as well?
Any ideas about day sleeps. Should I just get rid of the dummy altogether to be consistent??
Well done!
I am no expert on dummies (having never used one for either child) but I would suggest that if you are getting rid of it for nighttime that you do the same for daytime.
BTW - fourth night of CC (for the millionth time) for us with DD2 and she whimpered for 1 minute then went to sleep - sanity is returning! The lovely thing is that her behaviour during the day also improves when we use CC and she is sleeping properly - she is happier, so I am happier and life is better!
Well done babies!!!! :yelclap: (and well done mummies, too! ;) )
Sounds like things are on track and going very well.
I hope it continues! :yes:
Love,
Nan. xx
Wish_Bear
07-07-2006, 13:42
Ok...The CC at night seems to have worked without too much fuss:fingerscrossed: but what do i do about the daytime sleeps. Do I just put up with the fact that without his dummy during the day he wakes after only 1 hr? Or do I do the same thing as at night? Not sure why but I seem to have more patience at night for the crying.
Any advice for days sleeps?
Taryn.
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