Mummy I don't want daddy to come home.

[MonMic]

My nearly 3yo DD just came out with this one!
what do you say!
To give you some more info, my DP is away O/S for work this is week 5 out of 6, so he will be back saturday week.
I noticed last week she stopped wanting to talk to him on the phone and now she says she doesn't want him to come back.:rolleyes: Hmm Tempting.
I have gotten used to having everything my own way.:eek:
I am not worried and know she is just anxious about things changing again, and that she does actually miss him,but wow.
Phew and he thinks its hard for him!

How's everyone else go when its time for you DP's to come back?
I know I also am starting to feel anxious about him coming back.

[Grizabella]

Wow thats a biggie! Maybe your DD has taken a liking to having Mum all to herself? And has realised that that won't be the case once Dad comes home?

Have you asked her why she doesn't want him home?

[sunshine girls]

its probably very true what Brions mum says, she would love having you all to herself..... maybe you could try and get away all together when he comes home or even just do something fun for a day so she remembers it can be cool when dads around? It is a toughy especially if you're feeling the same xx

[MonMic]

Yep you are right it probably is because she likes having me all to herself
How flattering!
Its her birthday the day he gets back so I'm sure that will make up for a bit, children can be pretty unforgiving though.
I know DP will expect her to run into his arms and I'm not sure she will, and he will be hurt but he thinks everything will be the same as the day he left! as if they wouldn't notice he has been gone all this time! (DURRRR)

[brooke]

wow that is a big one!

Maybe try and sit her down before he gets home and talk to her....

I know my DH would be devestated if our DD ever comes out with some thing like that!
I am sure she does miss him!

[sunshine girls]

i guess thats the thing with kids isn't it they'll do exactly what they want! My other half has just got home and he reckons "a coupla days and she'll be all good!!

[MonMic]

Oh BTW
so far the reasons given have been:
"he ate all the breakfasts and made his shirt dirty so he has to stay in america and wash it"
and
" he has yucky spots"
:laughing:
good luck dad when you get home!

[Grizabella]

:laughing: :laughing: :laughing:
They sound like valid reasons! Maybe you should keep a list of them for your hubby to read when he gets backs. Put a light note on the fact she's a bit distant :o

[bearsmummy]

hi:wave: thats a tough one! i think sometimes the kids get so used them not being here that its more of an upheaval when they come home not go!

i know my 2 big boys are ok when my df comes home but my bubba joel is really stand offish for the first day.

im sure if she has a little time she will forget all about it..... i just hope your dh takes it ok, i know i could see the hurt in my dfs eyes when joel went all funny towards him.

let us know how it goes :hugs:

[MonMic]

I couldn't decide wether or not to tell DP about it but did in the end because I though it might prepare him if she is distant when he returns.

Anyway I said be prepared that she might not come running into your arms when you get home and he goes "of course she will". Yeah baby ! and De Nile (denial) aint just a river in Egypt!

He can be so obtuse about stuff like this, he tried to tell me the other day that talking to him for maybe 5 - 10 mins every couple of days was equivalent to having him here! to the kids. :banghead: He thinks everything will be the same like he never went.

I have to admit to being jealous too, I bet when he comes back there will be conversations about him travelling less because DD "gets stressed" but to me he just says "deal with it".

[MrsMiggins]

Sounds like she is just anxious because she is used to him not being there & isn't comfortable with the fact that she knows it will be different seeing him again (and she probably feels a little shy too!) She doesn't know how to put it into words, so she makes up very far-out sounding reasons for her not wanting him to come home.

I remember feeling like this when my dad went away on business trips when I was little. It wasn't that I didn't love him, it just felt different having him home & kids are creatures of habit who love routine.

She will probably feel a little shy & closed-off toward him for a day or so, but I bet things get back to normal very quickly!