Your opinion? MIL calling up for a place to stay

[Amira]

So my MIL called up yesterday leaving a message on the phone asking if she can "book a bed for the 9th". Not asking how everyone was or what is happening.

We havent heard from her in over 2months and she rarely calls and talks to DH unless she needs computer advice or to ask to stay over for the night.

I'm tired of being used as a hotel.

When she called back today apparently the reason shes coming down is to see her other granddaughter in a play. So why doesnt she stay there?! They have just as much room as we do and its over an hour away.

Am i completely unreasonable to be annoyed?

I know its only one maybe two nights but there isnt really enough room. She'll be bringing her own bed and sleeping on the floor. Its a school and work night.

DH just rolled his eyes when i told him that she called. :rolleyes:

And i swear if shes sick when she visits i'll really loose it:no:

Whinge over :D

[BabelFish]

Just ignore it and when she calls back to demand why you haven't contacted her you can pretend you didn't get the message. That's what I'd do.

Or otherwise, call and leave a message for her saying `of course you can book a night. The rack rate is $150 per person but family get a ten percent discount'.

[Cicho]

I would do what Chesby said... "what message"? LOL :laughing:

If you simply do not have the room, then fair enough. She will have to stay elsewhere :yes:

[Boobycino]

Yeah, I'd just pretend I didn't get the message, I do it alll the time to my MIL.

"What? what message, sorry, my phone must be playing up?"

Hmm... do you think she's noticed that my message service hasn't been working for 3 whole years:laughing: she still leaves me messages.

Oh, and I'd be totally ****ed off too.

If it were me, if she asks in person, I'd just tell her you have no room, its too much of an inconvience on a work/school day too. Dont want to mess up the kids routine!

[Amira]

Well im glad im not the only one whos annoyed at my situation.

I dont know how many times she has to sleep on the floor and me to completely avoid her before she gets the hint we dont want her here.

I'll be making DH call a few days before to make sure shes not bringing a cold or flu with her like she normally does.

My original plan was to completely ignore the phone message and not answer my phone for the next week or so. But i completely forgot when i was washing up and just grabbed it. Then i heard her voice i was kicking myself instantly.:o

I really need to get a phone with caller id so i just dont answer the phone when she calls :laughing:

Sometimes she'll offer to buy dinner that night which is normally pizza because i refuse to cook for visitors also (really its a big hint i dont like overnight visitors) but i've just started weightwatchers and i dont think i could handle the temptation :(

[Boobycino]

You have more self control than I do not cooking for unwanted visitors. My parents raised me too well and I cant break free of doing the proper thing, even when I intensely dont want to.

I've offered DP bestfriend dinner practically through grit teeth. I think I may have even on one occasion said to him "you dont want to stay for dinner do you :no:?" Because he'd worked out if he dropped in unannounced at a meal time I'd feed him. I did stop talking to him and just dropped food in front of him and he got the message eventually that he wasn't welcome.

Caller ID rocks. DP just cancelled it because we cant afford it, so I've told him I no longer answer the home phone. Anyone who's really wanting to speak to me will call my mobile - we have an answering machine anyway.