To 3 or not to 3??!!

[mumma_jessy]

That is the question!

I have always wanted 3 kids, right now we have one of each. DP only ever wanted 2, so after us talking and talking and talking it looks like now he might say ok.

BUT.... now i'm having second thoughts!:banghead:

Is 3 much more expensive? Is it ok for two of them to share a room? Will the younger one get left out? I only have 2 hands, will one always be left out? That means my second will never get me all to herself, like the first did!

I'm stressig out about all this stuff, and now i'm not so sure, is it just me being worried like i was when i was pregnant with #2?

Did anyone else feel like this?

HELP!!!

[3TinLids]

That is the question!

Is 3 much more expensive? Is it ok for two of them to share a room? Will the younger one get left out? I only have 2 hands, will one always be left out? That means my second will never get me all to herself, like the first did! I'm stressig out about all this stuff, and now i'm not so sure, is it just be being worried like i was when i was pregnant with #2?

HELP!!!

Hi,

We have 3 boys and haven't found it much more expensive yet. Having 2 already means that you pretty much have everything you need. However, having said that I am sure that 3 teenage boys will be expensive to feed!! On occasion I have found that the second child has missed out, especially when the baby is crying and the older child is demanding attention too. BUT, don't forget that your second child has an older sibling to play with which your 1st child didn't. That is something very special. I found having number 3 was actually easier than number 2 as the two older boys entertained each other most of the time. I didn't get nagged at so much while I was trying to feed or change the baby. You also have 2 little helpers!! It really wasn't too bad and we are now considering having number 4. Having 3 children of the same sex we are a little worried about 'the middle child syndrome' and think that it might be nice to have one more!! :D

Goodluck

Rebecca

[dhdmum]

hi i completley understand how you feel. I always wanted at least 3 and dh only ever wanted 2. I finally have convienced him to have a third and am now having second thoughts, i don't want to tell dh this in case he then changes his mind as well. I have decided to see how things go and maybee start ttc at the end of the year.

dhdmum 28
dh 31
dd 14.06.02
dd 29.06.04

[melbryan]

I am the same as you I never wanted three and always thought I would have one of each. I am about to pop number two another boy. My Dh doesn't really want three but I know he would love to try for a girl. Things will always wrok in the end if you stay positive. We can never tell the future although it would nice to have that gift. I will love my baby's whatever they are. If I had heaps of money I would have more but I think three will be the compromise.

[defaipe]

im preg with #3 so i can let you know in feb :D
but truly i dont think 3 can be that much different then 2. *maybe im trying to convince myself*:laughing:
i actually want 4.. but will see how number 3 goes.
goodluck with your decision!

[mytwolilprinces]

I can understand everyone's worry about number 3! I have two little boys and am considering having a 3rd. And yes, I'll be honest, it is mainly in the hope that I will pop out a little girl, but I also know that there are no guarentees so I have to be 100% sure that I am happy with 3 boys (if that is what the outcome is ) before I even consider falling pregnant again.

I have found having 2 babies reasonably close together challenging so will wait until my eldest son starts school before conceiving a 3rd..... that's unless the "clucky bug" hits me beforehand :)

[Hokey Pokey]

We want 3 aswell..... hoping for a boy but I think it will be another girl!

[Sam =)]

I have always wanted 3 because I was 1 of 3 growning up but dh only wanted 2 because he was 1 of 2 and every thing seems to be caterd to a family of 4 however when Mia was born he was starting to think he only wanted 1 but we then agreed on 2 but im having twins so looks like i got my way and although im dissapointed im not having a boy i cant wait to have 2 more lil princesses to spoil

[mumma_jessy]

Thanx for your replies ladies, i think i've decided that the two we have are enough.

Although i've always wanted 1 more, i don't want the two kids we do have to miss out on things just because i want one more, unfortunately finances don't make it easy!

Thanks again to all who answered me, and goodluck with your families!

[blessedmummy]

hey.. im a mum of two beautiful girls, aged 3 and 21months, i also felt as though one might be left out or something before i had my second girl, but all worked out in the end and noone gets left out! i am in two minds though about having number three... hmmm.. husband would like a boy one day.. but not sure what to do??? help!!!
:(

[Mamaduke]

DH & I are in the middle of 'discussions' about this exact same topic.
We have 2 boys and I would love 3 (but pregnancy does NOT agree with me!) and DH thinks 2 is fine (he's the one constantly thinking about finances).
My friend told me something interesting the other day though -
"The only child you regret is the one you didn't have"
I think there's something in the for all of us!

[nelly75]

Carly thats exactly what I keep telling DH. I'm not so sure I want another one but not prepared to say definitely "no more" while he is more than happy with our 2 boys. I said to him that if we don't have another one I could end up regretting but if we do go ahead and do it we will never regret a child we have had.

But like some of the other girls still don't know what to do - I love the cute little baby stage but the toddler years are so so so hard!