Anything to be worried about??

[jen023]

My DSS mum passed away last week, and he is coming to live with us.
DOCS called DH today, and said last year my DSS mum made a complaint saying my DSS witnessed us having sex. :confused:
The caseworkwer was asking DH about whether we have porno mags around the house, and that kind of stuff???
We are going up there tomorrow (its about 1.5 hrs away) to talk to him.
I am sure that DSS mum was just trying to make trouble, about the same time we went to see a lawyer
I am really stressed.... and worried...
Should I be???????????????????????????????

[Just Add Water]

First of all, *huge hugs* I don't doubt you, your DH, your DD and your DSS are in for a bumpy ride while the torrent of emotions over his mothers death hit home.

Second of all, I'm not really sure what will happen, but I recently was reported for physically abusing my step daughter by her mother (her mother later admitted she was simply having a "bad day" and didn't like me)... they spoke to my DH, spoke to me and spoke to the school and found out that I am actually not a bad person and closed the case. They will investigate it given the circumstances but basically from my experience if you have nothing to hide then they wont find anything.

One bright spot that I did have pointed out to me though after it all... I am now officially in their system as a "good parent" :)

I wish you luck with this time in your life.

[jen023]

Thanks!
I am worried but not in the sense that I did anything wrong. We love DS, and he is a great kid.
But honestly even if he did see us having sex, since when is that really a concern of DOCS????
Shouldn't they be out there catching the child abusers???????

[Just Add Water]

They should, yes. But as I was told time and time (and time) again during it all, at least they're investigating it and I should be thankful to know that they are ensuring the saftey of the kids.

You know what though? I spent a whole week questioning everything I did with the kids (I have 3 step kids we have full custody of, the youngest is 6 1/2 and was 18 months old when I met DH, his mother walked out when he was only 6 months old). Everytime I even raised my voice slightly I was looking over my should worried that someone would say something. Even 3 weeks on it is still playing on my mind.

It's a horrible, horrible feeling to have your parenting questioned and even more so if it's simply because someone felt like being a *****.

As for the sex thing, it is not a concern of DOCS but it would depend on how she reported it. If nothing was mentioned to you then then it wasn't obviously an issue then. I would say that they simply have to dot their i's at this time. Take a deep breath and go with - you may end up with a great case worker who can help you with other issues.