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Melanie&Lucky
03-07-2006, 03:41 PM
So where do I start to find the right words for our advertisement? I have thought about what to say for weeks and weeks on end. At first, I thought it would be easy, but every time I sat at the computer, it was like my head was :confused: , voice was overcame with laryngitis ….and fingers had “artificial arthritis”. The only body part which could communicate was my heart, so I decided that this was where the words would come from…….so here goes…….

My husband (37), and I (36) have been together for 8 years, married for just over 3. We adore one another and have a deep, loving, secure relationship and often felt as though we were always meant to be, like 2 peas in a pod! Even though, like so many others whom have experienced the trauma of infertility, we have weathered so much pain :gloomy: , tears and much, much heartache :( but our love, devotion and support for one another has always been incredibly strong and unshaken.

Our desire to have a family is profoundly deep. Our yearning to share and spread the love we have for one another means more to us than we can possibly describe with words on paper. To have a baby (or two) and add more peas to our pod to nurture, shower with love, cuddle, kiss, would be a life long dream come true. To hear those words “Mummy” & “Daddy” would be like music to our ears, like a blind man or deaf man seeing or hearing for the first time in his life. There are no words to describe the ultimate joy that parenthood would give us. We cannot possibly imagine growing old and grey, being sad and lonely and living a life without children, never experiencing parenthood. The very thought of this is incredibly frightening; and scares us to the bottom of our souls.

Both my husband and I have fertility problems. My ovaries have retired and produce few poor quality eggs (I call these my gammy, rotten eggs!). My husband has MF issues and has few, almost no sperm. We have been through 7 rounds of IVF and most of our cycles ended in failed fertilisation.

I was born an only child (Mum could not have any more children) and unfortunately, I don’t have any sisters or suitable relatives to ask for help. So here we are now, searching for an egg donor angel to be our saviour from heaven. If you are under 35, have finished your family, will you be able to help us with the precious gift of life? If there is a gorgeous soul out there somewhere, willing to donate her eggs, we would be just so overjoyed to hear from you.

We would prefer an open donation and we would like you to know in advance that we feel our child has the right to know its genetic heritage. I have already started writing a story book to tell our precious child all about how they came into being and how much they were wanted. We would also be happy to accept the donor in the child’s life if that is a choice they would like to take into consideration.

Because both of us have fertility issues, we would also consider embryo donation. If you have been through IVF, finished your family and are thinking of donating your precious embryos, might you consider donating them to us? We can assure you that any child born from a donation will never go without. They will live in a home filled with much love, laughter, happiness and security. The child would be the most precious, treasured being to ever walk the earth and we would be eternally grateful if you could help us make this dream a reality.

We live in Brisbane, Qld and our clinic is the Queensland Fertility Group. If you live within Australia, and would like to help us, maybe we could work something out? All expenses will be paid.

If you would like to know further information about us, we would be happy to share. Please send me a P.M. message on this forum, tell us a bit about yourself, where you live, and we would be happy to answer any queries you may have and give you our contact details and phone number, if you want them. Please, we only ask for genuine inquiries only as our hearts are already broken.

If, however, you would prefer to talk directly to our clinic for more information, please contact denise@qfg.com.au and quote “Melanie & Alex”. If a known donation is something you are not comfortable with and maybe you prefer an anonymous donation, we would be sad, but understand and respect your decision; please contact our clinic on the above e-mail address for further details.

Our story has turned out to be longer than expected. Thank you for taking the time to read it and allowing us to share our journey with you. We hope to find out Egg Donor Angel soon. :fingerscrossed:

Melanie & Alex

TJ
03-07-2006, 06:42 PM
Melanie - My eyes welled up with tears when I read your post. I can really feel for you and your hubby.

I know this may not really be of any help to you right now in the immediate future, however this is something I have often thought about and I have promised my self I would help someone out with the joy of being a parent once I have had my own family.

We are currently in the process of TTC #1 - with that said i know i dont have fertility problems as i have been pregnant previously to my current husband, but decided to teminate (18 months ago) as we werent emotionally or financially ready:crying:
So once i have completed my family, i would be more than happy to consider donating my eggs to a couple who are in need of them such as your self.

Tara xx

wa mum of 4
03-07-2006, 08:10 PM
Oh hon that truly stirred my heart.:crying:

It takes great courage to pour out your life on a chat room.

I am unable at this time to assist you but I wish you all the luck in the world in finding your angel.
My wishes are with you.:hugs:
Sarah

family_wish
04-07-2006, 02:07 PM
Dear Melanie

Wishing you all the best in your quest for a baby. It was just 4 mths ago when I was advertising here for an egg donor and...by some miracle "got lucky" with my own eggs. I was approached by some beautiful generous people who offered to help and I hope that the same thing happens to you.:hugs:

Bxoxoxo

Melanie&Lucky
04-07-2006, 08:14 PM
Hello Tara, Sarah & Family wish

Thank you so much for your lovely messages :)

It wasn't an easy thing to pour out our hearts on-line, but we need to do so in order to be able to achieve our dreams of having our own baby to hold in our arms. It is our greatest wish and would be a miracle if this ever happens. :fingerscrossed:

jo-anne.36
09-07-2006, 07:43 AM
hi melanie sorry for you and your husand unlike you it happen that me and my husand are in the some vote as you we place ad on hear to looking for ed we were very scard to write about our life of ivf we had our hearts broken to i have 2 sister but its to late for my sister to give me their eggs as they are to old now we good luck love jo-anne

Melanie&Lucky
13-07-2006, 09:25 PM
Thanks for your good wishes Jo-anne. As I said in my post above, it was very hard to write about our lives on-line, but we have our :fingerscrossed: fingers crossed :fingerscrossed: to find our egg donor angel soon.

Being born an only child, I don't have any sisters or suitable relatives to ask for help, so yes, we are in the same boat.

Best wishes to you to on your journey. Hope that both of our dreams will be fulfilled.

p.s. Thats my much adored cat in the picture above. She is my substitute child for the time being !!!

sarahstarfish
22-07-2006, 07:21 AM
Hey Melanie

How is your search going? Just a bumpety bump to get your ad floating to the top over the weekend.

Hope you are doing well - wee bit cold in old Brisbane this morning what!

Love

Cindy

Melanie&Lucky
22-07-2006, 01:35 PM
Hi Cindy

Thank you for your message and bump. I am still looking, :fingerscrossed: to find our donor angel soon.

Yes, cold today, need more rain :fingerscrossed:

leisurly
26-07-2006, 08:13 AM
Hi Mel:D

I just read Sonj thread which has been locked, and she is 8 weeks pregnant, I wonder if that was just one last go while looking for a donor, or she cycled very quickly with a donor. :smiliedance:

Hope your having similar news soon:fingerscrossed:

Leisurly

Melanie&Lucky
26-07-2006, 08:59 AM
Hi Leisurly

Thanks for your message, but not sure - maybe send PM.

Fingers crossed for both of us :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

jenmatt
29-07-2006, 07:46 AM
Hi

I've decided to come on over from AED and see how things are here and check on my bud.

Jen

Melanie&Lucky
29-07-2006, 02:39 PM
Hi Sweety

Thank you for checking on me, Bud. I wasn't hard to find - hey? Hope you are well. :fingerscrossed: for both of us :fingerscrossed:

((( BUG HUGS )))

Melanie&Lucky
02-08-2006, 07:43 AM
Hi Everyone :wave:

I have some wonderful news!! We have found our ED angel. :smiliedance:

I am so excited about this and have been walking on the clouds since I received this news! It feels like Christmas at the moment with all the joy and jingle bells!!!!! :yelclap:

Thank you to all of you for your warm and wonderful messages of support. :hugs:

I will now close this thread.