Does your FOB get bad advice?

[Teley]

I am interested to know whether other people have had people in their FOB's ear telling them what they want to hear, that you are manipulative, vindictive, have a hidden agenda, slept with someone else so the child isn't yours etc. etc? Saying that we don't have our children's best interests at heart?

[SPC]

Definitely :yes: I hear other people's voices in his emails, just stuff he would never come up with himself. He's admitted that he's been advised to see paternity tests etc because his friends suggest that I could be lying. He's getting really bad advice right now about child support and half the time I want to take him aside and tell him that. The worst part is I suspect he's getting that bad advice from his mother.

[OhGeeMuma]

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*I got pregnant to make him marry me - accused of this by his mother!!!!:mad:
*I got pregnant to get money off him - accuses me of this regularly. Don't you think if I was going to bother doing that I would choose someone with a decent income :laughing:
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Struck a nerve with me also. Just wish FOB would stop listening to others, their input has mean't our relationship has deteriorated from difficult but do-able to totally alienated.

Nice to know I'm not alone though.

[kewlchicmum]

I am hearing you my xdh told me to my face after the fact that we were preg and married and had 2 that he was having second thought about us getting preg before we did and that I only wanted to have sex with him to get preg I mean um hello we planned talked at great lenght about having a baby it was him who was ready to have a baby before me! We were preg when we got married and engaged before we got preg we had planned our marriage also he was pushing for it as a matter of fact but told me again later that he didnt wanta get married and how is telling everyone I pushed him into it. And when we fell preg again with our second it was planned we both wanted them close together even his own mother said she can remember us talking about it and wanting it that way but he told me that he thought i was on the pill and that our second was unplanned and unwanted that broke my heart!!!!:banghead::mad::banghead:

[Amara]

When my ex and I split his mother was very supportive of him. He had her convinced that I'd chucked him out for no reason, that his girlfriend was only a friend & nothing more (I was just being ridiculous to think she was his girlfriend apparently) & I was a jealous mad woman basically. She even left a message on my phone one night telling me to butt out of his life (when he wasn't butting out of mine).

When the truth came out she jumped over to my side & has been supportive of me since.

[Bubmum]

Oh absolutely...they cannot make these ridiculous things up on their own...
Recently we had a huge issue where DD was freaking out whenever she was around him, and he "talked to one of his friends' and it is because she isn't "biologically connected" to him any more.
Biologically connected! Wtf!? Um, there is no way we can scrub that DNA out of her, unfortunately. :rolleyes:

[supa_star323]

FOB is always telling me I have been doing this or that, the latest was I am getting married (yet i am single).
I am not sure whether it is him coming up with it or someone else though...

His mum has told him a few times our DS doesn't have special needs and I am overreacting (all the paeds and therapists are apparently wrong)!