am i normal??

[cjb/jbvd]

i broke up with DS's dad six months ago

i miss the companionship of having somebody to cuddle etc..around but i have no interest in going out to find someone.
i'm just too insular and closed off to the idea of anybody coming along. and i hate the thought of trying the dating game.
i also just am not interested in something less than permanent, which i know is not going to happen with the first guy i meet.

i guess with my lifestyle (single mum in the defence force) it makes it that much harder to find someone who wants to come along for the ride.

my question is......is it normal to be so conflicted about wanting/not interested in a relationship?

[lovingmumof 2now]

I am not sure if it is normal but I know how you feel. The only thing is I can't stand the thought of being with anyone but my ex (intimately) although I don't really want him in my life.

It seems to be a never ending battle for me. So I guess it must be pretty common feeling.

[~EmsMum~]

to me its normal, its exactly how I am feeling at the moment

:hugs:

[Mum2Bug]

Im the same. As much as I would love some companionship but Im not sure I have it in me to go through the whole dating game thing. It just seems to be such a waste of energy sometimes and to some guys they see a single mum as fair game and im sick of it! I've made the decision to remain single for a couple of years to work out what it is I want for me and my DD in our future.

[claireandbailey]

I'd love to meet someone but at the same time i am not interested.
its funny we bag out our ex's but at the same time all we want is to be with them.

[Mum2Bug]

I'd love to meet someone but at the same time i am not interested.
its funny we bag out our ex's but at the same time all we want is to be with them.
Not me! I could never go back. Even after 9 months together I was never going to be able to love him and be a family with him

[kailensmum]

I'm with you there. I never thought about going back to that life. I couldn't be happier than i am now. it'd be nice to have someone but, i'm quite content and i don't want to go thru the dationg drama. it's been nearly a decade since i was even with anyone else and i'm only 27. freaky.:smiliedance:

[Chanelc]

Totally normal if you ask me! I am in two minds.... to stay single or get back out there???

[KiLLaKaZ]

I am not sure if it is normal but I know how you feel. The only thing is I can't stand the thought of being with anyone but my ex (intimately) although I don't really want him in my life.

It seems to be a never ending battle for me. So I guess it must be pretty common feeling.


ooooh - that's EXACTLY how i feel! i guess coz the ex is a 'safe'option, u don't have to go through the preliminaries with them (ie getting to know them, building trust, etc)

[SimplyMum]

OMG killakaz, you're little one has a very freaky birthday! Very cool!