Full-time working mummies

[Pregnor]

It looks like DF will be losing his job in the next few weeks, and that I will becoming the main income earner... So i have some questions for you all!

What is it like to be away from your little ones all day?
Do you feel guilty?
Do you always miss them, or do you get used to it after a while?
For those who have partners that are SAHDs
Do you resent your partner for not making money, or spending 'your' money? Or for getting to spend more time with them than you do?

[MsMummy]

I work 4 days a week (2 from home, 2 from an office, but it could change to all from an office this year).

My partner doesn't work as he studies full time.

I feel a range of emotions.

I enjoy the intellectual stimulation of work.

But I miss my son, and I feel like I'm missing out on that "rite of passage" type stuff of being a SAHP.

You sort of get into the swing of things, where you miss them less though, but then it sometimes hits you.

My partner looks after my son 2 days a week, and they have such a wonderful relationship, so that's a plus.

Plus, there's no pressure on me to do much housework!:laughing:

I don't know. It's hard. My emotions swing on the issue on almost a daily basis!

To be honest, my ideal situation would be to work 2 days a week.

But we do what we have to do, I guess.

To be clear, I don't feel bad because I think my son is affected; it's more me who is affected.

[SimplyMum]

To be clear, I don't feel bad because I think my son is affected; it's more me who is affected.

:iagree:

I feel that I am the one more affected by me working. I miss the SAHM experience. But such is life, I don't work for solely my own benefit.

I make sure we make the most of weekends. Most of the time, its nothing too extravegent. Last weekend, we went down to the local river and watched the boats come and go in the sun. It was nice just spending non-committal time together.

[Shepherd]

We make the most of the weekends too. You just have to look on the brightside and there is one. Its great having more money and I have noticed since I have been working full time when the weekend comes I really focus on DD and appreciate her more whereas when I didn't work I could sometimes be apathetic and a little uninvolved at times.

[aquarius]

What is it like to be away from your little ones all day?
Do you feel guilty?

YES! i can't even have a picture of DD on my desk coz it makes me wish i was at home with her and then i start to panic about all the baby time i'm missing out on, coz she's growing so fast and we wont' be having any more children so this is my one and only mummy opportunity!

but i shouldn't feel guilty because i know i'm a better mum for spending time away from DD, i appreciate her more and it's good for my brain to think about things other than housework/parenting! i have to think about my career as well - i studied and worked hard to get where i am. also it's important for DD to go to daycare and learn to socialise with other kids and adults as she is an only child, and i can see her development has come along in leaps and bounds so i know it is a good thing for her.

Do you always miss them, or do you get used to it after a while?
depends how busy i am at work that day heh heh. i've been a working mum for over a year now, and i still think about her at least once a day, but i know she is in good hands at the daycare centre or my mum's house. it's really important to be happy with the daycare centre or person that you leave your child with, so you don't worry about them while you're at work. i miss DD but don't worry about her coz i know she's being looked after really well.