Is there an end?

[UsThreeGirls]

Please this is for "no cry sleep solutions" others butt out;)






Well DD has always been one to wake more than 6 times a night, a lot of the time more. We co-sleep but she starts off in her cot in my room. She was a colicky baby and also had reflux and was on meds for it. We had a stay in sleep school but only using a gentle no cry solution as she gets upset very quickly.

What I want to know is do others have kids that have been really bad sleepers and you've persisted with no cry solutions or even co-sleeping and at what stage did it get better.
I'm expecting a few years as the response:laughing: but even for those with much older kids, are they still bad sleepers now?

[flyawayfree]

my ds is 3, he starts off in his bed and I sit with him till he falls asleep, once he wakes up he then comes into my bed. He sleeps pretty well once in my room but moves around a lot in his sleep...
Not very helpful sorry

[Blueberry Crumble]

What are exactly the "no-cry solutions?" I would really really like to know what they are

[UmmInayah]

DD is 2. We seem to go through phases where sleep is awful, then better, then awful again..

I am just hoping eventually the better sleep issues will become less spaced apart!

I know a lady who has an 8 year old who was a poor sleeper, and still doesn't like sleep.

[Nomsie]

I know a lady who has an 8 year old who was a poor sleeper, and still doesn't like sleep.


*horrified* :eek: I have my hopes pinned on the fact that with some gentle encouragement and no cry sleep solutions that my guys will just eventually learn to sleep all night... and stories like that do NOTHING for my shattered confidence!! :eek:

[Annabella]

There's a book I've heard discussed on here before called "No cry Sleep Solutions" by Elizabeth Pantley. It looks pretty good, I don't think she guarantees that there won't be any tears, but I think she doesn't ever say to leave baby to cry or use controlled crying. My second daughter never really cried at sleep time, and both didn't wake much when asleep, but the first one often didn't want to go to bed initially, although she was so tired and would sleep through once she was asleep. I used to let her cry if I knew she was tired and would fall asleep but been looking into a less stressful way of doing it for this next one. I will follow the same thing I did last time but just want to find a way to settle them if they do cry (which hopefully won't be much!) I think this book suggests things like settling them by cuddling them, then cuting down to settling just by touching them while they are in the cot, then settling just with your voice etc etc, til you eventually need to just open the door and say something so they know you are there but can put themselves to sleep. I haven't read the book but read this about the book somewhere. There is a website too if you google it.

But anyway, i"m dribbling away here, it looks like it could be a good book to look at, best of luck :)

[melannh]

My DD co-slept basically fulltime until she was about 18 months old. We then got her a big bed - but we would lie with her until she nodded off to sleep - then would sneek out of the room.

Her day sleeps (when with me) i still lie with her that way.... We eventually had to bite the bullet... We are into NO CRY SOLUTIONS and always have been - but after watching the super nanny - and seeing the difference in some of the kids, we became aware that our little one (and i am not saying all littlies are like mine) was playing us.

My DH bit the bullet one night. We thought it would take nights, weeks even - of major tears and tantrums. He read her a book, then left the room (DD can get out of her room herself.)
She kicked, screamed, cried - mum and dad were distressed.

After coming out of the room - and DH putting her back each and every time (about 10 times in total) she went to sleep (slept there all night - WOW)
The next nightit was my turn. She came out crying/distressed - but only twice. I stuck to my guns (very, very difficult mind you)

NOW - I am happy to say, that we were amazed at how quickly she adapted.... After the first 2 nights - she hasn't run after us in tears. We bit the bullet when DD was just over 2 yrs old.

She has come into us during the night - either i go in and sleep in her bed, or put her in our bed (but gets a bit squishy, and DH needs his sleep)

As i said earlier, she won't settle for me during the day - i still lie with her... (HE HE)

I am not saying that this is a solution for all - If it didn't work fairly quickly - we would still be co-sleeping and lieing with her in order for us, and DD, to get rest.

[UmmInayah]

*horrified* :eek: I have my hopes pinned on the fact that with some gentle encouragement and no cry sleep solutions that my guys will just eventually learn to sleep all night... and stories like that do NOTHING for my shattered confidence!! :eek:

Sorry :o I am sure it's very rare for this to happen :) At least with an 8 year old you can tell them to stay in their room etc while you sleep!

[Kittylou]

DS was between 3 and 4 when he started consistently sleeping through the night in his own bed. During those years, there were periods where he was better than others. He's now nearly 9 and a pretty good sleeper. He still occasionally wakes and needs a cuddle or one of us to sleep with him for the rest of the night. Last year, when DD first started co-sleeping, he ended up sleeping in our room every night I think because he didn't like being on his own at one end of the house. She is co-sleeping again now, after a few months in her own room, but DS seems to be ok this time.

I'm really hoping DD improves before our next one arrives in February but I'm not willing to use any form of CC so I guess I'll just have to see what happens.

[UsThreeGirls]

thanks for the replies:)

melannh I think thats not such a bad thing. I'm ok co-sleeping and no cry solutions for a few years but when DD is old enough to understand I will probably do similar.

Anabella I have read the book too and have done the gentle method which only worked to a certain extent because of DD's reflux probs and also after separating from my husband and a move, etc. I'm not that fussed on getting her to her own room atm as I'm happy co-sleeping.

Kittylou thats good that he is sleeping through now, I was worried I was bringing DD up to always be a bad sleeper.