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two cheeky smurfs
12-08-2009, 20:22
some of you know my story but some of you dont...
when i was 8 weeks pregnant my partner of 5 years left me as i wouldnt have an abortion. He changed his contact details and moved so i couldnt contact him!! i should add that it was his idea we try and have a baby!
At my 10 week scan i found out i was having twins and i couldnt even contact him to tell him he deserted two babies!!
My babies are now 3 months old and today i got a call from his parents who also wanted nothing to do with the baby... they said he had asked them to call to make sure i had an abortion as he was sick of people thinking he was a jerk for leaving me when i was pregnant and if he knew i had an abortion it would make him feel better...
WTF... hes the one that left and why should i try and make him feel better... he left and was so nasty to me before he left that this just made me so angry!!
I also tols them on the phone that i had twins and then they hung up!!
I AM JUST SO ANGRY!!
CazHazKidz
12-08-2009, 20:26
Oh lord, what a tool.
You are soooo much better off without him! What an absolute moron. And his parents!! Your twins grandparents! Hanging up on you! What a family.
Big :hugs:to you.
Gosh hon, not sure what to say. Lots and lots of :hugs:
You are such a strong, inspirational woman. Good on you for doing what you knew was right. Just keep looking at the beautiful faces of your gorgeous babes and remember how lucky you are not to have those awful people in your life any more. :hugs:
ElizaDoLittle
12-08-2009, 20:28
Oh that is HIDEOUS! I have no words, seriously WHAT IS WRONG WITH SOME PEOPLE??? :banghead:. :hugs:for you.
LolliLips
12-08-2009, 20:29
*** total ***. Quite speechless infact but my gosh would I have loved to see the faces of his parents when u said u had twins. Actually I bet they didn't believe u. Prolly thought u were just being smart!
Ur a strong woman and are MUCH better off without him.
little_froglette
12-08-2009, 20:37
and it was his idea so what's he complaining about?!
loser!
be thankful you don't have to see his stupid face any more..
jerk wad!
your fantasic! amazing even.
i wish you all the best with your new bundles!
We need a website. So that when future lovers and employers google these men, up pops a lovely photo of the children they abandoned and a running tally of how much child support they owe these children.
MissMetal
12-08-2009, 21:24
:hugs: you are soooo much better off without c0ck face anyway... what a w@nker :geek::geek::geek:
and i cant believe his parents :eek:
MissMetal
12-08-2009, 21:24
We need a website. So that when future lovers and employers google these men, up pops a lovely photo of the children they abandoned and a running tally of how much child support they owe these children.
:laughing::yes::thumbsup:
LolliLips
12-08-2009, 21:40
We need a website. So that when future lovers and employers google these men, up pops a lovely photo of the children they abandoned and a running tally of how much child support they owe these children.
Excellent +1 to that!
shockinamillion
12-08-2009, 21:45
:hugs: hun, what a sack of cr@p!! I cannot believe his folks too!:eek:
Sounds like you and your beautiful babies are better off without him!
Besides, you don't want that as the role model for your children- good riddance!
One day you will meet a decent man who will be a supportive & loving husband and father... :)
chefalicious
12-08-2009, 22:01
what a tosser..... and the parents....
sounds like your better of with out them in your life.... :hugs:
Oh wow..yuck.
I hope they don't call you 6 months down the track wanting to see "their" grandchildren.
What a horrid little family.
Keep cuddling those gorgeous babies.xxxx
two cheeky smurfs
12-08-2009, 22:41
thanks everyone for your support!!! I had my ex call me back an hour ago!!!
He told me that i was very imature and irrisponsable for bring two babies into the world on my own!!! I really wanted wanted to snap back but i didnt because i dont want to stoop to his level!!
Although i get very lonely and doubt my capability as a parent i love my little babies more than words can say and im not going to have him or his parents in my or my babies lives ever...
If he comes back later down the track and wants to be apart of their lives its not happening... he doesnt deserve to get to know my beautiful twins...
I just cant believe guys who want nothing to do with the children they have helped create... if they dont want to be with the mother then fine but the babies are so innocent and beautiful and i cannot understand or even begin to comprehend what makes them leave adn not ever see their children!!! They are jerks!!!!
Double wow..you need to change your phone number..or better still, divert his calls to my phone. I am quite adept at putting worms in their place.
I hope they leave you alone soon. You did a wondrfully beautiful thing in having your babies on your own. it wil be the making of you, and the absolute downfall of them as people, that they (especially FOB) turned their back on their own family.
mummy2twins, dont feel angry or sad even for a second. Its their loss that they are missing out on their children and grandchildren. It'll hit them one day and theyll be begging you to see them. Just remember its their loss.
My FOB didnt want anything to do with our son too, so i totally understand the hurt.
Your not alone in this saga, there are many more like you and me. Your babies are better off
without such undeserving people.
Sheer Bliss
13-08-2009, 06:40
:hugs::hugs::hugs:I can't say what I want to say without *** popping up all over the place - what a low life!!!
StrawberryTheMilkshake
13-08-2009, 06:54
What a jerk.
You are so strong and sooo much better without that family in your life.
Get him where it hurts, child support.
Idiotic family.
Be strong...... and dont take any more of their calls, you dont need it.
STM
MissMetal
13-08-2009, 09:09
:hugs: he doesnt deserve to know them... stuff that, they are WAY better off with out him... im so angry he could do this :banghead:
kewlchicmum
13-08-2009, 10:17
We need a website. So that when future lovers and employers google these men, up pops a lovely photo of the children they abandoned and a running tally of how much child support they owe these children.
Sweerperfectchild i :iagree:
your such a crackup :laughing:
kewlchicmum
13-08-2009, 10:23
Double wow..you need to change your phone number..or better still, divert his calls to my phone. I am quite adept at putting worms in their place.
I hope they leave you alone soon. You did a wondrfully beautiful thing in having your babies on your own. it wil be the making of you, and the absolute downfall of them as people, that they (especially FOB) turned their back on their own family.
I also :iagree:
We need a website. So that when future lovers and employers google these men, up pops a lovely photo of the children they abandoned and a running tally of how much child support they owe these children.
:iagree:
My idi*ot partner wanted to try for another baby too but when I got pregnant he said to have an abortion and I was like "wtf you want me to abort a baby we had on purpose?"
He changed his tune a tiny bit too this, " if you have a girl, ill leave you"
I dont know why some guys are such ***** heads,
MissMetal
13-08-2009, 12:52
:iagree:
My idi*ot partner wanted to try for another baby too but when I got pregnant he said to have an abortion and I was like "wtf you want me to abort a baby we had on purpose?"
He changed his tune a tiny bit too this, " if you have a girl, ill leave you"
I dont know why some guys are such ***** heads,
sorry to intrude, but im a bit confussed at your status after reading some posts from you, have you left your partner or not??
4babycinos
13-08-2009, 12:57
Just wanted to give you lots of these :hugs:
sorry to intrude, but im a bit confussed at your status after reading some posts from you, have you left your partner or not??
We are not together as such but im still in our house atm due to personal reasons not related to our relationship or previous relationship.
I feel abit werid and uncomfortable saying my ex partner as yet as were still in the same house and its only been a few days
MissMetal
13-08-2009, 13:12
We are not together as such but im still in our house atm due to personal reasons not related to our relationship or previous relationship.
I feel abit werid and uncomfortable saying my ex partner as yet as were still in the same house and its only been a few days
:hugs:
kewlchicmum
13-08-2009, 15:28
:hugs::hugs: to you all we sure need it and esp Rebdot not in a very pleasant place at the moment I had to stay for a while to before I had $$ saved up to move us out. And :hugs: mummy2twins.
PS what does FOB stand for? :confused:
MissMetal
13-08-2009, 15:34
PS what does FOB stand for? :confused:
father of baby ;)
Oh honey u are so lucky to have two beautiful babies and they are lucky to have you as a mother. My older sis was in a similar situation and the father got his sister to try and find out if he had a child or not. Mind you this was 5yrs after the birth and when he found out about my sis lil girl all of a sudden he wanted full custody of her. So now my poor sis and her darling daughter are going through so much pain cause of this loser.
Babe i feel for you :hugs::hugs:
milliegirl
23-09-2009, 09:51
He and his family are from 'Loser Land'. A place far, far away from civilization where brain cells are scarce.
You can divert any numbers to any other number you want by contacting your service provider (Telstra, Optus etc). It doesn't cost anything and I think you should divert FOBs number to CSA, and his parents number to Lifeline or their local police station. When these places pick up their calls they will soon stop calling. You can do this with mobile numbers too, or just bar access for these numbers (again, contact your provider to do this).
:hugs:
Cheers
M
anikasmummy
23-09-2009, 10:09
Can I please just ask.... after 5 years together, surely you'd have had some mutual friends that would have told either him or his parents that you'd had twins?? Seems very odd they'd call a year later to check you'd had an abortion.... its one thing for him to pack up and disappear but I doubt he would have cut all ties with everyone he knew... he would have known.
They don't seem like very nice people, if he didn't even know you'd had the babies as he claimed, who is he to judge you as 'irresponsible and immature' for having bought them into the world. I understand how angry and upset this would of made you... but try to focus on the positives and ignore him and his family.
MummyDaddy
23-09-2009, 12:40
He and his family are from 'Loser Land'. A place far, far away from civilization where brain cells are scarce.
Hahahaha - WELL SAID !!!!!!!!! :yelclap:
Can I please just ask.... after 5 years together, surely you'd have had some mutual friends that would have told either him or his parents that you'd had twins??
You'd be surprised what these men do to avoid knowing anything.
I have a friend in the same situation. Her ex cut off every mutual friend they had. She knows nothing about him. He knows nothing about her.
That's the way they like it.
dancingchipmunk
23-09-2009, 13:52
Your 'irresponsible and immature' ????
WTF!!! Excuse me d***head. Who the hell is he to say that to you???? Oh my god I'm livid at the moment. :hair: :banghead:
You are fantastic and wonderful. :yes: You WILL be the lucky one seeing these two beautiful babies grow up into great children and great adults (all thanks to your positive influence). Stuff him and his parents, they don't know what they are missing.
Great names by the way for the babies. They are beautiful, congratulations. :)
Mum2Tyla
23-09-2009, 13:55
so sorry that your ex is usch a tool and you can understand why with parents like that, makes me realsie how lucky I am to ahve an ex that is involved and his family are great, he is missing out on soo much and one day he will regret it. Lucky they ahve such a great mum:flowerz:
MommaBear
24-09-2009, 21:53
Mumm2twins your not immature or irresponsible(or wateva he called you) he should have been looking in a mirror when he said those things. Hes a jerk!
We need a website. So that when future lovers and employers google these men, up pops a lovely photo of the children they abandoned and a running tally of how much child support they owe these children.
:iagree:Maybe the "dont date him" site could make a few new functions on their profiles...
You can divert any numbers to any other number you want by contacting your service provider (Telstra, Optus etc). It doesn't cost anything and I think you should divert FOBs number to CSA, and his parents number to Lifeline or their local police station. When these places pick up their calls they will soon stop calling. You can do this with mobile numbers too, or just bar access for these numbers (again, contact your provider to do this).
:hugs:
Cheers
M
WOW thats an awesome idea- i'll be speaking to telstra tomorrow!
blissfullybonkers
24-09-2009, 23:00
OMG!! What a disgraceful excuse for a human being!!!! that goes for his parents too!!! People like that just make me sick....
lots of :hugs: to you, it must be tough sometimes but you and your babies are much better off without them in your lives!
Is he on the birth certificate? if he is I'd get something legal to say he doesnt want anything to do with the kids so he cant change his mind down the track.
I'm sure there is an amazing guy out there somewhere that will come along one day a sweep you off your feet and love your twinnies too!!
MommaBear
25-09-2009, 10:55
Is he on the birth certificate? if he is I'd get something legal to say he doesnt want anything to do with the kids so he cant change his mind down the track!!
I'm pretty sure that there is nothing like ^ able to be legally done is Aust- basically they can say all they want they dont want anything to do with the kids but then two months later if they decide they want to see them then because the children have a "right" to know their bio father he can see them and be awarded visitation if it went to court.
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