Scared to give birth 3rd time around...

[munchkins]

This may seem like a very odd topic and I really need some advice or just some support not really sure yet..
A little background.....
My DD1 was due to be born on the 12 Jan 2007. I was very overdue and on the 22nd of Jan the hospital decided to induce me... I was already petrified of the whole birthing experiance and really wanted to go naturally but then have a csection. I was in hospital for 3days strapped to the bed being induced as my DD1 was very stubborn and didn't want to arrive into the world. She finally appeared on the 25th, I suprisingly last the whole 3 days, no food, small amounts of water, no sleep and drug free. I was so tired towards the end I didn't feel the contractions or crowning. I was falling asleep during the contractions.

DD2 was stubborn also, due on the 9th of May 2008, still nothing. On the 20th, once again I was booked in for inducement and to have my water broken. Luckyly she arrived that day, but there were some minor complications. I was in servere pain the whole time, alot more than a normal childbirth, once i started pushing she got stuck as the pain was unbearable, and we nearly lost her. She ariived bright blue and no crying. The midwives were about to call her stillborn then a cry appeared out of no where, she ended up being a very healthy baby girl.

I am expecting my 3rd and 4th babies ( twins ) on Dec 27th. I am already having complications, there is blood in the uterus which is attached to one baby, when I have been to my gp they can hear one strong heartbeat and one very faint one, they say it's the position of the 2nd baby and not to worry and there is still something. Tomorrow I will be 20 weeks. I guess what I am trying to get at is I am petrified of birthing again drug free. I have never been one to want drugs

I guess, well I do not know maybe I will feel like a failure, not remember anything, or in some of my friends cases being so numb they don't know when to push. It could be a mixture of both. I do not want a c-section this time like with my 1st, but I cannot bare going through it again drug free.

What drugs are available? are there side effects to either myself or my babies?

I guess I am really confused and scared and don't want to be a failure for not delivering the twins naturally.....

If you read this far thankyou

[cookie087]

I'm sorry I cant offer any help on this as I only have one bubba and had him drug free.

I just wanted to say, regardless of if you choose drugs or not, getting your babies out is the main priority, and if you need drugs or a c-section, in the end as long as they are healthy and happy babies, it doesnt really matter. You wont be a failure just because you didnt deliver them naturally or drug free. As long as youll care for them once there out, no one can call you a failure.

Goodluck with your decision and fingers crossed the rest of your pregnancy/labour goes smoothly for you and your bubbas.

[Amara]

I had peth & gas.

The gas took the edge off a little & peth took it off a little more. I still felt a lot of pain & felt the need to push (although I didn't know that's what it was I thought I needed to go to the loo lol).

There is always an epidural & you may find you will be encouraged to have one seeing you've already had a c section & this time being twins there is a far higher likelihood that it will end in c section (for the safety of bubs). They often suggest them when they feel that's how things will end up.

Don't be scared of taking drugs. They do help a little. The peth made me feel a little sick but they gave me something to counteract that straight away & I never felt that way again... it kicked in really quick.

[anewme]

I always use the gas, more to bite on than suck on. It's great. :laughing: Try not to stress as it makes your mussels tighten too much and it makes your labour much longer and hurt soooo much more. Your mussels need to relax between contractions to make them more effective. I hope this helps. Jenny.