I want a refund....

[TwoBlue]

Any help please

I'd like to find out how i can refund my 27mth old and 7 mth old ds's....

But seriously now.....

DS Samuel (27mths) has just been a real horror lately, his language is still only "average" and he has started showing real jelousy towards his 7 mth old brother, being very posessive of his things and throws HUGE tantys for reasons that i often dont even know.... He is such a lovely affectionate boy i just feel so frustrated... when i was scrubbing the black crayon off my couch this arvo i got so upset and started crying.. Samuel was mortified giving me huge hugs and lots of kisses... :o
What can i do to help him...? Or is this just a phase that will pass....?

Also my DS Ethan (7 mths) is just really demanding, doesnt want to be alone, doesnt want to be on the floor.. wants me to hold him all the time which is making time with Samuel very difficult... but if i decide to put him down and ignore his screams they become SO demanding and he gets SO hysterical, you just cant ignore them :( any advice there would be really appreciated..

I just really feel like i cant enjoy my kids at the moment and i hate that feeling :crying:

[draught]

Trace
I remember the change in my DD1's behaviour at the same stage (mine are the same gap as yours) - it coincided with her little sister starting to move around the house (she was an early crawler). I think the behaviour in both stems from frustration - DD1 wasn't able to communicate as well as she would like and DD2 wasn't able to move as fast as she would like. I ended up getting a sling to carry DD2 on my hip so that I could do things without her whinging - it made a difference and the "peak" of it was only about 4 weeks then things calmed down. I will think more about how we coped with DD1 - I can't think right now what we did.

In the meantime be nice to yourself and remember - it is just another phase - things will improve!:rolleyes:

[TwoBlue]

Thanks Theresa.. :hugs:

oh btw i tried a carrier thing for Ethan but he is just TOOOOOO heavy :o

[draught]

What sort of carrier though? (My girls were both boofers so were out of the baby bjorn type one by 5 months!) I used a hotsling which is just a ring of fabric and they sit on your hip (www.hotslings.com) and an ergo baby carrier which I still use now at 21 months (www.ergobabycarrier.com). The hotsling is probably all you need now - they sit witih their legs around your hips but you are hands free - look at www.carryingaway.com.au for ideas.

[TwoBlue]

Thanks they look much better !
E is 10 kilos now

[the_queen]

I got no advice for you Trace, just some :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[TwoBlue]

Awww thansk Queenie, the hugs are appreciated :hugs:

[whatwasithinking]

Tracey

I am so going through the exact thing at the moment (except not the crayon on the couch though - sorry).

Will pass and then come back again - viviious cycle these kids put us through.

Anyways big huge :hugs: :hugs: and :kiss: :kiss:

Chin up - your feelings are so normal!

[tickle]

:hugs: Tracey. I know exactly how you feel.
I am going to try to get some alone time with Oliver, which I know is hard to do but I feel like O really needs it. He is extremely over sensitive to everything at the moment and is very clingy. I hope things improve for you soon!

[MrsScatterbrain]

:hugs: Hugs Tracey I know (half of) exactly how you feel! (The 7 month baby part!) Ben sounds like E's twin! It was only Wednesday I told the CHN that I was taking Ben back to the hospital for a refund! :D He's a baby that likes to be attached to me 24/7, and gets very distressed if I even turn my back on him.

However, a little rainbow has appeared in my house in the last few days! Ben has started to learn to crawl, and he is now entertaining himself. I can go to the toilet without the sounds of a baby screaming at last, because he's too busy trying to get to a toy on the floor!

:fingerscrossed: Hopefully your E starts adventuring soon, which will free you up, and hopefully ease Sam's jealousy :yes: .

[meshan]

Tracey I know exactly how you feel. I found Shannon got more jelouse as Micheal got older - maybe because I was giving him more attention.

Somtimes I feel like walking out the front door and not coming back - however I just say to myself - this too will pass!!! And then I lock myself in the bathroom and cry!!

The tantrum stage is relatively short - well it was for Shannon anyway - as long as you never give in - I remember he started just before he turned 2 as well but was over it in a couple of months. Shannon's language was a bit delayed too and I think that adds to their frustration.

[TwoBlue]

Thanks again guys
Its always nice to know your not alone...

Bella28 - i definantly think things will be easier once E starts moving but he just doesnt seem interested.... :( I am so glad for you that Ben has started crawling, hopefully he'll get really tired from it and sleep better !!

HL - like you say with O, they need your attention also and its just so hard when you have a crying bubba on your arm all day ... i hope things get easier for you soon also

Meshan - I also lock myself in the bathroom to cry! :hugs: to you..

Missunderstood - its nice to talk to people who have days the same as mine :hugs: to you also...

The support we give to each other as friends and fellow mums is so wonderful isnt it?... it makes life so much easier to live :)

[Tea Lady]

I just wanted to send some :hugs: your way too Tracey - you deserve it :eek:

I know I'm not in your situation (yet!) but I've found when I'm having a horrible time with DD it helps me to make a "plan" for the week and write it down. It makes me think ahead and get organised to do some activities she'll enjoy, otherwise we seem to get stuck in the same old rut. It's not like we do anything particularly exciting, but it makes me think about it and gives me a bit more enthusiasm for being with her if I feel like there's a "point" to it IYKWIM. There are some good books at my local library (eg the playschool everything book) that have lots of great songs and activities in them.

I hope things get better really soon. :hugs:

[wattle]

You know what Trace, in about 8 or 9 months I'll probably be ringing you, beside myself with exactly the same situation. Then you can look back and say how glad you are that you managed to get through it all ok and give me some great advice.

One minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time. It will eventually get better.

Sending a big hug :hugs:

[TwoBlue]

I've found when I'm having a horrible time with DD it helps me to make a "plan" for the week and write it down.

Thanks TL not a bad idea... :hugs:


You know what Trace, in about 8 or 9 months I'll probably be ringing you, beside myself with exactly the same situation. Then you can look back and say how glad you are that you managed to get through it all ok and give me some great advice.

Cathy i imagine all parents with more that one baby have days like i am having at the moment at some point... so i hope IF you have days like this you can call me for support and encouragement (or just to vent :yes: )


One minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time. It will eventually get better.

How true is that.. thanks :kiss: