BamBoozoled?????

[MumsieMel]

Ok so here's to deal

DD has recently started having night mares, so has been coming into our bed around 10-12pm, but now wont even go to sleep in her bed.

But will go to sleep in our bed, even when we're not in there!??

So its not that she wants to be close to us, but she doesnt like or feel safe in her room/bed.

And then later in the night DS comes in also, so there is 4 in the bed, which is quite squashy.

So here is what im thinking, i might try letting her sleep on a matress on the floor in her brother's room. And if she is happy doing that i might have them share a room permanantly, as he has a loft bed and Coralie's bed would fit prefectly under it.
But he's room is quite small and not sure how id go about the sharing the wardrobe etc...

Because im not sure if its that she doesnt like her bed, or if its her room she doesnt like???

We have a 4 bdroom house, one room for each child, our room and a toy room.
Now i am pg with #3 we were going to convert the toy room into the nursery but if Corlie moves to her brother's room then i would use her room as the nursery and keep the toy room.

But i feel slack IYKWIM???
Like recplacing her with the bubs in her room?????
I know it doesnt make much sense, since it is her that doesnt like the room, just feel weird about it. :rolleyes:

Does anyone have any suggestions or advice???

[newmum2one]

I read somewhere that if you sleep with some of DD's sheets in your bed, then your scent gets on them and sometimes babies sleep better having mum and dad's scent on their sheets. I tried it two ways by folding the sheets inside my pillowcase and also by just lying them flat on the bed, then the next night making up his bed with them. Maybe it's the scent that's soothing and trying this might help.

[MumsieMel]

Oh might add that my DD is 20 mths old and DS is 4 yrs :yes:

[~Chick79~]

You could try having her sleep in her brothers room and if that works maybe see if she wants to change rooms... maybe have her sleep in the current toy room?? :idea:

[Chickadee]

I have no experience with this at all, but if she's comforted by being in her brothers room then go for it. Maybe the little noises of him sleeping will help.

Another option if you have room is to make up her single mattress on the floor beside your bed, so that either she or your DS can crawl in there. Or in the worst case, when they get into your bed your DH has a soft landing when he's pushed out :)

[MumsieMel]

You could try having her sleep in her brothers room and if that works maybe see if she wants to change rooms... maybe have her sleep in the current toy room?? :idea:

Maybe hmmmm, but i think it might also be that she doesnt want to be alone, im not quite sure, and dont know how to figure it out either.

But thats worth a shot!

[MumsieMel]

Another option if you have room is to make up her single mattress on the floor beside your bed, so that either she or your DS can crawl in there. Or in the worst case, when they get into your bed your DH has a soft landing when he's pushed out :)

Thats what we are already doing, but we're not sleeping real well.

[~Chick79~]

Your DD will go to sleep in your room without anyone in there yeah??? :detective:

Maybe the room change (to the toy room) may help (then again it may not but it will be a case of trial and error I think.....). As they say change is as good as a holiday!

Could it also be a scared of the dark issue?? Maybe even try a nightlight.... Or even try having some soft music playing all night so the room isn't dead silent....

Good luck! :fingerscrossed:

[MumsieMel]

Thanks, she has a night light in her room, but we dont have one in our room???

She goes to sleep in our room by herself, and then i mighjt move her back to her bed, but when she wakes she comes back to our room! :rolleyes:

I have no idea!!! LOL :detective:

[Chickadee]

You could try laying down with her in her own bed to get her used to falling asleep there. She'll still want to come into your bed if she wakes in the night though. Be warned though that it means you may lose your evenings if she takes a while to fall asleep. Once she's used to her room you can gradually move out of her bed to sit on the floor nearby, iin the doorway, in the hall, walking past every few minutes, etc. But that can take months. (I'm currently weaning DD off of needing me to lay down with her :rolleyes: )

[MumsieMel]

We just did 4 mths of this, then moving closer to the door etc, and she was good with us sitting at the door, but since she has been having nightmares it doesnt work!!!! :thumbsdown:

I dont lay with her when she goes to sleep in our room at night, she goes to sleep by herself. :yes:

[MumsieMel]

Still no progress, havent tried her in her brother's room as space wise i dont really think it can work.

I think i will have a clearing done on her room, maybe that will help with what ever is upsetting her in there.

I cant even put her in there now when she's already asleep! She wakes up screaming!!???