Would you still notify if you feared retribution?

[delirium]

Hypothetical question:

A woman with the sole custody of the kids is drinking to excess around her kids. She is also mentally unstable and you fear retribution from her as she would know it is you that notified. She has a history of 'getting people back' if they tick her off.

Would you notify and risk the safety of your family or do you leave it?

poll coming...

[crazymuma]

All it takes is a phone call - you don't even have to leave your name.

[delirium]

But what if the info you gave would be a dead give away it was you? CP don't give the notifiers name to the person often the details CP gives them is enough to work out who notified. YKWIM?

[~Candy~]

All it takes is a phone call - you don't even have to leave your name.

:iagree:

I highly doubt anything would be done though. A woman who drank 24/7...child welfare turned up at her house to find her passed out while her 2 y/o was in a cold bath with poo in it....she never lost her kids....discusting.

[~Candy~]

But what if the info you gave would be a dead give away it was you? CP don't give the notifiers name to the person often the details CP gives them is enough to work out who notified. YKWIM?

Tell them you want to be anon as you are worried for your safety. See what they suggest. You can only ask.

[Lil Mamma]

If there was a genuine risk to the safety of my family by notifying docs, Im not sure what I would do, but I wouldnt do nothing iykwim. I would probably talk to the police and find out how we could be protected.

[JabberJaw]

I would call them if i believed the children were in danger.

If the woman called them on me as payback, i am sure childrens services would indeed see that i was a fit mother, and the complaints were unwarranted.

[delirium]

By retribution I don't mean notifying on me - CP can come into my house anytime, I have absolutely nothing to hide.

I more mean stuff like violence, damaging personal property, turning really unstable and unpredictable. This woman becomes quite deranged when people end friendships and romantic relationships and has a history of becoming violent.

[Chunkydunks]

I would and I'd tell them about the concerns and hopefully they can do something to help with that.

[Jakois]

It is a tough situation for you to be in Delirium:(.

Maybe you could speak to CP in relation to the children and also to the police in regards to your concerns for your own safety.

That way you have covered all aspects and maybe this would be enough to keep the lady in question away.

I would most certainly report her though. If her children are in danger, someone needs to step in.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

yes I would notify, I would also be very careful about what I told them. I would discuss concerns with DOCS and see what they suggest.

To me children deserve to be protected, my safety would be a consideration, however I wouldn't be able to live with my self if I didn't call.

[delirium]

Thank you to everyone so far. I want to notify but DH doesn't want me to as he's worried what she may do *think Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction* maybe a bit of an exaggeration but not far off :(

You have all given me some food for thought.