heeeelp

[updaduff]

i feel awful complaining - but i just dont know what to do!!! I have a 7 week old that refuses to nap during the day :sleeping:

I just dont understand it! he sleep brilliantly at night. I feed, burp, cuddle and put him in the cot and even if he hasnt fallen asleep he will lie there until he does.

During the day however is a completely different story. he gets tired and will only fall asleep in my arms or if i lie next to him in bed. I just dont know what to do?? He wont nap with DH, only me. Which means i get *no* time to myself.

Right now ive put him in his cot hoping he settles. he was asleep when i put him down, but then he woke and realised what has happened and is wide awake crying. Ive tried going in and soothing without picking up. he will be happy if im there, but as soon as i leave the screaming starts again....

PLEASE any one have any advice?????

[kar]

go to the sleeping/settling thread and have a search in there - this is very common, lots of threads about catnappers and babes who will only sleep in arms during the day but are fine at night

[Uniquey]

Have you got a sling? Try putting him in a sling as you go about your activities and see if that sends him off into a slumber.

You could also try a 'white Noise' CD and have that playing whilst he's in his Cot.

Good Luck, it's hard to get things done with a Cat napper isn't it!

[lealea79]

sounds like my 31/2 month old. he will now only fall asleep on the boob.. cat naps during the day 45 mins at the most. but wil sleep for 10 hours at night most nights.

[kar]

i was going to add, there are two basic approaces

Ride it out and work out some methods to get things done and some time off - sling, cosleeping during the day, pram etc. It will eventually get better.

Teach bub to sleep on their own. At such a young age bub should never be left to cry it out. This is not just my opinion - it is absolutely the position of all the 'experts' with any credibility.

With my boy we just dealt with it to about 3 months - it was exhausting and stressful but all attempts to have him sleep alone were more exhausting and stressful for both of us.
At 12 wks we did a day stay and started some gentle methods for learning to self settle and sleep alone and at 5 months he takes himself off to sleep on his own in his cot 90% of the time and we are getting much better on the staying asleep. I don't think there is any quick fix - a combination of his development and gentle methods did work for us though when he was little bit bigger.

[Damamma]

DS was like this, we ended up getting one of those swings that swings themeslves. There is no way he would sleep in his cot during the day, fine at night, just not during the day. But we did the swing in the day and the cot at night. Now he sleeps in the cot during the day and night. Good luck!!