How to do controlled crying

[Oscar's mum]

I was wanting to get some advice on how to do controlled crying;) I don't know tooo much about cc so any hints on how you go about it, how to cope with the crying etc would be great!;)

[poshBecks]

Hi :wave:

What you you do is... start off with only a few minutes. Prolly 3 mins. Then go in & comfort, then increase the time when you leave the next time say to 5 mins. Keep doing this adding 1 minute at a time until you get to 10 mins. Dont go over 10 mins. Then if he's still crying at 10 mins, leave him for another 10 mins. And so on.

The first few days are hard, but the get they idea really quickly. Cj now will only cry for about 2 mins & then gives up... thats if he cries at all.

For you: close the door, set a timer coz 1 min feels like 10, so you need to actually time it. Turn on the t.v or radio & turn up the volume so you cant hear the crying. Or go outside or whatever. When the timer goes off then go & check on him if he's stopped crying Beauty!! If not go in & comfort him & start again.

If he stops crying for a few mins then starts again. Start timing again. Dont go in straight away.


Good luck :o I hope that helps. :hugs:

[draught]

I have PM'd you with my "how to" on CC that I did for someone else ages ago - take or ignore from it what you will!

[bindiloo]

Hi Draught i was wondering if maybe you wouldnt mind pm me aswell with that information.
I start to leave her and then end up caving in but i really want to do it properly cause i know it works and my mum keeps telling me to just leave her but having it explained properly rather than just being told to let her cry will help me more i think.

:confused: :confused: did any of that make sense or am i rambling.lol:o

[draught]

I will do that but do want to note that CC is only appropriate to use for children over 6 months of age - am not sure how old your baby is but the gorgeous photo in your avatar looks pretty young still. If she is under 6 months you might like to look to the no cry solutions - patting, rocking, comforting etc (all of which I have also used with some success - we have a LOT of sleep issues in this house!)

[Tea Lady]

O's mum, I found the ppl at Riverton really helpful - I'd give them a call before you start (ie days in advance) to ask them how they would suggest you do it. Then you can talk it over with DH and decide what you'll do and not do of what they suggest, and then you can ring them back when youre in the middle of it and they'll talk you through it :thumbsup:

I didn't ring them beforehand when we did it and I wish I had because we would have started differently.

Good luck !! :)

[mummybl]

Hi oscar's mum,

yep cc can work, i also start off with what they call feed/play/sleep because i was breast feeding my baby to sleep and when he woke in the night the only way he would go back to sleep was on the boob.

What u do is feed baby milk and solids then play time, then look for tired signs, then baby gets put to bed awake and then u follow the cc routine.
let baby cry for 3 min then go in stay in for i min max, then leave wait 5 min then back in for 1 min max again then wait 7 min, then u start again at 3 min. You are suppose to do this for 45min at night, 1 hour for day but i always cave before then. If baby settles between timing then start crying again u start the count back at 3 min. It really can work but u know your baby better than anyone so you can work out the cries. If u stick with it u will be amased how it can work. sometimes my baby screams so loud when i put him down but within 2min he is sound asleep. Tea lady is right if u have someone you can call and get support from i really does help.
Anyway good luck and keep us informed of how u go

[Nan]

Oscar's mum - let us know how you're going so we can support you all we can. :hugs: I hope everything is going well.

Bindiloo - a lot of people think I'm crazy in these parts (and I'm happy to wear that!), but we did CC at about 1 month old and our DD learned in under a week (I think 3 mights from memory with a couple of lapses) how to get herself of to sleep. We are always getting comments on how happy, giggly, joyful, jolly she is etc. Having said that, it might not be the same for your bubs. So I'd say if you want to give this a try, do what works for your child & you and do it when you feel comfortable.

Love,
Nan. xx