Hooray Tommee Tippee!

[JorBai]

Just something that made me smile yesterday!!!

I tried so hard to b/f to no success so I went to FF which I am fine with! So yesterday when I went into the chemist to buy a tin of formula for Bailey I was given it in a Tommee Tippee promotional bag, i decided to read some of the stuff in there and happened to see the best comment in there:

"Breastfeeding is best for babies but may not always be possible"

How true is this for so many Mums! I just felt relieved that we are not looked at as failures but more so that it is true, there are circumstances in which prevent us from being able to bf.

[~EmsMum~]

im glad to hear that you have had a positive experiance

"Breastfeeding is best for babies but may not always be possible"
how very true

[belinda]

"Breastfeeding is best for babies but may not always be possible"

thats so true

[KarniF00l]

About time a statement like that is put in writing :thumbsup:

[angcaltam]

I'm glad to see that in writing.:yes: :thumbsup: :smiliedance: :yelclap:

[Lunar]

My formula tins all say that.
I love the comment!
I read it everyday and know that I did my best but it was just not possible.

[JorBai]

Hey emysmum, I use Karicare and my tin says:

Breast milk is best for babies. Consult your dr before using this product.

So frustrating!

What formula do you use???

I need a tin like yours! Maybe I should stick a label on there myself:laughing:

[angcaltam]

Baileys Mummy,
I use Heinz and the tin say the same as your's.:mad: :banghead: :devil6: I think we should be a label on our tins.:yes:

[Lunar]

*peels butt off seat to check tin...*


Doh!
Mine says the same! Where do I keep reading it then....I dunno:confused:
Sorry to get ya'll excited!

I am so sick of the debate tho about formula being bad etc by some in here (not mentioning any names...... baileysmum I think you know who I'm refering to...)

I just wish people would realise that NOT all woman can bf. It's not as simple as floppin out ya boob and baby feeds.

[abbynmonique]

i feel for mums who give there babies formula and are made to feel guilty,, i dont like the way some ppl make it sound like it is poison and you will harm your baby by giving it to them . Makes it very hard to enjoy the feeding experience with them. its powdered milk that even though is not breast milk, it still should be valued. Some women in poorer countries cant even afford ,or get access to formular. My dad was raised in Hungary and his mum had breastfeeding problems and had to feed him chickory coffee,in water... , he is now 84 yrs old and fighting fit.
everyone should just feed their babies whatever milk they can offer them and be happy you have such beautiful little smiles to wake up too each day.

[Lunar]

i feel for mums who give there babies formula and are made to feel guilty,, i dont like the way some ppl make it sound like it is poison and you will harm your baby by giving it to them . Makes it very hard to enjoy the feeding experience with them. its powdered milk that even though is not breast milk, it still should be valued. Some women in poorer countries cant even afford ,or get access to formular. My dad was raised in Hungary and his mum had breastfeeding problems and had to feed him chickory coffee,in water... , he is now 84 yrs old and fighting fit.
everyone should just feed their babies whatever milk they can offer them and be happy you have such beautiful little smiles to wake up too each day.

:thumbsup: right on sister!!!!

[JorBai]

*peels butt off seat to check tin...*


Doh!
Mine says the same! Where do I keep reading it then....I dunno:confused:
Sorry to get ya'll excited!

I am so sick of the debate tho about formula being bad etc by some in here (not mentioning any names...... baileysmum I think you know who I'm refering to...)

I just wish people would realise that NOT all woman can bf. It's not as simple as floppin out ya boob and baby feeds.

:hugs: EmysMum- your so great- definately on my wavelength!:laughing:

About the label thing- we should make up our own and stick it to the tin!!! Good idea angcaltam!:thumbsup:

[angcaltam]

Maybe on our tins it should say that Formula Feeding is Best for Babies.:thumbsup: Because in our case it is.:yes:

[JorBai]

:smiliedance: I agree!!!:smiliedance:

[lil_rabbits_mummy]

i bought a tommee tippee bottle the other day and it had "Breastfeeding is best for babies but may not always be possible" on the label on the inside.

[the_queen]

I agree it's a good thing.

But sorry to burst any bubbles, the formula manufacturers are required to put that disclaimer on their products. They're not allowed to advertise their products, and they must stipulate that "breast is best". It's part of the WHO agreement about Artificial Baby Milk marketing.

I agree that it is extremely depressing when a mother feels guilty for feeding her baby formula, when she has tried everything to breastfeed and it just didn't work out. I am one of those mothers. I was, I mean. I no longer feel guilty - in fact I never really felt guilty, I just thought I felt guilty. My "guilt" was stopping me from being able to grieve for our lost breastfeeding relationship. Once I allowed myself to grieve, I stopped feeling guilty. I know for a fact that I did the best I could at the time, with all the knowledge I had at the time, there was nothing else I could have done back then. So I have nothing to feel guilty about. I completely believe that breastmilk is better than formula - formula is, however, an adequate substitute if there is no other option.

[Lunar]

I completely believe that breastmilk is better than formula - formula is, however, an adequate substitute if there is no other option.

I think we all agree on that one here:yes:
Our arguement I think is more the fact that some go on and on and on about formula being more like poison and it causes this and causes that and so on.
I think most of us are just really sick of that.
God knows if I could breast feed I would, and until my baby was probably 18months or more!

I do too feel I need to grieve for my lost bf relationship but I just don't know if I can right now. I think I just don't know how to let go of the guilt, especially when I constantly read things on this forum about how I am poisoning my baby and how I 'failed' her. etc.:crying::mad:

[GIZMOE]

Kris you are a wonderful mother! I know it's hard to get rid of the guilt problem I am the same. Everytime Poppy gets constipated or has bad reflux and stomach pains I cry thinking if I was still breastfeeding maybe she wouldn't have these things!!

I think it's because we put so much pressure on ourselves to be the perfect mum and really that is just not possible for anyone. Give yourself a break Kris you have so much going on in your life and the way you handle it well I think you deserve a medal!

I hope everyone who is feeling guilty makes peace with this cause you are all doing the best you can.

Amyxx

[the_queen]

I don't think any of the lactivists have used the words "formula is poisoning your baby". I have so much sympathy for you Kris, and for all the mums who desperately want to BF but can't. But I just think that perhaps because of how raw this issue is, things can be taken the wrong way. Remember that when someone says "Studies have shown...." then that just means that it's a purely scientific, statistical and demographical explanation for a specific condition. And the point is that formula is not guaranteed to do any of this stuff to your baby. It just statistically put bubs at higher risk of certain ailments. The risk also depends on genetics, environment, and pure luck.

Lactivists (or "Breastfeeding Nazi's", which is a term some find offensive but me personally I think it's funny :p) just want people to be informed. You know what is best Kris, and you did your best to keep BFing, but it didn't work out. What really annoys lactivists is when people don't even try BFing, or when they give up for really stupid and selfish reasons. And when people try to make themselves feel better by denying the fact that BM is best.

Kris, (and everyone else who feels this way) the very fact that you feel bad and you wish you could have kept BFing tells me that you are in fact a BFing mum who has been forced to use formula. You hear me? You are a BFing mum, sadly you've been forced to use formula with Kailah but in your heart you are a BFing mum. I know the heartache of being forced to use formula. And every time I BF Curtis I say a little prayer to thank God that things have been easier this time. But I don't dwell on the fact I had to FF Vallerie - because I know I tried everything I could to keep BFing.


I hope I've expressed myself clearly. The BF Nazi's are aiming their "scare tactics" at the FFers who don't care what they feed their child, and who make selfish decisions.

Please forgive my lack of eloquence. I'll try to break down what I'm saying:

Being forced to formula feed after trying your hardest to BF = A GOOD MUM.

Choosing to formula feed because you can't wait to start binge-drinking again = NOT A GOOD MUM.

See the difference?


Now the most important thing I want to give you Kris (and everyone else) :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[~EmsMum~]

Maybe on our tins it should say that Formula Feeding is Best for Babies.:thumbsup: Because in our case it is.:yes:

:thumbsup: right on girly!

[Lunar]

Thanks Queenie!
I knew where you were coming from, but it just feels when these 'nazi's' post links to reports and other statements that say that we have failed and are feeding our babies a type of poison it really sh!ts me!
It is the same person/ppl ALL the time! Even when it is an encouraging thread, AND even when it is someone in a similar situation as I was in, are told that we simply didn't try hard enough or have the right information blah blah blah.....
it just makes us feel like cr@p! And frankly I am so so SO sick of it!
Someone can be rude to me in that situation but if I express myself back I get kicked in the teeth!
I don't know why I bother, but if I don't stand up for myself, who will???

I don't know if you can understand that at all, but I understand you.
Thanks for the hugs.
:hugs: right back at ya!!

[JorBai]

Just been reading the last few posts and really appreciate the nice post from Queen!

I think it hurts us more when we post a thread about a positive FF statement or question and someone who was successful in BF comes in and comments when it may not be necessary, which has happened on a number of occasions in the FF threads. My personal opinion is that if some ppl dont have positive comments about FF then dont come in to the thread.

Queen- i must say its nice to hear your opinions being both a FF and BF mother, Thank you!

[Mischief]

I was glad to have the nurse at my Dr's tell me the other day that it would be good for me to start introducing Oliver to formula shortly....even a bottle a day.

Ive been expressing for nearly 5 weeks now...and with him being more "wakeful" during the day, I'm running raggard most of the time trying to get enough "expression sessions" in each day. Thank goodness for an electric pump, extention lead, and bubhub! I can sit here and pump while I check posts! :)

Breastfeeding is best, but not always possible. :)