Need some advise

[Melissa1983]

Just need some advise on my girls behaviour.

They wont listen to me at all even if i use a firm voice. They just laugh and me and keep doing what they are dong. I have decided to bring out the wooden spoon as a threat, (but not to smack them with). It seem to be working with them, but i feel guilty by using this as a threat. How can i get them to listen to me without using the spoon as a threat?

[the_queen]

I can only imagine how challenging it is to have 2 kids at this same "defiant" stage. I only barely survived my DD's toddlerhood - and there was only one of her!!

So :hugs: to you. Don't be hard on yourself. You tried something (the threat of the wooden spoon) but now you've realised you'd like to try something a little gentler.

Here's a resource I go to quite a lot, and have found it very helpful (also, the fact that I get a "time out" from DD for 15 minutes while I go on the internet... that helps a lot too :D)

http://www.askdrsears.com

Here's what he says about 25 ways to talk so your children will listen (http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T061000.asp)

Hope that helps you some.

:)

[cwsmum]

:hugs: I understand what you are dealing with...DS is 3 and driving me insane. Don't feel bad about using the wooden spoon threat, I do that too.

If I want him to do something I ask him...then I take whatever he is playing with away and ask him again and if he still doesn't do what I'm asking him to then I put the toy up on the fridge and he has to stand and look at the wall beside the fridge until he's ready to do what I asked. Usually works coz he knows if he says he's going to do it and then starts playing I take that toy too and he has to stand and look at the wall again. He gets the toys back once he does what I wanted him to.

To stop him from doing something he shouldn't be I usually have to stand him up and take him a few steps away from whatever it is I want him to stop and tell him why he can't do it...tho when he is doing something like sitting close to DD (7mths) and pushing her, even tho he often doesn't realise he's pushing her, I tell him why he can't do it and if he does it again I make him lay on the floor like DD and I do to him what he was doing to her. Oh, and NO!! I'm not one of those mums who will bite their child to teach them not to bite...DS just seems to need to be shown how some things feel before he understands why he can't do them.

I'll definatly be having a look at the link Queen posted too :thumbsup: might find something there that will work better for DS...worth a try.