Is it Wrong?

[mum2littleman]

DS is 7 months old and has a baby dressed in blue its not a doll it's one of the sleep time babies that play music to help put babys to sleep and is like a soft stuff toy but looks like a baby anyways my mother and her friend were out side haveing a coffee this morning and then mums friend came in and saw luke sitting down playing with his toys and he was huging and patting his baby on the back because everytime i pick it up i do it and show him well anways she asked what he was doing playing with a doll and told me i shouldnt give him dolls"babies" as he may think its ok to play with girls toys later on, she didnt say it in a rude way or anything but....

do u think it was wrong of me to give him the baby?

[Jem]

I dont think its wrong at all ;)

[MissBrightside]

I dont think there is anything wrong with it at all. My 3 year old has one of my old cabbage patch kids, that he walks around in a pink stroller. Dosent mean he is only going to play with girls toys later, he loves all the usual boy toys also.
So I wouldnt worry about it. If he enjoys playing with it, let him!

[reAllytee]

Ummm why is it a bad thing that he may want to play with girls toys when he is older ?!?!?!?! I doubt we worry about a girl playing with cars so im fascinated by this stigma about boys !!! :confused:
Boof doesnt have a doll he has a bear that ive taught him to cuddle & kiss as well as trying to teach him to be gentle with but im hoping to actually buy him one i think its good for them to have other options plus it will teach him how to treat a little brother or sister should he have one !
So your lo is well prepared :thumbsup:
If your not worried then dont worry about others they will always have opinions to share just nod & smile then take out of it what you need :D

[the_queen]

If you plan on ensuring he is never a father, then sure, don't let him play with dolls.
Boys need to role-play parenting just as much as girls do.

You sound like a brilliant mum, trust your instincts and don't listen to advice that you think sounds dodgy - even if it is from your mum ;)

[rynosmum]

Not at all.

My son has a little 'baby' as well and loves it.

Keep doing what you're doing.:)

[mum2littleman]

thanks for the advice girls- he loves it i tell him all the time his mummies baby and thats his baby im glade i dont have to take it off him maybe if he was 15 and still liked dolls it would be diffrent but i didnt think being a child and having a baby {doll} could be doing any harm..

[cwsmum]

My 3yr old DS loves his baby. He has a nappy for the doll...some days it's a girl doll, other days it's a boy...also has a couple of sets of clothes for it. Today he had the doll in girls clothes (well, I had to put the clothes on for him), and then had the doll 'driving' his huge Tonka excavator.

There's nothing wrong with a boy playing with a doll...just as there's nothing wrong with my 7mth old DD prefering to play with her brothers cars & trucks than anything else.

[onabreak]

I don't think there is anything wrong with your son playing with dolls, I think it is normal. I have a daughter who loves cars more than dolls......:D

[Funkychicken]

All children love playing at babies at some stage-especially if their mummy has a baby. Just as the majority of 3 yo's will say their fav colour is pink (yes, boys too!) so too will they enjoy playing with dolls. This will NOT make them into anything other than a loving person. DS#1 used to breastfeed his teddies when DD arrived and he has turned into a "real' boy with no ill-effects!:D

[bubbles28]

[QUOTE=nicandbensmum]I dont think there is anything wrong with it at all. My 3 year old has one of my old cabbage patch kids, that he walks around in a pink stroller.


My DS has the exact same!
He also has a pink highchair inwhich he feeds his cabbage patch doll!
There's nothing wrong in teaching boys to express their sensitive sides.

[tanni_83]

If you plan on ensuring he is never a father, then sure, don't let him play with dolls.
Boys need to role-play parenting just as much as girls do.

You sound like a brilliant mum, trust your instincts and don't listen to advice that you think sounds dodgy - even if it is from your mum ;)


this is the reason they allow boys to play dress ups and 'parents and babies' at daycare and preschool :hugs:

i also agree you are doing a brilliant job :yes:

[SassyMummy]

No way.

So what if playing "dolls" is seen as a girl thing? We don't yell at kids for role-playing as parents, even though they're NOT adults with children and their actual "storylines" are nothing like reality, do we? Certainly not!

Copying, role-playing and just generally having fun with toys is no cause for concern IMO. I once pretended I was an aboriginal MAN (using a broom as a spear, and my dog was "a dingo)...and nobody told me to stop.

If nothing else, at least he's being creative.

[shed]

Everyone has already said it, but I just wanted to agree.

Playing a nurturing role is good practice for when he grows up and is a loving and supportive husband and father.

Times have changed. Mother your son how you want to and encourage his loving nature rather than curbing any show of caring (like they did in the 'olden' days).

[lukaelmo]

i shouldnt give him dolls"babies" as he may think its ok to play with girls toys later on,

I agree with everyone's thoughts on this subject, and I also think it is fine for him to play with girls' toys later on, for as long as he likes in fact.

My brother is gay, as a child he liked trucks and dirt, lizards, climbing trees, all typical boy things. I had a barbie doll and never played with it, I was up there climbing trees with my brother. Kids have no idea what is supposed to be for girls or boys until society drums it in to them.

[LittleBoysRock]

We brought DS a doll last week and he loves it!! I think it is because the doll has a face. He kisses it all the time and drags it round the house. DH actually brought it for him. I was very proud that he is a open new-age daddy willing to let his son play with dolls. :yes:

[nemosmum]

DS has had a little soft "man" doll lol since he was born his name is "Doll" very original LOL:laughing: and has lovely cocoa coloured skin just like ds's daddy!.

I think its great for all young children to be exposed to dolls/baby dollys/bears etc it teaches children to care for others and brings out their maternal instincts,

In re; to boys I think its even more important as we all want our little boys to grow into caring young men who will hopefully one day be great dads, uncles, god fathers, mentors, grandfathers etc etc

I love it when ds rocks his doll to sleep and plays the "daddy" its wonderful!

Hey I also recently laybyed a wooden kitchenette thing with a fridge,oven,sink and microwave for ds's 2nd birthday as he loves playing in the home corner at kindy........hopefully he will love to cook one day.....for me HEHEHEHEHE teach em young I say:laughing:

[MyGuys]

our 2 yr old also has one of my old dolls in a little pink stroller. He used to love playing with our neices dolls and pushing them around so we got him one. pitty they dont make blue strollers to accommodate the boys. the way we see it is that my husband pushes the stroller and does just as much with the child as I do so what difference is it. It is a great way to teach them to be gentle with babies too.

[~Danni~]

nah its not wrong!! :p

my three year old bro wears pink hair clips on 'special' occasions (a little weird, but funny):rolleyes:

It's like people woh used to get angry at me at the shops for dressing my girl in blue and green 'but I cant tell what sex your baby is' I'm like ' yeah thats fine I don't even know you':D

[Ky]

My ds learnt how to walk pushing a bright pink barbie stroller around the streets of Bankstown. He also has a doll that is his baby and every now and then (totally nude plastic doll!) "Baby" has to go everywhere with us! I have no problem with him having it and have talked dh around to the fact that ds needs to have an idea on how to be caring and nurturing for his wife and children in the future and how to be gentle with babies in the mean time!

And my ds is a true boyish little boy!

[Sara's Boys]

the prescence of sexual awareness are not present in children until they approach 8 or 9. Kids are just kids, babies just babies, and as long as they are happy and healthy who cares what they play with, what colour they wear etc. The issues of that lie with the parents or adults not the bubs.:yes: