Toilet Training

[msiccita]

My DD is three years old and still in nappies.......I'm having trouble toilet training him and at the moment i don't know what else to do.

i have tried everything i can think of....reward system etc...

He understands about the toilet and knows what you have to do when you go, but he won't tell him he has to go and when i ask he answers no.

I've had him in undies and he does like wearing them but keeps on wetting them.

What he does is come and tell me he has to go after he's wet his pants and this continues all day.

What should i do, any advice on how to handle this?

Thanks:banghead:

[clairbear]

Hi there msiccita:wave:
I am in exactly the same boat, so sorry no advice but I wanted to send you some EMPATHY!! It sucks doesn't it?
My little boy has just turned three and sits on the toilet for me with lots of cajoling and the promise of a jellybean (naughty i know), and very occasionally does a wee, we applaud and go crazy with praise and he does get a jellybean. But most of the time when he is in undies although i say over and over tell Mummy when a wee is coming, and take him every ten minutes he always wets them then tells me or sometimes doesn't.
I try not to show disappointment but it is very hard when all my friend's kids(same age or younger) were toilet trained at least six months ago!
The ec nurse said don't push it he'll do it in his own time but I sometimes think he is just becoming more of a disagreeable 3 year old and digging his heels in!
All the books and articles say wait for ready signs like the announcement that they need to do a wee or poo or at least that they are wet or dirty but i am still waiting...he would sit in a wet/dirty nappy all day :banghead:
Let me know how you are going, at least maybe we can whinge to each other:o
Anyone else, I too would LOVE some advice!!

[sugar n spice]

Well i have mentioned this again and again but my son is 5 in august and does virtually all his wees in the toilet but has started accidently weeing at kindy and the teacher said a few of them have due to it being cold she thinks. He poohs himself however. he knows as he doesnt do it at school but does at home. Drives me crazy. Its hard to be encourageble at his age when its now becoming a joke. I havent even bothered with night training as 7yr still wet beds so that can wait. All i can say is good luck and i wish you better luck than i

[MooandMum]

hi everyone, i'm very new to the forum thing, but would love to chat to others about toilet training too, my little girl is 2 and a half and she is showing absolutely no interest in the toilet at all! do you wait until they notice it? Or do you sit them on it and really encourage it? i have no clue and i can see you are having a bit of trouble, but did they show interest or having you had to help them along?

sorry i have no advice, searching too!:ecomcity:

[cassi*girl]

Well my DS is 3 next month and still in nappies. I have given up for the moment.........it is so frustrating though. He will sit on the potty or toilet when you change his nappy or before shower/bath, but if he is in jocks he doens't have a clue.
I too have done the rewards, jumping up and down like an idiot with praise etc, but nope....wee/poo in jocks straight after.

I think I will just wait for him to start telling me he is wet or uncomfortable or whatever. Surely that will happen ONE DAY???

Good luck to all and :fingerscrossed: we all get some results soon.

[msiccita]

Hi everyone,

It is so good to hear that their are other people in the same situation.

Everyone around me either has their kids toilet trained or their to young, so that's why i was feeling as if i was doing something wrong.

it looks like its a common thing. i suppose we keep on trying and hopefully one day we can breathe a big sigh of relief.

Good Luck and let's keep in touch:thumbsup:

[gillianf]

Gosh, I hope you guys have success soon! It must be so frustrating! I have a little booklet (to use when DS is old enough and hopefully without too many problems) that suggest a chart and stickers if they've done a wee or poo in the potty. Don't know if any of you have tried this, but I figured it was worth suggesting? Good luck!

[SnoozesWithCats]

DD1 (soon to be three) is driving me crazy at the moment with her pooing.

We had a serious attempt at tt about 3 months ago because all her friends seemed to be trained (notice a pattern!) but after two weeks she hadn't progressed much and we were about to move house, so we gave it a rest for a bit.

Trying again over the last couple of days because of her sitting-in-poo issue - basically, she can do one up to three times a day, or none, depending, and she's a really independent little girl, so she can be sitting in her room by herself for an hour or whatever happily playing away with a soaking c***-filled nappy and then SURPRISE SURPRISE gets these horrible rashes which makes changing time a nightmare, and her even MORE reluctant to go get a new nappy. Unless I run around after her with my nose in her butt all day so I know when she's gone :rolleyes:

We've been doing pants the last couple of days because I thought it might help her get a bit more uncomfortable and ask for a change if she needs one ... it sorta works, but about every hour we have this conversation...

"Time to go on the potty"
"I have no wee in me"
"Well, why don't you go sit on the potty and see"
"I can't"
"I think you can"
"No, I am a baby"

... snip five minutes of cajoling, eventually I get her there, and...

":eek: I weed!"
":rolleyes: "

and then she might have an accident ten minutes later anyway!

I'm really trying to stay calm, but sometimes it's hard when she takes off round the house with an unwiped bum trying to sit on all the furniture!

Anyway ... ummm...not much advice here either I'm afraid! Just empathy...

[sugar n spice]

yeah i know how that goes with my son its
* go to the toilet now please we need to go out*
* no im watching my show after this one*
*ok right after that*
*ok *
tv show over * i have no wee or pooh mum i promise to go when ifeel it*
* no go now please*
* no *
* ok proove me wrong go and try and we will see*
* oh ok - omg weeeeeeee:rolleyes:*

[FourAngelKisses]

You might have to do what I had to do with Jacob. I had to sit him on the potty and tell him he wasn't moving till he had done a wee. It took over half an hour, but when he went, I made a big deal out of it and told him to keep going. He ended up filling it right to the top (didn't know a bladder could get that big, lol). From that minute onwards, he was potty trained and never had an accident. He was 3yrs and 4mths old.

[Ky]

Most kids toilet train when they are 3 and they are 3 for an entire 12 months!

This is the best piece of advice I was ever given and it is the reason that I am not worried about my ds who hasn't got a clue yet!

True, some kids toilet train a lot earlier than this, but some train a lot later than 3 too!

As long as he is out of nappies before he goes to school I wouldn't worry too much.

And as for night training ... I would rather keep putting a nappy on than have an upset and dejected child every morning lamenting their "failure" ... my dd is still in night nappies at 5yo. She sleeps so deeply that she has absolutely no idea that she is wetting ... it will come with time!

[sugar n spice]

My son is also a deep sleeper. he does say he has wet pull ups in the morning but im in no rush to target night time training, When hes good and ready i say for that

[semazani]

I would let it go for now. My boys were later to train than my daughter. My daughter was trained night and day before the age of three. My boys were a whole other story. Seth was almost four before he was trained during the day and I can't remember when he finally night trained. Zachary was just over three when he was trained during the day and was over seven before we had no more accidents at night. Nicholas just finally got trained during the day last month (he turned five on June 2) and is still in pull-ups at night.

It sounds like he just isn't ready yet.