Libido

[Starburst]

Not really sure where this question belongs so Ive put it here, I am 10 1/2 weeks and I have soooo little enthusiaism for affection! Even kissing and cuddling makes me a bit claustrophobic and sex well I think we have done it once in 5 weeks.
Does anyone else feel like this?

[Desertress]

Just wanted to let you now that you are not alone. Alot of women feel like this during pregnancy and after the baby is born. For some it goes away but for the unlucky ones like me it hangs around. I lost all my urges for affection after my first son was born ..... he is now 3 and i have since had another baby who is now 9.5 months..... but still no sign of my libido and i still get clastrophibic which cuddling and higging and rarley kiss.

I hope i havnt scared you with this but i just wanted to let you know that it is normal and you are not alone. Hopefully for you tho it will return to normal after bubs is born.

[aggero]

Hey starburst, I feel exactly the same. I thought most of it was due to my horrible m/s which thankful has eased up in the past week, but I still really can't be bothered :o Think I will need to start making an effort though as although DH has been very understanding, I don't want him to start feeling that I am drawing away from him. He keeps asking my when the good girl hormones are going to start :o

[EskimoMumma]

omg

it hought it was jsut me!! i didnt know why i felt the exact same way as oyu!!

its like go away your too close!!


ITs good to know I am not alone.

[Beany]

I waited and waited for the insatiable sex-a-holic phase of the pregnancy to kick in.

At 33 weeks, I'm still waiting :D

In the first trimester, I craved attention and affection, wanted to be patted and hugged and all the but sex ... I'd rather have shoved peas up my nose.

Things were a teeny tiny bit better in the second trimester (not by much though) and the third trimester is just to uncomfortable.

You aren't alone :)

[LittleBoysRock]

I didnt want DH to kiss me or touch me at all during pregnancy.

It was only towards the end (when I heard that the prosteglandins in sperm might induce labour) that I could bring myself to have sex with him!

Right after DS was born I didnt want sex but I did want affection. The feeling doesnt last forever thank goodness. :)

Goodluck and keep smiling. :hugs:

[Starburst]

Thanks everyone :hugs: I feel much better now, I kinda feel that I should just do it for hubbys sake but then I think why do it if you arnt going to enjoy it!!
Hubby asked this morning if I was going to go back on the pill after bubs is born, I think he is scared Il get pg straight away again and he will have no sex for another 9 months!! They are so funny :laughing:

[mumslilspunks]

Im sailing on the same boat too! Except my DH is getting pretty peeved off with me. He said " when you were trying to get PG it was ok when you wanted it but now you are its just stuff you jack"
I feel a lilttle bad but i dont see the sense in just doing it coz they want too!

[HugsAndKisses]

im the same also...
and unfortunately mine has not returned even though my son is over 1...:confused:
its very upsetting and i truly wish i wanted it more but the fact is i hardly ever do:thumbsdown: my partner always says ur young your not 50 and thats true..he feels i should be in my sexual peak but prob is the want for it has pretty much gone:eek: sorry if ive scared u i mean i still do have intimate times with him but its only every so often

[Jax Tellers Old Lady]

lol i think i was born without a libido:laughing:

[MrsTwith3]

So many things effect libido. In early pregnancy you have to deal with morning sickness and being tired constantly. I know all I wanted was sleep and to be left alone. It got a bit better in the 2nd trimester. Now Im in the 3rd trimester I hate the fact that hubby works long hours and is too tired when my libido is firing...lol.
Dont panic it might just be a 1st trimester thing. Hope your libido returns real soon.

Mel