Sick of Defence Life.

[MilkOnTap]

I'm sick of this lifestyle - I hate being a single wife.

What can I do or say to make the ship send my husband home early?

I seriously feel ready to throw myself off a cliff or something. I hate Sydney; I'm sick of life. I know we have gone through heaps already - but that was together as a couple. I cant handle this anymore on my own.

[MumsieMel]

oh ally :hugs:

You poor thing, if you wanna chat im all ears!

Wanna do coffee??? :D

[reAllytee]

Oh Ally :hugs:
We arent that bad are we ?!?!?!??!?! :p :hugs:
As Mel said if you need us we are here even just for a chat or for a catch up to have coffee !!!
I know this is hard i watched my sis go through it & i have to say your stronger than i could ever be !
Just try to stay calm & remember he will be home soon ..... Trust me soon as he is home you will want to be alone again heheheh ... Again not exactly but you know what i mean :hugs:
I hope today is a better day after your vent !
Take care

[tupper_lady]

Great big hugs I see you are having a bad time. I have been there time and time again being an army wife, it is hard and seperation does suck. Can you get out with another defence mum or lady for coffee and a chat? It really does help to have good ears to listen to you.

:hugs:

[rynosmum]

Oh Ally, you've been through so much - sometimes it can really feel like just too much.

Stick with it girl - he's almost home !:hugs:

[Wish_Bear]

Pink lady,

You said exactly what I am feeling. I am a Navy wife and have 2 bubs. DH was away 8 months of last year and i was sick and pregnant and running around after a 3 year old. I hate this life also. I have a good support group of friends but they have no kids or partners so don't understand my life. I have been in tears everyday this past week as I am on my own. He goes away on Monday for 4 months and I am dreading it!

Please feel free to vent all you want and hang in there hon, it's a hard way to live but you are strong and will get through it.:hugs:

[jkate]

:hugs: Ally. I think I told you the other day (and if I didnt I will know :D ) that are very strong, I dont know how I would cope with DH away that often, its bad enough he goes for 12 hrs a day, but that is nothing compare to what you do.

I completly understand about hating Sydney (no offence to all you sydeny ladies - you are such a wonderful bunch :D ). If you ever need to get out of the city, your more then welcome to the lovely central coast for a visit. Just give me a call. :D

[WeThree]

Ally, we are all here for you sweetie, believe me you have many many more friends than you probably realise. DH will be home soon, and then all will seem better with the world. PM if you want to get together for a coffee or something :hugs:

[kymmy]

I see you aren't feeling great.
My hubby wanted to join the army and still does.
I am scared and don't want to be left at home with the kids alone

Confession time! - I said if he tries out for the army I am getting the net!
No way was I going to handle it otherwise
So on the day he tried out I said to him I am going shopping
I am going to spend a lot of money so I don't have to think about it
(ie, him getting in the army)
He said that's fine (actually I didn't expect that response)
So that day I bought a computer

Now I feel so glad I have the net
I have found so much support here on bh
Even though he hasn't yet got into the army
It has helped me to destress plus I don't have to drag the kids around
ie. net banking, etc


So I feel for you
I fear the day he gets in
I don't want to be alone
Parenting is hard enough with hubby here

[Tiggerbaby]

Dear Pink Lady,

Whilst I know what you are going through, I recognize that your experience is very individual and from me its good that you are talking about. The more bottled up you become about it the worse it becomes. When we left Sydney last year after six years there as an Navy member and as spouse to a navy member I felt like a great weight had been lifted.

I know that you have been home in Victoria for a while for family support is there anyway you could continue that till your DH comes home??? Like alot of people on the Hub and PID are saying, you have a lot of support here and I know that you are a strong capable woman. You have given support to others & to me and it has helped immensely, when you are not going so well yourself. To me that means that you have the courage to keep up with this journey because you love your DH and are a very special person.

Not much longer now and your DH will be home.

All my thoughts and PM me if you want.
Leigh

[Mum2AandJ]

Hello Pink Lady,
Sorry to hear you arnt feeling good! :hugs:
I'm sure I didnt help that last night, i think I got caught up in the moment and took offence to to what you said, and went on the defensive. I am sorry. I can imagine it didnt help with how you are feeling. Sometimes I think we let the frustration with the way other treat us and let it build up. Then take it out on the next person to come along and tweek a nerve.
I am mature enough to admit it went to far!
I hope you are feeling better. :hugs:

[reAllytee]

Hello Pink Lady,
Sorry to hear you arnt feeling good! :hugs:
I'm sure I didnt help that last night, i think I got caught up in the moment and took offence to to what you said, and went on the defensive. I am sorry. I can imagine it didnt help with how you are feeling. Sometimes I think we let the frustration with the way other treat us and let it build up. Then take it out on the next person to come along and tweek a nerve.
I am mature enough to admit it went to far!
I hope you are feeling better. :hugs:

How gorgeous are you :D :hugs:

[MilkOnTap]

Awww - feel the love... Thanks guys for the boost :hugs:

I still haven't heard from hubby but I'm trying to keep optimistic that YES his Capt will allow him to disembark the ship by sending a RAAF chopper over the Arabian Gulf, land on his ship, take him to Dubai, put him on a flight to Australia and then just maybe he will surprise me in the middle of the night with a bunch of flowers at my doorstep :yes:

**snap** reality :banghead:

[MilkOnTap]

Wow. The ships capt is finally taking me seriously.

I just got a satellite phone call from Grant. He and his boss chatted today and his boss offered to send Grant home early! He just had to call me and make sure that it was what I wanted.

So maybe, just maybe I might get my wish.....

He still wouldn't home for a couple more weeks - but its a lot sooner than when the ship itself is due back.

[kymmy]

I am glad your prayers have been answered:thumbsup:

[reAllytee]

Awesome Ally:hugs:

[MumsieMel]

Great News Ally!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

[JasmineLouise]

Pink Lady.. i cannot imagine what it would be like to be in your position. One of my close friends father is in the navy and her dad is always away. I wonder how her mother feels and i would assume it would be similar to how you are feeling right now. :hugs:

It's great news that your DH is finally coming back... your prayers have really been answered.:smiliedance:

Hope all works out well for you:fingerscrossed:

[jkate]

Thats wonderful Ally :smiliedance: - keep us updated :)

[teresa72]

Hi to you all, I am a fulltime member in the airforce, and have been away on detachment so I know how you must feel, trust me it is hard on your partners as well , but keep your chin up its a wonderful feeling to know that your serving your country.. I am not looking forward to going back to work as I am scared to go away and leave my beautiful ash and her daddy... but I love my job and the pride I feel when I put on my uniform so I have some serious thinking to do about whether or not I want to continue being in the defence force

[DB&O]

I too am a Defence spouse (DH is in the Raaf) & know how isolating & hard it can sometimes be,wheDH goes away I try to remember that he doesn't want to be away from me anymore than I want to be without him, so I try my hardest to stay positive for his sake. I know its not easily done & some days no amount of tea in China is going to make you smile but keep your chin up & soldier on, you will get through this:yes:

Hope your DH gets to come home to you soon :fingerscrossed:

Ciao,
Brooke.