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HousebumMum
20-07-2009, 21:29
A friend of mine told me today that they often think of cheating on their husband and I was really surprised, because the thought had never entered my mind to cheat on my husband. She said it is normal to think about cheating. Is it?
Blueberry Crumble
20-07-2009, 21:31
No way. I have the best right here, there is no way I would go looking elsewhere.

Id die of guilt at the thought
~Bec~
20-07-2009, 21:35
Nope, never. Even when I was with exH :no: It's such an awful thing to do to someone you supposedly love or at least care about.
I'm more likely to run for PM than cheat on DF.
I love JJJ
20-07-2009, 21:44
No way.
I love, respect and cherish what me and DH have way too much to even entertain the thought.
faroutbrusselsprout
20-07-2009, 21:47
No way. I have the best right here, there is no way I would go looking elsewhere.

Id die of guilt at the thought
:yes:

Never ever ever ever in a million trillion billion years.. :no:
God I would be an IDIOT to even entertian the thought!
dancingchipmunk
20-07-2009, 21:57
My personal thought is that if you so desperatly want to sleep with someone other then your partner then separate.
I could never betray my DPs trust like that and ruin what we have created together.
Miss_N
20-07-2009, 22:00
A very good friend of mine went overseas and cheated on her then DP. She spoke about how she didnt feel guilty at all.

The thought of cheating on my DP makes me feel physically ill! :barf:

I could NEVER do it! And I know he would NEVER do it to me! :yes:
MummasPrinces
20-07-2009, 22:09
Even in a loveless, and completely messed up relationship I would never even think of cheating. :no:

If I wanted to be with someone else I would be honest with the person I was with and tell him it was over and leave. But I could NEVER cheat! IMO it is the lowest of lows!
Pax
20-07-2009, 22:11
do you think if we did we would admit it on a public forum :laughing:
~Bec~
20-07-2009, 22:17
I did technically cheat on exH though. We were still legally married when I met DF. We were just living in different hemispheres and hadn't seen each other in nearly 18 months and I had told him month prior to that it was over and there was no way we would get back together. I always find it amazing that for a brief period I was in a situation that I never thought I would ever be in. I had a boyfriend and a husband :eek: :shame: I started divorce proceedings as soon as DF and I got remotely serious.
temple
20-07-2009, 23:03
Both DP and I have been cheated on in the past - it is something we could never do to one another.

Although I guess technically I am his mistress lol. He has been separated from his wife for over four years now, and we have been together for 2 1/2, but he isn't divorced yet...
HousebumMum
20-07-2009, 23:44
do you think if we did we would admit it on a public forum :laughing:

True! The private poll might encourage honesty though!
bgbgbb
21-07-2009, 10:45
My personal thought is that if you so desperatly want to sleep with someone other then your partner then separate.
I could never betray my DPs trust like that and ruin what we have created together.

:iagree:

Besides, I have no energy left looking after our 4 children to even have nookie with him, let alone a complete stranger!
JabberJaw
21-07-2009, 10:54
I split about 5 months ago with my hubby and re met an old friend, he come and stayed for the weekend but in the end i couldn't go through with anything because i had a feeling i was going to sort stuff out with my hubby.

Roll on a few weeks, and hubby and myself have began the long hard road of reconciliation....so yes, i thought about it, but no i never went through with it and i also have told hubby the story which he understood and was pleased that nothing happened.

When i am with someone in a relationship, i would never consider cheating, i spent my teenage years (and still now into adulthood) covering up for my cheating father, so my mum would not get hurt. They have split now but those secrets with go with me to the grave, if my mum found out, it would take her over the edge, and she has enough problems as it is.

True relationships are built on trust. The ones built on trusts are the ones that last the long haul and general ups and downs of relationships, i believe. So considering cheating is not a good sign of a healthy relationship, it generally means something is very very wrong. Well in my case anyhow, and seems to be true with others i have known also.
MumNeedsCoffee
21-07-2009, 17:17
I wouldn't say I have but I have a good idea of what it feels like to be the cheating party.

I kicked my boyfriend of 2 years out of an apartment I was paying for. He said he gave his keys back to the real estate but I kept coming home and finding him back there and I had to keep kicking him out.

I started seeing someone new a month later but whenever the ex showed up again I didn't mention I was seeing someone new.
He went through my phone and checked all my calls and messages, checked the history on my computer and had his friends spy on me.
It got very messy and caused alot of grief.

I don't know how people have the energy to carry on a affair.
ciehann
21-07-2009, 17:38
i cheated on my ExDP WITH my husband! we have been married almost 2 years now and have a 13mth old DD.
shelle65
21-07-2009, 18:15
She said it is normal to think about cheating. Is it?

I think it may be common to occasionally be attracted to other people and briefly think hmm, I wonder what it would be like to be with that particular person...

But I don't think, in a healthy relationship, it's normal to specifically think about cheating on your partner :no:
kimba80
21-07-2009, 20:00
In anger, feeling decidedly unattactive and unloved (after catching DH looking at porn yet again!) .... I have told DH that I wish i wasn't pregnant, so I could go and find someone to cheat on him! :eek: :eek: :eek:

In truth tho, I could never cheat on DH and I have never even thought about it. I think my above comment was based on wanting to hurt him as much as he was hurting me.

Am I bad? ha ha ha
Pax
21-07-2009, 20:23
In anger, feeling decidedly unattactive and unloved (after catching DH looking at porn yet again!) .... I have told DH that I wish i wasn't pregnant, so I could go and find someone to cheat on him! :eek: :eek: :eek:

In truth tho, I could never cheat on DH and I have never even thought about it. I think my above comment was based on wanting to hurt him as much as he was hurting me.

Am I bad? ha ha ha
:no: not at all.