Heading for a breakdown

[MothersMilk]

I just can't deal with this sleep deprivation anymore. My DD is one and still wakes repeatedly during the night. She is difficult to settle and i doubt she will EVER sleep through the night :geek:
I am sick all the time - i believe the lack of sick has caused this. I don't remember what it feels like not to have a headache or a stomach ache.
I cry all the time :crying:
I jut need some sleep........
What the hell can i do??????????????

[Loopy Linda]

try a nice warm bath for you both and then try snuggling in bed together. i promise one day she will sleep the whole night and you will wake in morning, be amazed that you had a fill sleep, then race to check she is ok!

[amymay]

i feel for you. when ds 1 was 7 months old i sounded like you, read a great book save our sleep and it saved my life. followed the routine and taught him to self settle. ds 2 is 14 weeks and i have followed this since 8 weeks with in reason and he is pretty good baby, naps during day but starting to sleep longer. he is changing. our nights have been pretty good since birth.

[ladybugblue84]

My DD sounds a little similar to your DD. Have you got anyone whom you can leave her with for one night so you can get a good nights sleep & regroup a bit? Can you partner volunteer to watch her for the night? When I leave DD with her father it gives me the chance to just sleep sleep sleep & I feel like I can face anything after that.

Good Luck & I am sure she will sleep through eventually just like I hope my DD does one day :fingerscrossed:

[delirium]

:hugs: I've been there too. Having a child that didn't sleep thru until 18 months, all I can say is I feel for you. Chronic sleep deprivation can change your whole life, emotionally and physically.

Have you considered a sleep school? For the longest time I didn't want to go there bc of how I thought they CCed the kids. Out of sheer desperation I got a referral from a MCHN (you can get them from a GP too) to one of the sleep clinics. When I rang for the assessment, I asked them about their methods and whether they used ccing. They said they did sometimes, but that they would work with what the parents were comfortable with.

The only issue was that the waiting list was 3 months long and by the time his place came up he was sleeping thru :rolleyes: It's a thought anyway.

[MountainGirl]

:hugs:I know exactly how you feel,.. my 12month old was waking every 45minutes all night until his 1st birthday (3 weeks ago),.. At my wits end, I called in Jo Ryan from Babybliss,... and she made a visit and fixed him! He now sleeps from 6:3opm till 6:30am,..sometimes waking once or twice,.but only needing a back pat to resettle,..

look into babybliss.com.au

:)

[Teley]

I can understand where you are coming from, DS didn't sleep through the night properly until 2!

May I just say that your sleep deprivation is probably causing your thoughts to go a little out of wack and make you think that your DD won't ever sleep through the night. She will!

All it takes is one good night's sleep before you're ready to take up the horses again.

If you have a DH or family around, maybe ask them to look after her one night so you can get back on track?

[Amelia06]

i honestly understand what your going through.

My DS whom is now 23months has been doing this since he was 16 months and it still hasnt ended.

I also have a DD who is 3 1/2yr and she sleeps through and a DS who is 5 months and is sleeping but my 23 month just wakes EVERYNIGHT between 12-2am and is wide awake and it can take me up to 3 hours to get him to bed.

Im still trying to get him to sleep by walking him back to his bed and going back to my bed, it just never ends, i wish there is something that can help.

I even tried giving him Phenergan (if thats you spell it) hahahah and that didnt even work which shocked me and the doctors.

So im stuck to love and i wish i can help you.

[quaver]

:hugs: i am sorry you are feeling miserable. You are not alone in the sleep dept department. i am going through a similar thing. what has helped me is actually asking for help. having some time away for even a couple of hours, to sleep, have a bath etc can work wonders.

[MothersMilk]

Thank you everyone for replying :hugs::hugs:
I was feeling very miserable last night and at the end of my rope.
DH got up and took over when he heard me crying - i have been telling him all week that i need time alone and a break but he wasn't listening - now he is listening.
DD is going to have a sleep over at her grandparents while i refresh with some proper sleep and can face this clear headed.
Thanks for all the suggestions i will be looking into them :)

[Issey]

thats good that you can have a night off.

how old is your bub?

I got to that point too when my DS was 10months old and I had to work full-time. I thought I would fall asleep driving and crash.

In the end I had to do control crying, although painful for me after 3 nights I got DS to sleep through the night and it was worth it as I was at breaking point.

[Mrs Nietzsche]

Mothermilk, sometimes I feel at the end of my tether but just one good night's sleep (or even 4 hours in a row) turns everything around. If you can get someone to give you a break for a night as you were saying, it might make all the difference to your state of mind.

DS slept 8 hours in a row last night (he is 1 in 2 weeks and this was his first time sleeping tha tlong in months... getting over the flu making him tired I guess) and I slept about 7.... I feel ready to take on the world today, it is just incredible the difference it makes

[Pax]

I have in the past due to utter and complete exhaustion and/or sickness had a lock on my bedroom door the toddler cant reach.

I will lock them in my room with me, after ensuring my room is completely safe,

make sure:
cant pull tv down on themselves
power points protected
curtains safe ie no strings to hang themselves on
no 'product' that is lying around that is unsafe

then i fill the room with toys and put videos on and sleep!

[~Temet Nosce~]

I think when you have gotten to that point, and given her age, it might be time to try something like controlled crying :yes: if you feel you can.

It will be well worth it in the end.

[UmmInayah]

I just can't deal with this sleep deprivation anymore. My DD is one and still wakes repeatedly during the night. She is difficult to settle and i doubt she will EVER sleep through the night :geek:
I am sick all the time - i believe the lack of sick has caused this. I don't remember what it feels like not to have a headache or a stomach ache.
I cry all the time :crying:
I jut need some sleep........
What the hell can i do??????????????

You know what? I have a 2 year old who is still the same. PLEASE get some help NOW before it gets worse. People will tell you that it will get better, it's just a phase etc.. but what if it isn't? What if bub never sleeps through?

Go and see your GP. Talk to them about how you are feeling, how it is bringing you down. Please don't let it get to the point where it affects the relationship with your DH etc.

They may refer you to a paed or a sleep school.. Or they may disregard you altogether, but you need to get it sorted.

:hugs: I am so sorry this sounds harsh, but you sound like how I was a year ago, and I tell you another year of not sleeping well will thoroughly drive you bonkers!!