CC is working... or is it??

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My daughter is 13 months old.

She has always slept with me.

I started CC to have her sleep in her cot at her day time nap.

I found if I go in to her to sooth etc she gets HYSTERICAL and angry so its better if I read a book, kiss her and leave the room and just leave her to it.

The first day,

Day 1 - 1 hour of hysterics she was asleep
Day 2 - 15 min she was asleep!
Day 3 - I learnt not to go in there as I did that day and made it worse so it took 30 min
Today, day 4 - It took 20 Min.

Now each time she just stands up in her cot crying and so on, sometimes falling asleep crying standing up.. then just collapses an falls asleep iykwim lol

Am I going in the right direction? Will there ever come a point that I can put her in her cot and she will just know to lay down to go to sleep and not scream the place down? How long does that take?

Im worried I will make her afraid of her cot.. so far she is happy to go in it, she happily lays down, while I read her a quick book, kiss her nigh nigh (this is day naps) and then I leave the room. The hysterics start when I shut the door..

Is there anything I can do to prevent a cot fear happening?

Just any advise or experience would be appreciated.

[2girls&1boy]

I just wanted to let you know that I am in the same boat and here are some :hugs:.

My girls used to get put in the cot and they would just lie there happily until they went to sleep. My son cries every time he is put down. These days it is only for a maximum of 3-5minutes but it is without fail.

I think you are going in the right direction, I know my little guy really hates not being with me so maybe that is the problem with your little girl too??

I hope it improves for you.

[MUMSIEOF2]

hi I started this about 14mnths and it does take awhile, its good you are starting with day naps, my dd co slept until 10mnths then she would sleep in her cot only if a patted her back after mnths of this I was at breaking point, i was also pregnant and had morn sickness, she soon got the msg that it was sleep time and eventually took to a teddy blanket that she takes to bed now, maybe u could give her a familiar teddy?? it is very hard and i sympathise and i wouldn't try cc under 13 mnths personally but persistance pays off, my dd now goes down on her own with her teddy blanket, she is now 21 mnths and with new baby due next mnth im so glad i persisted. hang in there you are on the right track. i found my dd was better if I did go back in after 10mins to reassure her, but I know some ch'n can get worse, but you will find out what works for you :)

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How long did he cry for at the start? how long did it take you to get to the 5 min mark?

Charlotte, she sleeps with me at night but I dont even touch her and she sends herself to sleep, and with day time naps, prior to this, I had to lay beside her or she wouldnt go off. She would go off wihtout any touch or sound from me, she just had to know I was .. there.. you know? So I know she can send herself off.. its just me there she wants..

So I kinda think Ive given her a head start by teaching her to self settle, albeit if im by her side...

Its so hard to know what to do.. I dont want to make her insecure or give her a sleeping alone phobia..

My plan was to get her to settle relatively easy - like 5 min cries - for her day time naps and when the weather warms up Ill put her in her cot at night too.. its just too cold at the moment

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If I went back in after 10, she;d scream harder and make herself throw up so I think its best if I dont go back in

She isnt attached to any toys really.. she has a horsey I bought the other day she loves.. but isnt that attached.. she takes it to bed .. I dont know how to make her wanna take it to bed etc... how did you do that?

[Tam-I-Am]

Just a heads up - you've got this in the 'pro controlled crying' section, so people CAN'T (ie are not allowed) to comment in any but a pro-CC way. You might get a broader cross-section of opinions and suggestions if you ask in a more general section :)

[MUMSIEOF2]

she had the teddy from a newborn and was never that interested and one day she just took to it and started sucking the silk bit and then has just always asked for her teddyat bedtime it just happened i suppose you could just leave horse in cot and see what happens.

[2girls&1boy]

It has probably taken about 2 months, at first it was about 20 minutes each time.

DS gets worse if I go back in too. As hard as it is though I think we are getting there.

Night time he usually goes down without a fuss as he is really sleepy & dozey from his feed.

I didn't have him sleep with me at any stage so I couldn't say how the night time will go for you. The days will get better quicker. I just wish he didn't have to cry at all.

[Jeclipse]

Have you seen any episodes from Supernanny?
I got so many great tips from an episode with sleeping, and what I did with my DS was...

I put him in bed.. then I sat on a chair beside him.. not talking to him, and he would cry, whinge.... get hysterical at first..

And I would put him back in bed, tuck him in.. not saying anything.. until he would just fall asleep..

And I would still stay in the room for comfort until he fell asleep....


This will go on for about a week and abit
And you have to be persistent, otherwise it doesnt work


Good luck with whatever you decide to do hun
But I can relate and sympathize with you, as I know how hard it is :hugs:

[stg]

Yeah I was tossing up whether to just camp out in the room or not.. maybe tomorrow ill try that? I dont know

[Jeclipse]

Yeah I was tossing up whether to just camp out in the room or not.. maybe tomorrow ill try that? I dont know

I would give it a shot
I tried SOOO many different things, and thats the one thing that worked!

Now hes in his own cot, and I put him in bed, say goodnight.. and thats that!! :yelclap:

[2girls&1boy]

I would give it a shot
I tried SOOO many different things, and thats the one thing that worked!

Now hes in his own cot, and I put him in bed, say goodnight.. and thats that!! :yelclap:


Jeclipse - Heath is a little cutie pie :yes:

[Jeclipse]

Jeclipse - Heath is a little cutie pie :yes:

aw thank you:hugs:.. I think so too :bee:

[BabelFish]

I won't say anything about the CC because, well, if you can't say anything nice....

As for the teddy bear thing - my DD has only just now `taken' to a teddy bear, and I don't really know how it happened. We offered her various ones since she was born and she never noticed them, but then she just kind of fell in love with one in particular, and that happened when she was sick recently. She adores it now. Occasionally I let her sleep with it but she doesn't really need it.

I think it's one of those things that all of a sudden just `clicks' - but I don't know why!

And as for crying when you put them down, even if it's just for a few minutes, I used to always wonder if DD would ever go to sleep without crying. She only ever cried for about ten or fifteen seconds, but it was EVERY time. She just grew out of it - I think they all do. But it just takes longer for some than for others.

Good luck to the OP - it must be so tough. But I just wanted to say that if your daughter is in hysterics even 15 minutes is going to seem like an eternity to her - and 30 minutes to an hour, well ... honestly, I would be trying something else. If you've ever cried on your own for even five minutes you'd know how long it feels like. For a 13-month-old it must be terrible.

[lupa]

you're right, if you can't say anything "pro-controlled crying", don't say anything at all!

I'm sure choosing CC means you've done a bit of research and obviously you know they don't cry because they are happy! You want to teach your child to self-settle so it's time to crack to it with no nonsense! :laughing: No it's not the easiest thing to do, but I actually think that secretly other people who can't do it themselves admire that you can.

I would say to start CC with the night sleeps first, the day sleep s are harder to get right.