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Candi apple
10-07-2009, 13:34
Hey ladies just wondering whose babies are in routines?
What is your routine?
Did u get them into their routine or did u let them eventually work themselves into a routine?
When did u start and how long did it take?
I havent tried to get Jade into a routine, i demand feed and then just try to follow tired signs but this doesnt always work and as she is almost 9 weeks im wondering if maybe i should think about starting to organize some sort of routine to make things a little more predictable?
Also how long are your babies sleeping at night?
We have had a few 8 hour nights usually depends on the day we have but its still more like 3-4 hour blocks
Thanks
Candice
2pink 1on way
10-07-2009, 14:07
My bub is 4 weeks and i put him in a routine from about 1 week and its working great for us, he and i know whats going to happen and when.
my routine is:
7am wake and feed get dressed for the day and stay awake until tired signs maybe 1 hr or 1 1/2 hrs then wrap and bed
10 am wake him up feed again then have some awake time maybe an hour again the wrap and bed.
1pm wake him feed an hour wake time then wrap and bed.
4pm wake feed then leave him in his bouncer some days he naps and other time he stays awake happy watching what goes on in the house.
6 pm bath
6.30 feed
7 pm bed
10pm feed but dont wake him properly
he will wake on his own around 3am for a feed then straight back to bed.
I will change his routine at 8 weeks to 4 hrly feeds so the times will be
7am
11am
3pm
7pm
10.30pm
and night feed
I am breastfeeding and do express at the moment twice a day so compenstate for the growth spurt so i am producing enough milk.
This routine has worked for my other 2 kids really well and they started to sleep through the night at around 9 and 12 weeks :fingerscrossed: little Will likes this routine as well and will sleep though the night within the next month or so.
I can also change the routines a little if i am doing somthing but i really try to stick to it cause if i dont we end up having a bad night or afternoon.
Hi there I tried the same routine as 2pink for he last week with my three and a half week old and we got stuck because you're supposed to feed for 40 mins at a time but all we manage is 20 mins then she passes out! She's gaining loads of weight so its not a problem as such.
So in answer to your question no we're not in a routine despite trying to start one. If you think you'd benefit from one try Tizzie Hall's Save our sleep book maybe?
Sheer Bliss
10-07-2009, 15:47
Nope. Both my older children developed their own routine between 3-6months, so ATM we are demand feeding (where possible, sometimes I wake one baby when the other wakes, other times I let them sleep as they need to, depends on how much help I have on hand JIC one baby wakes while the other is feeding).
It's probably a bit easier for me to go with the flow as I don't have older children that have to be somewhere at a certain time. DS1 & DS2 go to daycare, but i drop them off around bubbas feed times, and our regular play group starts anywhere from 10am and we usually stay until around 2pm, so we can be late to that, or early!
my routine if you can call it that, is feed every 3 hours, i let her wake in the morning and go from there, like this morn was 430am, then 930. if she wakes earlier than 3 hours and wants a feed, i feed her. i just don't let her go over 3 hours, i did once as i was told to by the health nurse,,,, so i let her wake for feeds, she woke every 3 hours at night!!
kobi'smama
10-07-2009, 16:46
If you think you'd benefit from one try Tizzie Hall's Save our sleep book maybe?
We started Tizzie Halls routine from about 2 weeks of age and its worked great for us (she also does controled crying but you dont need to follow that if you dont want to).
DS is now 11 weeks and last night slept from 7pm till 5.30am has a quick feed and change bum and back to bed till 7am.
Once you follow the routine for a few weeks you will be able to alter it if you go out. e.g baby sleeps in pram or car if your out and about.
A routine makes it so much easier to plan your days i think - you know when you will be feeding etc.
PM me if you would like any more info on how we work it.
Good luck.
kobismama- i have that book but what do u do if bubs wakes early? and falls asleep early?
also she doesnt feed for 25mins on each side, 10 to 15 sometimes 30
I'm now starting to impliment a routine for DD. I've always followed her lead as to when to feed & when she's tired.
Ill start one similiar to Tizzie Halls except minus the CC part at 8 weeks if DS hasn't settled into his own routine by then. :wave:
Our routine if you could call it that is pretty loose but works for us and goes like this.
Wake up and start the day, mostly around 7 or 8, feed then up for about an hour or two.
We are usually off out for the morning so DS will sleep in car/pram/sling until we come home around lunch time. He will have one bigger sleep then and one small nap at around 5.30ish.
Bedtime is always the same and is
6.30 bath time with his sister
7pm Feed
7.30 both in bed usually
He will usually wake once for a feed anywhere from 1am to 6.30 and then back to sleep with mum :D
ETA I had to adapt sleep times etc during the day to coincide with DD's midday nap so I can get stuff done.
angelsofmine
12-07-2009, 15:07
our routinue is to fit in with our lives.....Nate is 12wks this Tues and has followed this apart from sleeping through the night since 6 weeks
615am awake and bf
700 sleep till 830 school run.
1000 bf
1100 sleep till 100pm
200 bf and 245 school run
all breastfeeds to prepare for night (demand)
400 bf
600 bf
800 bf + bath as its quiet( no kids awake), massage, and chat...
1100-1130 night dream feed (when i go 2 bed)
he then sleeps till 600 am
:laughing::crying::laughing::crying: nope not here...I can't even get dd to sleep in her bed during the day.
She was awake from 12 to 4pm today no matter what me or dh did...she wasn't cranky though just awake.
DD has not read the should book at all....
We don't have a routine during the day. Kian generally feeds every 3 hours but sometimes he sleeps for ages and it's 4 or 5 hours. Whatever he wants. We tend to go out most days and he happily sleeps in his capsule while we are.
At night my hubby wakes him for a feed at 11.30/12pm and he sleeps through till 6.30/7 am then.
Usually he's happy to be awake and play for a bit before a feed and then he falls asleep pretty quickly.
I'm really happy with the way he is and how he sleeps, so I'm happy to stick to what he wants. He goes wherever I go and is generally happy to sleep or feed wherever.
Whatever I said about routines in my last post disregard, Zane has a new one its sleep ok at night and back to catnapping (if I am lucky) during the day and settling....not happnin. I so hope this is a growth spurt :fingerscrossed:
I remember this with DD though, we would get into some sort of pattern (as terrible a sleeper she was morning and night) and then it would change as soon as I spoke of it out loud!
The sooper nanny
13-07-2009, 08:10
Katelyn has sort of slotted into her own routine, although sometimes I do wake her during the day coz she tends to sleep better in the afternoon which would be better at night
she normally wakes at 7 short feed
10am big feed and I sometimes top her up with ebm, especially if going out
12 short feed
1600 feed
6-8pm feed
10pm expressed milk by DH
awake between 3-4
start day again!!
Sometimes she snacks and other times she misses a feed but i normally top her up at night, my supply drops off in the evening.
kobi'smama
13-07-2009, 08:15
kobismama- i have that book but what do u do if bubs wakes early? and falls asleep early?
also she doesnt feed for 25mins on each side, 10 to 15 sometimes 30
Lozie - If DS wakes about half an hour earlier then the routine I pull him up and just play or hang out in his bouncer till the feed time.
He always falls asleep early! - Mostly i look out for his tired signs, once he is yawning or grizzly i put him to bed because he sleeps better if i catch it before he is getting the sh*ts.
In the mornings he goes back to bed up to 40mins before the scheduled sleep time so I just know then he will prob wake up that much ealier. I dont try to keep him up because he ends up being over tired and p**sed off.
In the arvo's he will cat nap in his bouncer before bed times which is fine as long as they arnt in their bed.
DS is only ever in his bed for sleeps - proper sleeps not short naps. So he knows now once he is wrapped and put in their its for a reason.
It is def perserverence but i think we are both better for it - he is sleeping from 7pm till between 3.30 and 5.30am then has a feed and back to bed till 7.
Slightly off topic -
I know a lot of people dont agree with routines which is fine - different things work best for different bubs. But It is really peeving me off that some people voice their concerns about bubs on routines being starving and should be able to eat and sleep when they like etc. I had a family member do that to me yesterday when i went to wake DS up for a feed at a family gathering. AS long as your baby is putting on weight - DS is over 6kg at 11 weeks and is in the 90th percentile and is happy then do what you want just dont push your oppinions onto others. Especially if it makes the other mother feel stupid and embarressed as i felt yesterday.
In front of others i had to try and justify why I raise my child like i do - which i felt like i did have to justify as i am younger and they are older and 'more experienced' until i realised hey f**k you he is my Son and ill do what I like.
Sorry for the rant but it was my first "mummy issue" and it has left me really cranky :banghead:
Oh dear kobi'smama, it appears that from the moment you get pregnant other people thjink it's ok to make random comments and tell you how to do things.
So long as bubs is happy and healthy it's none of their business. Good for you! You don't need to justify your way to anyone!
I am so jealous of all you mammas who have your bubbas on the save our sleep routines. I tried to do them with my first DS (now 2) but no matter how much I stuck to it, then tinkered with it, I couldn't get him past his catnapping stage, until he went down to one sleep a day after 13 months.
I promised myself I wouldn't stress myself out by trying it this time, and it would be harder anyway, with DS1's schedule to fit in the mix as well, but good on you for all those who find it's working for them!
Good on you Kobi'sMum!
I felt very similar when I had DD and had so much trouble with her sleeping habits (or lack thereof) that everyone had their ideas on how to fix it. In the process it just made me feel like I was a crap parent. On the up side once I got my confidence in what I was doing I feel it has made me a better, stronger human being and therefore parent. Good on you for getting it earlier than I did :thumbsup:
No routines here. We are a non routine kind of family. I find it easier and less stressful for ME and the kids if we don't follow a strict routine. I'm sure it works a treat for others though;)
My DD made her own routine from day one. 4 hourly feeds. I loved that. Now she goes 3 hours between feeds during the day, and has a 10 hour sleep at night from about 10pm until 8am. We all get up at 8am and she starts her feed schedule again. Suits us well as DS Goes to bed at 7.30pm and wakes at 8am so we all get a good nights sleep.
Meh routines no routines... I'm all for whatever works!
I had no routines with my older 2 & thought my friends that followed routine were crazy :laughing:
With my 2nd 2 I've had to have a routine as we have school drop off/pick up, playgroup, mothers group, gymbaroo, netball, swimming & footy, so I need to know when things are going to happen.
Cruz is 7 weeks, but was 7 weeks early so is now term. He feeds at 6am, 10am, 2pm, 6pm, 10pm & 2am & pretty much sticks to these times (he's FF) I needed him to feed at times that don't co incide with the drive to & from school.
He then gets put in his woombie & put in his basinett awake & goes off to sleep himself. I did this with Chais, & he was a much better sleeper than my 1st 2 who got rocked & held to sleep. I wasn't making that mistake again! (no offense intended to anyone who does that, but it's a very hard habit to break, & didn't want to go through it again)
When I was pregnant with Chais I read The Baby Whisperer books & found her E.A.S.Y routine wonderful, so that's what I follow.
Sheer Bliss
14-07-2009, 06:11
:hugs:Kobi'smama - I have never been big on routines myself, but have good friends who have used a routine from birth with their bubbas and their bubbies haver certainly NOT been starving. I can't believe someone would say that to you, it's so harsh. The age of a mother has NOTHING to do with it IMO too. I do think that as youhave more children you gain more experience as to what works for you, but as with everything, just because it's your first time, doesn't mean what your doing isn't right!
On that front - OMG I am EXHAUSTED!! DS2 is still not 100% (dunno if it's reflux issues, stuffed up nose or his hernia) and is not sleeping well, so I have been demand feeding both bubbas - meant I was up for almost 3hrs straight the other night between the 2 of them. I am thinking that once he has had his hernia operation, we will head towards a routine, as I suspect that If i leave them both to find their own routines, they will be vastly different. DD2 sleeps lots and DS2 feeds lots :laughing:
Kobismama- i hope the questions i asked you werent taken the wrong way! i want to start a routine and i have looked at the save our sleep book, but i just get worried if she wakes ealry what ill do! stupid i know, in saying that im gettin much better if she wakes before her 3 hours, if its only 30mins ill make her wait until the 3 hours of until she gets upset.
Also what do you do in the evenings, cassie was cluster feeding before i started to express, like wanted to be on boob for hours!
Cassie now weighs over 5 kgs, and is sleeping through the night,,, the last 3 nights we had.... 8.30pm til 7am, 10pm til 8.30am (i woke her) and 7.10pm til 7.40am. i have been expressing around 5.30am or 6am so i feel more comfortable. when i went in there this morn she was awake but just laying there, as soon as i walked in she smiled at me! :D
kobi'smama
14-07-2009, 08:19
:) No lozzie not at all!
Thats so great that she is sleeping through the night all by herself. We had a funny one last night after bed at 7pm he woke at 2.15am to feed then slept till 7am. Hopefully he goes back to waking between 4 and 5am.
After a few days of bub being a bit wierded out by when to feed etc i found DS got use to it.
At night I would let him feed for how long he wanted but didnt go over about 20mins per boob. I was told they get so tired and just end up sucking for comfort if they are on longer then this?? Now he knows its business once the boobie comes out and we finish a feed in about 15 mins. Sometimes wants both breasts but mainly just one. I pull him off when he is just playing around on there and not sucking - burp a few times in between.
We are now having trouble with day time sleeps, he goes down fine but is just waking up every half hour or so, about an hour before he is due up he will start screaming and not stop. Ill end up having to pull him out. Is getting so frustrating - i feel as if we have gone a few steps back.
See routine or no routine these babies are so unpredictable!!!
Thanks for all your kind words on my rant too :hugs:
Candi apple
14-07-2009, 13:15
Ive bought the tizzie hall book, but have found that dd has made her own little routine feeds every 3 hrs of a day and has 2 big sleeps of a day then has a big night sleep of about 8 hrs - which is great!
But she only seems to follow this when we are home, when we go out for the day i cant seem to be able to get her to have a decent sleep, she just catnaps and therefore is very cranky and unsettled by the afternoon.
Does anyone else have this problem? how do you deal with it? (i cant just stay home 24/7 ill go crazy! :hair:)
Thanks in advance
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