how often do you think

[workin'mumof2]

a 15month old should last between feeds.?

how often did you feed your 15month old.

did you have to put in a schedule?

did you demand feed(if so how many feeds a day/night)

im thinking i may have to cut ruby back if i want to get over this flu. im finding it very draining. but i dont want to wean :no:

she is still a very erratic feeder. she feeds.(yes im serious) every 1.5-2hours. rarely will she last 2 hours unless were out.

i try nappy change. i try water, i try toys, i try lying on the ground with the chest to the floor.

but the thing is. if she wants it. she gets it or she looses it:o

if i was well i wouldnt be posting. because i normally can handle it. but im sick. ive been sick for 16days now. and would like to stretch her out. but honestly dont know what else to try.

also i have posted this on the aba too.

[bada]

Do you offer her food instead? (I don't mean to sound condescending, it's just that you didn't mention it in your list of tried things)

My nearly 14 month old is breastfed on demand (aside from her nighttime feed of cow's milk) I guess she has anywhere between 0-5 feeds a day. If we are really busy she tends to forget about it altogether. If we're at home sick like you and she is bored it might be every 3 hours or so.

Good luck and hope you're feeling better soon.

[traseal]

DS is the same (a bit younger though) but when im not around he doesnt have near as much (i mean NOTHING compared to when im around) Maybe you DH can take her out for a few hours..to the park, shopping, just somewhere. If she gets wild well he can take her home to you, but maybe worth a try?
I know DS just has it alot cause its there (obviously or else he would eat a WHOLE lot more when im at work haha)

[workin'mumof2]

:o

bada-bing bada-boom - lol no dont worry. yes i do try food. i try her favorite veggies. broccoli :),i try bickies, i try rusks, i try meat, fruit. anything to get her mind of the boobies. food will distract her but then after she finishes she wants it. it could be just after breaky or lunch or dinner. straight away she wants boob:confused:

[Bubmum]

Ruby is just like my DD..and finds comfort, play and joy at the breast.
If you are sick, you need to rest up, and get more iron and calcium into you to get over it (this is all advice that was being rammed down my throat last week when I had bronchitis). I have fed DD when she was younger while I was sitting on the toilet vomiting out both ends (TMI, sorry:laughing:), and last night I was feeding her while I had a migraine.
They don't really notice when Mummy is sick do they? I would let her have a little feed, and then take her off. This is what I do with DD sometimes, when I have had enough, and sometimes it works to lessen the intensity of her interest.
:hugs:. Bfing is damn hard work, and we can't pick and choose when we want to do it. Rain, hail or shine, our children want us, and it is hard, hard hard sometimes.

[Mrs Nietzsche]

Startnig food is largely a behavioural thing. I think you are probably at the stage where you need to take a proactive approach - like really praising her for eating solids, clapping hands, etc. I have read a study that showed that children who relied on breastmilk too long past a certain age did not get enough protein. But mainly I think this is a developmental thing where children need to be eating a range of foods so they don't get set up to be a fussy eater throughout childhood. Do you all eat at the table together?

I guess personally I wouldn't be worried so much about how much she feeds - it's more that she isn't eating solids... I know there is a sort of window of opportunity that you really need to get solids started or it can lead to feeding problems down the track. My DS is 11 mths and still feeds often - unless we are out or his Dad takes him for a few hours - and he eats loads of solids.

Anyway what I'm saying is maybe start really encouraging her to eat food, make it a social thing, clap hands, etc.

[workin'mumof2]

Maire - she is well and truly on solids. she is 15months. she loves fruit and veg. but no matter how much or how often i feed her solids. she will always want a bf after. even if i offer water during the meal.

but it seams that there are other people with older children that feed often on the aba. so im not alone :o

[Mrs Nietzsche]

Well it's up to you to decide whether yuo want things to change then.

It sounds as though she is feeding for comfort. In which case, if you wanted to cut it down, I guess you would do the same thing - ie positive reinforcement when she chooses a different option besides breastfeeding. So ie distracting her and then applauding her in an over-the-top way, etc.

It's up to you to decide whether her wanting to feed so often for comfort is possibly restricting her development in other areas (play, interaction, solids, whatever) or whether it's not a big deal at all.

[workin'mumof2]

Maire - i dont think it is hurting or stoping her development at all. because ive stoped worrying about her development because of her speech and understanding in the last month.

its just with this flu that i feel im not coping. i guess im just venting and keep saying to myself i am nearly over it. (except i dont know if i am lol)

thank you to everyone.

i have heaps of sinus pain and a small headache so who knows. maybe after that ends i will be well again.. coz that sounds nice. (day 17:dizzy:)