Tannies at 15 months?

[pipilongstocking]

Hey there.My 15 month old has started throwing major tannies of late.He has ben doing it for a month or so now,where he throws himself down on the ground and then backwards or bangs his head against something,and it is a mission impossible to change his nappy!:mad:
Are they ment to be doing this at this age? Different websites and books have differing opinions on this.I tell him i'm not listening etc,and don't give in and eventually he stops it but has taken to kicking me if he doesn't want his nappy changed.Normal?????
How do you overcome these things,it upsets me to see him like that.I didn't think they went too hard on the tannioes till the terrible two's!!!:o
Any advice?

[Mum&bubs]

ahhh my DD is the same age & sounds like she is EXACTLY the same!!! Its world war 3 trying to change her nappy or clothes. I find to just put her in her cot & walk out of the room for 5 minutes when she is throwing a tannie usually works, yes she will scream for you but you have to let them know who is boss :yes: my DD seems to think she is!

[pipilongstocking]

:yes: Thanks!! I will try that.Maybe i should invest in a stackhat!!!!!:laughing:

[Mum&bubs]

:yes: Thanks!! I will try that.Maybe i should invest in a stackhat!!!!!:laughing:

Haha doesnt like a bad idea ;) I think i need padding all over me to help with all the kicks i recieve! :laughing:

[pipilongstocking]

:o ooh yeah,especially in the boobies!:eek: makes you winder where all that aggro comes from aye.

[Mum&bubs]

Yep i know what u mean :yes: ive got to try & protect myself from her all the time, she gets so worked up!

[Mum2Bug]

its all about frustration and pushing boundaries! bug is 15 months and my mum reckons she just thinks shes 3. ive gotten to the point where i just walk away and ignore it. she soon realises that it is getting her no where and goes off and does something else (like throw those damn balls down the stairs)

[damien's mum]

I tried that im not listening to you.. with my 16mo, who is very rarely ever bad, then i thought about it, and i was still giving him what he wanted, attention. Just speaking to him, he was getting the better of me, little sod!

[Kirst]

My DD is exactly the same....and apparently I was too! Ha! Mum is loving that I have to go through what she did with me! :yelclap:

As a kid, I could never understand how she could ignore me, but now I do. As long as I know that she is safe and can't hurt herself further, I walk away. I have learned to predict them, and gently guide her head to the floor (so she doen't bang it) and then I walk away.

We don't have carpet, and she has given herself a blood nose before, but she quickly learnt not to do that again.

Kids aren't stupid. If you fuss after them and give them what they want, they'll continue the behaviour.

As far as kicking is concerned, tell her 'NO!', I get down on her level and I make her look at me, tell her in a stern voice that you 'DO NOT kick mummy - understand?' Then we go and do a puzzle or something. If she throws a tantrum, I leave her to throw it.

She soon stops when she realises it's not working.

[Mum&bubs]

Yep my mum says i was the same too. Her solution though was to chuck me in the freezing cold shower :rolleyes:

[pipilongstocking]

yeh,i've learnt to walk away-gotta realise when it's gonna start and make sure his head is safely on the floor first! He's a complete angel otherwise!
He throws tannies over the strangest things like he can't be in a room without the door being closed,or the ball he's playing with won't roll itself back to him!! :laughing:

[Kirst]

How about that I'm sitting in a chair with my legs crossed! How dare I cross my legs. She comes over and uncrosses them, and if i recross them.....away she goes!

Or leaving a kitchen cupboard ajar???????

You name it, there's a tantrum involved. But they are getting less and less, and shorter in duration. I definiely think it's normal.

[pipilongstocking]

:laughing: oh no,that's funny! Can't leave any door ajar-either he has to shut them-or he's into them!!!!!!! And repeatedly gets in trouble.They love to push it!! He's funny stopping one thing and starting another!!!God bless them.Heaven forbid you actually go to the toilet-ds MUST close the lid whether you have to go or not!(well at least thet's stopped him putting his hands down there in the bowl!:laughing: