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tinytotsmum

04-07-2009, 21:35

hey ladies i not posting a huge amount tonight but just thought i would pop in and say WELCOME to the newbies hope to get to know you all soon.

tommo if em spews on me i normally just continue out the door im over it adn dont really care anymore and if anyone says anything while im out i just say yeah i know i just couldnt be arsed changing for the 10th time today, do you want to do my washing???? lol.

well all i have to say is ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh:(:sleeping::crying::crying::cr ying: emily is definatly teething and i am going insane she sleeps 12 hours solid at night which i not complaining about but it take me 3 hours to fall asleep lately and by then dh is snoring so it takes even longer and doesnt take much for me to wake and em is just non stop if i leave her line of sight she just screams and screams till i am back adn seh doesnt want dh for very long and i cant keep giving her panadol i have tried the bongella adn another brand both dont help a huge amount other than make her drool 4 times as much and i have a homopathic teething remedy which i am trying not sure if it does much but yeah and panadol and nurafin adn it has the anti inflammatory but i am going crazy an di am soooo tired by lunch. but if i want her to sleep during the day i have to stay next to her bed and if i move she wakes instantly so i have read winnie the pooh and the little mermaid about 10 times each. i am getting a little worried about this saturday coming as i have arranged to have a girls night out and dh is going to look after her and if she is like this i may have to come home early.

by the way the girl night is in perth so any perth mums that i havent sent an invite to on face book is more than likely cos i havent found you yet lol but if you are in perth wa it will be on the 11th july at 6pm at the breakwater at hillaries it all flash now so i hope any perth mums can come along.

well it is 8: 30 my menstration is about to start anyday so i sems to have about 40 moodswing an hours poor dh and now with elou god i must seem mentally unstable lol.

well i off to bed cha to you ladies another night:wave:

Just Add Water

04-07-2009, 21:36

I still maintain that there is nothing more disgusting than a baby who sneezes all over you with a mouth full of regurgitated milk. That is a memory to remind him of when he has kids. lol.

Just Add Water

04-07-2009, 22:41

Bayley slept today from about 3.30 till 7.30. Had a bottle (skulled 240 mls when he normally only just finishes 180mls), a change and a play, curled up on me at 8.30, back down in his bed at 9.45 and still asleep.... he never sleeps this much. Poor little man is sick with a cold though and teething so I suspect his body is just getting some energy.

I have packed four boxes. Yay. All books. We have an insane amount of books in this house but I have managed to snag an area of the new house (should be the formal dining room but we've decided we don't need it) to set up a reading area. I am hoping to get some nice shaggy lounges and old bookshelves. The kids will love it!! We always have someone with their nose in a book it seems.

Kids went to their mothers today. The woman is seriously stupid. She was telling DH how she'd gone down the health food isle and gotten a heap of sugar free / preservative free / colour free stuff for Miss 6. She gave the kids bloody pepsi max to drink "because it doesn't have sugar!!". And then her boyfriend sends the boys home with sherbert straws for after dinner after DH had said no because it wasn't fair on Miss 6. The boys agreed that it wasn't fair and put them away. I did tell them that they could have them but I would give her $5 as that would upset them just as much as them having that would upset her. Money always talks, especially with a 9 year old.

I can't wait to set up a room for B at the new house... yay!! Though it will be a few weeks yet as we'll set it up for my sister first.

We bought B a bumbo today, he sat in it, smiled and did a big burp. Classy boy. Seems to enjoy sitting up in it though. He's been trying to pull himself up from lying down for the last 3 weeks now, cheeky bugger.

Prattle, prattle, prattle.

Ok, I need to go to bed. DH is playing poker so no idea when he'll be home, no doubt he'll let me know in the morning what time he rolled in.

Night all (though it seems everyone has already gone to bed :) ).

Happymumma

05-07-2009, 06:29

HI ladies
Happy July time is going soooo quick well im kinda in a weird frame of mind and im not sure why the last couple of days i have been so emotional im struggling a bit and im not sure why everything is going well and im getting sleep and what not but i feel really drained and just want to cry??? Im not sure why i feel like this and its kinda weird cause im generally a happy go with the flow person and i feel all wound up and stressed and emotional there is nothing going on to explain it and i cant explain to DH what it is im just teary?? I was stressed a little about Jacksons eczema but thats all under control and DH has finished up at work so he is home now so i just dont know why im feeling this way??:confused:
Any way just thought i would have a little vent i know it prob sounds weird believe me it sounds weird to even me!!:confused:

kar

05-07-2009, 09:24

i actually think a woman from my mother's group wins - her baby spewed straight into her mouth while she was holding him up talking to him :laughing:

Crystal it is probably that now DH is home for a while you can actually afford to not be feeling 100% fine. It is like when you go on holidays from work and get sick straight away.

Happymumma

05-07-2009, 10:51

mum2zara

05-07-2009, 11:22

Thanx Kar i just feel like im "on" 24/7 and cant "switch off" if you know what i mean i guess its all a build up from the last 4-5 months i just want a break i guess and its hard cause if i go out and just have me time i still stress about bubs i just wanna turn it all off!
Happymumma - you don't have to be happymumma all the time!! There is nothing like having a baby to absolutely throw your emotions into the biggest rollercoaster ride ever...you're prob feeling like this now BECAUSE everything is going ok, and you actually have time...I find that when things are hectic I barely have time to process it and go into autopilot...

Us mums deserve a cry every now and then...geez, some mornings after a bad night I can't even look at DH as he goes to work, however in my head I am screaming 'don't gooooo!!'....ahhhh, what a miserable scene. Happy to say those siutations are happening less and less now, thank God!!

Now there seems to be a new challenge...the in-laws!! Feel like I am being held personally responsible for the fact they don't see Z as much as they may like, however their idea of an outing for her is going out all day to someone's place anad handing her around to be on display for all, meanwhile getting no sleep....aahh, NO!!

These people obviously forget what babies need...and the amount of times I have tried to explain that Z is not a textbook baby (whatever THAT is!!), she has reflux and therefore has different needs than, say, a baby who will sleep anywhere and everywhere...falls on deaf ears - bloody frustrating!! I'm done trying to explain...happy for them to believe what they like really!! Just call me the sleep Nazi : )

Anyway, that's my vent for the day...hope everyone's having a good one, and bubs are all sleeping well : ) xo

LeeJ

05-07-2009, 11:46

crystal
its a hard job this mum business!
what we fai to understand before having a bub, is that you are working 24/7, you never get a break, and when you do, you're too busy worrying about your baby to enjoy it!:rolleyes:
:hugs: i think we all know where you are coming from, try and relax a bit (haha), and understand you are doing a FANTASTIC job with jackson!!!

mum2raza,
haha, my IL's are the same, and J is the same as Z, not a 'textbook' bubba. when you throw reflux in the mix, ha, getting out the door to do the most basic things is a struggle! let alone visiting people...
my family waits for a text from me of when his up, and if they want to come round, they let me know, works great,
dh's parents have 1 mobile b/w them, and no home phone, every time i call to see what they are up to its off:rolleyes: and they wonder why they never get to see him!!! (oh, the lack of phones, is not due to lack of money, they are just frickin weird!) oh, they both work, so they aren't together.
yeah, mil wants me to wake J up, ect, boo you, not gunna happen!
i found myself being resentful towards dh when he would get to go to work too, knowing my day was full of screaming... thank goodness the screaming isnt nearly as much anymore!

Karice

05-07-2009, 12:05

hi girls, i'll try not to sook too much :o It's just a bit hard at the moment with DP away in Grafton, I'm really sick and looking after Cady on my own. God I can't wait to be back home. I'll miss the friends I've made while I've been in brissy but home is where your heart is as they say and my heart is not in brissy.

on the plus side, the house is staying much tidier without DP around and I get to sleep better without him snoring in my ear, but who am I kidding, I'd much rather a messy house and bugger all sleep if it means having my man around. Cady seems a little confused as to where Daddy has gone. I just keep saying that we'll see Daddy soon. He reckons he's not going to drive up to see us next weekend coz he can earn $80 cash in hand with his step dad rather than spending $100 on the trip up and back. It is the sensible thing to do as we need to save for bond pronto, but I don't think he'll be able to stay away from us for that long :rolleyes: well, :fingerscrossed: anyways, we miss him!!!

So, I'm just occupying myself by packing up bits and peices. I need to buy some boxes really but I've only got $120 to last me until next wed so I'm going to go on the scavange hunt for boxes and see if I can get any. Nappy boxes are handy for packing small things like glassware etc... I'll get there eventually.

Be back soon, my dad's on his way over

tinytotsmum

05-07-2009, 12:48

ok i seriously take back about the sleeping 12 hours solid it was the nurafin that was making her do that tried her on the homopedic stuff and she was up 3 times last night so i am still really tired today but dh is making me breakfast and we just walked to the shops so yeah i am knackered now. well anyways i am back to the nurafin as i have just found out it can bring out asthma if it is in the family which it isnt and that it can be carrosive to there belly so to give them food before and after it which i have been doing anyway but she said that it is the best for teething and ear infections etc and it lasts alot longer than most pain relievers which showed with her 12 hour sleep through. well anyway better go have washing to hang out and need to get em out of the pram.

LeeJ

06-07-2009, 08:37

gah, up 6 times last night:sleeping::sleeping:
bit of a regular occurance in this household at the moment...
(and our nights generally start at midnight:cool:)

although last night, got him to bed at 9.30, and self settled. we're loosly following the tizzie hall routine.
we're starting the day at 9, and will work our way back over time. you're supposed to feed them when they get up, regardless of what time they fed last, but j wont have a bar of it this morning, tokk 40 ml, and just keeps spitting it at me:rolleyes:

i just dont get it, he can settle himself during the day, but come night time, every 2 hours (if im bloody lucky) he'll be wanting attention.

hope it improves soon.

06-07-2009, 09:08

JustUs3

06-07-2009, 09:36

Hi lovelys, just popping in to say hi! I've been sick with the flu and a throat infection for the past week so I haven't had the chance to catch up on all the goss. I'm feeling a bit better now, i have a horrible cough and my throat is still a bit sore but so far L hasn't got it so I'm hoping it stays that way. DH keeps telling me to stop smooching her otherwise she'll catch it but I can't help it, she's just so smooch-able and cute!
OK I'm off to do a load of washing while L is napping, will be back later to catch up.
Hope everyone is well!
xxxx

tinytotsmum

06-07-2009, 10:08

:crying::crying::crying: why won't it stop already. i was a wreck yesterday she was doing her i cry and you have to do it to scream the last time she did that was with the pyloric and i dont know what to do when seh does itcos i just crumble. I want her teething to stop this sucks soooooo much. she was up another 3 times last night and that was with thenurafen so yeah i say this is going to be a common occurance for a while:crying::crying::crying: i hardly sleep as it is for some reason not sure why and now with em waking up 3 times a night i may get and hour or so.

Karice

06-07-2009, 12:45

I'm sure we've got a bunch of boxes in the office. I'll check later today and if there are heaps you're welcome to them on the condition that we have a coffee at the same time(my shout):p:D
hahaha you're a gem. Sure, I can manage a coffee :)

tinytotsmum

06-07-2009, 14:12

hey ladies sorry another selfish post it seems em may not be teething adn that it may be something else i am so over her screaming at me all the time so it is back off to the doctors. a nurse said it may be one of her ears either being blocked or a small infection which would kinda make sence being when she had the infection in hospital she couldnt keep her temp up and when she feels hot it only registers at 36.1 so yeah back of to the doctors again i am over it i am sooo tired and i am tired of having to give her panadol all the time.

subaruforestermum

06-07-2009, 14:30

Hi guys...

Well DS's birthday party is only days away and I'm stressing out that it's not going to be perfect, well mainly in regards to the cake, as I have such high expectations of myself....and each year I have revealed great masterpieces...which makes me not want to make a lame @rse cake... (no offence to others, just the way I feel about 'my' cakes and ability)..

Anyways, DD and I have been sick with the flu since around 20th June, and just cant kick it, they ended up putting us both on antibiotics on Friday, and seem to have eased DD's cough, but not mine.. And it's only slight improvement with her. That was after we tried her on demazin (prescribed) for 3 days and it done nothing...

So over being sick all the freakin time, DS still has his cough from months ago, been tested for whooping cough but negative, so I dont know.

Ended up getting DD a swing, as tried one out and she loved it, nope, screams at me when I put her in it at home...ggrrrr...

Our camera just shat itself too after nearly 4 years, so had a good run, but I am so mad at myself, as I done it, I made the comment moments before it stuffed up, that "Isnt it cool, we've had this camera for nearly as long as we've had DS and it's still working fine, never had any problems!" No word of a lie about 2 minutes later it stuffed up and wont work, screen starts fading out on it etc...

Had a day with the inlaws yesterday and come out feeling really flat, and just like a nobody... I know everyone or almost everyone has problem inlaws, and I shouldnt care, but I cant help it, I usually just shrug it off, but just cant anymore...:cool:

Anyways just wanted to pop in and say I'm ok...:cool:

mum2zara

06-07-2009, 15:24

I hear you about the inlaws...same thing getting me down at the moment.

I thought that having a baby would give such a strong sense of purpose, which I guess it does, but apart from in Z's eyes...I feel like I don't exist!! Feel like people only want to see me if I have her with me, and DH, well...I don't know what planet he's on at the moment...

tinytotsmum - good luck with em, i hope you get some answers real soon...just be confident that you are doing everything you can for her, and there's nothing more than that you can do...just so hard to see them upset and not being able to do anything, breaks your heart : (

I reckon I was up and down about 10 times last night...what the?? I have been trying self settling for about 8 weeks - but feel no closer to her being able to do it...am doing everything sleep school told me...bloody exhausting, my days (and nights) are spent trying to get her to sleep - such is my life!!

Sorry for the whinge...

Here's hoping for a good night's sleep for all!! : )

Karice

06-07-2009, 15:39

well my day has been rather uneventfull. I called centrelink to see if I can get a loan and they said to talk to department of housing. Called department of housing and they said I need to talk to NSW dh. Called NSW department of housing and they said I need to talk to northern rivers nsw ... called northern rivers nsw and yup, you guessed it they said I need to talk to Grafton branch department of housing... after aaaaaaaaall that they said that they can't tell me over the phone as they need to see proof of incomes blah blah blah I need to come into the office, but if our total income is less than $760 gross per week then we most likely can get our bond and rent in advance loaned intrest free to us. So when I go down there to find a house well then I will be able to find out yes or no. In the meantime, I've applied for a small personal loan at the bank. It's crap that the minimum loan amount in $3000 I don't need that much, I'd say maybe $2000 but I guess I don't have to spend it all, I can just pay it back straight away. We'll see, I probably won't get approved for it.

god im bored. I don't like this business of being on my own 24/7 and I miss my man :crying:

suby - I'm sure your cake will turn out lovely :yes: You're allowed to whinge about your IL's, they drive everyone mad!!!

mks

07-07-2009, 10:02

You know what makes me laugh about in laws?? They are someone's parents too! My in laws make me so mad sometimes but then I think, my parents are my DH's and SIL's in laws too. At the moment there are some issues between my parents and SIL and I can see their side of it so it makes me wonder have I been wrong to get upset with my IL's??? I don't know.. it;s really playing on my mind at the moment cause I am so upset for my mum who I think makes SO much effort with SIL and her biggest complaint is that they never take my nephew to be babysat by mum and dad - always her parents (imagine if your only problem was that your in laws wanted to babysit and help out.. lol...). Anyway, I am sure there is more to it and not saying my parents are perfect by any means but they are willing to go and talk it through with them and see if there is a problem and work it out (which I think most people won't do). Anyway, lots more to it which I can't be bothered even thinking about but it just really upset me last night cause I have one brother and I want our kids to be close but if this doesn't fix itself it makes it awkward. Oh well I am sure it will resolve itself.. ok.. I am carrying on now.. I'll shut up! :o
Back to the vacuuming...

On a good note, Ella basically slept through last night. I put her to bed around 7.30, she woke at 2.30 but instead of feeding her I put the dummy in her mouth and then she woke at 6.30. I fed her and put her back in the bassinet just to see of she'd sleep more and she woke up at 9.00!!!!! She really is such a good baby.. I am blessed. Too scared to have another now cause both kids have been good babies (although DS made up for it once he turned 1!!!!:laughing:) so I don't know how I'll handle any problems like reflux etc.

She is a vomiter though. Anyone experiencing this - there are no problems -no pain, she sleeps etc but she vomits heaps.

kar

07-07-2009, 11:13

now felix is on losec he just vomits. doesn't bother him anymore but it is driving me batty! i am sick of stinking of baby spew, of constantly doing washing (most spews aren't blottable on him or me - soaks through to the skin, although i do use the hairdryer on myself :laughing:) and blotting up the couch. we were going to get a new couch but am going to put it off until the vomitting slows down!
well done ella!

good luck with the loan Kaz. they are being really strict at the moment though, before F was born and DH and I were both working with good incomes our bank initially turned us down for a $10K unsecured loan. when i threatened to close down our accounts they changed their mind though!

our exciting news is we can go out for dinner with felix! because we are going to america in a few weeks we thought we better try taking him out to dinner asleep in his pram. did his normal bed time routine, put him into pram instead of cot waited until he was soundly asleep, went to local pub for dinner, came home transferred him to cot and didn't hear a peep from him until 1am!!

LeeJ

07-07-2009, 12:08

Happymumma

07-07-2009, 12:37

Karice

07-07-2009, 14:46

HI Girls,

Just a quick one while cady is still asleep in her capsule (im not game to move her...) I'll come back and do personals later on

Well, I spent the last 6 hours at the hospital :( Cady was really not well last night, she woke at 2:30am for her usual feed and she was soooooo congested poor bugger. I tried the saline spray and the little aspirator to suck out all the gunk and it made a difference for about 10 mins and then she was blocked up again. She got harddly any sleep from then on coz she was all bunged up. I had her in bed with me coz it was so much easier to settle her next to me as opposed to the next room. Plus I could keep a good eye on her with her next to me aswell. So the hosipal doc said its just a head cold, her chest sounds fine, temp is ok, so they did a proper asiprator on her in there and flushed her out, made a world of difference. Funny thing is, while the doc was sorting Cady out, I had been on my ventalin puffer about 20 times, in the end the doc asked if I had seen a doc, coz I look more sick that Cady :o I said no, can't afford to see the GP, got no money, so he looked at me while I was in there also. Turns out I've got pneumonia, which is why my asthma has gone through the roof and I can't get a full breath in. So he gave me some steriods for the asthma and some antibiotics to clear up the fluid on my lungs. Such is life :rolleyes:

07-07-2009, 15:06

Oh Kaz that's awful. I hope the meds work. Seeing as we're sharing illness', on top of having a headcold myself, I discovered yesterday that my c/s wound is now infected. After 4 freaking months!!! Doc put me on anti-biotics to kick it then this morning while Indie got checked before her needles the doc said she has slight thrush in the mouth so put her on anti-biotics for that. Fun fun!:rolleyes: But she weighed in at 5.8kgs and 61cms long! So growing nicely.

Kar - I didn't know you guys were heading away! What a lovely trip! How long will you be gone for?

HM - :hugs: pms sucks!

MKS - Yay on Ella sleeping so wonderfully! Bet you feel a amazing after a pretty decent nights sleep!

I'd better run, so much to do, home with both girls today but have been run off my feet and spent most of the day out and about doing things, Still have to do groceries and reconcile the banks accounts. Looks like a late night for me:rolleyes:

mum2zara

07-07-2009, 15:16

Hi Ladies
Sorry i havent posted lately i was kinda feelin a little blah as of recent well turns out its PMS i got my period today and apparently my hormones were all over the shop i know what your thinking how did i not know i was PMSing well i have never had any probs before or during my periods like crabbyness or tearyness but apparently that all changes after you have bubs lol so now i have that to look forward to every month GREAT well at least its explainable and im over it now that i actually have my periods lol
Well we are finally tackling the whole catnapping situation after Jackson reverted from his 1 and a half hour sleep in the morning to 45mins again blah so back on top of it now hoping to nip it in the butt asap!!! Its so hard to get everything done in 45min incriments lol
There are so many things that i know are not ideal for bubs but i cant do everything at once for example i want to stop wrapping i want to get rid of the dummy and recently i want to stop him coming in to bed with us at 5:30 :( I know i have created all these things but i just kept thinking it will be ok he is only little but i think they are all reasons for him waking lately!! Talk about creating a rod for your own back lol!!! Oh and im trying to stop the sleeping in the arms too lol being a catnapper it was easier to settle him in my arms and lay on the couch so he got a good 2 hr sleep than resettle every 45 mins oooppsss Oh well we cant be perfect can we!!!
Oh yeah thanx to the ladies that posted on how i was feeling and sorry i didnt post back i burst in to tears everytime i read a new post lol
hahaha all good now though thanx for the kind words though:yes:
Any way better get going chat later
Crystal
OMG Happymumma - our babies are identical!! Z catnaps ALL DAY!! I seriously want to stop wrapping, and I am fearing she is becoming too dependant on the dummy, and she wakes at 530 every morning...

I am trying to be more relaxed about things, and what i 'SHOULD' be doing, but hell with it...I will do whatever works and whatever makes my life easier!! If she goes to bed without a fuss by having the dummy - then so be it!!

Re: wrapping - last week, I took a friend's advice, and started 'double wrapping' her - and she hasn't got out once since!! (touch wood) So we wrap her normally in a bunny rug, and then again with one of those ready made wraps with the velcro (can't remember what they're called??) So effective!! And she seems to sleep much better...this is only at night though, not really necessary during the day (especially considering she only sleeps about 40 mins at a time anyways).

There are still nights she wakes a million times (wind??), but it has def helped.

Now, if only i can get her to sleep past 530 we'll be on our way...: )

tinytotsmum

07-07-2009, 15:20

karice you sound like me i have no money to go to doc for myself but seem to be able to get em seen to whenever i need. hope you feel better soon.

i have finally found ems gag reflex lmao i gave her some sweet potato carrot and parsnip and she threw the first bit back up adn then i gave her a full jar of apple adn she loved it tried it again and once again gaged till she almost vomited it is the same reaction i have with pumpkin as soon as it hits my throat i gag and bring it back up so i am making plain parsnip by itself to see if it is definatly that and if so it will go in the emily doesnt like side of my food list.

LeeJ

07-07-2009, 15:37

:crying::dizzy:
josh is now waking every hour at night...

i can get into a sleep clinic in 3 weeks,

seems an eternity...

trying to get to see a pead, but cant get into a doctor to get a referal:rolleyes:

:crying:

i dont know how much more sleep dep i can handle...

oh, and those good day sleeps, out the window....

:gloomy:

Karice

07-07-2009, 15:37

ttm - lol cady has the gag reflex when I try to trick her into having a bigger dummy :rolleyes: it must feel weird or something, but her old one is just too small for her chubby cheeks so i've tried to giver her about 2 or 3 other brands that are from 4 months, but no, she wants her newborn teeny weeny nuk dummy... One day I was really trying to get her to take to the new dummy, not forcing her or anything, but she actually made herself vomit when i wouldn't let her spit it out...:cool:

m2z & happymumma - we've been on the wrapping roller coaster for about a month now. She just doesn't seem to be able to stay settled all the time without the wrap. We're slowly transitioning. I usually wrap her as tightly as normal but have it so that I can easily get her arms out or she can get them out herself during sleep. It's taken a long time to get her used to it but I'm at the stage now that once she's actually asleep (duringthe night) she doesn't mind her arms being let loose and for about a week i've not had to re-wrap her, it's been slow going though for about a month. Its a huge relief though as i've mentioned before, she's a roller and I quite often find her on her side and occasionally on her tummy. If it hadn't been for her rolling then I probably would have just kept wrapping her.

newme - oh gosh! 4 months and its infected!!!:eek: You did mention last week that it was feeling uncomfortable, do you think that's why or is that just part of having a c-section? I hope you and indie are feeling better soon!

kar - ooooh america!!!!!! how exciting!! make sure you take lots of carry-on clothes for the flight!! I think you can get infants vicks which might help felix's ears during the climb and descent for the flight coz the pressure can get painful for them, but menthol type stuff really helps to open up the eustachian tubes in their ears to help ease that.

mks - that sounds like a nice nights sleep! I wish cady would go back to sleep with a dummy but no, she's a guts :laughing: she'll happily stretch out to around 3.5 to 4 hours but then she gobbles down 2 whole boobs within 20 mins. takes after her father lol

Karice

07-07-2009, 16:00

for any of the brissy girls that are reading along, i've started a topic on our facebook group about a get together this week for anyone that is interested. A few girls mentioned they were interested on my facebook wall so I thought it would be best to start the open discussion. :D

tinytotsmum

07-07-2009, 16:11

have you thought of just going to the hospital and see what they can do and it will skip all the appointments and waiting times.

07-07-2009, 16:11

Kaz last week I was more referring to the numb areas on my tummy post op(which apparently is normal, just makes me feel really weird and uncomfortable). The infection isn't painful(thank goodness!). Mum thinks it's a sign that I need to slow down. Which I agree, I have too much on my plate and need to slow down but DH is just as flat out as I am and after blowing a lot of money on the show he did in melbourne with absolutely no return we have a long way to catch up. We're currently looking into breaking our commercial lease and moving the business back home(our landlord hasn't fixed things that we've been saying needed fixing since at least november last year!). Every time it rains the roof leaks and we have to go in to move our couch because it gets soaked, plus dh just pointed out a whole heap of other things that are far worse and probably actually really dangerous.

Anyway, kids are both wanting mummy and dinner needs to be cooked:rolleyes: What did I say about slowing down:laughing:

Karice

07-07-2009, 16:15

have you thought of just going to the hospital and see what they can do and it will skip all the appointments and waiting times.
were you talking to me?

Karice

07-07-2009, 16:17

tinytotsmum

07-07-2009, 17:24

newme i find it easier having the company run from home cos i dont have to worry about child care and EVERYTHING i could possibly need is here at my finger tips for missy and myself and it makes it sooo much easier to have a bath at lunchtime lol.

Karice

07-07-2009, 18:10

:crying::crying::crying: why is it the week lee is away he misses out on so much????? Cady's a huge smiler but not one for many giggles, and today she was watching me eat a biscuit at hospital and she found it hysterical and was laughing, had everyone in stitches, we've only seen her really laugh like that once before and then i just bathed her and got her ready for bed, I tucked her into bed and gave her a big kiss and said that's from dad, and she SAID "dadda" :crying::crying::crying: he's going to be heartbroken if I tell him he's missed it. I broke into tears coz I wish he was here to see it, and I just kept telling her that daddy loves her very very very much and we'll see him really soon. My god, I can't stop crying. what the hell is wrong with me?

Just Add Water

07-07-2009, 18:26

07-07-2009, 18:58

Kaz - are you seriously questing why you're emotional? Hmm, let's see, you're on your own, Lee is back home, you're not sure when you'll see him next, you're sick, Cady is sick, you're packing up your home, you're no doubt nervous / excited about moving home... umm, anything else? Hon, you're not superwoman (you come close though :) ). Give yourself a break... *hugs*

Oh and if you can help yourself then don't tell him he's missed out on anything, I know it's hard but at least he'll get to experience that first time wonder himself and not know he's missed out. :)

Is there anything I can do from here for you?

ETA - I've just re-read that and hopefully I didn't make you cry... .sorry!

:iagree:, I missed out on DD1's first steps and TBH, it would have been better if no-one had told me it had happened(my car broke down at work and I was stuck 45mins away, I cried the whole way home!).

Yep, moving the office home would be great in that I can be freed up a bit for time as I can do housework when I don't have much office stuff to do but I remember the stress of having an employee in the house 5 days a week. At least our storeman is only part time so it won't be so intense, plus he won't arrive before 9(our last employee when the business was at home would arrive anywhere from 7am and leave anywhere up to 6pm!). But the advantage of all that rent saved would be I could get a new car:D.

Karice

07-07-2009, 19:25

yeah you're right girls, i didn't realise how much I had taken onto my plate until it's spelled out for me :o Lee phoned up and I was crying and he wanted to know why, kind of had to tell him coz I can't lie to him. He said he had a dream last night that he was going to miss Cady's first word today...HOW FREAKY IS THAT????!!!!

Newme - you're sounding like you're leaning more towards the positive end of the spectrum when you're talking about having the business back home, so i guess it will be a good thing!!!

nomadic - you didn't make me cry, in fact, you made me giggle lol. I'm feeling a bit better now, I think it was just a weak moment.

well, dp's not sure if we can borrow his step dad's truck now. I can't afford a removalist, last time it cost me $1500 to move our stuff and I just don't have that sort of money. I might have to sus out thrifty vans or something.

but i did see a house today that i'm keen as pie for, just got listed today. I'm hoping that they will take a credit card depost from us while we sort out the lease and bond with department of housing etc... I might have to beg and plead with my dad to lend me the money to help out. I'll be able to pay him back once my bond is released from this place, but that can take a month or so. anyway, this place is not availbe until july 30th so that gives me a bit of time to play with. but its 4bedrooms on a nice street right in grafton town for $220/wk i can walk to the shops!!!! (or to the club on say night :laughing:) not that im a huge party animal or anything but it would be nice to have a dance with the girls for an hour or 2 every now and again andalso dp can have a boys night every now and again and I'll be happy that he can get home ok

Karice

07-07-2009, 20:11

OMG OMG OMG OMG!!!! I just had what may have been the most BRILLIANT idea that i've had this year. Cash Converters might give me a loan!!!!!!! I did the online application and they said someone will contact me within 24 hours to discuss. I said I only want $2000 as you can borrow that much on an unsecured loan, but I could potentially borrow more an a secured loan, I'll find out tomorrow I guess. :fingerscrossed:

Karice

07-07-2009, 20:36

I've just done a book balance on a spreadsheet, if everything goes to plan (which it won't lol) it turns out that I'll actually be $535 up with all debts clear except for the bond loan from dept of housing. It costs in total just short of $5000 to move(including rent on the old house, bond etc on the new one), we'll have $3000 come in this month from dp job and my centrelink payment, then hopfully we can get the cashconverter loan for $2000, then the old bond come back (about $1000) and the bond loan from dept of housing (about $1300) so i can pay most of the cash converter loan back straight away anyways

:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

i know i'm going on about this, but that cc loan will save my *** and save my stress

Just Add Water

08-07-2009, 08:55

Kaz, be careful with those loans... they might seem like your only solution but they can get out of hand and end up costing you an exorbanent amount of money. If it's all you can do though then good luck with it, been there and done that and know how much it sucks!!!

Tash - I just wanted to send you some *Great Big Hugs*... I read your post yesterday and didn't respond and was thinking of you all night... I really hope you get a reprieve soon. I'm guessing that DH is still working a lot and you're pretty much doing this on your own? Are you able to have your mum come and stay for a few days or someone else so that you can get a break? I really wish I was closer so I could give you a hand. Moving hour by hour makes everything so much harder *hugs*

My number's on Facebook if you want to chat and my phone is always on, so even if it's three in the morning and you need to scream at someone then go for it!!! *hugs*

AFM - Ugh. I ended up going to the emergency dept last night with my mouth as I was in tears and seriously in the worst pain I can ever remember (I actually said I would rather be giving birth!!!).. I have a wisdom tooth that just wont come through and as a bonus I also have a sinus infection and an ear infection so the whole left side of my face feels like it's on fire. I was taking panadol and nurafen all day and they did nadda. Ended up being given Endone and was totally off my face. lol. Doc also put me on some major antibiotics to try and kill it along with orders to see a dentist today :( We'll just see how the tablets work first... though I know I have to go... this has been going on too long. So anyway, I passed out last night and DH hung on the lounge with Master B. Best five hours sleep ever!!!

On a side note we left B (and the other three kids obviously) at home with Grandpa - first time we've left him... but he was all good and gets very spoilt by Grandpa (so I think Grandpa was quite chuffed :) He's taking the 3 older kids out today so I can get some more packing done (albeit drug induced hehehe).

Ok, need to move my butt!

kar

08-07-2009, 09:09

kaz i agree with kris - those guys are sharks

Just Add Water

08-07-2009, 09:13

Kaz, another thought - your bond is obviously with the bond board, speak to the estate agent about transferring it to the new house, some landlords are happy with that as they can see that it is with the board already, saves the hassle.

Karice

08-07-2009, 09:27

yeah, im more concerned about how I'm going to get a whole housefull of furniture interstate :( If we can use dp's stepdad's truck then its not so much an issue, otherwise we need the cash pronto.

im 80% confident that we would qualify for the dept of housing bond assistance. Gah, so annoyed with this juggling act. I've been putting off talking to the real estate agent for a few days. I was going to go down to grafton next friday, but I think I might go down on wed so I can talk to the dept of housing, otherwise I will have to wait to tuesday as that's when their walk in appointments are happening next, which is a whole week away.

oh and on another note....I think my milk has dried up!!!!!! Ever since the doc put me on those meds yesterday, i've felt myself getting emptier and emptier with every feed until this morning, Cady has been awake from 5:30, sucking away furiously and then starting to panic and scream. I called the ABA, and the woman was a total cow and told me that I was being rediculous, just drink some water. Well, thanks for nothing biatch! I already drink 3 litres a day, and my daughter is screaming at me and won't sleep, and in less than 24 hours I've gone from over-production to nothing. I tired to express and got nothing.

So anyway, long story short, lucky i keep emergency formula on hand, I made up 120mls with the thought of, if she's had milk from me, she'll only want a little bit, if i've not given her any milk well then she'll drink the lot. And guess what, she almost drank the lot except for about 15mls at the end of the bottle and she's been asleep for 40 mins so far without even a peep! not sure what the best step forward is now.

nomadic - god that sucks that you're in so much pain :( you've been hit with a double whammy from the sounds of it. the drugs sound kinda fun though...huge excuse to sleep!!!!! :laughing:

LeeJ

08-07-2009, 11:36

omg!
what a rude pr!ck!

went to the doc to get a referal to see a pead,
several times he asked 'so you're a first time mum?', 'this is your first baby?'' like im some sort of friggin idiot!
he told me that 'these' sorts of babies have been named as 'colicky', i sat there in shock, he;s not friggin colicky, he has REFLUX, a very classic case of it at that!
um, how did he put it, 'sometimes the shock of the new world, and the techniques emplyed to ease them in can be a factor too'
so what, im ****in incompetent am I???!!!!
'by the time you get to she the pead, all this will probably be all cleared up'

OMFG!

im so angry right now!

:banghead::hair::dizzy:

LeeJ

08-07-2009, 11:47

kris, thanks for your kind words:hugs:

08-07-2009, 12:31

Tash what an ignorant idiot! did you get your referral? hopefully you'll get a more experienced and understanding doc next time.

Kaz, if you have fenugreek, start chowing down tablets, if not I have brewers yeast at home(a huge pack!) and would be happy to come for a drive to drop some off to you, I found it works pretty quickly(tastes foul though). but certainly gets the milk going.

Nomadic :hugs: glad you got some sleep and I hope the meds are helping whilst you wait to get into the dentist. I too have wisdom teeth probs but mine are 1/2 way through and won't budge anymore!:rolleyes:

We're going well. I have sorted out dd1's birthday present for this year which i will get in the target toy sales. plus dh and i have decided what we would like to get the girls as a joint christmas present this year so will look at organising that and paying it off.

tinytotsmum

08-07-2009, 13:11

tommo that is bull crap how rude was he what an ********. god i would be furious to. all lame **** doctors that cant be arsed doing anythign put babies under the colicy name 99% of babies in the 70 put under the colicy label had pyloric like em god what a prick sorry but that annoys me there is no proof that colic is even something so it is just a name they have made to say i cant be arsed helping thanks for your money see ya later. grrrrrrrrrrrrr.
can you see another doctor??? did you get the referal????

as for emily cant remember if i had posted i am extremely tired em was up every 3 hours last night she is cross cutting all 4 front teeth at once which supposivly isnt normal but meh who is i got all 4 over night my dad said. so it is just waiting and waiting and surviving till itsa ll over.

emily has just hit the 90th persentile with her wieght i dont know if that is good or not so if anyone knows can you tell me.

also we go the referal to have emily tested for epilepsy yesterday, so now i just have to call and do the waiting game.

Karice - stress can make it dry up like that and i can have a wild guess that you have been under tons. mine dried up over night as i was understress but not as much as you so it makes sence to me i would go to the breast clinic and see someone asap and try the flax seed and all that you can to keep it going unless you are happy to formula feed then it doesnt matter.

well anyways better run have heaps to do but will probably sleep hopefully dh doesnt have to work late tonight so he can start helping me at night again.

LeeJ

08-07-2009, 13:28

he has to fax the referal over to them, and then they will call me for an appt:rolleyes:

thats what sh!tted me, he isnt colicky! he has reflux, if you took the time time listen to me, intead of labeling me '1st time mum who knows nothing' then you would know that! the very few health proffesionals that have listened are like, ok, yeah, classic reflux, bla bla bla.

i pretty much sat there in aw as he made me feel terrible.

i see my normal doc in 2 weeks, but after talking to the midwife, she said it would be best to try and get the referal, so as i could try and see the pead sooner.
i also have a day stay booked for a sleep/setltling place for the 28th, so we'll see how that goes.

on a good note, josh slept without resettling b/w 11.15-3.15 then 4-7.45, so a bit of repreive from the stupid hourly waking.

Karice

08-07-2009, 13:51

tash - once u get your referral through I would do a formal complaint about him if you have the time. As TTM said, docs usually label babies as 'colic' when they don't know / can't be bothered going into it further. Next time there might just be a first time mum who's bub really does have a life threatening issue and he'll probably lable that mum and that baby the same.

ttm - yeah you're right I have been stressed and I'm also quite ill so i guess those are all factors. I know you're supposed to exclusively bf if your going to do it but I can't let the poor girl scream with starvation either so I'm kind of doing both, bf until there's nothing left and when she starts to get upset i've got a bottle handy to finish the job.

newme - thanks hun, might see how i go until we meet up this week? Chowing down on fenugreek like you said, and heaps of nuts and dried fruit bread.

well, I took myself down to the clinic today, our usual CHN said I looked terrible :rolleyes: second time in 2 days i've been told that lol not that i care, i know its true!!!! :laughing: I'd rather people be honest with me when I look like sh!t so I can believe them if they pay me a compliment. She said it's probably a combo of high stress and being very sick, and it turns out that the antibiotic that i'm on has had reports of occasionally interfering with supply but it doesn't happen very often. She said to just keep offering the boobs but make sure that I top up with formula to make sure she's not hungry and she's well hydrated. I'll know by the end of the week if my supply will come back so she says. Meh, kind of over worrying about it to be honest, I've got so much happening at once it really doesn't make sense to be stressing about being stressed!!!! My neice was fully formula fed from birth and she's the healthiest kid I know. My other neice was bf for 6 months and then she became a chronic biter so was switched to formula and she's extremley healthy also. It's not the end of the world if it doesn't work out, but it is a shame as I really enjoy breastfeeding.

Just Add Water

08-07-2009, 14:34

Just doing a fly by as we stop for a bottle and a bum change :)

B had his needles on Monday.. gave a little cry and we were done and dusted. He had a grizzly night and then a sore tummy and a temp yesterday but is good apart from that... well, except for the stinky bum that follows a tummy ache lol.

He is now 63.5cm long and weighs 7.4kg and his head is 44.5.. he's in the middle still with a big head... takes after his dad :)

Ok, off again, almost finished Miss 6's room and need to get it packed before they get home.

Karice

08-07-2009, 15:04

:yelclap: Well done Bayley!!! I was going to ask you what size he is as I'm going to start those pants once I've finished moving. Cady is 6.5kgs and 62 cm long at last weeks weigh in and the pants she has are a little lose round the tummy and a little on the long side so maybe if I just make them a wee bit bigger?

LeeJ

08-07-2009, 15:54

15th of september, that is the very first available appt with the pead...:cool:
might as well figure it all out on my own eh....

Karice

08-07-2009, 16:55

tash, thats terrible!!! :no:i guess there is no else they can refer u onto?

can anyone tell me if this is just a coincidence or what but if been supp formula feeding on top of my (seemingly non existant) bf milk and cady has slept better today than i have ever known her to sleep!!! no whinging, complaining, crying, no resettling, 2.5 hours every time! wtf? has she just been hungry for the last month or what? i dont get it!!!!

LeeJ

08-07-2009, 17:06

karice, im a firm beleiver that FF does not cause a baby to sleep thru the night!:laughing:
maybe she is just hungry at the moment cause your supply is low?
i wouldnt put it to the formula tho:)

he is the only pead that comes to our town, i asked if i travelled could i get in sooner, and she said it was a longer wait!
(apparently its quicker to get in here than at his actual office)
i see my normal GP in 2 weeks, and will ask then, but dont like my chances,

so looks like my internet pead guide is still my freind....

Karice

08-07-2009, 19:45

nah i dont expect that she will sleep through either, its just so weird how all of a sudden since being topped up with formula shes sleeping so much better. usually i've got tantrums to deal with every sleep time and around 1 hrs sleep 2 or maybe 3 times a day and awake every 2.5 hours at night, so far every time shes been put down for a sleep shes dozed off peacefully within 5 mins and stayed asleep. I did notice that she woke briefly once, I was watching her from the doorway, she peeped on eye open for a few seconds and then rolled over and went back to sleep like an angel :o so not used to this, she's like a different baby!!! :fingerscrossed: tonight goes smoothly. I've got the bottle ready to go just need to add the powder for her night feed.

subaruforestermum

08-07-2009, 20:51

Ahhhh DAY....

Make you all smile?!?.. NO..oh it works on DD, thought it may work here too...

Anyways, YEAH...

I'm going to have a whinge... a BIG whinge...

Well I'm still sick, so is DD, so is DS....

DS still has a cough from months ago, last night he was up all night spewing, tummy aches.

DD had to go for a chest x-ray today.

We then ventured back to the doctors, DD has spots on her lungs which show she has the beginings of bronchitis.

DS apparently had accute bronchitis the last time he was put on antibiotics, he's now been put on steriods meds for 5 days, and a different stronger antibiotic!

As for me I've been put on codiene something, which is a controlled substance, to suppress my cough, and also been put on a steriod inhaler...

YAY for us..

DD has been in a lot of pain today with her reflux, spewing more (she was a silenter, so hardly any spew).

LeeJ

08-07-2009, 21:10

suby:hugs:

Just Add Water

08-07-2009, 21:49

Oh Suby.... that sucks!!!! Surely you can get emergency funding from centrelink oe somewhere?? I can't believe that! Thank god DH deals with them, I would gt too ****ed! *hugs* It sounds like his work reacted too quickly to something if he has a good case against them. good luck,

subaruforestermum

09-07-2009, 07:11

Thanks tommo & nomadic... yeah they reacted too quickly to it for sure, based on unfounded information.

As for Centrelink, "There is nothing we can do to help you until you have your interview!" is what we were told!:banghead:

Karice

09-07-2009, 08:17

hey suby i feel your pain, centrelink did nothing for us either. I hope that you and the kids feel better soon, it sucks being sick, it sucks even worse when you're sick for a long time :hugs:

AFU - hmmm im still thinking that Cady is a totally different sleeper on formula. It's still a mix of me and formula but i've not got alot left. I tried expressing last night and couldn't even get 10mls in half an hour. Oh well, on the plus side, as I was saying she seems to sleep totally different on formula. She went down at 7pm bedtime no fuss at all, slept till 11pm no resettling. I've usually got to resettle her at least 3 times!!!! Then back down at 11:30pm and (OMFG) she slept til 4:30!!!!!! Also no resettling. Back down in her own cot by 5 (she usually wont settle in her cot at this time so she comes into bed with me) and she slept til 8:30!! I feel like a new woman having some good sleep for the first time in 4 months! She's been up for a feed and a play for an hour and she's gone straight back down in her cot for a sleep. I am totally amazed! :eek:

Also i've noticed over the last 24 hours that she's started to do some good heavy wet nappies again which hasn't happened for almost a week. She was just doing little teeny wee's and she was looking deyhdrated so i was giving her water in between bf's for the last week to keep her fluids up. With that in mind, maybe my supply has been getting lower and lower over a week and I just didn't notice until it was almost all gone???

My MIL phoned last night and she suggested that maybe my body can't keep up with her demand and because my body is concentrating on keeping up with the quantity that she demands it can't produce as high a quality which is why she's been unsettled and unsatisfied for the last month. I'm thinking that maybe our bf days are over for good, i'm a little sad about that as I do enjoy it, but she seems to be doing better on formula now. She's more content, relaxed, she looks healthier and she's so much easier to care for!!!! SHE ACTUALLY SLEEPS! The child that never sleeps is SLEEEPING!!!!!!! :smiliedance:

kar

09-07-2009, 09:05

Hmm, went cold turkey on wrapping for Felix and he slept last night 7 - 10, 10.30 - 2.45, 3.15 - 6.15 and has now had a two hour sleep this morning, maybe wrapping has been annoying him??

SFM, hope you can catch a break soon. You have really been doing it tough.

Kaz, if you want to keep BFing just stick with offering her boob and see if you can keep the supply going and maybe when you get better your supply will up again. As dicussed on FB, one FF a day has really helped us and increased my supply for the rest of the day

tinytotsmum

09-07-2009, 11:03

karice formula feeds can make them sleep forlonger just for the simple fact the formula is thicker adn heavier so it stays in there tummy for longer so they dont have to feed as often. i had numerous doctors in the hospital tell me that but yeah they normally should sleep on formula about 3 hours between feeds on average so 2.5 is actually normal for a formula feed. but i dont push it cos i couldnt go over 2 weeks with bf em but if you can get the milk back up go for it but i have noticed bottlefeeds seem to make things less stressful. up to you hope things improve for you.

suby - :hugs: wish there was something we could do to help have you tried calling everymorning to see if they have had a cancellation to get in soon adn the other thing i found is if you go in there with the baby they will try to put you through sooner but take planty of food but i got through the same day i went in instead of waiting a week. just a thought. have you also considered cash converters you can hock some things in for money and then when you have the money back you can pick you stuff up or try to get a loan from them.

with all the troubles some of you ladies are having makes me feel very appreciative that dh has planty of work so we will always have money and a house. if i can do anythig from over here let me know??

Karice

09-07-2009, 12:05

i actually am enjoying bottlefeeding, think i might stick to it :yes: i haven't felt this positive and energetic in a long time and i've got a good bottle prep system worked out already so thats easy as pie. cady is so much easier to handle, shes enjoying her awake time alot more as she's well rested, she's such an active baby its a godsend to have her in good spirits too :D

09-07-2009, 12:36

Kaz I'm so glad to see you are happy with how things have panned out(I was the opposite and tried to hang on to bf for a lot longer than I probably should have).

Suby - :hugs: I can only imagine how stressed you are feeling atm.

YAY Tash! Go J:smiliedance:

I too had a pretty good sleep last night but it was because I took indie back to our bed for feeds instead of sitting up in her room:D. I really enjoyed it and might stick to it(at least until dh cracks the poops about it:rolleyes:. he's not a co-sleeping fan in any way shape or form, but screw it, I'm getting more sleep:smiliedance:)

Just Add Water

09-07-2009, 13:28

Newme - DH was completely against co-sleeping (never done it with any of his other kids due to some strange views from his mother and his ex... but that's a whole other story).. anyway, B now sleeps with us quite often and if DH takes B for the night if I'm sick or something then he doesn't even bother with the bassinett, just puts him into bed with him. Maybe your DH might just get used to it (and if he doesn't then start waking him everytime you have to feed her so he can see how much easier it is on you :) ).

Packing is going well... B is not well so struggling to get him to sleep for more than an hour at a time unless he's being cuddled or can "feel" someone nearby. I ended up sleeping on the lounge with him last night all curled up with me. He's been up and down today but having my step dad here has been a god send.. he's been keeping an eye on all the kids, feeding B, cuddling B and chatting with the other kids so it has really helped me get loads done.

I've just boxed up all my ironing to drop it off... I decided it wasn't worth the stress so am getting a friend to do it (was going to get someone else but she offerred so I'll pay her instead). I'm going to drop it off today and pick it up either on Monday or Tuesday... I had a serious amount to catch up on and it simply wasn't time I'm going to have so it will be a huge help!

I can't believe my sister arrives next Wednesday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They're all struggling with it a bit and I really feel for my nephew who's really started making some strong bonds this last year and now has to leave them behind. My sis has told him that even if her and her DH have to struggle to do it that they'll send him back at least once a year so he can see his mates. His best mate's parents are close friends with my sister so they're more than happy to have him. I don't think the girls are as upset but I know how hard it was saying good bye after 18 months there, let alone after 6 years. Oh well, I'm really, really, really happy about them coming home!!!!!

Karice

09-07-2009, 16:01

jess - :yelclap: sleep is wonderful - if dh doesn't like it u can allways show him to the spare bed/lounge hehehe:devil:

nomadic - isn't packing up the house fun? ive got no clue how ur doing it with 4 kids, im having a hard enoough time with just cady!!! Thats so great about ur sis coming home! You sound really pumped up for that :thumbsup:

I've had such a busy day today! But its good coz I feel as though I've been able to cope, am in a positive mood today so I've been quite productive. Just realised why money is so tight this fortnight, stupid centrelink short-paid me by $130. Then they say 'oh but we'll back pay you..." stupid fools I need the cash now. I told her that I'm down to my last $60 until wed, i've got bugger all food left and I need to buy petrol and nappies today, I was counting on that money to buy groceries! So she's put a 'financial hardship' flag on my records for all the good that's going to do. Gah, when will they get it right? lucky i've been making enough dinners to last me a few nights at a time :D

hmmm i think I may have let Cady drink too much milk in one go :o She guzzled down about 200mls of milk, I pulled her off to burp her half way through (she got really upset about that...) and then when she started dribbling milk out the sides I figured she must be full. I didn't burp her a second time as she was so snoozy and it was time for a nap anyway so I laid her down and she threw up a good 40 or 50 mls poor chicken. She didn't get upset or anything, she was a bit shocked as she's only really vomited 2 or 3 times before. I changed the cot sheets and laid her back down (cleaned her up also ofcourse) and she went straight off to sleep.

The tin says she should be having 240mls x 5 a day but that seems like its way too much in one go for her. She's coping well on 180mls + a little bit of breast but even then leaves a bit. Any idea how you find out what is the right amount? Is there a maths formula or something?

LeeJ

09-07-2009, 16:46

im feeling a bit, well, sad.

one of my freinds, i met her thoruh dh, he worked with her hubby, and we met that way,

anyway,

she had a bub a few weeks ago, she has just told me the her dh is not the father....

(he knows it, ect)

im feeling so sorry for her dh, like, just so so sad for him, having to raise this child, knowing its from her infedality.

(they have a son together)

anyway, just wanted to get it out, dont really know what to say to her, or how to approach the issue.

Karice

09-07-2009, 19:29

hmmm not ure how you'd approach that one, i guess is depends on how close a friend she is and if she's sensative about the issue :confused: I think it would be hard for her DH, I hope they can battle through their demons though and keep the family together. Do u think that the bub will know who the biological father is or will her DH raise bub as his own? I guess the bio dad has a right to know though...oh my how tricky!!!!!

LeeJ

09-07-2009, 19:47

the bio dad is staying with them at the moment:confused:

its all so strange, and i just feel SO sorry for the dh:(

kar

09-07-2009, 20:07

gosh, that is really weird. why is he staying with them? does he act like the father or her DH?

they need to get this sorted for the bubba's sake if nothing else.

Karice

09-07-2009, 20:47

yeah, I think it is really sad :( He must really really love her to be tolerating so much, maybe that is a positive that can come out of this? I agree though, they need to sort out what's what...if adults are confused how are the poor children going to feel, and not just the new bubba put the older one aswell.

LeeJ

09-07-2009, 21:09

yeah, its quite messed up
:(

dont know the full story, will probably find it out soon enough.

apparently its 'complicated',

sure is:rolleyes:

Karice

10-07-2009, 07:02

KAR - You we're right you know! A few days supp feeding Cady and offering the breast and I've gone from barely having 20mls to being fully engorged (quite painfully too....) I think this is going to work for us. Last night I offered her both breasts which she guzzled down happily and then she took almost 100mls of FF, she's done that 3 times in a row and around 3.5 to 4 hour apart. Her sleeping is great and she's settling herself back to sleep for the first time ever. As you said, this isn't the conventional way to do things as it can provide problems with bf and such, but Cady is a completely different baby and I'm going to stick to this. I reckon with a combo of my milk and formula she's probably getting around 150mls a feed, and a website I looked at last night worked it out that she should be having around 130mls but she has a large appetite so i'm not surprised she's always hungry. :footinmouth: :footinmouth: :footinmouth:

Isn't it uncanny how alike we and are babies are???!!! :eek: I swear if Cady was a boy it would be like looking into a mirror!

Happymumma

10-07-2009, 07:02

Morning ladies
I feel really slack i havent posted for ages well personals any way lol
Karice- with the formula dont stress to much we always offer Jackson til he is full they let ya know trust me and if he finishes a bottle we offer more we make up 180ml bottles with 4 scoops and it ends up being 250mls so what i do is just keep on eye on how much he drinks through the day and add it all up in the end so from 5 x 250ml bottles he drinks about 1100ml give or take some days less some days more plus his two solid meals a day bout 1tbs of farax and 1/4 of a jar of apples or other fruit/vegies.
Roughly the formula is 150ml per kg divided by number of feeds so Jackson would be 150x7.4 = 1110ml per day or divide it by his 5 feeds = approx 220mls per bottle but i find its easier to work out through the day rather than per bottle cause some feeds are bigger than others and he will take 250mls...... So thats it roughly but like everyone says its just a guide and some babies may have more or less and especially with Cady just getting used to it might go up in amount slowly. Just watch her weight and you should be fine.:yes:
Tommo- Not cool with your friend hard situation to be in i guess ..... Im sure they will do whats best for them as a couple its just sad like you said for her DH if i was him i dont think i could stay he is a bigger person than me thats for sure.:(
Well not much new here it was a bloody miracle yesterday Jackson had a 1.5hr sleep in the morning then a 1.5 hr sleep at mid day then a nap 45mins in the arvo for a catnapper that aint bad hoping he will do it again today!!!:fingerscrossed:
Nights are getting better too he will sleep til 5:30am with maybe one dummy re insertion lol then i can re settle til 7:00am when we get up for the day!! :sunshine: Still wrapping though wanna lose that eventually was it you Kar that went cold turkey how you doing with that now???
Any way better go cleaning to do as usual
Blah!!!!!!!!

Happymumma

10-07-2009, 07:08

oh yeah quick question if say bubs is 20 weeks is he 5 months or is it still classified as 20 weeks and cause he was born on the 27th of feb does that mean he will be 5 months on the 27th of the month ???? im confused ive been corrected a few times he will be 20 weeks next friday when ppl ask how old he is i say 5 months close enough i figure???? please explain lol:p

Karice

10-07-2009, 07:35

happymumma - the CHN's have told me that when you're tracking bubs milestones etc... that you should go by months of 4 weeks and not calendar months. I'd say if its just for general conversation then its ok to say close enough :yes:

*for the first 6 months i should have added *

kar

10-07-2009, 07:39

Yep, we have gone cold turkey on the wrap. Is going quite well, although Felix was awake in his cot happily talking to his hands from 1 - 2 this morning after his feed! Went in at 2 gave him some more milk and teething gel and he went off to sleep. His 4pm sleep hasn't been a success but I wouldn't expect it to be - he rarely will have that one in his bed anyway.
He slept 1.45 yesterday morning unwrapped and his two nights unwrapped have been great.
He has startled himself awake about 10 mins after going down but with a quick resettle that has been it. He only woke once last night for the first time in ages.

Kaz, glad it is working for you! Felix takes about 200 - 250 mls for his one bottle of the day. He actually will just keep going so I reckon once it starts dribbling out the sides a lot he has had enough! This is normally when he has about 50 mls left of the 250 bottle. I also pretty much cluster feed from his first feed until his first sleep. I find Felix is not that interested when he gets up so will feed until the edge of his hunger is gone but that is it. He wants to play and talk not waste time eating. So, I offer him the boob a couple more times in that 2 hours and usually he will settle in for a good feed once out of the three or so.

I have stopped counting in weeks, Felix will be 5 months on 24 July so I say he is about 4.5 now. Goodness, I can't believe how big he is!

Those of you who have started solids how did it go? Felix is seeming to be quite resistant, but he is resistant to everything new for the first week or so usually (big bath, car seat, stroller, sleep...) Don't know whether to just keep trying him. He actually got upset this morning but then I gave him boob and he really settled in for a good feed (this was his second go of milk for the morning, I know you give full milk feed before solids) So maybe he was actually hungry and didn't want to muck around. I tried again after he had his milk and he just kind of spat and sucked which is what I would expect. He seems to really not like a spoon. I started putting some on my finger and putting that in and he seemed interested that way. Any advice? How long do you keep trying each time? Do you give it a go a couple of times a day or just once? MCHN said it may take up to 10 goes for him to get into it, but I don't want to upset him and create a bad association.

Karice

10-07-2009, 07:50

Kar - yeah its so brilliant, I haven't felt this positive, energetic and productive in so long. I got up at 6am this morning, gave Cady a big booby feed and she took around 90mls of ff and she went back to sleep. Since then I've had a shower, got dressed, taken out the rubbish, washed and hung out 2 loads of washing, prepped all the bottles for the day, fiddled around on the computer and had a cuppa :D it normally takes me DAYS to get all this done and I've done it in a few hours. I feel so chuffed! With her bottle feeding I'm cautious that she's just not used to it, so she is a bit of a dribbler, but once she starts to push the bottle away I burp her and offer her again, sometimes she'll take more with encouragement and sometimes that's it. As far as solids goes, I have not started Cady yet but I attended a clinic session on the topic a few weeks ago and the CHN said that sometimes bubs just aren't ready yet and they may still have a strong tongue thrust reflex, which is something that they have to protect themselves from choking in the early months. Their recommendation was if you find that bub is spitting out alot then cut down the amount of if bub / yourself are getting really upset then leave it for a week or so and try again. They generally grow out of that tongue thrust reflex on their own, just like the startle reflex was really strong at birth but should be easing now, it's the same thing.

tinytotsmum

10-07-2009, 08:54

sorry just need to clear my chest ahhhhhhhhhh finally i caould have a decent sleep in this morning so i was all excited dh didnt have to start work early etc so was looking good but NO. ems teeth has started moving again so it was up and down all night dh did 2 feeds for me but i had to get up to giver her the nurofin then she finally was asleep this morning and i was considering getting up but i was hell tired so thought i would sleep in everything else can wait cats came in all moochy which they do every morning one went under the covers and curled up at my feet and the other our kitten was up getting pats dh had noticed his nose was a bit runny which is fine as his does sometimes not sure why then he sneezes adn i thoguht he had farted at the same time but to my discused he had sharted ( farted adn pooped at the same time) and sprayed the bed so i have had to get up adn strip everything so i am hoping he isnt sick so he is now not aloud on anythign in the house till i call the vet and see whats up with him.

SOOOOOO discutsting.:barf:

tinytotsmum

10-07-2009, 09:01

geh now i am ment to takehim into the vets to fet him checked overjust to make sure he is ok as all those things can be all different or he could be coming doen with cat flu which is so not friggen awesome as we have 2 cats so that is going to be pricy adn painfull giving them the crap GOD my day is just going to be hell today i can tell already dh said he is going to come home as soon as he can cos he kinda feels it to about the ****ty day. ok i am going to have a showing just incase he got some crap on me. GROSS GROSS CAT

JustUs3

10-07-2009, 09:54

Hi Ladies,
Gosh you girls have been posting like mad! Our laptop was having issues so i've been reading along on my phone but it takes too long to type on the phone so i thought i'd
wait until the laptop was fixed and now there's an extra 3 pages to read through so I'm not even going to attempt personal's today.

I think L is going through a massive growth spurt, according to the wonder week's chart the last few and next few week's are a bit shady which expalins why she's been a bit sooky lately.
I decided to put her in bed unwrapped yesterday and wont be doing that again anytime soon :no: she thought it was a game and was playing with her hands and rolling on her side so i had to take her out and wrap her so she would sleep. I even tried wrapping with one arm out which didnt work either so i've given up for the moment. I dont mind wrapping her and if it means she sleep's then i dont care!
I ran out out of Thickener the other week so i thought i'd see how she goes without it but she was spitting up so much and her nightime sleep's went a bit pear shaped so we got some more last night and she slept from 7:30pm to 5:30am so i'll be keeping an extra tin in the cupboard at all times :laughing:. For those of you FF, how much are your LO's having? L was having 180ml's but is now having 210mls even with the thickener in it :eek:

I'm still getting over this horrid flu/throat infection but it doesnt look like L has got it so fingers crossed she remain's flu free.

We're going to tackle the toy sales on the weekend, we're going to get L one of the play things in the catalogue, It's got a play gym in the middle and a seat they sit in and walk around the outside IYKWIM. She doesnt have many things to play with and since our house is fully carpeted i think it might be a bit hard for her to get around in a walker.

OK that's about all i can manage atm, I've got about 5 loads of washing to do and i havent even had brekky yet!

Hope your all going well and getting lots of sleep!

Have a good day/weekend!
xxx

tinytotsmum

10-07-2009, 11:32

ticklepink em is on the anti reflux formula so is thicker than normal adn she quite happily skulls 200 mlsin under a minute then wants more but i am trying not to giver her to much more as i have started her on some solids so see how it goes. 210 doesnt seem to extere to me but i have a littel piglet she even snorts when she drinks lol

Karice

10-07-2009, 17:19

:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance: Lee phoned to say that he's coming home for the weekend!!!!!! He wasn't going to come up as I'm heading down there on wednesday but he misses us too much to leave it another 5 days!!! WOOP WOOP

He shold be here around 9ish

:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

JustUs3

10-07-2009, 18:11

Thanks TTM, i must admit i was a bit worried last night when she guzzled down 210mils and wanted more, DH and I just looked at each other and said "she cant still be hungry" but yep she had another 30mils...LOL..little piggy!

Karice that's awesome news!!! I dont know how you've been coping without your man there, I couldnt do it (I'm a big sook tho). Have a great weekend! :)

LeeJ

10-07-2009, 18:14

bongos

11-07-2009, 00:24

Hello everyone! :)

Just popping in quickly before I try and get Lily off to sleep and turn in myself.

Sorry I haven�t posted for a while, I haven�t had much time lately. This week�s been pretty busy as I�ve been on my own with the kids while DH has been in Brisbane for work. Thankfully, it�s school holidays so at least I haven�t had to worry about the school run� on the downside, keeping 2 boys amused without the house looking like a hurricane has been through it can be difficult. Both boys are having a sleep over tonight, DS1 at my dad�s and DS2 at MIL�s, so it�s been quiet� almost too quiet. Lily�s getting so big now (7.1kg and 67cm at 4 months) and her �chatting� and giggles provide endless entertainment. I�m still having trouble getting Lily to sleep before midnight, but other than that she�s doing very well.

:hugs: Sending hugs to you all, and a few extra :hugs: to those of you having a rough time at the moment. Sorry for not doing personals tonight, I will try and pop in again soon.

Hope you all have a good weekend!
Lisa :wave:

kar

12-07-2009, 15:08

Hi everyone, guess all are having busy w.ends.

Just a quick bragging post, Felix rolled tummy to back for the first time today! Did it twice in a row once each way was quite deliberate :yelclap:
First time he got stuck on his side and i resisted helping him and he managed to flip over, second time was pretty fluid!

JustUs3

12-07-2009, 15:21

Oh golly, we had a shocking night last nite, L went to bed at 7:30 as usual but woke up at 11pm and thought it'd be a good idea to stay awake until 3:30am!!! Everytime we tried to put her down she would scream, she was definitly tired but nothing I did would get her to sleep. I tried rocking her in my arms and not even that worked she would just scream and wiggle around. I ended up in tears and all the horrible memories of her as a newborn came flooding back (she was a really terrible sleeper which almost ended up in a breakdown from me). I'm really hoping it was just a one off, I don't have the strength to go there again. Sorry for the whinge, I just had to get it out.

JustUs3

12-07-2009, 15:22

That's great Kar, L has rolled a few times from back to front and then back again but I always seem to miss it. Our little bubbas are growing too fast!!!

Karice

12-07-2009, 15:57

:yelclap:Yay Felix!!!!!

TP - bummer about the bad night, gah I couldn't go back to those nights either...

Well, DP is home for the weekend and beyond...:rolleyes: Long story short, the job he drove 400kms for no longer exists, the owner wanted to give his buddy a job instead of DP so now not only are we back to square one, but now DP is further behind with the centrelink crap coz he worked a week and now we have to get out of this house and somehow have to rent a house with no way of proving that we can pay rent... oh the frigging joys.... Man i hope this rollercoaster ends soon, I think we're due a break!!!

Anyways, Cady has her needles tomorrow so once she's recovered from that on Wed we're heading down to Grafton to see what Dept of housing can do for us. I'm sure something will work out eventually, it has to! I'm sure if they see a young family suffering serious financial difficulties then they HAVE to do something to help out with housing.

Well, I'm still prefering Cady on formula feeding. DP couldn't believe the difference in her sleeping habits when he came home. I'm still expressing breastmilk as I'm finding that my boobs are getting quite full and painful. I wouldn't mind doing a combo of BF and FF but now I've found that she's gotten a bit lazy and doesn't like to drink from me anymore :rolleyes: I kind of suspected that that would happen. Not sure what to do from here, if I should just let my milk dry up or maybe keep doing what i'm doing for another 5 or 6 weeks until she starts solids... I'm still trying to figure out a feeding pattern for her as I find its kind of hard to tell when she's hungry or not now. Can't explain why, but it feels like I'm starting from the beginnning again :confused: I find that she doesn't like to have a bottle in one go, she'll seem like she's hungry at around 3 hours, so I make up 120mls, she'll guzzle the first 60 or 70 and then just start to play with the bottle. I burp her, sit her up for a bit, take away distractions etc...but I can't get anymore into her. Then after about 40 mins she's wanting more and will guzzle down another full 120mls of either EBM or Formula...What the? 4 hours just seems like a really long time in between feeds when I'm used to her demanding feeds every 2 hours or so. I'm paranoid that she won't get enough fluids, but then, she has more wet nappies now than she has for the last 2 weeks when I was BF only.

LeeJ

12-07-2009, 16:15

4 hours is fine b/w feeds for a FF baby at C's age, if you look on the back of the tin, it should recommend 200-250ml a feed as well.

12-07-2009, 20:32

Evening all.

Kaz - I'm so sorry to hear that things haven't worked out with DP's job. :hugs:.

TP - I hope tonight is smoother for you.

Kar - Go F!!! What a clever boy!

Lisa - I hope your DH isn't away too long. My DH is away atm too, but only 2 nights and tonight DD1 is sleeping at my parents place. Going to feel mighty strange waking up to an almost empty house.

I'm still struggling with a few different aliments here. Despite being on antibiotics my c/s wound has gotten a bit worse(though I missed a few of the AB's so I'll be more vigilant in taking them and fill the second script and :fingerscrossed:). I think the AB are what's caused Indie's oral thrush which she's passed on to me:rolleyes:. I've been searching and searching for the treatment that LIH suggested for nipple thrush but I can't find it. So LIH if you're reading along could you post it again:o. I'll keep searching though.

Well I should enjoy the quiet and curl up to watch the rest of the pursuit of happiness.

Just Add Water

13-07-2009, 00:30

Hi All,

I'm hijacking some neglectful neighbours wireless as the moment so will be quick :)

Kaz, B has 180mls about every 3 hours, we have tried to bump him up to 240 for a longer break but he's not interested... he will ocassionally sleep for four, rarely five hours and will have the bigger bottle but not very often. The tin is only a guide (mine says that too :) ).

Hi to everyone else...

Well we are mostly moved.. has been a very hectic few days, all I can say is "Thank god for Grandpa!!!" Seriously, without my step dad coming down last Monday we would have been SCREWED!!! The offers of help to move became nothing (just for a change) so him and DH basically did it all. The kids had a sleepover at DH's mum's on Friday night and stayed there Saturday and I hung out trying to pack more boxes while Bubs kicked up a mightly fuss and was the sookiest he has ever been.... 30 minute naps max.. and then just wanted to be cuddled. He's teething and has a bad cold so is very snuffly. Can't blame him for wanting to be cuddled really... it was just frustrating as I only got about 1/3 of what I wanted to get done actually done.

On the upside our house already looks like a house :) We ate dinner as a family tonight at our table and the kids loved it (we haven't done that on a regular basis for nearly a year due to the setup at our old house and we have all missed it). DH got his priorities sorted and we now have a projector and a big screen set up in the garage / games room.. I have to admit that playing the wii, ps2, xbox and watching dvds will be awesome in there with the surround sound. We are setting up the gym equipment behind the couch in there so I can workout while the kids play :)

Ok, well I really need to go to bed.... or perhaps I could fit another box in tonight... hmmm... we'll see.

Happymumma

13-07-2009, 11:21

Hi Ladies
Just a quick post from me its been very quiet lately must be due to everyone moving house lol
Nomadic- its good to relax in a new house its such a good feeling hey!:smiliedance:
New me - hope the antibiotics kick in and work soon :yes:

Karice- like Tommo said 4 hrs is fine i know it prob feels weird to ya now but if she can go longer she will be more likely to take a big feed to last her til the next four hrs you will see a pattern emerging soon every 4 hrs if you push it out other wise she will constantly snack all day on the bottle!:idea:

Kar - :yelclap: yay for Felix hows he going with the wrap now???
we just lost the snuggle bed and now we are doing morning sleeps with no wrap for a while til he gets used to those flailing arms lol all other sleeps are in wrap for now although night times he gets out and it doesnt bother him too much except when he knocks his dummy out :rolleyes:

ASU- We thought we had the eczema under control and its made a nasty come back around his neck :( legs and arms still clear just under his neck is all red again poor bunny ..... have to wait til wed to use the cream again cause the have to have a break off it like 4 days i think thats why it came back cause i stopped using the cream.... i dont want to have to use it all the time so im going back to docs to see what they reackon to do???
Other than that we are takling the wrap again here lol never ending saga hehehe well we did get rid of the snuggle bed so thats a start i guess lol and morning sleeps loose wrap so far with sleeping bag on will stick it out this time!!! Need to lose the wrap he is rolling too much!
Has any one else that has started solids noticed an increase in how much they are eating Tinytots i think you started round the same time as me.... how much is em eating now???
Cause Jackson gets angry now when he finishes and when i give him more he smiles!!! last night he almost ate a whole jar!!!!! Im wondering if that is too much for him???
Any ideas ladies??

13-07-2009, 13:27

HM - What do you use in Jackson's baths? I know a few ladies who's bubs have/had quite bad ezema and they all used camomile in their baths and said it made a huge difference - might be worth a try?

Nomadic - Yay for being moved and settling in!

DD1 stayed at my parents last night and apparently woke up at 3:30 this morning:eek:. I'm kind of glad she's at kindy today - at least there's so much going on there that she's entertained and in good spirits, at home she'd just be tired and grumpy. Indie slept in til 8am:eek::eek:. Was lovely to be able to wake up in my own time this morning! Well I'd better get back to getting these books to balance - it's doing my head in! From a 13 page bank statement I've gotten 10 pages done without any probs now I'm stuck on 1 transaction which just won't balance and now I'm going to have to go and dig out each individual invoice in the vein hope of making it balance:hair:. I want to get it finished this afternoon then get the group certificates printed and mailed today too(so I'm a day early:D). Hopefully I can get it all done

Happymumma

13-07-2009, 15:39

Newme- im not putting anything in his bath at the moment just has a quick dip and a rub down with sorbolene whilst he is in there but the chamomile sounds like it would be worth a try is it in a oil form or something else??? where would i get it from? i know that prob sounds silly but im a bit in the dark with that kind of stuff lol
Good luck getting all your work done :)

lochie&coopersmum

13-07-2009, 17:46

Hi all :wave:

Well its been forever and ever since i have been on here. I actually had to find the july thread as the last one i posted in was april i think :o.

Everything is going really well here. Cooper is a crack up and such a cutie. He is loving his jolly jumper and goes totally crazy in it lol.

We had some stuff that needed to be done outside the other day and he started getting cranky in the pram so got the jolly jumper and hooked it up in the shed with a folded up blanket underneath lol. Was so cute seeing him bouncing up and down in the shed. Dont worry though he was all wrapped up and there were no objects around him.

I feel so bad that i havent been on here but i have been talking to most of you on facebook, or at least seeing what you are up to anyway lol.

Hopefully i will get on here more often as Cooper is such a good bubba and i really have no excuse as to why i havent been on lately. Just that im a slacker lol.

Talk to ya all later i hope :)

JustUs3

14-07-2009, 07:48

Hi Ladies :wave:

Hope everyone is doing well.

NewMe- Sorry to hear your c/s wound is giving you trouble, hopefully it clears up soon. Is it infected or has it just not healed yet?

Nomadic- LOL at hijacking someone's wireless, we live in a unit and didnt realize we didnt have a lock on ours so every man and his dog was probably using it...Ooops. It must feel great to be settled in finally, your games room sounds awesome.

Happymumma- My goddaughter has really bad eczema and my girlfriend swears by GV cream/oil (not sure if you've tried it)? Apparently you use the oil in the bath and there's also a cream you put on them after the bath. I'm pretty sure they stock it at most chemist's. Hopefully he gets better soon, poor little man. I'm still wrapping L, i've tried leaving one arm out and wrapping loosly but she gets her hands out and plays with them so i gave up. I figure that i'll deal with it once she gets more mobile but atm i couldnt be bothered...LOL

NewMe- Hopefully you got your bank statements organised, i work for a major bank doing an accounts type roll and there's nothing worse than when something doesnt balance and you then have to go back through a whole heap of paperwork to find the problem. I'm sure you'll be relieved once it's all finished!

lochie&coopersmum- :wave: You've made me want to get a Jolly Jumper, i was going to get one of those play gym's that has a bouncy bit that they stand on but now i'm not sure.....hmmmm decisions decisions :laughing:

Not much to report from us, it looks like L's 5 hour screaming attack the other night was a one off as she seem's to be back to her good little self now. She's still catnapping during the day but she doesnt seem to be cranky when she wakes anymore so i'm not real bothered by it. Does anyone else have a catnapper? If so how long do they sleep and how many times a day?

Have a good day all! :)

Karice

14-07-2009, 08:41

HI Girlies!!!

Wow have I been busy for a few days! I'll explain after some personals:

Newme - grrrr I hate it when things don't balance!!!! My old job before Cady was working in the finance and contract management sector for a large civil construction company (Leighton Contractors if anyone's heard of it - nice company really ) Anyways, my last post was actually in my home town, we had a $150mil project for building a dam and I had the wonderful task on an understaffed project of getting all our subbies paid, creditors, managing the contract administration for the commercial manager, and every month balancing the books and accruing for the costs not yet incurred what a ******* nightmare... True everything was done on computer systems but if one of the engineers left out one teeny tiny itzy bitzy decimal point somewhere in their costing it could throw out the system for that month by, oh I dunno, thousands of dollars :hair: Our transaction report was generally 70+ pages long per month so I understand how badly you might feel like pulling out your hair :hugs: and what makes it worse is that is HAS to be done. You'll be able to do it, you're a smart chickie!

Nomadic - HOORAY for getting moved!!!!! I bet you feel so refreshed after getting settled in. I really love going to a new house, there's something cleansing about it. I can't wait until our move is over. That games room sounds brilliant!!

TP - I used to have a catnapper (until we switched to FF) at her worst she would have one 30 min doze where the slightest noise (like a car driving past her window) would wake her up. At her best while she was still catnapping I could get 2 or maybe three if I was really really lucky 1.5 hour sleeps out of her, but I usually had to re-settle her and it could also take up to an hour to get her to sleep in the first place.

l&c's mum - Hiya! Long time no see! That's great to hear that Cooper is doing well! We're thinking of getting a jolly jumper after we've moved as Cady loves being up on her feet. We're just making do with the walker that her Nanna bought her for now :o

happymumma - bummer about the eczema again :( I can't remember what my mum used to use on herself and me, all I can remember is that it came in a big pump bottle and I used to get in trouble for pumping out the cream everywhere, but I've not had it since I was a kid anyway I'm rambling

AFU - like i said before, it's been really busy here for a few days, especially yesterday. Cady had her needles in the morning (made DP hold her this time as I can't help myself I end up a teary mess...) My god you wouldn't even know she'd had needles, she was stuck in the pram all day and apart from being a little warm (fixed by taking off some layers of clothes) she was normal. We went to centrelink after the needles, and they told us to come back at 2pm. Then I went to drop in clinic to check on Cady's feeding etc...

The nurse was so lovely. I said I was a bit confused about what to do and I felt a bit guilty coz I'm starting to prefer FF's and I prefer how Cady is on FF's, she's more settled and interactive, she laughs more blah blahblah. The nurse just smiled and said, "why are you trying to justify and defend this decision? Don't. You are her mother, and you know her best. Your partner is important, then comes your daughter but YOU need to be at the top of that priority list. If you're coping better, are getting some sleep, finally getting over illness, your asthma has cleared up then maybe you're supply issues where you're body's way of saying enough is enough. You're no good to either your partner or your daughter if you've been run into the ground..." :eek: I was so suprised to hear such positive support about switching to full on formula from a CHN, I was expecting to have her try to talk me into trying to go back to BF. So anyway, I was curious to see if she had improved on formula. For 2 weeks before I started that she had only gained around 100grams and had fallen off her chart line. Well...miss piggy has gained over 700grams in a week!!!!!!!!! She's passed the 7kg mark, the nurse thinks she was just making up for the few weeks where she wasn't getting much from me and it should settle over the next few days. I have noticed that she's not snacking as much and she's taking most of 180mls 5 or 6 times a day now around 3.5 to 4 hours.

I was thinking that she was feeling rather heavy...:rolleyes:

Anyway, for 3 nights in a row, she's given me some better sleep, so i've finally shaken most of the pnemonia and my asthma is under control again, haven't needed ventalin for 2 days now, much different to being on the puffers every hour for a few weeks. She's slept through til 4am for 3 nights and then again till 8am - so much better than being up every 2 hours for 4 months!!!!

We finally got centrelink sorted out yesterday arvo. I'm getting the partnered parenting payment as of friday (and i'm being backpaid for a month) and DP has been approved for newstart, his backpay will come through today so we can catch up on bills and 2 weeks rent that we owe and start to move our stuff down south.

We're heading down to Grafton for a while tomorrow, need to sort out some stuff down there, should be back by monday hopefully so I might not get much of a chance to post.

oh and at dimmies in d-bay shopping centre they were selling bonds wondersuits for $4!!! I bought 5 of the next size cady's going to be wearing before too long. What a bargain!

wow what a novel. sorry girls!!

PS - Newme - Crazy Clarks are selling 2x packs of reversable bibs with plasitic inbetween for for $3 and they're pretty!!! I got some yesterday. If you can't find any near you let me know and I'll pick u up some if you like.

PippaG

14-07-2009, 10:22

Hi Girls, I don't seem to have been around much just lately, been busy, but hope you're all doing well.

Karice - Don't feel bad at all about FF, it seems like Cady is doing really well, that's a fantastic weight gain.

Happymumma - Sorry to hear that bubs has got his eczema back, hope it clears up again soon.

Kar - Fantastic news about Felix rolling. William can get his head and body on one side but can't get his bum and legs to go with the rest of him. It's very funny but he gets so frustrated.

AFU - We had a really good week last week with Will. He was settling so well, getting some good 2hr naps during the day and then going down nicely in the evening. We left him with our neighbours on Saturday so DH and I could go to the cinema. I adore Will but it was so nice to go out just the 2 of us. I think we had just gotten into the habit of snapping at each other so was good to spend some good quality time. We've also organised for W to be looked after in the evening of our wedding anniversary so we can go out to dinner.

William didn't settle at all well last night. He kept crying after one 45min sleep, but as soon as I picked him up his little eyes got so heavy and he went off to sleep. They of course flicked back open and more crying as soon as he went back into his cot, so he came through with us in his chair. I fed him again at 10:30pm and popped him back in his cot and he slept through until 6am without any problems, so not sure what the issue was there. He has been a bit grumpy this morning again but seems to be snoozing now.

14-07-2009, 14:36

Afternoon girls,

I think I'm getting sick, again:rolleyes:. And I'm supposed to be catching up with a friend and her DS(who is 1mth 1 day younger than DD1) tomorrow. I haven't seen them in so so long and am really looking forward to it. Hopefully I'm better by then:fingerscrossed:.

Kaz - Best of luck for the drive down. Thanks for the tips, I'll check the bibs out. I gave up on balancing the books yesterday:shame:. I was just over it and Indie wasn't sleeping again(I swear she won't sleep during the day unless she's attached to me in 1 way or another. It's ok except when I really really really need to get things done, then it drives me nuts. Oh well, will tackle sorting it out in another couple of months I suppose).

TP - unfortunately it's infected, i'm on antibiotics so hopefully it'll clear up soon. Though since I've started on the antibiotics my overall health seems to have gone downhill, I know I need to rest up, but it's a case of making the time to rest whilst still caring for both the girls and juggling that our office is manned during business hours.

Pippa - Glad you had a good night out. What movie did you see? I hope Will has a better night tonight. Nothing worst IMO than when they're out of sorts and you don't know why.

Well I should get some stuff done while DD1 is occupying DD2. DD1 has a little box of packing polystyerene and is standing in it or sitting in it so it all overflows onto the floor while DD2 is perched happily in her capsule watching. Oh the mess! But they're happy and safe and that's all that matters!

cejp01

14-07-2009, 15:42

Hi guys this forum thing sure is taking a while to get to understand how it all works! Im a new mum my DS was born March 22nd 09. Im hoping to meet some lovely new friends on here and have a few laughs:) If anyone is living in the sydney iner west area id love to catch up as finding it difficult to come across any mother bub groups
chat to you all soon x

Karice

14-07-2009, 17:55

Frigging Hec...we just took our layby home which is Cady's new carseat...and I'm sure its not installed properly. I dunno, it just doesn't seem right. We've gone over the instructions about 20 times but we can only get the teather strap done up so far, it's twisted and it's non-removable from the car seat so I don't know how that happened and the seatbelt that loops into the seat itself doesn't seem to be staying very firm. Put it this way, with everything done up, I can still jiggle and shake the seat around, like actually get it to move/lift up/rock from side to side... might have to put her old one in until we can work it out. How shyte... anyone have any advice on this car seat? Its a mother's choice royal convertable seat.

JustUs3

14-07-2009, 18:31

I'm not sure if this helps but when we got our car seat installed the guy said we need to get a crocodile clip (or maybe it was an alligator clip) otherwise the seat will move around. He had them there so he put one on but he showed us what it's like without one and it was shocking, very wobbly and we could actually lift it up and move it around. We were never told we needed one when we brought the seat and everyone I've spoken too has said the same.

tinytotsmum

14-07-2009, 18:33

karice i have a carseatthat does that i just thought that was the way it was meant to be all our straps are flat though not twist adn it isnt the mothercraft brand it is another one.

ALSO WOULD LIKE TO TELL EVERYONE NOT TO GET THE SAFETY 1ST SWIVEL BATH SEAT AS I BOUGHT IT FOR EMILY AND NOW SHE HAS 2 VERY BLACK KNEES AS SHE GOT EXCITED AND SMASHED HER LEGS INTO THE BELLY BAR WHICH IS JUST A U SHAPED PIECE OF PLASTIC AND THE 2 EDGES ARE FACING DOWN SO THAT IS WHAT SHE HIT HER LEGS ON SO I AM WRITTING A COMPLAINT COS NOW I HAVE A $30 PIECE OF PLASTIC I CANT USE. :banghead::banghead::banghead: NOT FRIGGEN HAPPY.

sorry i havent been im i have been reading but have been feeling funny like you guys dont really care about what i say which i know you do but i have gone back to seeing my psycologist twice a week adn she has suggested me spend night in the mother baby ward so i can sleep adn get help with em cos now i am starting to wonder if it is still her teeth or something else as it has been 2 weeks now and there is still no sign of those teeth coming anytime soon. so i am going crazy and having people thing i have hurt her and that is where the bruises came from is doing my head in i cant even put her in creche at the moment as i am terrified they will think i did it. well anyway i am off again i will be here just in the background for a while till i sort myself out.

14-07-2009, 19:22

Karice car seats are supposed to have *some* movement in them, but the amount you're mentioning seems too much. I've had a lot of experience installing car seats of different brands in different cars(all my own though) but would be happy to have a look at it when you get back if you want.

:hugs: TTM, I think a night or 2 on the mother baby ward would help you get back on track. Try not to stress about Em's knees, the amount of bruises DD1 constantly has all over her legs are amazing, I don't even notice them 1/2 the time, then I look around at kindy and all the kidlets are the same.

Well it's happened, I've gotten sicker:( tonsilitus now, anyway off to bed.

mks

14-07-2009, 20:16

Hi all. Keep reading but not finding much time to post. I took Ella for her 4 mth needles today. She did well.. cried for a minute and that's it. No high temp, not grumpy.. she ate and slept as per normal all day and is fast asleep now. She now weighs 6.13 kg.. she's a big girl! (well compared with 2.63 she was at birth anyway!)

TTM, hope you start feeling better soon.

NM same to you (but physically).

Karice I am not much help - we have had our seats installed at RACQ.

lochie&coopersmum

14-07-2009, 23:28

well after writing such a loving first post for awhile unfortunatly today has been HELL.

Coopers teeth are coming through and he is sooo irritable and wont sleep. And to make matters worse i got my period yesterday and it has come in full force today wawawawawa. So im cranky, sad, happy and just plain *****y. I think its cause this is the first one since i had Coop so its just kickin me round alot. :crying::gloomy: Sorry if that was tmi.
I have serioulsy never had such a bad day with Coop. Had to walk away from him a few times because i was just getting so angry was not good :(.

Anyway i will start doing personals when im feeling less evil :devil:.

Thankgod he is asleep now and i will be in bed soon.

Have a good day tomorrow everyone :hugs:

kar

15-07-2009, 07:21

Hi everyone, sick girls I feel terrible for you! I am so lucky I have not been sick since I had Felix, well except for when we were in Sydney and while it was painful (ear ache) I didn't feel debilitated as such and of course we were on holidays so had a spare pair of hands every day.

TT - I agree that mother/baby unit stay sounds like a good idea to get a break.

Felix has been teething on and off since about 3 months. Fortunately while he of course gets grumpy and it upsets his day sleep it doesn't seem to effect his night sleep. My MCHN suggested a dose of panadol before bed if necessary, we usually don't but when it is particularly bad we do.

MKS - our littlies are getting big aren't they! At his 4 month weigh in Felix had hit 6.1, would guess he is about 6.5 now.

Kaz, definitely get the seat checked or have Jess take a look.

AFU - I think Felix may be self weaning :no: He often doesn't want the boob unless it is really really full. This morning I tried to feed him pretty much constantly from 6.30 until 8 and he didn't want it. His feeds are getting shorter and shorter (like 10 mins max) and he won't work for the hind milk. Once he starts having to work for it he just stops. Last night before bed he would only feed for about 10 mins (and I had very little milk after feeding him constantly all day) before bed and was up screaming for milk at 9.30. Even though I am feeding him a lot again my boobs just don't seem to be catching up.

He is still only getting his one bottle a day, but I am back to feeding him pretty much two hourly for the rest of the day and he is back to not sleeping. He is interested in solids, wont eat plain rice cereal but will have it with apple. Will talk to MCHN today at mothers group and see if she has any advice.

Feeling very sad and very conflicted about what to do.

Hi cej :wave:

15-07-2009, 07:35

:hugs::hugs::hugs: kar, self weaning at a young age can be very upsetting. i hope you mchn has some advice.

l&cm - getting your first af back is the pitts. i hope you're feeling better as today goes on.

mks - ya to ella!6.13 is a lovely weight. our girls are pretty close, indie is about 5.8 last week.

tonsils are better today but I'm still just going to hang at home. DD1 now has a cough too:rolleyes:

kar

15-07-2009, 08:18

thanks jess, going to really get on the water/nuts/fenugreek/feed feed feed/rest plan for a week and see how we go.

if my supply is good (which i don't feel it is at the moment) and he still doesn't want boob, well, so be it.

15-07-2009, 08:28

At the end of the day with BF you can only do as much as you and bub are happy to do to continue the relationship. For some, no matter what you do, unfortunately there isn't a lot that can be done to continue BF.

I was devastated with DD1 having to wean at 4 1/2 months. She wasn't gaining any weight(oh a good week was 10grams!), she was screaming with hunger constantly and comp feeding was just becoming so often and I got nothing when I tried to express that I stopped cold turkey at 4 1/2 mths. No expressing, no more feeding and I had no discomfort, no leaking, nothing. I know it was the right decision for her but it was still upsetting for me as I hadn't been ready to stop yet.

Just another thing, that as babies age they do become more efficient, so the shorter feeds aren't always an issue(though I can see you have a few different things going on that do indicate a lower supply). I'm finding that having eggs for breakfast in some way shape or form really helps my supply.

kar

15-07-2009, 08:36

Yeah, have been telling myself that re the short feeds for weeks.

Well, after refusing to feed this morning the little monkey has done a nice long sleep for the first time in a while. Can just never figure them out!

I did feed him to sleep to try and get some more milk into him :shame:

Yep, we have the hunger screaming going on here too. Then he feeds for 5-10 mins and that is it. Then less than 3 hours later we do the routine again. He wakes up after a 40 min nap famished. Is there such a thing as a 4.5month growth spurt?? That goes for a about a month??

Will add eggs to the milk diet.

Karice

15-07-2009, 08:38

kar - :hugs: we've had the same thing here once we started with a few ff to give me a break. I kind of suspected it would happen, they're not silly these kids, they don't want to work hard for food when they know that it can come easy from a bottle :laughing: The CHN i spoke with the other day said that if I wanted to go back to BF, then you need to offer the boob and if bub won't take it then put bub down for 5 or 10 mins until they start to get upset and offer boob again. Only offer the bottle after 20-30 mins and when bub is really upset. TBH, I'm not fussed, FF is easier for me, I'm not so stressed, I'm finally getting more than 2 hours sleep, Cady's getting sleep...The benefits of BF are far outweighed by the benefits of FF for us, so in our case, FF is best for her and me so I've finally started to stop feeling guilty about it and its a huge relief.

Newme - thanks hun :hugs:Lee is going to have another go at it this morning, but TBH, I don't trust it and he will just get cranky lol. I might take you up on that offer when we get back. Oh, and I went to Dimmies yesterday and I found a FIVE pack of plastic backed velcro bibs for $3 :D They're pretty plain but a bargain.

TJ - :iagree:a stay might just be the little 'pick-me-up' that you need. Let us know how it goes.

well, need to get showered and hit the road. DP had to go hand in his centrelink form before we can go. Cady's having a sleep before we go and DP still has to sort out the mess that is the car seat hahahaha

love u all

kar

15-07-2009, 08:47

thanks kaz, but i am a hard ****, felix doesn't get a bottle when he wont feed properly!! I just put up with a grumpy, sleepless baby and keep offering him boob every 20 mins for an hour or so!

Happymumma

15-07-2009, 09:27

Hi Ladies

baaaah we are finally getting somewhere with the wrap we have one arm out and he has slept for 1.5hrs this morning :smiliedance: so far lol he has been catnapping really bad during the day lately where as before he was getting at least 1.5hrs sleep someone said it before you think you have them figured then they change lol!!!
Well took him back to the docs and she gave me a non steroid cream and some advice on good moisturisers and an oatmeal soap for his bath and OH MY GOD!!! i put the cream on him last night thinking blah this is non steroid cream prob weaker than the other stuff why bother and it was ALL gone this morning no word of a lie completely gone its the first time in about a month my little bunny hasnt had a red neck!!!!
So heaps pleased about that and because it has no steroids in it i can use it for as long as i need!!! but apparently that wasnt long!!! Lucky thou the tiny 15g tube cost us $35 (would have been $55 but doc rang through with a cheap script!) So im glad i didnt waste my money!!!
Does anyone else do a dream feed???
If so when are you planning to get rid of it??
With the car seat Kaz can you go to the local RTA near you and have them fit it thats what we did and we got a little cert to say its installed properly and it cost us $30 i know you are short on cash but it may be worth it if its so unstable and you have to drive to Grafton?
Well gunna take Jackson to my midwife for a hello and a weight check and ask a few questions lol (she is my aunty) hahaha so will pop back later and do some more personals take care ladies :flowerz:

kar

16-07-2009, 08:32

We don't do a dream feed, has never really worked for us. But, F seems to have taken to waking between 10 and 11 most nights for a feed. We just let him sleep and feed him whenever he wakes.

Well, my growth spurt joke may not have been so far off the track, when Felix woke from his 2 hr sleep yesterday morning he could crawl !!

Obviously I exaggerate wildly, but I put him on his tum and he started drawing his knees up under his belly and pushing himself along on his tum with his knees and feet. Propelled himself from one end of his rug to the other. Then did it all again when I put him back at the end. Then, I put him on his back and went to the kitchen, when I came back he had wriggled and pushed himself around 180 degrees and about 30cms down his mat. He couldn't do any of these things when he went to bed :yelclap:

So, I think his feeding and sleeping weirdness and generally going back to abominable Felix was a wonder week thing. He was completely placid yesterday, happy, sleeping etc. And no where near as hungry.

Also, at mother's group our MCHN said "When your bub is sitting up as well as Felix they can try a cup". Ha ha smug mothers with babies who sleep through and who patronisingly and insultingly said that I will probably get a good baby next time. He might not sleep but he does lots of stuff as he has more time to practice! :laughing:

LeeJ

16-07-2009, 08:49

Happymumma

16-07-2009, 09:22

well done Felix!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:yelclap::yelclap::yelclap:

PippaG

16-07-2009, 12:59

Go Felix!! :yelclap:

We still do a dreamfeed, though it's more of an awake feed now. We were thinking of fazing it out as Will wasn't taking much but he's gone back to taking most of the bottle again now.

Will is still trying to roll and still getting really frustrated that he can't get his bum and legs to follow the rest of him :p

Luckily after our dodgy night the other day with him crying, he has done two good nights so fingers crossed that stays. I can cope during the day just about but by the evening I always hope he settles nicely. We were meant to be going out this lunchtime, I popped Will in his cot whilst I got ready and came back and he was fast asleep :sleeping: We were only meeting DH so I told him we wouldn't bother, and he's been asleep for nearly 1.5hours now. :)

So solids ladies I need some advice. W now takes 240ml for 4 bottles and 180ml for his dreamfeed. The 240ml is for 4-6month old so the tin tells me which I know is just a guide. Do I offer him more milk or start on solids? He's munching on his hands a lot which I'm not sure if it is a sign of teeth, normal 3.5 month old behaviour or a sign he wants food?? His head is still a bit wobbly and he isn't really interested in my food. Any suggestions??

Happymumma

17-07-2009, 06:45

Yay!!!!!!:yelclap:
Just had to post that i had to wake Jackson up this morning he slept from 6:30pm til 7am when i got him up not a peep out of him all night!!!!!:eek:
What a good feeling although i did have to rush in to make sure he was ok cause he normally wakes at 5am and comes to bed with me til 7 but not today!!!!
:fingerscrossed: it stays this way hahaha prob not lol
Sorry just had to post was a bit excited :smiliedance:

Karice

17-07-2009, 18:19

Hi Girls,

can't talk for too long as I'm on MIL's comp and the stupid wireless out in the bush is shocking!!!!

anyway, we looked at a nice house today, is a big 3 bedroomer that's owned by the church so its been well looked after, has a lovely secure fence and is in a quiet area but I can walk to EVERYWHERE as its right in the middle of town which is awesome. We're still waiting to find out if we've been accepted or not, I hope we do, we fell in love with the house when we saw it.

It's been so good to be back home. It's been lovely to walk down the mainstreet and get stopped by lots of people that we know who wanted to say hello :D everyone seems pretty happy that we're coming home. Cady has enjoyed being doted on by the grandparents and aunts and uncles and her not quite 2 year old cousin is obsessed with her :laughing:

anyway, we're farm-sitting for the il's at the moment. MIL and step-FIL had to go down to sydney for an engagement party so we're on cattle duty for a few days. A new calf was born day before yesterday, except that SIL had to pull it out coz it got suck ... a bit :barf: but it happens sometimes.

righto...um so yeah, Cady's slept well in this country air, but she's decided to start to teeth while we're here...perfect timing.

Gotta run girls - big congrats on Felix!!!!!!!

Happymumma

19-07-2009, 07:24

Hi All

Wow 2 days with no one posting where is everyone ????
Karice i know you have a dodgy country line hahaha hope your enjoying it down there:D sounds fun im a country girl i love the farm life wish i was still there!
But where is everyone else tinytots last i heard you were going to have a night stay how did you go did you get to relax???
Mmmmm let me think tommo ive seen you on FB so i know your around where's the updates on how j is going???
Pippa,Suby,eeyore,hubnbub,kar,and anyone else ive missed where are you lol
well im sure you have all been busy but we have to keep this thread going i like catchin up with you guys!!!!
well big hellos anyway:wave:
Hope to hear some news soon

LeeJ

19-07-2009, 10:20

im still here, reading along, just being slack!

so hi to everyone!

we're going ok, shaun has FINALLY got 2 days off!
its been 8 months since he has had sat & sun off!
(except the weekend i had Josh)

wohoho!

tinytotsmum

19-07-2009, 11:34

hey i aqm still here just havent posted i am quite sick at the moment back off to doctors not sure if it is a head cold but think there may be something more going on so have to get some blood tests done so off to doctors tommorow. emily so far hasnt got it so yay.
i have started doing avon which is quite a bit of fun and havemanaged to sell all of ems raffle tickets so she can be in the grandfinal of little aussie ( not sure if i told everyone that she got entered and made it to the grand final). but other than that it is just sleeping appointment and eating.

pippa g - emily is 4 1/2 months old and is on solids already adn she only takes 200ml bottles but she has breakfast with the 200ml adn then lunch with 200 ml but really you will know when it is time or if you still are unsure all i did was get the rice cerial make it kinda runny as it gets thick quick and gave it to em for 2 lunchs and then left it to see how her body coped she was a little constipated but was fine so i knew it was time. but if you want to ask anything just pm me and ill try to help. em has been on solids since about 3 mths old.

well im still bobbing around in the background. havent gone and spent the night in the mother baby unit as of yet probably wont as i seem to be getting better just need to get my bloods check adn there is a little worry at the moment as a few people seem to think i may be pregnant already so see how we go.

ok chat later or well read later catch ya all round.

Karice

19-07-2009, 14:45

Hi Girls,

I've tried to post a few times but the stupid country wireless keeps dropping out by the time I've finished typing and I lose everything.

I think it must be the country air and having nothing to listen to but cows and birds but cady has never slept so well in her life!! I guess it makes a difference compared to back in Brissy when she's constantly got stupid hoons doing burnouts and yobbo's having a shouting compitition right outside her room.

Little bugger has become quite the fussy feeder too. It's my own fault, we've slowly ended up giving her a bottle before bed as she won't seem to finish it normally...finally twigged that she's refusing the bottle coz she thinks she's going to be put to bed once she's finished it... So now i've resorted to sitting her in a rocker or her capsule to feed her and she takes the lot without so much fuss, and then I make a point to let her up to play for a bit before going to bed. They're not silly these kids are they...

had a good day yesterday but it was a bit long, poor miss was buggered by the end of it. Having a big family bbq tonight so that should be fun, I think xmas was the last time we had everyone together at the same time. There's a few issues with our little SIL at the moment but I can't really divulge too much here, when I get back home I'll explain the juicy details :p hahahah well must run.

Dp's just finished the cattle and I've spent the day cleaning MIL's house for her so she gets a nice surprise when she gets home.

lovelovelove u all xxxxxxxx

Happymumma

19-07-2009, 14:52

Hey all
Good to see there are some peeps still around lol
Tommo- yay for hubby havin time off:smiliedance:
my DH is off with us as well after doin his 25 days straight he is spendin a bit of time with us now its so good hey!!!!

TinyTots- hey yeah i think im getting a cold too :( its come out alot today and i really dont want Jackson to get it so trying the steam bath with oils tonight see if i can kick it before it gets bad and :fingerscrossed: bubba doesnt get it!
You guys were trying soon for another one any way so it might be a good surprise for ya if you are pregnant again would you be cool with it????
I know you are braver than me lol i would go insane if i fell again now lol
But it is good that you are getting better and dont feel like you need the night stay :yes:
Oh well people nice chatting
catch ya soon

PippaG

19-07-2009, 20:07

:wave: i'm still here, been thinking how quiet it is in here lately, not that I can comment as I'm so rubbish at getting on here.

Tinytotsmum - good to hear that you're feeling better. :fingerscrossed: for blood test results. Will you be pleased if you are pregnant? I'm already thinking about number 2 but don't think I could cope right now, so you're braver than me. :)

Nothing much to report here, all still the same. I'm home alone at the moment as DH has gone to emergency doctor as has a really bad toothache so needs some powerful drugs to get him through the night. Luckily for me, Will went down like an angel after his last bottle, and so far is still quiet :sleeping:

tinytotsmum

19-07-2009, 22:04

im not sure if i would cope if i was pregnant i would find a way to and my mind is alot more sorted about it all with the preclampsia excetra i dont see it as bad that i will more than likely have it again i have finally started to see it as a benefit as i now will know what to expect and if i dont get it well thats even better. i would and i wouldnt like to be preg again but who knows if it happens its a blessing if not we can try again later.

my ticker is just counting down to when we were thinking about starting might be a bit after that but yeah who knows.

anyways need to go put more deep heat in my neck not sure what i have done but the last 3 days different parts of my upper back and neck have been rediculously sore and tinight i cant move it so yeah.

well better run back to masterchef it the finale yay

kar

20-07-2009, 11:36

Hi ladies, I'm still around, nothing much to report. Pippa, 4 months is generally the earliest it is recommended to start solids, Felix is BF so I am not really sure about taking lots of milk, but my friend did start solids when her boys started taking 300mls of formula at a go! Can you talk to your MCHN?

I am absolutely convinced that boys are hungrier than girls - confirmed by my nana who had 6 boys and 3 girls :laughing: so maybe he is just a hungry boy at the moment?

Kaz, how is the move looking?

20-07-2009, 11:54

hey i'm another lazy poster here, ie reading but not posting much. have a lot going on and usually only catch up via the ipod at night so it makes it a bit hard to do big posts.

ttm - i hope you get your test results soon so you know whats going on.

pippa, i'm pretty clueless on solids, i think with dd1 she started somewhere around 5 - 5 1/2 mths. we'll do blw with indie as it seems the easier option to me.

tash :smiliedance: yay to shaun taking a weekend!

kaz - oooh yay for cadys big sleeps! i hope you get the house you want:fingerscrossed:.

AFU - we had a good sleep friday night, 6:30pm - 5:30 am:smiliedance:, would have been nice if it continued, but hey I won't complain!

MIL has landed herself in hospital, so that's going to be tying us up in the evenings for a few weeks I'd say. Waiting to hear what her treatment will be.

Anyway, indie's figiting away on my lap so must dash!

LeeJ

20-07-2009, 12:18

pippa, dont know if you're interested in making your own baby food, nut this site has HEAPS of info
wholesomebabyfood. com
i was amazed at the info, so have a squize.

we tried J on homemade pureed pear last fri, not particuarly interested, gave him a try on sun, definatley interested, took bits on the end of his toungue, then when he is done he just gagged on it, lol.
he only had maybe half a teaspoon.
BUT, last night, grizzle grizzle, drool, chew, chomp, we figured the teething started in the last few days, and ramped up yesterday, got out one of the frozen pear cubes, OMG! did he go mental for it!! i mean, cracked it when i took it away!

Gave him another one today, loved it.

so, just play with it a little, i dont mind that he is having the pear, ect, because he has reduced his feeds by alot because of the teething, so its good that he's getting something.

remember, it can take up to 12 times before the will accustome to the taste and texture of a new food, so persevere, even if he doesnt seem to like it:)

rambled much?:laughing:

tinytotsmum

20-07-2009, 18:10

YAY not pregnant whoooo that was lucky just have a bad flu and i have to wait till after the flu is gone till i can have the blood tests but he has given me the form already so i dont have to go back yay.

20-07-2009, 19:54

Glad you got the answer that you wanted ttm, sucks having the flu though. Hope em doesn't get it.

sounds like lots of our babes are teething. Everyone keeps saying they think indie's teething. She does drool a lot and likes to chew things, but I don't see any definative signs of teething. maybe I'm just oblivious because i'm with her all day:laughing:.

I asked the accountant today for an appointment and he said "yep, how's tomorrow night at 6?". Considering bas needs to be in in 8 days I had to take it, means I've had to get my backside into gear this afternoon getting the last of the bank rec sorted. I was 3 transactions away from being clear for last financial year and my vpn connection went down:rolleyes:. But on the up side, means I've got time for bubhubbing tonight:D. It will be nice to have all of our taxes done nice and early this year, especially when I have an idea of what the return might be:D.

Alright off to drag my sorry backside to bed while I wait for DH to come home.

mks

20-07-2009, 21:13

Newme, your accountant should get at least 2 weeks extension on the BAS.

I have also been slack with posting.. have noticed not many of us come here anymore.

I have been pretty busy trying to organise Ella's christening. It's in 5 weeks and still have a fair bit to do. It's almost like organising a wedding!

I think my milk is drying up. Ella doesn't seem to be complaining but she is certainly not feeding for long and I can't seem to express anything over the past few days. Today I fed her at 8 am, was out for the morning so gave her a bottle of expressed milk from the freezer and then came back home and tried to express at 12.30. I would think 4.5 hours late I should be able to express a fait bit. Nothing came out! She has had 2 feeds sicne and is fast asleep now so not sure what she got. Just tried to express again 3 hours since the last feed and got a couple of drops out. I didn't want to start formula quite yet but I really want to be able to feed her with a bottle when I am out and about... we'll see I guess. I know that once I start dropping feeds (even 1 FF per day) my milk will dry up - exactly what happened last time. Decisions, decisions..

Happymumma

21-07-2009, 08:13

Morning Ladies
Glad to see more ladies are popping in and updating :yelclap: thought I would do a big post today seen as though im feeling a bit more motivated than the last couple of days.
Ihave had a cold for a couple of days now and been feeling miserable luckly it looks like Jackson is gunna avoid it thank god!! I had 11 hours of sleep last night and I think it was exactly what I needed to let my body recouperate . Hubby tended to bubs but there was much he had to do bar a few dummy spits and the dream feed. Typical everytime DH takes over he is a little angel well I shouldn�t say that really since Friday he has been like a different bub he no longer cat naps in the day and sleeps through til 7 now not 5am, seriously I don�t know what I did different but he is being so good :cloud9: he still needs resettling at about 4 or 5 am and has a few dummy re insertions occasionally but other than that is going well!!
Someone metioned the christening plans well don�t get me started lol we were planning to have Jacksons in about a month but have to put it back now til Dec because the godfather we chose just got deployed with the navy :( so we are now doing it just before xmas I know I know not cool but it�s the only time we can do it before he turns one!!! The other thing is because we will have the celebrant at our house doing the naming ceremony we are going to surprise everyone and get married at the same time!!!!! So it should be a good day provided I can get it all sorted lol
All I really have to do is plan his naming day and get a nice dress to where so it shouldn�t be too hard all kinda low key Dh and I have been together for 12 years and engaged for 1 and a half so we think its time haha
Ok enough about me lol time for some personals
TinyTots- Glad you are happy with the news of not being pregnant and I hope you get the cold sorted soon it sucks being sick and looking after a little one :(

Pippa � on the solids thing we started Jackson at 16 weeks and its only really now that he is really gulping into his meals we started with the farex and made our own puree veggies and fruit and ice cubed it cause they only really taste at the start so you don�t wanna waste a whole jar of food if they are only gunna eat one or two teaspoons!! Then he started having 2 cubes then 3 cubes and then 4 cubes lol so now I freeze it in little containers hahaha we still give him jar food as well we prefer the Raffertys all natural pouches the Heinz stuff has ground rice in it which plumps up the meals but makes Jacksons eczema flare so I rather the Raffertys cause what it says it has is all it has!!!Plus they have heaps of different tastes that I prob wouldn�t puree myself like spinach and he loves them!!
Just go with your own instincts Jackson is a big bub for his age and was constantly draining bottles and I now believe that because he is satisfied food wise is why he has stopped catnapping in the day ??? Just a thought I had the other day lol
But yeah only you know what feels right if they don�t want it they soon let you know!

Tommo- good idea with the pear cube for soothing the gums!!! Will have to remember that ,Jackson loves his mesh feeder and chowing down on cold stuff lol

Newme � all this tax talk reminds me to get my butt in gear and get our returns done could actually come in handy since DH is not working at the moment lol

Mks- I hope you can still breast feed for a bit longer Im a FF so I cant offer any advice but I know some of the other ladies may offer some tips for increasing your milk if that�s what you want to continue doing? Im sure either way all will be good :o

Well not many personals really to catch up on lol I did more rambling about me than anything else hahaha well have a lovely day ladies
Bye for now

kar

21-07-2009, 09:03

MKS, this is exactly what I was like last week, but milk seems to be back this week? I do feel like we are probably drawing to an end though unless I can get Felix eating enough solids to just keep him going a bit longer - he is ravenous and just screams and screams when he doesn't get enough milk. I had lunch with a friend yesterday who has a boy who is 5 months. From 3.5 she was comp feeding but he is now having 3 square meals a day and she is back to fully BF for his milk. I just worry because milk is the main source of nutrition until about 9 months I think and wonder how we will make it. Felix generally finishes his feeds within about 10 minutes max and often just seems to lose interest once he has taken the edge off his hunger, I think because there is not much there. I am doing all the usual things to increase supply, so :fingerscrossed: I am really not ready to finish BFing yet. But, I am also getting pretty exhausted - Felix is waking more often overnight for milk so we often do 3 feeds between 7 and 6 when he is ready to start the day. I am sure this isn't helping the milk supply (the exhaustion that is). I am starting to cheat and have DH give him a bottle for the first feed of the night, which I know will not do great things for supply, but I am really turning into a zombie.

Crystal - great news on the catnapping, gives us all hope :laughing: Felix really just has no pattern - yesterday he had a 2hr sleep in the morning, 1 hr at lunch and a nap in the afternoon then this morning it was up at 40 mins on the dot. I really can't see any patterns with his catnapping anymore. Just seems to change day by day.

Argh, tax!! Better think about that I suppose.

I originally told my clerk (who organises my diary for work) that I would be back to work in Sept. Got an email yesterday booking me to do a trial for 3 days in the first week of Sept. I feel really conflicted - we had decided that I wouldn't go back until at least next Feb at the earliest, but when I was booked yesterday I was quite excited at the prospect of going to work. And it was nice to know people still want me.

LeeJ

21-07-2009, 10:03

GGGGGGRRRRR!!

Shaun just popped in before his next job, and as he left, he shut the door LOUDLY, and woke Josh up!:hair::banghead::hair:

trifecta

21-07-2009, 12:15

Greetings all, I have returned! We got back from N.Z late Sun and are off again tomorrow back to Brisbane for the weekend. Poor Jacob is loving having all his toys and things back here at home and we are off again on yet another plane, we are lucky he's such a good traveller.
Aww I've just looked over and he's crashed out under his play gym, poor lil guy had his needles earlier.
Anyway, so we had a great time away and Jacob was just perfect with all the busyness of it all.
He had a few milestones while we were away - had his first taste of solids and can sit up by himself : ) I'm so proud! He didn't particulary like farex much, found apples and pears too tart but loved mashed pumpkin and sweetcorn. I'm just giving him a wee taste every few days of something and he gets better every time. When we have finished all our tripping around I will make up some frozen puree meals.
Not really much else to report, I don't think he will ever sleep through the night, but ahh well that's o.k.
He now has his own room, so we will start moving things in there soon.
Weighs 6.44kg today at 4m and 1 week.
Hope everyone else is going well, you moved already
karice?

mum2zara

22-07-2009, 12:53

Hi all!! Been ages since I have written...been running around trying to get things sorted as we are hoping to buy a unit, but with me on leave was not so straight forward with the bank...in-laws going Guarantor, hope it does the trick....

Anyway, I am battling with the queen of catnappers here...it doesn't seem to matter how much or little sleep she has in the previous sleep, she will wake up at half an hour on the dot!! At least it used to be 45 mins, which would be much better!! She is WIDE awake and near impossible to get back to sleep...by the time I do, she is exhasted, as am I, and she will sleep for a little while but then it throws out feeds etc.

Would be fine if she was happy to be up, but no - cranky and tired, def still needs more sleep, she just doesn't know it after her little 'power nap'...

Is anyone else battling this?? Any tips??

On another note, gave her a taste of some pear mixed with farex, loves it...doesn't know how to eat it though, with her tongue getting in the way...gave her the spoon which she loved to suck on, but whoah - what a mess!!

PippaG

22-07-2009, 16:38

Hi all! Thanks for all of the advice re solids. I think I'm going to wait a while longer before I introduce them to him, but when i do I'll go armed with all of your great advice and info.

Mum2Zara - no advice unfortunately on the catnapping but I feel your pain! W tends to just do a 30-45min nap at each sleep, and then refuses to be resettled. He does however usually go back to sleep if I take him out in the pram, or failing that will lay there quietly. The lunch nap is usually a disaster as he will generally refuse to sleep at all, so I try to plan to go out somewhere as I know he'll sleep in the car and pram. This is getting to be a pain though as it's so difficult to get anything done around the house.

Tommo - Grrrrrrrrrr to people that wake babies :no:

Kar - Definitely nice to know that you're missed at work. I've got until end of the year to make my mind up about returning, and at the moment I'm just ignoring the fact that i need to decide.

TTM - Pleased that you're happy with your pregnancy test results

Happymumma - How exciting about the wedding and christening on the same day. I bet everyone will be so surprised.

AFU - William finally managed to roll at lunch today :yelclap: I'm so proud of my little guy. I've have also finally got myself organised and am arranging William's christening, we're aiming for 18 October so got a while yet, which is good!

Talk to you all soon :)

kar

23-07-2009, 08:17

M2Z - re the catnapping, we have been dealing with this since F was 8 wks. I have tried many methods which have met with varying success, we are now probably at about 30% success rate with sleeping through up to 40% with resettling. I try hard to resettle for the first sleep of the day because I find that is our key - rest of the day is OK if he has a decent sleep then, if not disaster by about 3pm. I also have taken the view that anything of about 1 hr is pretty good and don't ever expect anymore than this. We are finding that at 5 months (OMG) F is much more manageable when he doesn't get his sleep than he used to be so the catnapping is getting easier to deal with.
We ALWAYS walk between 4 and 5pm as he will generally fall asleep in his pram/ergo then but will not sleep in his cot for this last sleep of the day. This then gets us through to bed time at around 6.30/7.

HnB - glad your trip was a success, we have two weeks to go before our big adventure.

Crystal - how exciting a surprise wedding!

Felix did more slug crawling yesterday, hilarious! He will only do these tricks when he is nudie though, he only does serious rolling attempts nude too. Weird.

Karice

23-07-2009, 19:48

Hi Girls!

Just got back from Grafton so I'm pretty stuffed after the drive - quick update on us:

We found a house and got approved, we get the keys on monday. Department of housing agreed to pay 50% of our bond, so we just need to pay 2 weeks in advance. DP's stepdad knows someone with a truck so we're going to see if they will do a deal, get some free hay for the use of the truck or something. So I've got tomorrow and saturday to finish packing up the ENTIRE house and clean the place on sunday, the truck might be here on sunday and then we need to drive back down to grafton on sunday night to go and sign the lease on monday. Its a really lovely house in a nice quite neighbourhood and I'm litterally 400m away from the brand new shopping centre that got built while we were away so I don't even need to drive my car anywhere!!!

I had to start Cady on solids while we were away, little miss piggy just wasn't satisfied with milk anymore. She was having 6 210ml bottles a day. I can't quite get her to take the full 240mls in one go, but a few hours later and she was hungry again. She loves farex, she started eating a tablespoon right from the start which really surprised me, but she still takes a full bottle!!!! She's having farex and a bottle for breakfast and for dinner and just bottles during the day. The weird thing is that I'm finding that the only way she will drink a bottle is if she's sat in her capsule, not sure why... I'm sure when we get more organised with a highchair she'll feed in that, but at the moment she refuses to take a bottle in your arms, she has to be sat and she HAS to hold the bottle. Same with the farex, she'll only eat it if she can hold the spoon. If she's not holding the spoon she spits it out but if you let her "feed herself" she gobbles it down...miss independant :rolleyes:

well must dash, so much to do not enough time. Once the craziness has died down I'll come on here properly

Happymumma

24-07-2009, 06:29

:crying::crying::crying:
BOOO HOOO my DH leaves to work in QLD for 4weeks+ on Sunday im sooooo sad

JustUs3

24-07-2009, 08:54

Hi All,

I've been reading along but DH has been hogging the laptop so i havent had a chance to post (i normally read along on my phone but it would takes hours to do personals so i thought i'd wait).

mks- I'm a FF so have no idea about BF but just wanted to say good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Happymumma- I'm soooo jealous that you no longer have a catnapper, tell me what you did!!! L sleep's really well at night so i shouldnt complain but why cant i just have the best of both worlds..LOL :laughing:

kar- YAY F :yelclap:, L has rolled over a few times on her own and if we pull her towards us she rolls over but she hasnt done it on her own for awhile. I cant wait till she starts crawling, I'm sure i'll be whinging that she's growing too fast once she does tho.

hubnbubby- Glad you had a good time on your trip, we're going to QLD in September and I'm so worried about how L will go on the plane so you've given me hope. She'll be 6 mth's old then so hopefully we can entertain her with toys and stuff and if worse comes to worse we'll just give her food...LOL.

mum2zara- Yep i hear ya, i have a catnapper too. Sometimes i can get longer than 45mins out of her but most of the time it's 45mins on the dot. she doesnt seem to be grumpy when she wakes up and i can sometimes put her back down after an hour or two but it would be so much easier if she just slept for longer! I have no advice but i feel your pain, hopefully it's something they grow out of. :hugs:

PippaG- YAY William, it's so cute when they roll isnt it. I love the look on their face when they roll onto their tummy, they look at you as if to say 'hey how did i get here'...LOL

Karice- Congrat's!!!! That's awesome new's about the house! Have fun moving in.

Nothing much new with us, we're going to give L some rice cereal stuff on Sunday, she's been gobbling down her milk lately and screams for more when it runs out so i think it might be time to give solids a go. If she doesnt like it i wont push her but its worth a try.
We brought a jumperoo for her yesterday, she love's it, her feet only just touch the ground so she cant turn in it yet and hasnt worked out how to bounce but she'll get the hang of it. I wont be going to a toy sale again in a hurry, some women are feral! Poor DH didnt know what was going on....LOL

Ok that's all i can manage atm, hope everyone's well.

xxx

24-07-2009, 14:08

Indie is just so unsettled today and I'm at a loss of what to do. I know she's so overtired but she's fighting sleep so much every day. She barely ever sleeps during the day and when she does its either in the car or in the wrap(only if we're out walking around though) and usually only for 1 sleep cycle. I'm exhausted today. DD1 was up last night throwing a whopper of a tantrum from 1:30am - 4:30am this morning. At 2:30 it wasn't good enough for her that DH and I were up with her, she had to wake Indie up too. Even the dog was over her tantrum and took himself outside to sleep.

I was feeling so positive yesterday, I've spent a lot of time this week catching up on things I had been putting on the to do list for a while. I've caught up on basically all the housework(just need to mop the floors but then again I've been saying that all week now) and I've caught up on all the niggly(yet important)things that have needed to be done around the office.

Maybe I just need some sleep? I've been running on about 2-3 hours less sleep per night for the last week then was up for a few hours with DD1 this morning. Just needing to vent I suppose. DH is out at jobs all day today, kind of wish he was here so I could bundle Indie up and head to the shops in the hope that she would have a snooze in the wrap while I shop for the birthday present for a party DD1 is going to tomorrow morning(yeah, I'm soooooooooo organised:rolleyes:).

Sorry, this wasn't meant to be a pity post, just getting it out there I suppose.

Happymumma

24-07-2009, 14:22

Hey TicklePink on the catnapping thing i honestly cant tell you what i did different hey i think it was a combination of keeping him up longer,solids,(but they took about 4 weeks for him to stop tasting now he is going for it lol)and him getting a little older there is about 2 weeks difference between Jackson and your bubba so hopefully its an age thing! for your sake any way !! Sorry i couldnt help more but he seriously just went from 45min then to an 1 hr then to 1.5hrs and now its generally 2x2hr naps and a 45min arvo one! so it was kinda gradual he has been doin the 2 hr naps for about a week now occasionally having a 1 hr one here and there.I think his tummy is fuller from the solids so he can sleep longer but seriously who knows with these bunnies they are so hard to figure sometimes!

JustUs3

24-07-2009, 14:30

Newme- Lilly has been unsettled all day today as well. I dont know what is wrong but she is so cranky and unsettled, it's driving me insane. She's normally very happy to sit in her rocker and look around but today she's been screaming and has been so hard to get to sleep. she was screaming so much before that there were tears :hissy:. I havent been able to ge anything done today, i havent even had a shower yet...LOL
I wish i had some advice for you but unfortuantely im going through the exact same thing, hopefully it's just a bad day for our bubba's. :hugs::hugs:

Happymumma- THANK YOU! You have given me hope!!! I agree, i cant work these babies out, one minute everything's fine and the next everything's turned around. We are going to try Lilly on solids on Sunday so hopefully that makes a difference :fingerscrossed:

Have a great weekend girls!
xxx

24-07-2009, 14:34

Thanks TP, its refreshing just to know Im not alone!

PippaG

24-07-2009, 16:17

LeeJ

24-07-2009, 16:28

NewMe you are definitely not alone, we've had the day from hell here. There have been tears from W and from me. I reckon it's his wonder week, we should be used to them by now but he changes so much every time he hits one. I just want my happy little boy back.
:yes: he should almost be out the other side, josh improved dramatically 3 days ago. so william should almost be over it:fingerscrossed:

24-07-2009, 16:36

So do they have a growth spurt or developmental growth spurt about now?:o hahaha I'm so clueless! We're home now and she's happy atm. Big sister is out birthday party present shopping with Nanny and DH is at work.

I really should get indie in the bath while I have the chance and get the nappies sorted and back in the drawer plus there's still dinner to cook before DD1 gets home. Ahhh the weekend at last:rolleyes: time to put on another load of washing!

LeeJ

24-07-2009, 17:20

http://www.livingcontrolsystems.com/wonder_weeks/pg12_600.png

heres a 'wonder week' chart,

pippas' willliam is 3 days younger than josh, so i think thats what the go is for her.

it says 17 weeks, josh is 17 weeks today, but i think he goes through these things a week early.

haha, says indie should be coming into a sunny period:laughing:

teething maybe? maybe the teeth are just moving???
maybe she's getting ready to do something new???? that can give you grizzles for a few days before they do it.

hope it gets better soon jess:hugs:

TuesdaysPrincess

24-07-2009, 19:03

HI girls

Just popping in quickly to say hi! I've had a username change, as I was getting requests from odd people to comment on doctors that I work with, so I've changed my username to something less obvious and hope that people won't stalk me anymore!

Little B is still really irritable. We've sent off some poo specimens for testing to see what he is reacting to, his poos are still really mucousy and they STINK for a baby that is exclusively breastfed. Honestly, they make your eyes water and he can clear a room in two seconds!

Hopefully when we find out what is wrong then he will become happier and we can all get some decent rest!

My DS1, Master S, turned two a couple of weeks ago, and it was like a light switch got turned on and now he's a terror!! What happened to my pleasant little boy? I want him back!

Anyways, just popping in to say hi, and letting you know I am thinking aout you all.

Karice

24-07-2009, 19:09

Jess - if it's any help, since we got back to Brissy Cady's been a bit bipolar :laughing: She's really laughing and giggling alot which she never used to do but she's getting grizzly really easily which is unlike her. She's also gone back to not sleeping during the day, although I'm convinced thats just coz of this stupid house and this stupid neighbourhood that's keeping her awake coz she slept totally different down in Grafton. She's also started doing this weird high pitched girly squeal CONSTANTLY today. At first I was worried coz I thought she'd hurt herself, but then I realised she's grinning as she's doing it, then it was funny, and then it just got really annoying :laughing: She litterally sounds like a puppy, weirdest thing I've ever heard... but on the developmental side, she's eating 2 solid meals a day and she's sitting up on her own and grabbing her toes, and she's just in the middle of a major growth spurt, she feels like she's gained half a kilo and she looks like she's grown about 2cm in length. She's wearing 0 sized clothes today. Her 00 tops were a perfect fit last wednesday and this morning I couldn't do up the buttons under her crotch...oh my...

Karice

24-07-2009, 19:13

24-07-2009, 19:22

Tuesdays princess it took me a while to figure it out but it clicked as soon as you meantioned his poos. Poor little mite. I hope the results can lead to some treatment that suits.

Kaz wow cady's so clever! Indie doesn't even roll yet lol! I like that I can walk out of the room and she's in the exact same spot when I come back in though so works for us lol.

Thanks tash, maybe it's just an off day? Her oral thrush has flared up in the last 24 hrs so we've switched from nilstat to daktarin so I'm assuming that will have something to do with it. Oh and big sister having a 3 he tantrum at 1:30 this morning wouldn't have helped!

LeeJ

24-07-2009, 20:43

tuesdaysprincess, well its a nice inconspicuous user name, so stalking should stop;) just glad you left some details so i knew who you were.

hubnbubby, you're so lucky that J is great travelling, im still not even gain to take josh overnight:o

mum2raza, have you tried putting her in your arms in the breasfeeding position, and patting quite hard on the bum to see if you can coax her into another sleep? i find sometimes i have to do this to get another sleep out of him, otherwise he'll be majorly grumpy.

kaz, glad the move is working well for you. josh started doing this annoying cat squeel last week, drove me CRAZY, he's stopped doing it now thank goodness!

tickledpink, try putting a cushion under her legs under the jumparoo, or a book, or a wii fit balance board if you one, lol. josh doesnt bounce in the jumparoo, he does in the jolly jumper, but i think he;s so overwhwlemed by things in the jumparoo, he doesnt realise he is supposed to jump,LOL. haha, poor dh goingt to the toy sale, would have been like a deer in headlights:laughing:
i see newme is having trouble too, so it muct be a development thing, gah, more fun to look foward too!

newme, oh dd1, that is not on! wow, what a terrible night! it feels so good to get on top of things, i get a bit stroppy if i know i have to get things done, but never get to them (oh, that would explain my over all status all the time, LOL)
hope tonight everyone sleeps likes angels so you can get some sleep

happymumma, that really sucks that dh has to go away,shaun spent a couple of months away 2 years ago, it was quite testing for us. he ended up leaving his job because they wanted him to work away again, and it wasnt worth our relationship, iykwim.

ok, i think ive caught up on a few of you now:)
josh doesnt roll much either, does a few rolls from belly to back a week, but nothing consitent, and is doesnt seem like he 'knows' how to do it.

ah, after our HORROR week last week with him grumping all the time, he's been perfect for the last 3 days, i cant get over it actually. had his needles on wed night, and it was horrible to see, but hasnt reacted at all this time:smiliedance: his reflux was SO bad after his 2 month ones, so i was very scared, but, nothing, so yay!

its so nice to have a baby who doesnt scream, and cry, and wrestle with you all day, he still feeds 3 hourly during the day, but meh, what ever.

ok, best go and do the mummy thang, seeya girls.

25-07-2009, 05:39

Oh tash you crack me up, sleep like angels! Ha no chance. Dd1 had a slight tantrum at bedtime didn't want me to take her yoyo away(punishment for the bedtime tantrum) so she stood in her doorway trying to block me, I opened the door behind her and she slammed it back shut at me but I was holding indie so she actually slammed it into indies head:( then she realized shed really hurt indie so starting crying/screaming.so there I am standing in my hallway with both of them screaming at me and still no idea when dh would be home! Lucky I only heard from dd2 overnight and this morning, dd1 and dh are having a sleepin. Yay for them, I feel like waking dh and saying, ok my turn now, out you go! Last time him to attend to indie in the morning he literally just picked her up out of her got and bought her to me- I still had to get back up to turn her heater off and got no sleepin! Grrr!

Oh well birthday party day today, hopefully dd1 will be in a good mood and dd2 will surprise and at least nap!

LeeJ

25-07-2009, 08:03

oh, cady loves to test the limits doesn't she!?
with our dh's out working as much as they do, you can feel like you're doing it on your own.

:laughing:dh classes that as my sleep in too, um, hello, i still have to get up! i didn't even get 2 extra mins sleep! Josh does not snooze in bed with me, he wants to be entertained:rolleyes:

Karice

25-07-2009, 09:24

here's a quick on: In between us leaving for Grafton and coming back the government closed the damned toll boothes on the Gateway Bridge and there are signs to pay online...actually you can't just pay your toll and be done with it, you have to sign up for a frigging account, even if you only use the damned toll once every now and again, OR you have to travel to the nearest customer service centre which is RIGHT IN THE CITY to pay your toll in cash. How farkin dumb is that? So instead of paying $2.95, I now have to pay for all these other fees, like admin and videolink matchup. What a rip off :banghead:

kar

25-07-2009, 10:38

whole lotta squealing going on here too.

OK, my brain is completely not functioning today so I can't do any personals, I just tried and drew a complete blank after just reading everyone's posts.

have a great w.end everyone!

Karice

25-07-2009, 21:54

sorry for the rant but I am so super duper stressed. The guys that are supposed to be collecting our furniture tomorrow have decided that they want to do it later in the week but can't confirm when. I have to go to Grafton tomorrow night so we can sign the lease on Monday morning as arranged. I can't clean the frigging house until the furniture is out and now we're going to have to leave all our stuff in the house while people come and go as they please to look at the place, so not happy about that. DP thinks that he might just come up and 'babysit' our stuff until the blokes decide to turn up and he'll clean up behind them. He's supposed to start a new job on tuesday which he's going to have to hold off which means we're going to have to borrow even more money to pay the rent. We're about $700 in debt to DP's mum and we owe cash converters $300 on a cash advance. I can't take this pressure anymore!!!!! I need a break. I just keep telling myself that in a month it'll be all over and we'll be back on track...hopefully anyway....

JustUs3

26-07-2009, 19:15

TuesdaysPrincess- I have no idea who you are (LOL) but i hope they find out whats wrong with your little man soon, it must be horrible to see him in pain and not know what's wrong.

NewMe- How's indie now? Is she over her bad day? L is a lot better now so i think she was just having an off day or something, hopefully she doesnt have another one anytime soon :laughing:

Kar- Hopefully you're squealer has settle down too, must have been the day for it!

tommo787- Thanks for the advice on the jumperoo, we put a blanket underneath it and she seem's to be bouncing a bit more now. Glad to hear J has been good for you, as i say all the time, i dont know how you reflux mum's do it! It must be a relief to have a happy baby.

Karice- Sorry your having a rough time, :hugs: try to stay positive (easier said than done i kow) and keep telling yourself that this will be over soon.

Well we gave L her 1st try of rice cereal today and it seemed to be a success :yelclap: at 1st she wasnt sure and didnt understand that she needed to open her mouth but once she got the hang of it she loved it! She had about a teaspoon, i didnt want to give her too much as she had just had a bottle but i'll slowly give her more each day and see how she goes. On another note, I'm seriously thinking about getting rid of L's dummy, i was up 3 times last night to re-plug her which is exactly what i was afraid would happen when we 1st introduced the silly thing. I'm hoping last night was a one off as i really dont want to have to get rid of it as she settles so well with it and goes to sleep within 5 minutes of me putting it in but there's no way im going to get up 20 times a night to put it back in!

Anyway, hope you all had a good weekend! :flowerz:

27-07-2009, 05:02

***Selfish post alert***

I just feel like death warmed up atm. I'm 99% sure I have mastitis on top of another bout of oral/nipple thrush and on top of that I'm doubled over in pain with my stomach. Not sure why the tummy pains but that alone was agony last night. Dh was worried about my wound being infected again but the pain is higher up, just under my belly button. Lucky mums on holidays this week(has to work tomorrow though???), so I will ask her to help me get to the gp today.

So that's the physical side...

Mil is in hospital, was taken in a week ago after hitting her emergency button because she woke up and couldn't talk(she has ms and is high care with carers coming twice a day to do everything for her). So tests came back that she had no platelettes in her blood, she was very very sick. She's a lot better now but they still don't know what caused it. They've done so many blood tests and even a bone marrow sample, I worry that a) they won't find the cause and b) it'll happen again:(.

Then Friday I find out my grandfather from the uk went into hospital for a small "routine operation", but then yesterday we find out he has quite advanced lung cancer that has spread to his liver:( he's refusing treatment(stubborn old git!) but even if he wanted treatment he's actually not well enough for them to do chemo on him. Dad has been told to prepare for a trip home. We'll find out more in the next few days about how quickly dad should organize his trip. I wish I could afford to go, take the girls. I'm upset that I won't ever get to have a photo of grandad and my girls. I don't know why that's upsetting me, I suppose because my other grandfather plays such a big part in their lives and they are both such a big part in my life. I don't have a grandmother. I have a step grandmother(mums side) but my dads mum died when I was 2/3 and I don't remember her at all(but we have a few pictures together). It was only in Friday that I asked dad about my mums mum(as I just sense it's painful for her to talk about). Dad just said "tbh, we wouldn't even know if she's still alive and I don't think that really concerns your mother." so I guess I'm just feeling grief/upcoming loss on a lot of levels. My other grandfather(mums dad) is also not in the best of health. Quite severe emphasema, so he's on oxygen about 16hrs a day and just hybernates each winter.

So that's it, I'm sick as a dog(seriously haven't felt this sick in years) and all this family stuff has just emotionally drained me.

Tp - indie was much better yesterday, actually ha some naps(only 45mins but that's more in 1 sleep than she sometimes has in a whole day!)

Kaz - hang in there hun, things WILL get better(((hugs)))

Happymumma

27-07-2009, 07:50

Oh man this is tough DH has been gone for 3 days now and im soooo lonely im trying to keep occupied so time goes quicker but its so hard when all my friends are at work and my sister has her own little ones to look after :no: And for some reason im obsessing about geting Jackson out of his wrap it is driving me crazy i just dont know how to tackle it and i know he really doesnt want to be wrapped any more but just cant settle without it im starting to stress over it and i dont know why i keep telling myself just one step at a time but i just want to put him down no wrap and he will sleep ..... Yeah right lol So i have decided for a whole week i will put him in his sleeping bag with a loose wrap over top and see how he goes i know night time will be hard but i just HAVE to do it and stick to it so i dont keep confusing him :( But then part of me thinks no just wait til DH gets home and we can tackle it together arrrrgggghhhh i dont know :confused:. Sorry i just had to have a rant and get it out!!!

trifecta

27-07-2009, 08:08

Back again from more travels, I worked out that Jacob has had 8 flights already in his life. He slept again the whole way, I just hope he stays like this as he gets older. Ha ha yeah right I'm sure!
Newme- hope your feeling better? Everyone seams to have a cold or flu at the moment, not much fun when you have the little ones to care for.

HappyM- It sucks been without DH, I hope the time goes quick for you. Try not to stress out too much and enjoy the time with just you and Jackson.

Karice- You all moved? Hope it all goes o.k I know it's a stressful time.

Just a quick one as I have a mountain of washing to tackle and one very messy house with suitcases and clothes everywhere.
Been thinking about everyone and hope you are all chugging along ok. Jacob just gets more beautiful every day and I just can't get enough of him :cloud9:
DH has had 5 weeks off work and has another 3 to go, so he's been really enjoying spending time with us too and Jacob has just loved having his Daddy around. He's such a Daddy's boy already, when he's feeding he has to stop and stare at him and get a smile before he will go back to feeding. Cheeky.
Gotta run, check back later. x

kar

27-07-2009, 08:08

Jess :hugs:. What a tough time you are having. Being either sick or having such a hard family time would be hard, but both together is just not fair.

I think it is quite natural that you will already be going into grief, and of course you want a family photo with your grandfather and the kids :kiss:

jojoT1979

27-07-2009, 08:35

hi ladies.
i made a post in last months chat... but that's as far as i got! :-S
im 30, recently relocated to the south side of brissie, have a supportive dh who recently left the army to start an apprenticeship, im currently on mat leave from working in gov - allied health... can't think of anything else.
our first bub dd (amelie charlotte) was born 28.3.2009 a couple of weeks early due to being induced because of pre-eclampsia. so, i was previously in the april pregnancy group but am looking forward to getting to know you all better (have had a quick squiz at your posts).
no significantly horrendus times yet. breastfeeding didn't go well :no: so dd is fully formula fed now. she had silent reflux for the first couple of months, but it seems well managed now. she's a bit of a catnapper during the day, but is sleeping through at night generally. although i think she's having a growth spurt so we've re-introduced the "dream-feed" which has worked well! think she's 'on-track' developmentally and her height for weight is perfectly average. ive been very tired lately, which makes me extra grumpy but we're muddling through. she's had a couple of colds and the dr we have seems to like the antibiotics... she's also had a skin infection which bubs with excema are supposedly prone to, and she had a negative reaction to the antibiotics he gave her for them. all in all, we're very lucky to have such a lovely cheeky beautiful bubba.
dd is off to get her 4 months shots today! :o fingers crossed she goes as well with them as she did with the 2 month ones.
:) happy monday, have a good week!
jojo :ecomcity:

kar

27-07-2009, 08:52

I love the name Amelie!

HnB - I hope Felix is as good a flyer as Jacob. He threw up non stop on the way back from Sydney, but I don't thik it was motion sickness, just reflux reacting to me having had a decaf coffee everyday for 4 days. Bad selfish mummy! He was happy, just throwing up. It is going to be a long trip to LA if he does that! He also didn't sleep a wink because there was so much to look at but surely he can't stay up for 16 hours. Actually, this is Felix we are talking about, couple of 45 min naps should cover it :laughing:

27-07-2009, 10:33

Thanks girls, I'm still feeling miserable. Panadol took care of the fever but I am still quite ill so good old mum Is coming over to take me to the doc. I'm really terrified that it's something to do with my c/s. I'm off thinking it's mastitis because a decent feed this morning made a world of difference there but I can still barely walk from the tummy pains, quite bad nausea and now add diahorea into the mix too. *g* I'm feeling on top of the world.

Jojo I hope the shots go smoothly today.

HnB lucky you and Jacob! Another 3 weeks of dh home!

Crystal - I hope you find something(other than obsessing about jacksons wrap) to help the time fly. Good idea about the wrap loose over the sleeping bag, I hope it works for you!

Lih do you still read along? I've been hoping you're ok.

kar

27-07-2009, 12:31

LIH I was thinking about you at 3.30 this morning too. And Jeca and Tee.

I miss you guys. And lots of the other missing march mums.

27-07-2009, 14:22

Not sure about Tee but I heard from Jeca last week, I'm sure she'll pop online soon to update us when she gets a chance.

Well I'm back from the GP, at least it's not mastitus, just a bought of gastro. Oh fun just what we needed. At least at this stage no-one else in the family has any signs of getting it.

I was meant to talk to him about contraception while I was there. Woops. I'm actually a bit hesitate about the mini pill anyway as it has been known to cause some milk supply issues in some women. At least dh is open to other options and is fine that I'm taking my time a bit to actually research things properly. Actually he dropped a bit of a bombshell on me the other night, we've always talked about 2 children(that's all he's ever wanted, I never had a number in mind) but he said the other night that he's open to a 3rd, but I need to be able to cope with the 2 we already have first(DD1 stresses me out - I think we need to look at a restricted diet for her to help with her behaviour as a part of me being able to cope a bit better - she's pretty full on, and I really do notice a difference in her dependant on what foods she eats).

Hmmm anyway, off to wallow in self pity back in bed!

Jeca

28-07-2009, 09:31

Hi girls! Remember me?! It's been a while. We've been having a roller coaster ride here. The kids are doing wonderfully well. Millie is thriving and she's such a charming little enchantress! I however have been hit by post partum health issues again. My thyroid went out of control again (as it did after DS2), but this time it's affected my heart. Bloody thing. Cardiologist has given me a script for meds, but I'm really worried about starting them while I'm still feeding Millie. Anyone got any good news stories about heart meds and feeding?

jojo - my DD is called Amelie too! We call her Millie for short though!

I'll try to post a bit more. I've had my Mum here while my husband's been on exercise for the last 5 weeks - he came home yesterday - yippee!!!

Must dash, little one is not keen to go to sleep right now!

kar

28-07-2009, 09:43

Yay, I have drawn one out!

I saw you FB re this issue, no insights from me but I really hope you can work something out. Can your cardiologist advise you about this issue?

I don't know what to do with myself when F sleeps in the morning so I just end up internet stalking and doing absolutely nothing productive because I am sure he is going to wake any second.

TuesdaysPrincess

28-07-2009, 13:05

HI all

Well done to those of you who figured out who I am - bit difficult as I hardly manage to get on here anymore!

Kar - I use the times that B is asleep to have some 'me' time, especially when DS1 is asleep too! Don't feel bad for taking some time for yourself, little F has had a rough trot with his sleeping and you deserve a little 'you' time to make up for it.

Jeca - lovely to hear from you, sorry to hear that things aren't going so well health wise, but it must be great to have your mum helping you out.

NewMe - gastro sucks! You poor thing, I hope you feel better soon! Flat lemonade works wonders (plus it's super yummy!)

Karice - hope the move goes well and you get sorted soon.

JoJo - nice to hear from you again! Poor little A with ezcema, it's not a nice thing for the poor little princess to be dealing with, I hope it settles down soon for you.

HNB - wow, J is certainly the accomplished flyer!! I'm going to take B and S to Perth in September by myself, its going to be a nightmare but if I can see my parents again it will be worth it!

HM - hope you are coping ok with getting rid of the wrap. Have you tried a sleeping bag? It might just give a bit of extra security.

AFU - well my PND has come back again, and it's worse this time around, so I'm starting some meds to try and help. It's getting to the point where I'm worried about leaving the house, so I know I need to tackle it straight away, and not try to deal with it ineffectively. Hopefully I just need a little bit of time on the meds and it will be ok again.
Little B's poo results came back negative, which sucks because we don't know what's wrong with him now. So we're going to the paed, but we can't see him until 26 August, so I have to put up with a miserable, sick little boy until then. He's still a good size (6.8 kg at 18 weeks) but he only put on 280g last month, and the way things are going I don't think he'll do too much better this month, so hopefully the 26th rolls around really quickly and we can get some answers.
He's still waking 2-3 times per night, as is my other son (who is 2) so I'm utterly exhausted. I've ended up putting S in daycare two days a week (which we CANNOT afford) but he needs the stimulation and I need the break.
Anyways, thats about it from us. Hope everyone else is going well!

28-07-2009, 13:27

:wave: Jeca.

TP - Sorry to hear your pnd has surfaced again. I'm here if you want to chat:hugs:.

Unfortunately my tummy isnt much better today but the rest of me is. Its just incredible cramps that have me doubled over in pain.

Unfortunately I got the call last night. my grandfather passed away yesterday, peacefully in his sleep. so very sudden, but peaceful. Was hard to explain to dd1 but she seems to understand it so far.

trifecta

28-07-2009, 13:39

So sorry to hear that Newme :hugs::hugs:
At least he went the best possible way and hopefully without any pain. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I hope you get better soon too you poor soul, gastro is the worst. Has DH managed some time of work to help you out with the girls while your recovering? Don't overdo it like you always do!

TP- I knew who you were straight away :wave: I hope you get some answers soon for master B, having a sick lil one is awful, esp not knowing why.
Good to hear your on to it with the pnd also and not afraid to seek help. Good luck with the flying! Flying with J is easy as there is two of us, so I can't imagine the experience with a baby and a toddler and just you! You will prob be surprised though just how good they both are.

I brought a jolly jumper today, so much jolly fun! I was never going to get one but J's legs DO NOT stop moving from the moment he wakes to the moment he sleeps and he gets fed up with floor time pretty quick these days. He had a wee go in it before and loves it. It's pretty cute. I think he is going to be a very full on toddler, he has to see what's going on all the time and has to be kept busy. What am I in for?!

Happymumma

28-07-2009, 17:22

Hi Ladies i had all intentions to jump on here today and do some personals but got invited to my first play date with some lovely friends of my sisters who have children ranging from 2 to 8 months,so needless to say i went to that instead :yes:
Well it was interesting to say the least and i learnt that i think i need to get out more with Jackson so he can get used to other kids and babies and different environments , I spent most of the time trying to calm him down after everytime one of the other babies cried or the toddlers screamed!! He was so overwhelmed by all the kids and the change of environment i think it upset him a little:(
Any whoo we are going well with the wrap he is in a sleeping bag now with just his arms wrapped loosely will keep doing this for about a week then move to the one arm out and see how we go it cant be any worse than him waking 3-4 times a night to be re wrapped i guess!!!!
Well coping ok now with my man gone i have been keeping occupied as much as possible my friend has been staying over with me cause her man has gone away for work too.So all is good for now!!!
Well speak of the devil my friend has just turned up gotta run will pop back on tommorrow :)

28-07-2009, 19:19

Thanks hnb that's how I want to go too, pain free in my sleep. Ahh you know me too well, I am actually trying to take it easy. Spent all of Monday in bed which was nice:)

Crystal glad you're making progress in ditching the wrap!

Happymumma

29-07-2009, 08:40

OH MY GOD!!!!
Just had to jump on and share my news!!!!
well last night was hell for me and bubs i literally got up what felt like 50 times to pop his dummy back in last night so needless to say i was over it !!
So this morning i thought ok i wil leave one arm out of his wrap and not offer his dummy unless he is upset i put him down and he nuzzled into his blankie and fell asleep!!!!! Oh my god wow i dont expect him to sleep for his usual 2 hrs but 45mins will be fine at least i know he can do it :) So now im going to do the same thing for every sleep for the next few days and see if he gets used to either sucking his fingers cause he can get them now or settling into his blankie both of which i dont have to get up to give him in the night!!!! Fingers crossed i know i will prob be in for a few sleepless nights but i figure it cant be worse than getting up 50 times a night to pop his dummy back in!!!!
I was just excited to know he doesnt actually need his dummy to fall asleep!!!!
Im slowly winning this wrap/dummy battle and it makes me feel so much better i know i have a bit to go but progress is good when you can see it!!!!

29-07-2009, 10:39

:smiliedance: Crystal that's great! DD1 was about the same age when I got rid of her dummy and wrap and we never looked back! It's great!

Happymumma

29-07-2009, 11:05

Thanx New Me well he did only sleep for 45mins but i went for a walk up the street not long ago to get some stuff and he has fallen asleep in the pram no dummy and no wrap at all again so i have left him in the pram now hopefully he sleeps longer than 45mins this time:p
Im just not sure what to do when he does wake up after only 45mins sleep again cause i know he will need more but wont re-settle even if i do wrap him and give him his dummy which i wont lol maybe i will have a nap with him on the lounge to get a little more sleep into him so he is not too unmanagable tonight :yes:
No matter what happens now im not going to re-wrap that arm if i have to give him his dummy i will cause i cant do too many things at once but will work on the wrap first then be more dedicated with the dummy after he is fine with no wrap i think thats the plan .......awwww im so hoping this all works i know he can sleep through all night with no fuss its just getting him there :yes:

mum2zara

29-07-2009, 12:28

Hi all, have been reading along, just not writing - same ol story here really...catnaps that last half an hour, silent reflux still makes every day anyone's guess as to how good/bad it will be, still waking a couple of times a night etc...

And I think the sure fire signs of teething have now reared their ugly head...ahhhh, the joys.

DH and I still struggling to adapt to life with a third very important person in our life - it was just us 2 for 10 years, so it's hard not having any 'us' time anymore. Hate the feeling of being distant, look forward to the days when we find the balance and work together as a family.

Happymumma - congrats on the progress re wrapping. i was getting up several times a night to rewrap also, until we started double wrapping, and haven't had to do it since...don't know why I bother during the day, considering she only sleeps half an hour at a time anyway!! I've become really reliant on the dummy too...it makes my life easier, so i'm happy to use it - it's either that or rock/pat til the cows come home.

Geez, that all sounds very negative!! On the plus side, I just love her to bits and she makes it all worthwile...I cannot get enough cuddles (not that she gives me a choice most of the time, as she won't let me put her down!!), she's a gorgeous, funny girl. Love watching her personality shine through with each day :D

kar

29-07-2009, 13:42

M2Z - we are still struggling with the 'us' aspects too, it is a big transition to make after a long time of just the two of you. DH feels like all I think/care about is F (which is true to a degree, I only have so much to give and at the moment F takes it all) and I feel like the only person in the house that makes DH happy is F (long story re depression). Half the time I feel like a wet nurse whose only function is to sustain F for DH's enjoyment.
Had a massive barney on Sat night along these lines.

LeeJ

29-07-2009, 15:01

:yes: afraid we're struggling with the 'us' aspect, was thinking of getting the book 'life after baby' or something like that.
tough stuff.

Happymumma

29-07-2009, 16:54

I think every couple goes through that adjustment period im sure we will all be fine :yes: Its hard i know but its harder when they are not around sometimes just being there even if you are not talking or communicating like you used to is enough. Shaune and I were not really having that much "us" time either and with lack of sleep money issues and everyday life added to the mix the couple senario is not what it used to be, now that Shaune is away i relise this even more!!!:(
Im hoping by the time he gets back Jackson will be a little more used to being left at nana's and we will be able to have at least one night every two weeks for just us!!! I really do think we all need that at some point to stay connected to our partners:yes:
Hang in there ladies these days dont last forever and before you know it our bubbas will be not as dependant as there are now and we will be wishing it all back :rolleyes:
Any hoo Jackson was so buggered from not sleeping all that well today he had his bottle and fell straight to sleep with any luck he will be too buggered to notice his arm is out lol yeah right maybe for a bit but im sure he will relise at some godly hr in the morning:no:
Oh well early one for me too i think to prepare for the carnage wish me luck will fill ya in tommorrow!!!

PippaG

30-07-2009, 09:39

Hi ladies I've been reading along but haven't had much time to post this week.

NewMe - big hugs to you

HappyMumma - Excellent news about the wrapping and dummy. I know we've been lucky at not having to replace W's dummy all the time, but he does really like to suck his fingers so I'm beginning to wonder if I should try to stop wrapping him so he can get to his hands.

M2Z, Kar, Tommo - I know exactly how you feel about the lack of 'us' time. It has been a big adjustment to DH and I. You get so used to it being the 2 of you and I don't think anything can prepare you for when bubs comes along. It's actually nice to know that it isn't just us feeling this way! We love W to bits but it has been the toughest time for our relationship I reckon.

AFU - William is still rolling so much. I can't take my eyes off him for a second. We've got his 4 months jabs tomorrow morning, not looking forward to that!

Happymumma

30-07-2009, 11:28

Quick update from me Jackson slept like an angel last night with his arm out im so pleased day time naps are still a little sketchy but i wrapped both arms up today cause he was a little to tired and i wanted him to get a good sleep:sleeping:
Im so pleased that we are making progress now!!!!

30-07-2009, 15:30

LeeJ

30-07-2009, 16:45

*sigh* just having a tough day today. Yet again Indie hasn't slept much(but is sleeping atm:smiliedance:). I was a bit upset this morning over grandads funeral arrangements so rang mum about it but while on the phone with her someone stole a car from a lady right in front of them so dad tried to take the guy on but the guy got away in the car. Then dh is pretty upset with some stuff going on at the office.

I think I need a big banana smoothie and some yummy dinner to help make me feel a bit better.
oh jess:hugs::hugs:
things are just crappy at the moment, hope some :sunshine: comes your way soon:hugs:

im still here, just lurking, keep starting a post and getting interupted...

hi everyone,
crystal, hope the days and nights go quick so your man gets home soon

trying no wrap, going ok, josh us growing up quick, umm, thats about it, :wave:

30-07-2009, 18:02

Thanks tash. I know it's just a case of when it rains it pours, just wears you down though.

Didn't help that af came for an early visit*rolly eyes*

Wish you could do emoticons on bh mobile!

trifecta

30-07-2009, 18:57

Oh Newme that just sucks! Just when you are slowly getting over the gastro, af comes along to cheer you up on top of everything else :hissy: Hope you feel better soon and the stuff at the office isn't too stressful.

Nice to hear from you Tommo :wave:

HM- Hope Jackson sleeps well tonight without the full wrap. Jacob never liked been wrapped for some reason.

I can't believe how quick our bubba's are growing too, everyday Jacob seams to have more hair and it's not just me, everyone comments on it! He just gets more and more cleaver with each day :goodvibes:
Except he's a bit sick the poor wee munchkin, has had a cold the last few days and developed a rash all over his body so took him off to the doctor today and she say's it's just viral. His little nose goes from been blocked to constantly running and he's just not his chirpy self. I hate giving him panadol but it does seam to steam the flow of the nose and cheers him up a bit. Hope it doesn't last to long.

ummm wat else anyone??

bongos

30-07-2009, 23:23

Hi everyone! :)

Hope you and your bubbas are all doing well.

I think it�s been a couple of weeks since I last posted, and probably a while longer than that since I had a decent bash at personals. Like many of you, I don�t have much free time at the moment.

NewMe- :hugs: Big hugs. So sorry to hear about your grandfather passing away. I hope you�re over the gastro quickly� I think it�s the most horrible illness. Like HnB said, I hope you�re getting some help with the girls so you can recover and try to take it easy�just read your most recent post, what a rough day you poor thing. Wish I could shout you a banana smoothie and a nice meal, hope some more hugs help :hugs:.

Jeca - so great to hear from you after so long. :hugs: Sorry to hear about your heart issues. I hope the meds work well for you and don�t interfere with BFing Millie. Is there an information phone line at your Women�s and Children�s hospital that could help you? Glad to hear all your kiddies are doing well.

Kar - when are you off to LA? Sounds exciting! Well done for encouraging some of the March mummies out of the woodwork� there are quite a few we haven�t heard from for ages.

Karice - hope the move back to Grafton goes well after all the stress you've had to deal with. Fingers crossed for a smooth run from here on. Great that you got the house that you wanted. Thinking of you.

TuesdaysPrincess - good to hear from you again (I know who you are too!). Sorry to hear that you are grappling with PND as well as trying to work out what�s going on with B. It sucks that you can�t get in to see the paed any earlier. Hope the meds work well for you and that the 26th rolls around quickly.

Tommo - hi! How is J sleeping now? Has his reflux settled at all? Oh� remember the M&M cookie recipe you gave us months ago?... well I finally baked a batch about 3 weeks ago and they were very yummy, I think DH is waiting for the next batch. Hope to squeeze in another batch soon.

Hubnbubby - Hope poor little Jacob is better soon. He sounds like a very good traveler, he�s quite the jetsetter already!

M2Z, Kar, tommo, PippaG and others - I can definitely relate to the lack of �us� time (and �me� time too). It gets me down occasionally as things can seem more distant between DH and I and I feel like I just fade into the background. Not sure whether it�s just my distorted perception at the moment because I am so tired and a bit stressed. Maybe what I pictured life as a SAHM in my head was a bit unrealistic - I thought I�d have heaps of time to devote to each child (playing, learning, etc.), some time to spend with my husband, a reasonably ordered house and maybe a skerrick of time to myself but instead there are a lot of times where I feel overwhelmed with all the washing, cooking, cleaning and other chores.

HappyMumma - sounds like you are making good progress with weaning Jackson from the wrap. I�m still wrapping Lily and don�t plan to stop yet as her sleeping is all over the shop and I don�t want to make it worse. That said, she will happily sleep in our bed with her arms out of the wrap. It can be really confusing as to when to stop wrapping - with DS1 I stopped wrapping when he was 8 months old, I thought it was annoying him and interfering with his sleep. After a month of not wrapping and his sleep getting worse I spoke to a CHN who recommended that I start wrapping again� I did and he slept better and woke less at night. This probably sounds funny, but he was nearly 2 when I stopped wrapping him� he used to help pull the wrap (or should I say single bed sheet) over him� hilarious! He could easily get out of it in a flash at that age but he liked the security of it. DS2 was also wrapped until 20 months or so. Neither of my boys slept through consistently until they were about 17 months old� so I�m assuming with Lily that I still have another 12 months of broken sleep :laughing:.
Hope the time until DH gets home passes quickly and that you manage to keep yourself entertained. Good on you for getting out and about with Jackson to a play date. I�m sure it will do you both the world of good to get out and about.

PippaG - Hope William goes well with his shots tomorrow. Wow, he sounds like he sure gets around already!

jojoT1979 - hi! Hope Amelie�s shots went well.

Nomadic - hi! You must be busy with your sister and her family now they�ve arrived. Hope you�re going well. Must be great to have your sister back.

Suby - how are you? Hope all is going well with you and your little ones. Hope we hear from you soon.

LIH - hope all is well with you. Miss seeing your regular posts� it�s so hard with each extra little person to find the time! Hope your mastitis has cleared and that your thyroid levels are under control.

TinyTotsMum - how are things with you? Hope all is going well at your end.

Mks, Tee, MellyMumma, Pebbles, GirlsOnly and all the other March mummies I�ve missed - hi and hope you�re all well. Welcome to any of the new mums I�ve missed.

AFU - not much time for an update as DH has just brought Lily back to me needing a nappy change. I seem to be struggling with tiredness at the moment� not helped by Lily not settling properly at night time until about 1.30-2.00am and waking twice before 7.00am, which is when I need to get up for the boys. I think the tiredness is impacting on my mood quite a bit which is no surprise. I am trying to get Lily up earlier in the morning in the hope that this will improve her night sleeping� she has a good sleep from about 6.30am until 10.30am atm. This morning I kept her up from 7.30 until just after 9.00am� we�ll see what happens over the coming days. The boys are going well and are now sleeping in the same bedroom� yay, DS2 has finally settled in his new bed for night sleeps. DS2 is also dropping his day sleep (good and bad) - good because he no longer takes 2 hours to get to sleep at night, bad because now I get NO break during the day� harder to keep on top of the baskets of folding, dishes, etc. etc. Hopefully I�ll adjust to this new routine over the next week or so.

Lily is thriving and is such a gorgeous bub. She is very vocal and loves a good chuckle� I�m convinced she�ll be a chatterbox. She is also very cheeky� about a week ago, I had her wrapped and placed her in the middle of our bed at about 1..00am just as I was ready to collapse into bed. DH happened to be awake to and she just took one look at each of us and started blowing raspberries� we just cracked up laughing. Cheeky monkey!

Anyway, better go change this nappy and try to get to bed!

Hope to pop in again soon!

Have a good night all,
Lisa :wave:

Happymumma

31-07-2009, 07:44

Hi Ladies
Lisa what a great personals effort !!!!!!
Well night 2 was also a sucess didnt hear from him til 4am then it was just his dummy and that was it :yelclap:
I think he likes his arm out so will give it a few more days just to be sure and then get rid of the wrap all together for night sleeps any way will still use it in the day for a bit he doesnt seem to get into a deep enough sleep in the day to not bother with his arms but at least its progress:yes:
Still missing DH alot and i spoke to him last night he may be away for longer than we thought because the job is behind schedule so he will have to stay til it is finished which could be 8 WEEKS :no: blah not cool but we need the money and if all goes to plan and if he is there for 8 weeks we should have about 10,000 to 15,000 grand in the bank by the time he gets back so i cant really complain and when he does get back we should be able to have a few weeks together before his next job! at least thats something i guess:rolleyes:
And the more he works the longer i can stay at home with Jackson which is what we both want we dont want him in daycare if we can help it.
So will just stick it out i guess it should go quick.
Any way better pop little one into bed the eyes are getting rubbed lol
Chat later

LeeJ

31-07-2009, 08:27

lisa, you are doing a fantastic job!!
you're doing so well to be coping with lack of sleep, the boys and hubby, its tough!
i never realised how truly horrific sleep dep is, everyone says 'oh, sleep now', but no one says, it is like tortue....
i hope lily gets the hang of things soon, could you try a sleep school? i know a few freinds that have had huge success with it.
Managing a household, it's 3 full time jobs on it's own, there is not enough support and recognition for mums.
you are amazing lisa, i take my hat off to you:hugs::hugs:
I hope dh realises how much you are doing, do you have family that can help? Josh gave me a weeks reperive. with only getting me up once a night, that was enough to get me up and with it again. but now he's back to 2 hourly, boohoo.
The reflux. well he takes losec everyday, which has stopped the screaming (takes 80-90% of stomach acid away, so even though still spews all the time, it doesnt burn),screaming has stopped, thats a plus! still a struggle to get him to feed somedays, but its alot better than it used to be.
yay for cookiez!:p

PippaG

31-07-2009, 11:32

Well we're back from the doctor. Poor little guy cried much more than he do at 2 months, and then cried all the way home in the car :( Just given him his bottle and he's having a bit of a play but I think it'll be bed time soon.

I had him weighed and measured and he's now 64cm and 7.5kg :D so he's heading along the 75th percentile for both, but head circumference still just cruising up to the 50th!

kar

01-08-2009, 12:20

Hi everyone, we have been pretty much cruising this week, so lovely! Felix has had a good morning sleep each day, only had one full hysteria moment for the week which was my fault - he needed to sleep but i wanted to go to mother's group, knowing full well he can't sleep when there are things to look at! Meltdown by about 2pm when he had been up for 3.5 hrs...
He has just been completely cheerful 90% opf the time. I think the solid food is starting to kick in, he has also moved to 4 hr feeding completely of his own accord so my boy is not hungry anymore, yay!
Nights have been our standard pretty much - milk x 2, up between 6 and 7 but we are having more days closer to 7. Last night he decided 3 - 5 was appropriate play time and wouldn't go back to sleep which is highly unusual for him, but no stress, he does this about once a week/10 days and it doesn't seem to ever become a habit.
I kind of feel like we have turned the corner over the course of the last 4 - 6 wks.

Please don't let San Fran trip take us back to where we were, we leave on Friday morning and back 31 August...

Lisa, I so hear you and I only have one bub. It is just relentless, a life of bloody drudgery is how I feel a lot of the time. One woman on BH said one day "my job is mothering our children, not being the family maid" or words to that effect and it is so true and it is so easy to become the maid. My DH doesn't expect at all for me to do everything but I just can't let things go, it is not in my make up and I feel guilty about having take away for dinner for $$ and health reasons although we have started having one night a week take away and it is great not to have to cook once. It is not a set night, just when I can't be bothered - could be a slippery slope since most nights I can't be bothered anymore!! I feel like I never have a moment to myself anymore where I can just 'be' not 'do'. And that feeling of fading into the background, that sums it up exactly.

I wanted to wrap Felix until he was bloody 2, unfortunately he didn't agree :laughing:

Pippa, hope William is recovered and doesn't have any nasty side effects.

Well done to Jackson on moving on from the wrap, and Crystal thanks for the reminder that while 'us time' has changed it is better than not having any at all!

Jess, hope you can catch a bit of a break this w.end, you need and deserve it.

TuesPrin - I know who you are too and hope you can feel better in yourself and get some answers about B's tum.

OK, better go and do the bloody washing for the 15th time this week :rolleyes:

Just Add Water

01-08-2009, 16:29

howdy :) well, i am alive but still have no net access so on the phone. Have been trying to keep up though.

Well we have had an insanely busy couple of weeks with my sister and her family arriving from os. 4 adults and seven kids in one house makes for a lot of noise lol. They've been back and forth to sydney house hunting, car shopping and trying to get things sorted so i have been a mum of seven a few times lately! Thank god i have an eight seater car. It didn't help that dh has been really busy so i really have felt like a single parent. The kids all got on fairly well so that made things a lot easier. And i have become an expert at putting a snack together for six kids in a snap. :) thank god for the popcorn machine lol.

Kar, we go to our local club for dinner on monday nights. The kids are at after school care and daycare so it's my day off, and that includes cooking!

I'm having problems with my teeth so have not eaten a proper meal since last sunday. I was meant to have two wisdom teeth out on wednesday but i had a bad sinus infection that went into my cracked wisdom tooth. I was put on antibiotics but still having trouble so am going to have to go back and get some stronger ones. I think i have an abscess on the jaw and that's why it's extremely painful to open my mouth. God, i'd kill for a cheeseburger, but it takes me about an hour to eat a childs serving of mash.

Bubs is going well, tried him on farex against my judgement and he had a really good two days of sleep but insane pain from wind. I stopped it and he is sleeping better but no wind. I want to hold him out till six months so will see how he goes. I will prob try him with something else in a few weeks.

Ok, will keep reading and will enjoy the peace in my house as everyone has gone :)