Yes - No, baby shower???

[ForeverMine]

In a bit of a pickle. I'm only 16 weeks pregnant, but I have just started thinking about things like baby showers and what not further along in my pregnancy as I love to be organised and what not.

I'd love to have a baby shower but it's already seeming to be quite hard. Bub's dad and I are not together, but we are still friends (I spose you could say) and I still talk to his family, well some of it, and I'd love to have my family and his family and friends at this baby shower. It would be more of a celebration bbq than anything.

My family, now doesn't even like my ex, but have agreed to be 'civil' to him for my sake and for bub's. I know that my ex's father doesn't like me in the slightest and I don't know how he would act towards me.

So do I even bother? I don't want people coming because "they have to" sorta thing. I want people to come to celebrate a new life and be happy that theres an addition to their family.

My ex doesnt care either way what happens, as he blunty said, so it's sorta dampened my spirits already as bub's dad doesnt even care...

So, back to my question? Should I bother? Or is it a disaster waiting to happen???

[Grizabella]

It does sound like it could be a bit of a hassle. But there's nothing stopping you from having a baby shower, and inviting just your friends and family. A lot of people I know have just invited their friends. Kinda like a hen's night, no family involved.

I never got round to having a baby shower, and I can't say I am devastated because of it. It doesn't really make much difference. Th eonly real benefit could be getting some clothes and baby stuff gievn to yopu, which could save you some $$$ in the long run.

Hope it works out for you :hugs:

[cheezelkat]

I come from a broken family and I never had a baby shower. It saved a lot of hassle, and I have no regrets as I didn't want to stir up any drama. Everyone who was close to me broght me plenty of gifts anyway :thumbsup:

[sugar n spice]

It does sound like it could be a bit of a hassle. But there's nothing stopping you from having a baby shower, and inviting just your friends and family. A lot of people I know have just invited their friends. Kinda like a hen's night, no family involved.

I never got round to having a baby shower, and I can't say I am devastated because of it. It doesn't really make much difference. Th eonly real benefit could be getting some clothes and baby stuff gievn to yopu, which could save you some $$$ in the long run.

Hope it works out for you :hugs:

Well said jude
I would just have one with friends, your mum maybe those closet to you. You want to enjoy it as like you said its a time of celebration

[ForeverMine]

Thanks guys...

I think though I have already got to the point of not caring about that sorta stuff anymore...

Meh... maybe its just my mood. Tonight.

Who knows...

Thanks though for your suggestions

[Grizabella]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Just some hugs to make you feel better! Hope you feel happier soon!

[JATS]

I never had one and don't think I missed anything!

[Indigosmum]

I think it is essential you hold a get together of some sort.. even like a pposter said, just with your friends and family and dont have any expectations. Make the invitations from scratch, organise a food list of some little yummies you are going to buy, design a game or 2 to play, even hire out a vid to watch.. just do something with your friends and family who deserve to be there.

I desperately wanted a baby shower, thought about it the whole way along (after the first 12 weeks had gone by) I dont have a lot of friends and my exes (he was my actual partner of 9 years at that point) whole family decided they had more important committments to attend to, but in the end it turned out to be;
My Mum
My Grandmother (Dads Mum)
My Aunty 1 (Dads Sister)
Family Friend (Dads side)
My Aunty 2 (Mums Sister in Law)
My Sister in Law
1 girl from work (out of an invited 10!!) lol
My best friend

and believe me, although a lot more were invited, it was a gorgeous little party, nice and close and we played some hilarious games. SO initially I was hurt when people didnt want to show up, but realised it was their loss.

You organise a shower and party and celebrate with whoever turns up.. it doesnt have to be big, but you will have a smile on your face when you write it into bubs baby book and will have fond memories of it down the track!!!

Danielle - 25
Indigo - 16 months

[ForeverMine]

After thinking about it all night, I decided not to. But then I thought to myself...

A baby shower/BBQ is the only time within the 9 months of being pregnant, that im actually going to see people while im preggers. I want to be able to show off my belly and have a good time with my friends and family.

So after all day thinking about it... im going to have one. A huge one. Im going to combine a bubhub Brissie get together with it. Hopefully by then I will know most of the brissie mums and get them to come along.

My ex's dad can come if he wants. I have no problem with him at all. I still like him, and I think he would be mature enough to be civil and come. After all it is his grandchild. When it comes to my family not liking my ex, so be it. Either they can get over it for one day, or not come at all.

I plan to have this baby in both sides of the family. Sure it will be tough, but my ex's family have just as much right to bub as my family.

This is a time of celebration and I'm not going to let anyone dampen my spirits, my pregnancy or my baby. I just don't have time for people who do.

[oleander]

Id only have one if someone organised it - like my mother in law or my mum. Thats what happened when I got married. My dad's wife said she wanted to host a Kitchen Tea for me and she organised the whole thing. It was a bonus to get the extra pressies and it was a fun day. I didn't have a Hen's Night though, reason for that is I have only been living in Adelaide for 3 years and dont have a circle of friends so I dont think Ill be having a Baby Shower either. I dont feel like Im missing out by not having one. I just remember that episode of Sex and the City where the gals get invited to a Baby Shower and they dont want to go but end up going, but when theyre there they have a **** time because they dont have kids and dont relate to the excitement of baby stuff. Anyway, its up to you.

[Milliner]

I just had my friends and close family of mine we all went out for lunch it was good no hassel, just made a booking and we all met there!!