Unplanned Planned

[Sofi]

Hi, I don't know where to begin. I've got a beautiful little girl soon to turn 5 (starting school next year) and a perfect little devil of a boy who just turned 2 (my first pregnancy prior to my daughter was a misscarrage and 3rd after my daughter and before my son one as well) - due to clasic affects of a pregnancy e.g. tender breasts I decided to take a home pregnancy test, which although faint came up possitive - being overwhelmed I took another once again faint but positive. I'm still to see me doctor and conduct further tests but do not know what I should do with this pregnancy whether to abort or have the baby (I would never be able to put it up for adoption) - My partner and I both have a home (mortgage free) we are dept free and living on the wage of a construction (crane driver) worker. We both feel that we finally have landed on our feet and are able to enjoy life a little possibly even invest, we love our children dearly and children in general, however, feel that having this child we will be setting ourselves how should I say backwards, that we will home bound for at least another 2 - 3 years, but feel it would better suit us if we had another child lets say in 3 years tims (that would make me 36 - 37 years old. We also feel strongly again abortions if everything is in order with the fetous/baby, that it would be jealous/selfish of us to do so. Hence us being confused as to what we should do, espacially me as we have noe one to turn to with regards to assistance e.g. a mother? Help or a friendly word from anyone in such a situation would be extremely appreicated.:confused:

[defaipe]

at the end of the day no-one can make the decision for you.

me personally i think these things happen for a reason.. so no i wouldnt abort, i would always wonder what if. its just not something i could mentally deal with.

i wish you all the best

[Hooves]

I totally understand your predicament.

I too found myself having this dilemna this time around. We already had three children though.

Our third also wasn't planned, but we have strong feelings about abortion too. SO we opted to keep our third bub.

Our 4th bub, really did my head in. I did not ever want this many children. I was on the pill, etc. We chose to keep bub number 4 too.

I like to think these things happen for a reason. But seriously, only you can decide what is the right thing for you and your family.


From what you have said though, you at least sound financially stable, and like you guys have a loving home, with plans that maybe another bub later on.

You just need to decide, how much a bub will impact your lives, and if that impact will be negative. Then I believe you will have your decision.

Good luck what ever you decide. :hugs: