Dating

[Jensha]

Just a few questions. I've havn't dated for the longest time and have forgotten whats its like. And now with a child in toe it's a bit different.

When do you say you have a child?

How do you meet guys?

And what do guys think of dating single mothers?

I have no idea where to start but I'm thinking I'm starting to get to a place in my life where I would like to start dating again. I havn't even looked at a guy since before I was with my ex. And I started dating him in 2005 so it's been a long time.

[Zada]

you could try some free online dating sites. I met my dp on one. Just be upfront, you'll pick the good ones out of the ones that are just after one thing.
When it comes time to meet then if you choose to take your child along Id meet at a park or playcentre or something

[JadeyBaby2]

When it was just DS and I, I tried a couple dating sites....unfortunately for me I didn't manage to find anything of 'quality'.....and I found a lot of them saying the wanted a relationship were in fact wanting the opposite. OR they would throw that I have a child into the mix (like they didn't know that before they met me!!!!!). BUT in saying that there are the good stories (as above) that have happened, you just have to be able to see through the initial persona that is presented.
Sorry I don't have any great advice........I never got DS involved as didn't meet anyone of substance.

[Jensha]

I wouldn't take DD along until the relationship was deemed to be a long term one. Don't want to get her involved in adult problems/ relationships etc.

I'm a bit hesitant about online dating...biggest worry what if there a serial killer or something....is that weird to be scared of.

[myersmummy]

Hi.

Yes allways say that you have a child straight up - If someone dosen't like that fact then they are prop not for you anyway.

I often met guys on planes or while working. I sometimes wish their was some hot meat in my home town, but most guys here are mid 40 year old farmers, most married.

Most (nice) guys I met have understood that DD will allways come 1st in my life, no if whats or buts about it, and have respected that. If someone likes you it shouldn't matter if your a mother or not.

My standing rule is also that no man gets to met DD inless we are in a long turn relesionship, that looks like it has a future. I don't want to run the risk of her getting attached to someone and then they are gone.

Good luck with your dating and remeber there is nothing wrong with online dating. You are just as likely to meet a serial killer on the street.:)

[Issey]

my dating experiences over the past 2 years are RSVP where I met someome that I went out with for 18months. I corressponded via email first with 3 different guys and met one for coffee and it progressed from there.

My current b/f of 3 months I met at a RSVP single party at a pub.:thumbsup: I hadn't put myself back on-line but decided that I wanted to go out for the night :) if you go on the website you can find out when there is an event near you, although I think you may be rural??

When I met bf I told him that night (he asked) that I had a 3 year old. The next time I met him, was for a drink at a child friendly pub (had a playground and games room) so I took my son as there was no alternative, either that or don't go. Personally I think it doesn't matter if you take your child because you are a package, and it is no different from meeting a friend (unless you are all over each other!! which we were not as hadn't even kissed at that point).

I think it may be easier for me to meet someone of a serious nature for a relationship as I am in the 'older' age bracket so hopefully men of the same age or similar are wanting a long term commitment :fingerscrossed:

[Jensha]

Things have changed then lol...is online dating the 'it' thing now?

Is RSVP the best to join?

I'm thinking about it:o:olol

I have to make some effort because I'm not going to meet someone painting with DD at home lmao.

[shannon74]

hey dont strees im a single father i would rather date a sindle mother ,

plentyoffish.com.au its a american site and its freeeee and there are loads of ausssies on there .

just in brisbane i got 50 pages of women ages 21-35..

[SPC]

I've met a few nice blokes internet dating. It's good because you can weed out the idiots who can't spell without having to meet them. I think it's much safer than meeting random blokes in a bar, and you can have a quick 15 minute coffee and not have wasted a whole evening. I don't have my baby mentioned in my profile, but say I have sole care of my daughter in my first email, explaining why I have so little free time. It's good to see a few at a time, then you don't get over attached to one too early on. I think a lot of men can be a bit 'child in a sweet shop' and not want to commit to one person when there are so many on the site. Have fun! I reckon it's best to think of ot as fun and practice, because you're not that likely to meet the man of your dreams but you never know.

[SweetSerenity]

Hi there :)

I met my DP on RSVP too. The first day I joined he contacted me, we exchanged phone numbers, spoke that night, met the next day at work on my lunch break (we worked in the same area) and as they say, the rest is history :D

We now live together (have for the past 7mths), bought a new car together and are planning no.2 :)

For me, I personally would rather not drag out the meeting stage, for me it's better to meet asap rather than develop a "virtual" relationship.

Even if you talk on the phone beforehand for a while is a better indicator of what they are like opposed to talking on msn etc.

I agree that you mention having a child at the beginning as it will sift out those who will waste your time.

All the best :D

[crazymuma]

You've all got me thinking now - not 100% sure yet that I can trust a man not to fuk my life up again :yes: Would be lovely to meet a nice man - I'm told they do exist.:D

[Teley]

I over dating and men in genera.l......no advice here.
Men can go jump.