confused and afraid

[aisling]

Hi,
I am having my 2nd m/c and I am devastated. I am 35 next month and I guess I had in my head that I wanted to be pregnant before I turned 35, that's the cut off age in all the books for problems but I have problems already and am scared that this is it even though I know lots of people have babies after and it's fine...

I know I have a thyroid issue, I found out a month ago, and I am on thyroxine. I guess maybe this is why I was able to get pregnant again (the last m/c was in November and haven't had any luck since) - but even when it happened I thought oh, this might be too soon for my body to have adjusted to the thyroxine...

Also my progesterone is really low... I need any help at all on what I can do - I am going to try to get as healthy as I possibly can but I am so confused right now, and I'm so tired and I have been running around all week doing blood tests and seeing doctors and travelling here and there and I'm exhausted. This weekend I have a family thing and I can't get out of it and I just want to go home and cry by myself. My husband is being amazing which of course is excellent and I do know I am really lucky... but .... I so want a little baby of my own. I feel so stressed right now, don't know how I'm going to go back to work, I already am stressed with my job as it is, but if you have to pay the mortgage then what can you do... I have a headache and I feel tired and I feel sick and I feel like I've been hit by a truck basically...

Is there anything that works? I guess I know I can get pregnant, that's something... but how do I get healthy? I was given supplements to take by the doctor but for example the Magnesium is quite strong and I read it hadn't been declared safe for pregnancy even though it hadn't been declared unsafe either so I'm scared to take it in case some of it stays in me after I got pregnant and hurts the baby, and she gave me Zinc but again its a high dose and the health place gave it to me with Vitamin A in it and I am not allowed vitamin A supplements and so I haven't taken that either. I take my thyroxine in the morning and my pregnancy tablet in the evening so they dont mix with each other, they have magnesium and zinc in them too so then I think well isnt that too much if I take the other? and when do I take the others so they dont mix either?

I just am totally confused and I feel like everything is unravelling, and I feel like dissolving into tears but I'm at my family's place for the weekend so have to put on the happy face and it's SO draining...

Sorry for the post... I'm just distraught... I want to go to bed and sleep for 100 years :(

I already have decided to take Monday off work, if I want to cry all day I can, and I refuse to answer the phone (apart from my husband) or do anything apart from watch rubbish tv and maybe come on here ...

Sorry for the downer :( what can I do??? :(

xxxx

[Opinionated]

Hi Aisling,

I actually tried to reply to you the other day, but couldn't due to the section you posted in. I don't have any answers unfortunately, and I am not about to give you all the bs ones you have no doubt heard before (you know the "it will happen" type stuff), I just wanted to offer you some:hugs::hugs:and let you know that someone cares. Are you seeing a fertility specialist? I would, but also, I would see a counselor that could help both you and your dh deal with such a hard thing to go through.

I wish you all the best and hope it all works out for you soon.:fingerscrossed::babydust2::babydust2:

[iluvmyboys]

Hi aisling, I am so sorry you are going through this :hugs:

I don't have anything magical to say to you, but I really hope things work out for you soon.

I had a miscarriage last year and 2 chemical pregnancies this year. I started taking maca root supplement and I got pregnant again straight away and so far looks like a sticky one :fingerscrossed: Maca root can regulate your hormones and increase fertility. Google it if you are interested, it's definitely worth a look.

Try to keep your chin up. You are still young at 35 in my opinion. I wish you lots of :babydust2::wizard: for the future!

-Catherine

[Elestrial]

I was given supplements to take by the doctor but for example the Magnesium is quite strong and I read it hadn't been declared safe for pregnancy even though it hadn't been declared unsafe either so I'm scared to take it in case some of it stays in me after I got pregnant and hurts the baby, and she gave me Zinc but again its a high dose and the health place gave it to me with Vitamin A in it and I am not allowed vitamin A supplements and so I haven't taken that either. I take my thyroxine in the morning and my pregnancy tablet in the evening so they dont mix with each other, they have magnesium and zinc in them too so then I think well isnt that too much if I take the other? and when do I take the others so they dont mix either?


Hi. I am sorry for the pain you are in. It must be really hard to lose a baby. I just wanted to say about all your supplements - check with your dr. Take all your boxes and bottles and ask which goes with which and the best times. I know that kind of advice is totally not welcome :laughing:, but somethimes we need someone to say it so we don't feel like an idiot going to the dr off our own bat. My other thought on vitamins is that in my understanding your body will only absorb as much as it needs, so if your taking magnesium/zinc/iron in 2 differnt forms then your body will only take as much as it wants and then you wee/poo out the rest. Vitamin A is my only concern, and even then I would say not to worry too much - maybe take it before ovulation and then don't take that pill during your TWW?

Ok. Good luck!