siblings sharing a birthday

[MummyCharmzy]

does anyone else have children that share a birthday?

In 6 days my DD celebrates her first birthday, on the exact same day I will be having my new DD. There is nothing I can do about this unless for some reason tomorrow at my last scan and fetal monitoring something is terribly wrong (which it wont be... everythings been fairly smooth considering for the last few weeks)

Everyone keeps telling me how 'cute/sweet/special' it is for the girls to share a birthday but I'm sick of hearing it because I think its going to be horrible! I feel so SO bad for Isobella for stealing her birthday and it upsets me every day thinking about it!

If anyone else has children who share a birthday can you please share with me what your children think of it? Or do you share a birthday with your sibling... what do you think of it?

Please reassure me that in 20 years time my DD is not going to still hate sharing her bday :S

[Funkychicken]

Firstly, what an awesome day to be born! *My birthday*:laughing:

My SIL's are born on the same day-12 months apart. They have never been all that close though, and as far as I know they wouldn't have been close regardless of when their birthdays were. I'm sure if you talk to your DD about it and be really positive about it, she will be too. I would be careful though of saying to her "The new baby is going to be born on YOUR birthday". It might seem a nice way to make her feel special now but in years to come your 2nd DD may feel 'less than' as she will feel like she was born on her sisters birthday, rather than they 'share' the same day. As long as they both get to be special girls on their birthday, I'm sure they'll be fine.:D
All the best on Wednesday-how exciting for you, a new bubba!:yelclap:

[zactyl]

As a twin it was never an issue, but that's a little different. We had two cakes at birthday parties! :thumbsup:
Isobel isn't old enough to care and will grow up not knowing any different, so I don't think you have anything to worry about. Would maybe be a problem if she was 5 or so, but not at 1 ;) When they're older, IF sharing the birthday is a problem, have a birthday lunch for one and a birthday dinner for the other (for example). Go to a movie for each of them. Just make sure they're each getting the special attention they would if they had separate birthdays, don't economise!
Or you could lie to one of them and shift the birthday a couple of weeks... :laughing:

[jjpb]

i dont see how it would be a problem, she would probebrly LOVE sharing her bday with her little sister, ALTHOUGH, im sure you will get some people that will give 1 presant for both kids, which might annoy them a little, my daughters bday is a week after xmas, and some people just give her 1 presant, which annoys me, cos its two seperate occasions,

If your really worried about them having the same bday, is there anyway you could put it off a day or two?

[Irish Dad]

My daughters are 4 days apart :) Todays Nikita's birthday and her sister was born 4 days ago :D Kind a scary having kids less than a year apart... we were thinking when they are older should we have two birthday partys a week after eachother instead of one big one so both girls feel like its their special day :confused: As foir having kids bdays on the exact same day I think it'd be sort of cool :smiliedance: All the best for 28 th !!

[MrsMiggins]

A friend of mine at school & her younger brother shared a birthday 3 years apart. She used to love telling people!! It was all very funny to her and she loved to watch how people reacted!

[mum2bubba]

My cousins (who are sisters) were born exactly a year apart, they are now 10 and 11, when they were babies/toddlers they didn't mind so much (or knew) that their birthdays were on the same day so it was easier to just have the one party, but now they are older they like to have two separate parties, although they have alot of the same friends, my nieces are both born in Feb (on different days) and they both have the one birthday as well (they're 7 and 4) I think it would be easier when they are youunger and close in age but I'm not so sure for teenagers, unless you were a close family and didn't mind sharing a birthday.

My DD is born on Oct 8 and my DP is born on Oct 1 so we usually do something for them (just a dinner out or something) and then have a small party for DD.

I was pregnant at the start of the year (miscarried) and that baby was meant to be due on DP's birthday. :yes: :eek:

[flib]

My children were born on the same day 4 years apart. I knew it was going to be a close call but once my contractions started at 3am on the day of my son's 4th birthday, I knew there was nothing stopping my daughter from crashing her brother's birthday party!

It was a very exciting day for him and I'm sure he'll never forget it!

Probably the person who suffers most is me! I find it very stressful trying to organise 2 birthday parties. This year we had them a week apart. Next year we'll probably have seperate celebrations too but small ones. It is hard to keep the numbers down!!

My kids will never be able to say that they forgot each other's birthdays and it might be fun for them as adults to celebrate their birthday together!

I'm now expecting #3 and very pleased that there's no way that she will share a birthday with any of us!

Good luck with the birth of your daughter

Flib

[MummyCharmzy]

Theres 13 days between DS and DSS birthdays and that works great because if we want them to celebrate together, they can, if we dont (or they dont want to when they're older) they dont have to. Last year they had a joint party a week after DSS and a week before DS's birthday... ANY dfference in day is fine because then theres that choice they each have there own special day!

Still paranoid about it!!!

DD's birthday is also SIL's birthday. DP's birthday is tomorrow (so only 3 days before DD's birthday) and theres another 10 relatives bdays in the surrounding week so its not really going to work to celebrate on a day other than there birthdays as every day is basically taken with someone elses bday lol

Anyway only 4 days to go now!

[Baby Girl]

As long as you view it as a positive then there is no reason that your kids will have any issues with it.

If they get made to feel that it isn't ideal to you then they may start to get upset about it but if you stay happy about it and just treat is any normal birthday then they should be fine. You have a few years yet before the tanties will start about separate parties!! just tell them they are twins born a year apart :laughing:
If it is a huge issue for you - Can you possibly book your c/s for the day before or after?????

[MummyCharmzy]

nope cant change my c-sect date, trust me I've tried many many MANY times! Unless I go into labour in the next 3 days, she will be born on the 28th!

[EskimoMumma]

You can always try castor oil.



ALthough you may be put off greasy foods for a while :rolleyes:

[my_lot]

hi all,
i just found out my due date - and all i could think of was my friends darling little girl of 4.5 she lost in a car accident on this day 3.5 years ago. this little girl was close in age to my second DD and just a year younger than my eldest.. the two families were close ( family working together, shared relies that were friends ect) so this little girl was a big part of our lives from newborn- the thought of this being the due date was a little sad for me.... but on a high note this is just two days before DD2 will be 8! and when i told her the due date she was not very happy! she said itd better not come on her b'day! ( shes worried about not getting any prez) so to lighten up the situation i gave her a fluffy pink and white poodle toy and told her it was a prez from the baby incase it did come on her b/day...and then shed really get nothing! it gave us all a laugh ( she did know we were kidding and we ended up having a heart to heart )but at the end of the day DD is happy with her little prez from the new baby and shes already talking about shared b/day parties "forever"....they had a laugh when i said i have a bit of trouble going full term and DD1 better watch out her b/day is 6 weeks before DD2 and we have xmas in between!! so at the moment the idea of a baby sharing their birthdays is very exciting for my girls!.... i think the families on here that have kids sharing b/days have shown they go out of their way to make each child feel special about their day and you will do the same for your little ISOBELLA.. i wish you all the best for the birth.

[MummyCharmzy]

thank you for sharing all that My_Lot, very much appreciated :D

Adding to being upset about them sharing a birthday is the fact I will only be seeing DD for about 30 minutes before I head to hospital on her birthday as she will be asleep while I get ready, then ill wake her up to say happy bday and goodbye before I leave and thats it til the next day! Its my little princesses first birthday and I don't get to spend it with her!!!

[Tam-I-Am]

Hi Chamzy,

I'm worried about the same thing for my DD's first birthday (not seeing her I mean!) totally different circumstances - but I work 2.5 days a week and only get home an hour before she goes to bed - and I'm working on her birthday.

We're just making the weekend her birthday instead - we'll be celebrating on saturday (DD's birthday is 1 day after your two DD's birthdays!). Is that a possibility for you - so you don't feel as though you're missing out? (although I realise you'll probably still be in hospital from the c-sec).

Good luck for Wednesday - and happy birthday to Bella and the new littly!

[MJF]

I share my birthday with my little sister- she is 3yrs younger.
I had no problem with it growing up- it was fun!!

[Jodiee]

Noooo, its probably better, my 2 youngest are 1 day apart, and it sucks for them, cause people only come on DDs birthday, and give
ds his pressie, and on his day, he doesnt get any visitors, cause theyve already been, poor bugga! I always make a seperate cake for him, but honestly, it would have been soooooooo much easier if they were on the same day....

[Havana_Face]

Both my brother and i are born on the 22nd of january 4 years apart, i was 2 weeks late and he was early

[~Danni~]

My auntie her mum (my grandma) her hubby AND her daughter all share the same birthday:eek: They cope fine :D I dont think it was ever an issue!!! My DF and I have the same birthday but a year apart, kinda not the same thing but I dont feel cheated or anything like that!!:rolleyes:

[Clesthaven]

My second baby is due on my daughter, Jessica's, birthday and I was a bit nervous about it at first, but I miscarried a baby that was due in early December and I couldn't wait to conceive again, so I though I would take the risk that they would share a birthday. They may not end up actually sharing the same day, as the new baby may not arrive on the EDD, but the birthdays will be very close. I am a bit nervous that Jess may not like it but deep down I think it will be OK. It shows that you like that time of year!! I for example think February is a good time to give birth as it is not freezing cold like winter but it is not too close to Christmas
either.


Also, my mum's older sisters were born on 26-1-1953 and 18-1-1955 and apparently they always shared their :smiliedance: :smiliedance: birthday parties and were happy enough in doing so.

[AllBoys4Bessy]

Hi all, I am a twin born on the 13 feb 80 and my son Justin was also born via emergency c/s on the 13 feb 06 too. He is the best birthday present I could ask for, a happy healthy baby. But fate has blessed us again with baby #2 due on the 13 Feb 07 (planned VBAC), I dont mind if we all have the same bithday I think taht it is makes the day extra special (it makes it very easy for DH to remember too) but really how often do babies arive on there planed due dates?? if it does happen or dosnt happen course i will still be over the moon again.

Jess
xoxo:D

[RuthK]

Just adding a bit of fun to this thread. Do you know that the world record for the most children born to one mother on the same birthday was 5! They were all born in the 60's and not at all planned that way.

Also, in Norway a mother had all 3 of her children on February 29 (long before induction was a regularity).

[Roopee]

My oldest two (both boys) are born 23.5mths apart to the day. While they dont ctually share the same day, whenever there is a party they have to have to have a combined one. They are only 5 and 3 at the moment so its not really an issue. BUT i always make sure they each get ti invite who they want to and they have their own cakes etc etc.
My 3rd and 4th (Due in feb) will have the exact same age gap, so it will be the same for them.
My sister and i are 12 years and 1 day apart, so my b'day is 25 may and hers is 26 may, we always had to share a cake etc and whenever there was a party i had to share everything with her and it drove me nuts for ages.

Just make sure you make sure that its a special day for both of them and they each have there own stuff, so they're not alays having to share and it will be fine. The great part about it is that your first bubba is so young she'll never know any difference, it will just be normak for them both.
try not to stress too much about it-it'll all work out fine:D:D

[Verdi]

No problem at all infact my sons love it!!!!!

Mine are born 2years apart to the day

12/08/99
12/08/01

Freaky!!!!

It is definately extra special, kids are so unselfish that way, it also solves the problem of jealousy on the day!!:thumbsup:
Third time around i am due in november, thats the month i conceived my boys!!!:D

[Ky]

Two of my nephews are born 3 days less than a year apart.

I think that the biggest mistake that their parents have made is making sure that they always get the same toys etc ... the boys have such different personalities that they really should be getting presents that are suited to them individually rather than getting something because the other has one too. it has got to the point where friends parents are asked not to buy different gifts for them!

They are now very jealous little guys when one of them gets something that the other hasn't got and will deliberately go and break whatever it is so that one isn't better than the other! One child is very mechanically minded and will often pull his toys to bits to see how they work and when his breaks, he will break his brothers one so that his brothers one doesn't work anymore making it even in his mind.

[Mikeswifey]

My DH and I share the same birthday and we were born in the same year and I am 1/2hr older.

[MummyCharmzy]

Well its official now DD savannah was born 5 days ago on the 28th, actually I can be technical and say they're just a bit less than 12 months apart as Isobella was born at 2:21pm and Savannah was born at 1:49pm lol

I obviously no longer am phased about thme sharing a bday! It passed the second she was born lol

[CJJHRA]

My twins love getting the same things, though, yeah, I really should put their names on them though so if one breaks his, I know whos. Sometimes you are damned if you do and damned if you dont. :o

My 8 & 10 year old like getting somethings the same for christmas (though their birthdays arent close)


and CONGRATS to you Charmzy!!