Remembering our precious baby...

[Mrs Little]

I thought i'd start a thread, where mothers can share the ways they have remembered their son or daughter that was born sleeping (still birth). I remember feeling extremly overwhelmed when we lost Amali. "What memories do i keep from the birth?", "What do i want to do at the memorial/funeral to remember her?", "What do i want to be said at that time?" and "How do i cope now that she's gone"....and so many more. :(

The hospital i had Amali at gave me a pack, with information from SIDs and information that explained what options were available to us. It also had a baby book, where i was able to have her hand prints and foot prints done. The hospital gave her a hospital name band (which was the most special part for us) and they weighed and measured her in front of us. That little book has been next my bed on a shelf, since she's been born. It's very precious to me, and a nice way for me to remember her by.

Other ways i have remembered Amali:
- released butterflies at her memorial.
- completed the baby's room (we do plan on having another baby in the future). Completing the room, allowed me to grieve her....gave me a purpose and reason for grieving. DH explained that it forced him to be real- that she really was gone.
- We each wrote a special letter to her and placed it in with her ashes.
- A special place in our house for special items of Amali's (which is in our bedroom on it's own shelf, where i can see it everyday). It has a teddy on it, her butterfly poem, some crafty butterflies, her candle, her birth certificate, photos, baby book, etc.
- DH bought me a butterfly ring so i felt she was always with me. Something i could look at and remember her by.
- We also arranged to have Amali's name 'Written in the Sand' by Carly. The most amazing photo.

I hope these ideas help others in their grieving process, as it did for us. Feel free to share any other ideas you have.:hugs:

Remembering your baby is an important part of your grieving process, and you're allowed to do it any way you feel.

Mrs Little.

[tahlias mum]

with bailey we kept everything we also got a book from the hospital they kept the tape measure they measured him with, his lil hand and footprints hospital band and we kept the blanket he was wrapped in as well.. my mother in law baught him a lil cuddle rug and we got one the same and my mum got one as well we both sleep with them at night.. i aslo blow 2 kisses into the sky everynight and tell him sweet dreams i cant sleep without saying it.. i also have made a scrabpook from pregnancy photos to his funeral it helped me to greive by making it.. hope no one else has been or has to go through the heartache of losing a child

[missmoody]

I have kept absolutely everything from when my son Vincent was born. It was 3 years ago, and I still can't bring myself to compile a scrapbook with his beautiful photos in it. One day I will though!

The top shelf on the bookshelf in our bedroom has baby stuff on it. Some books I had bought before he was born to read to him, a hungry little catepillar book, a baby's first Bible, and some ones we got following his birth. Plus a blanket, which we were going to wrap him in when we got him home, and the stillborn teddy the hospital gave us, with a teeny tiny little singlet rolled up in its arms. There's also a book of photos the midwives took at the hospital of us and our baby, and hands and footprints-it's in a ziplock bag because I couldn't handle the thought of anything ever happening to it.

I also have some teddy bear pendants, and a ring with a blue stone, in rememberance.