Is your DH/DF/DP a 'Mummy's boy?'

[Cicho]

Oh my god.

My DH just cannot let go of the apron strings and it is driving me absolutely NUTS :yes:

My MIL is needy. Cannot do anything by herself or make any decisions by herself. For her own reasons she thinks she must run everything past DH first, or the world will implode.

I am sooo sick of it.

I consider myself independent and trust my own judgment and therefore make my own decisions.

And according to MIL I too should not make a decision without first consulting DH.. pfftt..

Rant Over :laughing:

[Cicho]

Oh sorry, I did not finish my post :laughing::laughing:

Does anyone else have this problem?

Oh and if DH is too busy or tired to help MIL she lays on the subtle guilt's, which I can see but DH cannot.

I am so p!ssed off that I have a headache. :laughing::laughing:

Someone please tell me that this is NOT normal

[mummy2mimi]

:laughing: i have a mummys boy aswell but thank god i moved him 2 the otherside of Australia so she cant be into everything,well thats not the reason y we moved to WA frm sydney (work) but since bein here its good cause she cant give advise all the time on DD and what she should b eating and bla bla but dp calls her constanley and even puts the guilts on me if i dont ring and talk sh!t 2 her,she is a lovely ladie though but sometimes i dont feel like talkin on the phone for 40mins about her dog or her bird ect ect and she is always trying 2 give relationship advice cause everytime dp and i have an argument who does he run 2...MUMMYtells her everything and then she rings me and trys 2 give advice which is the one thing i hate,her telling me relationship advice and the fact that dp goes and tells her our business!

[pennylane]

No its not normal,It's our jobs as mothers to be raising our children to go out into the world as independent people that,while still loving their parents,dont have to be worried about them all the time and emotionally supporting them before themselves or the new people in their lives (spouses,children..)

Sorry but I see alot (not all but ALOT) of MILS (and alot of FILS) as selfish people that feel an entitlement to be the be all and end all in their adult childrens lives which is pretty disturbing.Im hoping to meet some one day that will prove me wrong :)

[mum of 3]

my dp a mummies boy and i hate it :hair:
he does what ever she asks with out questioning anything
eg: he just inherited 250k we were sent the cheque from the solisitor and that night mil rang to tell him he should sighn the cheque over to her and deposit it in her bank so he doesnt spend it all so he f*#kn did:banghead:
THAT IS OUR HOUSE MONEY and if we need any of it we have to ask her wtf

[mummy2mimi]

hmmm dont know if that helped but imnot sure if its a mummy's boy thing or if its just a normal MIL behaviour.... sorry but rant on,i love listening 2 MIL stories hahaha

[pennylane]

my dp a mummies boy and i hate it :hair:
he does what ever she asks with out questioning anything
eg: he just inherited 250k we were sent the cheque from the solisitor and that night mil rang to tell him he should sighn the cheque over to her and deposit it in her bank so he doesnt spend it all so he f*#kn did:banghead:
THAT IS OUR HOUSE MONEY and if we need any of it we have to ask her wtf


OMFG!!! :thumbsdown::banghead: I would have LOST my sh*t if my DH did that! :hugs:

[missie_mack]

My Dh is indeed a Mommas Boy :yes: but generally speaking she doesn't cause us too much grief. However it does mean that he cannot see or overlooks the things she shouldn't say and do in general but then the same can be said about his father who he doesn't particularly like... I think its because its the way it has always been he doesn't see it from the outside looking in... I have greater fears that he is becoming just like his mother in other aspects :geek:

Looking at it from another perspective it worked to my benefit because it meant he knew the value and importance of family before having his own ;)

[missie_mack]

He just inherited 250k we were sent the cheque from the solisitor and that night mil rang to tell him he should sighn the cheque over to her and deposit it in her bank so he doesnt spend it all so he f*#kn did:banghead:
THAT IS OUR HOUSE MONEY and if we need any of it we have to ask her wtf

My gawd! that money should have gone in one of those government bank accounts where they have high interest rates and you use it buy a home!! My Dh would be sleeping at his mothers if he did that :geek:

[MsMummy]

My partner's a mummy's boy, but not in a bad way.

His mum calls him almost every day (and lately, every day) just for a chat.

But it's not really a control thing or anything else, just a need to make regular contact. I think she is probably more interested in the baby anyway, but she'll have to talk to my partner until the baby can talk!:D

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

Nope my DH is not, never asks her opinion on anything, because she is a dill. We now see her approx once a week, however this is only a recent thing.

If he sent her an inheritance check worth 250K I think i might leave him, how wopuld that be best for our family? Seriously I couldn't forgive him, because it would set up us and our children for life. I could not be with a man who couldn't think for him self.

[mum of 3]

pennylane- i know i wanted to im still really angry about it
when ever there is money involved she dell dp what to do when our washing machine went she had to come with us to pick a new one so we didnt get a dud:mad: now we are looking for a new bed we told her we have picked it out and put a deposit on it and she wants to see it first and keeps sending me e-mails on different beds that she thinks we should get.
and he never says any thing to her grrrrr

[Cicho]

IMO she has control issues.

My DH was married previously, and his first wife and himself LIVED with his mother, and she tells me how wonderful it was! :laughing: *tries not to vomit*

My DH's younger brother (who is 28) still lives at home, pays no board etc and MIL just bought a new car for herself and BIL to share, although she paid for it and pays insurance, rego etc. And she is perfectly happy to do so.

She just cannot let go. And I am slowly going insane :laughing:

I will add that she is not nasty or mean

BUT she continually asks if we need help, like do I need help to clean the house, help with the washing etc... NO LADY, what would help me is if you let your son, my DH, grow up! :yes:

PS...Headache still there! :laughing::laughing:

[JackzMumma]

my dp a mummies boy and i hate it :hair:
he does what ever she asks with out questioning anything
eg: he just inherited 250k we were sent the cheque from the solisitor and that night mil rang to tell him he should sighn the cheque over to her and deposit it in her bank so he doesnt spend it all so he f*#kn did:banghead:
THAT IS OUR HOUSE MONEY and if we need any of it we have to ask her wtf

:eek::eek::eek: Are you kidding me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

My DH is NOT a mummy's boy!! Thank God!! And I'm not religious! And she is one of those busy body MIL's. If my DH had done that to me .....omigod i don't even know what I would have done!! For a start demand it back, and make the biggest threat (whatever that may have been....like chop off his willy??) to make him get it back!!

[OneNowOneLater]

Luckily DF isnt quite as bad as all of yours.... However MIL lives the street behind him, and last week made him mow her lawn for her (yeah sweet thing for him to do, but she could've organised a gardener, who has WAY more time to help than DF does), he spent two hours trying to start the b!oody mower, and ended up pulling most of his muscles in his back.

Also, another thing that happened last week was her organising him to go out with her and his brother, before she goes away for a few weeks, and told him that she needed him to go on the saturday night just gone. UM, HELLO, it was my birthday celebrations with Angike, and that had been planned for months. Wanna know what she said? "Cant B have it any other time? I'm sure she'll understand.... yadda yadda" pfft yeah right.... And to think, it was the ONLY time for the month that i had free to even do anything for my bday! GRRRRRR