Marriage or Baby Next?!

[Cinta]

DF and I were discussing (I know we have only just had Imogen but we just like to plan things out) whether or not to TTC later on this year or to get married first.

We really don't know? Any ideas? :confused: No rush to decide, we were just thinking. :)

[Niki]

well me and df wana ttc in about 3months or so, i want my bubbas close then we will marry after that

[JATS]

depends ön wether you want to "be married" or "have a wedding"

If you just want to be married theres nothing stopping you getting it done at a registry or a very small intimate ceremony, not much planning involved.

If you want to have a wedding, I'd do it later on.

Hubby and I are doing both!

We had our little ceremony, so we were married, but it wasn't much of a wedding IYKWIM, we plan on renewing our vows when we can afford to throw the huge party we want! No pressure to get it done by a certain time!

[Mum&bubs]

We had our 2nd bubs before we got married but we plan on marrying before our third :)
It all depends on what you two want :thumbsup:

[LA62]

Im 28 and got pregnant on honeymoon, when i was 21, we got married young, but i think you need time with your daughter as 2 is so much harder than one! ( congrats by the way and well done! :smiliedance: but you have plenty of years ahead off you both, so my advice is get married and then have more babies.

Enjoy imogen, and enjoy mark enjoys your time as a family XX

[~EmsMum~]

id get married :laughing:

[EskimoMumma]

It is your decision, not anyone elses. If its to get married for peer pressure, i wouldnt do it. If you are ready to be married, do it. If you are ready for more kids, have the kids


My personal choice is to have the kids first, then the registry, then when the cash is up and kids are older, renew vows and big party and have the children involved :D

[Ashleigh<3]

Adam and I wanted to get married before we had a baby, but then things happen like an unplanned pregnancy- This changed a few of our plans. Priorities like saving for baby needs, rent, food, etc. seemed more important then saving for a big wedding.

Instead of spending money on a big wedding like we planned, we'd rather have a house first. We both think it's really important to get a house so we're trying hard to get our separate house deposit account brewing!

The thought of a big wedding isn't as special as the though of just being with Adam, we have our whole lives to get married, heck we already feel like we're married!
Sure, we had awhile to wait to have kid's but one step came before the other!:)

[bronny-jane]

we had our dd's then got married, then concieved the next month:D

[JATS]

all you have to do is apply at the registry of BD&M to get your surname changed to his and noone would know the difference!

[SamanthaJane]

I'd get married, just so i can wear the big white dress asap:laughing:

It's up to you really... maybe u could flip a coin;)

Your so clucky already:p

[Indigosmum]

Do what your heart tells you. I had always hoped to get married to my now ex-DF (we parted ways 3 weeks ago after 10 years together). Take it from me, just dive into it.. otherwise something will always come up. For us, it was uni, then buying cool things, then saving for and buying our house, then it was saving for our bubba who was on his way.. then it was trying to make ends meet from day to day.. in the end the financial struggles squashed our relationship and he couldnt cope any longer, so he left. Life is too short and there will always be things standing in your way.. so dont make excuses.. just do what feels right.

Danielle.. 25
Indigo .. 16 months.. :hugs:

[*Chels*]

If you wanna have a big wedding,then I would hold off and have babies first,then they can be at your wedding!
We have one son,and we are getting married next may.We are having a big wedding because I think,you only get married once and isnt it every girls dream to have a special wedding day?our son is going to be pageboy,Im so glad he can be at our wedding!

[keenansmummy]

Well I am married but my opinion is that being married doesnt really change anything so do what you want - if a new bubs means more toi the 2 of you then have bubs first (you both know how you feel about each other and that is all that counts)

Congrats on your baby and good luck with ttc on the new one - I am due any day now and we have also planned to have them close together and hope something should happen jan of next year

[MissSparkle]

DO u want a big wedding or u content with a smaller one? Saving for a wedding with a baby can be hard and I'd think even harder with 2!

DS is now 16months and we're getting married in 11months and having a HUGE Greek wedding. This is really important to us so we're holding off in #2 till after the wedding (Maybe TTC soon after returning from our honeymoon!)

Only u can make to the decision. Wait till Imogen is a little older- they get to be alot more work when they can run away from u!!

[Pixie]

What are you getting married for? Like pressure from parents/friends because you just want to say "I'm married" or because you truly want to say you will commit to each other forever?

I have been with my DP 8 and a bit years, his mum nags us to get married everytime we see her, I am very negative towards marriage lol

We are just as commited as our married friends. I am sure one day we'll marry but we're TTC #2 so for us baby first it just feels right to us and that's what you should do, do what feels right for you both :D

[SassyMummy]

If I were you, I'd probably go for the wedding. It's probably easier to save for the wedding with one child than with two...IMO. I've never gotten married, so I'm not ACTUALLY sure...but I'd assume it would be.

As for TTC...maybe you should wait a while before you decide when to do that. Wait until your baby is a bit older and then see if you're ready. You never know...you could be happy to be a mother-of-one for quite a while for many reasons. Maybe your bub will be a bit of a handful and you'll think "Dear God! I couldn't handle ANOTHER ONE anytime soon!" or you may think, "You know, things are going great...now would be a great time to have another one!".

[Hokey Pokey]

I would go for the wedding! JMO though. After our second, we decided we would definately not bring another child into the family until we were married. Mostly because of the fact of expenses and time LOL :laughing:

[shed]

I absolutely insist on getting married before even considering TTC #2, if there is a #2 at all.

I am kinda annoyed that we are not already married and we will definitely be getting married before bubby goes to school. I don't want a big wedding, I just want to be a married mother.

But that's just silly old me. Everyone is different. I don't think there is a right answer for everyone, just a right answer for individual people really.

Nobody else seems to mind what people do, so do what YOU want to do.

And keep us posted of course. We DO like to know these things :D

[Cinta]

DF and I are thinking of getting married end of this year/start of next year. Got a lot to plan if we do but everything will work out fine! :yes:

Don't want a HUGE wedding but I still want a very nice one. Not too over the top but still my dream wedding IYKWIM!

So at the moment our thoughts are to hold off TTC later on in the year and get married first. But we may change our minds, its still early and I'm just enjoying my DF and my little girl regardless of marriage and another baby! ;)

Oh and thanks for all of your replies! :D

[SamanthaJane]

Hey u should start TTC on your honeymoon;)

Wooot woooooooooo;) ;)

[CarolineF]

I left it until we were married but conceived on our honeymoon.

I did it like that because I liked the thought that my dh was legally obliged to be there!!!!!:laughing:

[Verdi]

It depends, if you have been living together for a while, why not?

But if your like me and my hubby we waited till we were married to live together, we waited 1 1/2 years to conceive and had our first child 2 years after marriage.

It is always good to give the hubby exclusive attention for a while as they crave that! They're just like little boys with their mommas!!!