View Full Version : When did you know, no more?
This is a Q for all the mummies & daddies that have made the decision to not have any more children.
Just wondering when you knew that you were not going to have any more bubbies, how did you come to the realisation. Do you just decide & then get on with life or did you agonise over it.
The reason I ask is DH & are discussing whether we should have another bub but to be completely honest, I'm really happy with just having Liv (my cup runneth over:D ) & just want some pearls of wisdom from some who have already been there, so how do you know that your family is now complete?
Don't really know if this will be our last one or not, I remember saying to myself when we had our first child that I don't think I could go through this again. Yet here we are in the process of having another baby. We watch a lot of the baby type programs on Austar and it is amazing how many couples who thought they were finished having children suddenly decide they want another a few years down the track.
I guess it is one of those things that you have to play by ear, there is no one size fits all family.
Well, I kind of felt it. Or may be because we always wanted two children I just new "that's it". Also my pregnancies tend to be difficult to say the least (3 hospital admissions excluding labour with the second one), so I don't think I survive another one. Plus, even with two children we sometimes sincerely questioning each other: "Can you remember WHY we decided to have a second one?!" But that obviously happens only at the peak of frustration. We love our boys to bits.
I always thought I would have two because I am froma two person family. For us we have decided 3 is manageable and affordable in our circumstances. I am pregnant with number two and i we didn't give another shot to a girl we may regret it. We are trying to have them close together so all kids will move ou of the baby stage at similar times. I always aid no children but here we are entertaining he idea of three. I love my boys but fell a little empty, though we have said once we have three boys that would be it. We were then destined to have three boys.
I guess my body has decided this. I get too sick with pregnancy and I really don't want 4 c-sections as I have had 3 already. I am almost 39 so I guess my age is a factor too.
I guess it is a sense of being satisfied with your family, really enjoying your current children and the status quo. I have always wanted more than 1 so 3 has been a huge bonus for me.
Well, when we first met we both said 3 or 4, but now the realities are here and I want to stop after this one. I had problems with Jessica and was admitted at 33 weeks and had a c-section at 38 weeks. This time I shouldn't have that problem but am in constant pain with symphisis pubis disorder so my pubic bone is being stretched and hurts except when I'm lying down or sitting in certain positions. I'm just gearing up to have the conversation with my hubby to say - no more for me!
I have two boys so of course lots of people say "You have to try for a girl now", but I disagree...we started late anyhow, 35 when I had Paddy and I was truly happy with just him but the thought of him growing up without a sibling, specially when we get old spurred us on to have another. So I had Charlie at 38 and now I can definitely say that's it!! We are too old :laughing: don't have the energy, it was a rude shock to us how tired we get! They are both so adorable and it's been wonderful watching them grow.....but i can easily see myself with just one child and having a different life too......or with none for that matter(lol, owning property, travelling heaps etc.,etc).
Don't take it the wrong way please anyone, of course i don't regret having my two boys for a second!:p :p
When I met DH he said he didn't really see himself having kids. I knew I wanted 2 or 3, but never made an issue out of it. We had been together 8mths when we found out I was preg with DS. Not completly planned, but not unplanned either, we had talked about babies again and DHhad changed his mind and decided that he would like one, but that was it. After DS was born he stil said one was enough...til about 3mths before DS turned 2, then DH said to me out of the blue one night, 'do you want to have another baby?' I of course said yes, and he said 'thats good, coz I hid your pill' :eek: and less than 2mths later I was preg with DD.
DH now says 2 is enough, and right now it is. My 2 drive me crazy some days, and financially we would struggle too. But DD is only 7mths old, in another couple of years we will, hopefully :fingerscrossed: , be alot better off financially, and we may have another baby. But if we don't, then I guess that's just the way thing's are ment to be for us :)
wa mum of 4
When my hair went grey
I found myself sleeping in shopping que's
and craving adult conversation :laughing:
I just knew.
I am not sure I should be contibuting to this thread. I have 3 beautiful girls and pregnant with #4 and DH and I are already talking around the 'what if's' of a 5th. I keep waiting for the magical 'my family is complete' thought but it is yet to happen. Plus, if I stop having babies my DH may try to send me back to work :eek: ;)
Don't ask me. I have 4 kids and every time one turns 3 I decide I want another!
However, my body has given me it's answer. I have had too many c/s and the last was classical. So no more for me. Maybe..........
I've always wanted 3, but my DP only wants 2, we are in negotiations at the moment (lol). I truly feel that if i have one more i will be happy, i will feel like our family is complete. I guess for me it's a life long dream to have 3, and then thats it!
I just knew in my heart I wasn't and am not having anymore.
Really I only was going to have 1 but circumstances changed that.
I love my second as much as I love my first. I have no regrets having the 2nd.
I knew when I was pregnant with Bec that 2 would be enough for me.
Having my tubes tied within the next 6mths.
This is my first pregnancy and I feel like it could also be my last. Not really enjoying being pregnant but cant wait to meet my baby. Dont know if that makes sense.
We decided when Chloe was 1 that we weren't going to have anymore, then I had a whoopsy on the pill and along came Simone. Now that we have 2, I would really like to try for a boy, having said that if we had 3 girls I would still be thrilled. DH isn't convinced, he is happy with 2 and said that he is already outnumbered 4 to 1 (our cat is a girl too) another female in the house would drive him 'round the bend, like he isn't already there :rolleyes: We are currently in negotiations. ;) :) :yes:
Every time I'm pregnant I say this will be the last. I think DH could talk me into a 4th though, but not yet ;)
I'm guessing a lot of people just know when they through with having babies. I always change my mind.
I thought I was finished with 3:yes: DH and I decided we were both really clucky and wanted one more. But throughout my last pregnancy I knew I'd never put my body through that again! Worst pregnancy ever for me, and my whole family suffered because I was useless!
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