3 yr old WHINGER...Ideas?

[SecondTimeRound]

Hi all,

My 3 yr old just won't stop whinging....about anything and everything. We have a newborn bub, but his whinging started long before bub arrived or was even conceived. He just nags at me a lot of the time.
I've tried a lot of things to stop this really draining and annoying habit of his...no success as yet. DH and I like to think we spend a lot of quality time with him and he's a happy and healthy little boy...so what's with all the whinging???

Ideas/......?

[NonnyMouse]

You need to buy some "Magick Mummy Ears" next time you're out!

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=259438 (post #9)
(http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=259438)

[SmileyBJ]

Each time he whinges, remove him to a room or spot where he is alone. When he stops he can come out again, as soon as he starts again repeat it. If your persistant and completely remove him, along with all attention then he will stop within time.

[HugsBunny]

I tell my 3.5yo DS that 'mummy can't understand you when you whinge, please speak properly'. That usually works but if not, I just don't answer him until he speaks properly.

[iMischa]

i have a chronic whinger...now he's 4.5 we just tell him flat out to stop the whinge or he goes to the naughty corner.

he goes through ridiculous stages where he will out of nowhere start jumping up and down whinging "whats wrong?" "i want a drink" as if he has asked us already and we have said no or something! lol *shakes head*

the very mention of the naughty corner makes him stop. until the next time :|

[delirium]

My 4.5 year old DD can be like that. I tell her that unless she asks like a big girl she will be ignored (of course stuff like being hungry or being hurt I always respond to).

[lukaelmo]

i have a chronic whinger...now he's 4.5 we just tell him flat out to stop the whinge or he goes to the naughty corner.

he goes through ridiculous stages where he will out of nowhere start jumping up and down whinging "whats wrong?" "i want a drink" as if he has asked us already and we have said no or something! lol *shakes head*

the very mention of the naughty corner makes him stop. until the next time :|

Oh wow, I am so glad I've finally found someone!!! My almost four year old does EXACTLY this, starts having hysterics over things he hasn't even asked yet :laughing:!!!

I think it's just a stage... I HOPE it's just a stage :D. Anyway, we do the same thing, into your room if you are going to whine... in my view whining is being naughty, so I treat it like that.

[iMischa]

Oh wow, I am so glad I've finally found someone!!! My almost four year old does EXACTLY this, starts having hysterics over things he hasn't even asked yet :laughing:!!!

I think it's just a stage... I HOPE it's just a stage :D. Anyway, we do the same thing, into your room if you are going to whine... in my view whining is being naughty, so I treat it like that.

lol well it is comforting to know that its not just my ds..i hope its just a phase as well. he did start this once before, but we just cracked down on not letting him get away with it at all and he stopped...lately tho so close to having bubs and me being quite sick ive let it slide a few times...now its just getting out of hand again!

[BabelFish]

Magick Mummy Ears - that is GOLD. I'm going to remember that one for when DD gets older :D

That's exactly the kind of thing little kids I think would really respond to, a little bit of fantasy that teaches them something in a way that is accessible and that they can really understand - often a lot more than a patient explanation by a reasonable parent! What a fantastic idea. :thumbsup:

[Opinionated]

Welcome to "3". They whinge and whine more than any other creature.


Each time he whinges, remove him to a room or spot where he is alone. When he stops he can come out again, as soon as he starts again repeat it. If your persistant and completely remove him, along with all attention then he will stop within time.
Good advise, but I would never see my toddler for longer than 10 seconds if I did this. I tried it for days and it is not working for us.


You need to buy some "Magick Mummy Ears" next time you're out!

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=259438 (post #9)
(http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=259438)
Gold. I am going to buy a pair. This just may work on my darling.

[NonnyMouse]

Magick Mummy Ears - that is GOLD. I'm going to remember that one for when DD gets older :D

That's exactly the kind of thing little kids I think would really respond to, a little bit of fantasy that teaches them something in a way that is accessible and that they can really understand - often a lot more than a patient explanation by a reasonable parent! What a fantastic idea. :thumbsup:

Thanks Ches! :)

I did think about doing the time out thing, but to me whinging is just what happens when they are too emotional to express themselves well... and shutting them away and saying they're being naughty is like teaching them that being emotional isn't ok, rather than teaching them to take a breath and try to communicate calmly when feeling emotional.

[BabelFish]

I agree with you Nonny - if there is a way that they can learn to communicate better we need to be listening to them and helping them out, but it's not always easy to explain things reasonably to a toddler - they are still just SO young, and their frustrations are so elemental and instinctive, I think something like the Magick Mummy Ears is something they could so easily relate to!

[susmamma]

try the book 1 2 3 magic,,,, it's working wonders for us!
the whinging and tantrums have settled right down,

the best thing i got from it, is that for every time you criticise them or tell them off, you have to praise them five times.

interesting huh?

i reckon i was counting lola, and telling her off and putting her on the thinking chair a million times a day, and hardly ever praising her... i was just so darn frustrated with her all day, it just never occured to me to spend extra time trying to find all the good things she does.

i also started both the kids on omega 3, fish oil suppliments, supposed to be good for behaviour issues etc.