1stTimeandSingle
17-06-2009, 10:43
Hi All,
I am 10 weeks pregnant and single. The father and I broke up on Sunday (my choice). :(
I have not been happy in our relationship for about 6 months but kept pushing my feelings aside for whatever reason. Even when I look back to when we got together I realise that he wasn't the person I was looking for. I was naive and thought he would change and everything would be ok. Now I can't get rid of this feeling that my life will be ruined if I stay with him and I made the decision to end our relationship.
Since finding out we are having a baby I have managed to get myself out of debt and pay my credit card and car debt so we can move out. We both live at home, I have an investment property that I was paying off and selling next year and he is on an appreticeship wage. We argued for the first 2 weeks about moving out because he didn't want to move out of his mum's as he doens't have to pay or do anything there. I feel that if we can expect ourselves to be parents than we can grow up and take responsibility and move out.
My ex doens't want to give up his apprenticeship which he hasn't been employed with for 9 months because he kepts getting fired. His apprenticeship is meant to take 4 years and it will take him 6 or more years at the moment. Also he only makes $400 per week (if he is working) and if he gets paid. Some weeks he gets paid $100 this week and the rest next week. (This is not good enough when you have a baby and I would never let me baby go without anything - but being with him makes me so scared for my life and my baby's life)
I am scared because if feels like I already have a child to look after that doesn't grasp the concept that this is a HUGE responsility we are taking on. At the moment as much as it scares me I would rather raise this child on my own then have to hold the hand of my partner and carry him in life.
I have learnt so much over the past 6 weeks about myself and life. What I want and what I don't want.
At the moment I am so stressed it's not funny. As well as having to cope with all of the above I'm a smoker who has been forced to give up at the worst possible time. (And only smokers will understand - its a horrible addiction)
My baby is due in January 2009 :) and I am so scared that I am doing this alone. I'm worried my child will grow up to resent me for leaving its father. I never expected my life to turn out like this and at the moment I am struggling with whether I should keep the baby - I guess I am after some advice from people who have been single and pregnant and can give me some inspiration?
xx
Single and Scared
I am 10 weeks pregnant and single. The father and I broke up on Sunday (my choice). :(
I have not been happy in our relationship for about 6 months but kept pushing my feelings aside for whatever reason. Even when I look back to when we got together I realise that he wasn't the person I was looking for. I was naive and thought he would change and everything would be ok. Now I can't get rid of this feeling that my life will be ruined if I stay with him and I made the decision to end our relationship.
Since finding out we are having a baby I have managed to get myself out of debt and pay my credit card and car debt so we can move out. We both live at home, I have an investment property that I was paying off and selling next year and he is on an appreticeship wage. We argued for the first 2 weeks about moving out because he didn't want to move out of his mum's as he doens't have to pay or do anything there. I feel that if we can expect ourselves to be parents than we can grow up and take responsibility and move out.
My ex doens't want to give up his apprenticeship which he hasn't been employed with for 9 months because he kepts getting fired. His apprenticeship is meant to take 4 years and it will take him 6 or more years at the moment. Also he only makes $400 per week (if he is working) and if he gets paid. Some weeks he gets paid $100 this week and the rest next week. (This is not good enough when you have a baby and I would never let me baby go without anything - but being with him makes me so scared for my life and my baby's life)
I am scared because if feels like I already have a child to look after that doesn't grasp the concept that this is a HUGE responsility we are taking on. At the moment as much as it scares me I would rather raise this child on my own then have to hold the hand of my partner and carry him in life.
I have learnt so much over the past 6 weeks about myself and life. What I want and what I don't want.
At the moment I am so stressed it's not funny. As well as having to cope with all of the above I'm a smoker who has been forced to give up at the worst possible time. (And only smokers will understand - its a horrible addiction)
My baby is due in January 2009 :) and I am so scared that I am doing this alone. I'm worried my child will grow up to resent me for leaving its father. I never expected my life to turn out like this and at the moment I am struggling with whether I should keep the baby - I guess I am after some advice from people who have been single and pregnant and can give me some inspiration?
xx
Single and Scared