Dummy withdrawal ?

[rynosmum]

DS has just turned 2 and has started asking for his dummy all of the time. He used to only use it for day sleeps and if very overtired but lately wants it a few times per day. He doesn't even ask for it at Daycare though - he is there 3 days per week.

Tonight, we decided to start the weaning process. He cried and begged for his 'Dum'. I cuddled and whispered to him until he eventually stopped crying. We told him that his 'Dum' was broken which he seemed to understand after a while. He went to bed peacefully and happily.

Has anyone got any other advice on how to continue the weaning whilst minimising his stress ? How long until he forgets about it ?

[Rell]

I used chocolate as a bribe to get my DD to give hers up ,she was 2 1/2
DS I suspect will be a bit harder as he seams more attached. :o

[xkwzit]

One of my friends (who is an ABA counsellor) told me that a child's need to suck increases again bewtween the ages of 2 and 3. While DD2 having a dummy at 2 sort of irks me as well, I've decided to put off taking it off her until she's a bit older and can understand that we're putting it away or throwing it away for good (maybe 3?).

Not very helpful, am I?

Cheers

[reAllytee]

Wow X thats an interesting piece of info !
Shall keep that in mind if we have dramas because Boof has just recently gone back to wanting to use his of a nite. Think that may be due to teething though but really if it soothes him i dont care !

Id maybe try the use of something else to soothe him like a bear or blanket but if it doesnt work id probably just let him have it but thats just me im a softie lol :o

[TwoBlue]

I am with Xkwzit, not much help to you Rynosmum sorry...

When DS is three he will understand more easily... hopefully

I do make sure he doesnt have it any other time than sleeps though... if he wants it or get it while playing i just say no, or take it off him, hide it and then use distraction... "oh look at these blocks ! Lets make a tower!!"
and then he forgets about it ... :D

[nemosmum]

Maybe its just a stage his going through, it will pass

O did the same thing (not with a dummy as he hasnt used one since 8mths) but with his wraps,

He went through a period where he didnt really need them BUT then recently his gone through this faze where he MUST have them, he carries them round the house, biting them, sucking on them, loving the up LOL

So Im with X maybe just a age thing.

Dont worry im sure he'll be weaned by his 16th birthday K:laughing: hahahaha JJ

[Peaceangels]

Makes sense what X says, we weaned DS1 at 3yrs and talked about it for months prior.
After talking about it he agreed that the Easter Bunny would take it and in return bring him the Wiggles book for his Leap pad.
We only had a couple of nights where he asked for it and woke during the night looking for it, but he has been great ever since.
(Btw, he also went through a period at 2.5yrs where he wanted the dummy more)

[rynosmum]

Noooo.....you can't say that, after we have already started the hard yards !

Hmmm....I'll see how he is tomorrow. He went to bed telling me calmly how his dummy was now bok-en so I think he does understand.

Thanks for your input though - I hope we don't have to give in and give the dummy back, but at least if we do, I won't feel so troubled about it.:hugs: :yes:

[xkwzit]

That's understandable RM...and think how enouraged I'll be when next week Ry hasn't had a dummy at all. I might even have to think about trying it with DD2.:D

Cheers

[suemp]

the way our paed to us to wean ds off the dummy (only works if you use the cherry type) only give them the 1 dummy so you have to be vigilant and not lose them. eventually the dummy begins to disintergrate (sp) and they hate the sensation in their mouths so most will choose to spit it out. we gave up the bottles by giving them to santas reindeer. my son was a super dummy sucker and we gave up quite easy, surprisingly. one day he was walking with hot chips and dropped the bucket of chips. all of a sudden all these birds came and ate the chips. that afternoon he lost his dummy and he said to me has the birds taken my dummy and i said yes mate. when ever he asked for it id remind him that the birds took it and he was happy with that
good luck

[nemosmum]

Good luck K keep perserveing and Ry will be fine:kiss:


:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

S&Oxx

[Chickadee]

DD (2.5) also started wanting her dummy more, i can't remember if it was at 2 years. Possibly just before that. At daycare she only gets it for naptime, but as soon as I arrive to pick her up she wants it out of her bag and insists on having it for the drive home and part of the evening. I mostly don't have the energy to argue.

We have tried giving it to the garbage man. DD was quite excited about this and we even went out to the curb in our pajamas to do it. And then she realised that giving it to the garbageman meant it had to go into the bin, and she refused. Next time I'll just throw myself into the street to make the man stop the truck & get out so she can give it to him.

I've also had suggestions of giving the dummy to a new baby who needs it. I talk to DD about this, there are lots of babies at daycare and she loves them, but she just clutches the dummy harder and says no.

I spoke to one of the carers about it, 50something and having raised her own kids as well. She said she took the dummy away from her DD too early and her DD ended up sucking her thumb till she was 10, and needed orthodontic work because of it. I'm more relaxed about the dummy now.

[rynosmum]

We've persevered and stuck to the no dummy policy this morning and after a cry and a cuddle he was okay.

My MIL is here tomorrow though and will need to put him down for his first day sleeps without it - I can't be here to do it as I have a meeting up the coast. Will see how he goes and if too hard, we can go back to the Dum.

I hate him being upset when I am taking away something that gives him comfort - after reading the responses here I think I'm starting to change my mind. He is a happy outgoing boy and the occassional five minute dummy-suck comforts him and causes me no harm so why are we so concerned ?

The main reason I'm concerned is because for the past 4 nights, he has been night-waking at about 1:30 which is very unusual for him. He would go back to sleep with either a dummy or a bottle and last night I resorted to the bottle but that meant that I had to take him out of bed and he really woke from his sleepy haze which can't be good for him.

Ahhh...where did I put that instruction manual ??

[sopolicha]

Ahhh...where did I put that instruction manual ??

Let me know if mine is with yours when you find it.

You are right, at the end of the day he is only two. In the big scheme of things what is another few months?

[nikki+2]

Good friend of mine used a 'yucky dummy' technique.
She soaked the dummies in vinegar overnight & when kid asked for dummy to go to sleep, he hated the smell/taste so much he stick it outside of his room.
This method is good, because it is the child deciding that they no longer want the dummy.