How many is too many M/C??

[Bel1978]

Hi im new on here. Hi im Bel, my friend pointed me in the direction of the forum.

I have recently lost baby #3, 2nd to my husband this year. My mum lost from what i have heard 6, she died of cancer years ago so i cannot ask her. How many more times should one try before considering adoption??

Thanx

[chicken]

Bel - after just having a m/c myself, I kinda know what you're going through, although to have 3 must be unbelievable. I've read that doctors don't really consider anything to be wrong until you have 3 M/C, which you've obviously just reached. I would consider having some tests done to see if they can find out the reason why you are miscarrying. I'm surprised that your doc didn't suggest it? But maybe you don't think that emotionally you can go through trying again? I'd definitely get yourself checked out - maybe its something that can be overcome?

[Bel1978]

I have an OB, yes we know that there is a problem, i have some type of Blood Condition. I take cardiprin each day but that did not work, i have an appointment to see him next week. He is talking about some type of injections next.

Yes we will try again but do i let it get to 6 like my mum did. From what i have heard at least 2 of them were born but did not last more then a few days.

[Percy]

I know of a lady who suffered 11, and has just recently given birth to a set of twins!!

I think its a really personal decision. I have only suffered one, and dont think i could go through the heartache again.

[delliepooh]

hey bel,

im so glad you found this site, im sure you will be as addicted as i am.

i hope you find someone on here that knows what you are going through and can help you where i cant.


hugs
del

[Bel1978]

Hi all this is what life is all about, when you cannot have your own you spoil Keira, oh and my nephews (shame on me, must leave Delli will miss the birthday party... i have chocolate cake).

[delliepooh]

i guess thats true.. im sure i will be able to return the favour for you and shane and spoil your little one oneday soon too... my nieces are getting to old to spoil now.

[Kayte]

Hi there :wave:

I have had 1 mc... Im not sure i would be able to handle it again either like some other ladies have said on here !! All my thoughts are with you and hopefully you can overcome this problem and go on to have a healthy pregnancy :fingerscrossed: :o

[Bel1978]

Thanx for that, i seem to be taking it a lot better then some people on here, as you can see Adele has Keira and when my mum died i went to live with her Parents so Keira is just like a neice to me.

[Jamily]

Hi

My friend had 7 m/c and a stillbirth however she gave birth to a healthy little boy just a week ago now. Her heart broke everytime she lost one of her little angels but it also made her more determined to get where she is today. She never gave up and it has paid off for her.

Good luck.

[Tarnya]

I have had 5 m/c and 2 full term pregancies 4 befor my DD and one after my DS now I'm pregnant again I did need help as I was saying to one of the girls yesterday i was taking Clomid because I could not fall pregnant then I could fall but I couldn't maintain the prg. It is very hard but have faith in yourself and definately exhaust all options, adoption is hard lengthy and stressfull especially in Australia we were waiting for our approval when we fell with DD Good luck and don't give up :fingerscrossed:

[lediva]

I've had 3 m/c's and one of those being a molar pregnancy and each time it has been emotionally, physically and mentally draining!
It's horrible to have so much hope to have it come crashing down on top of you...
But I'll continue to keep on trying until I can give my DD company.
I too have an Ob but I admit we haven't really discussed the whys. I think next time I see him I will ask him though.
I dont have any probs falling pregnant at all. I conceive quickly in the first or second mth usually. Its just a matter of -as another lady mentioned- maintaining it!
We'll get there. But I cant answer your question exactly either only to say that many women have had quiet a few more than I have yet keep going and do get their wish:smiliedance:
You just dont give up.

[Bel1978]

You hear people saying they had 7 or 11 M/C etc i would hate to see their bills as i have only had 2 this year and all the scans blood test and Ob visits start to add up.

[Bel1978]

[quote=Caras' Mum]I've had 3 m/c's and one of those being a molar pregnancy and each time it has been emotionally, physically and mentally draining!
It's horrible to have so much hope to have it come crashing down on top of you...
But I'll continue to keep on trying until I can give my DD company.
I too have an Ob but I admit we haven't really discussed the whys. I think next time I see him I will ask him though.
I dont have any probs falling pregnant at all. I conceive quickly in the first or second mth usually. Its just a matter of -as another lady mentioned- maintaining it!
We'll get there. But I cant answer your question exactly either only to say that many women have had quiet a few more than I have yet keep going and do get their wish:smiliedance:


Yeah like you said, in 5 years time if we both have one it has worked out in the end, i hope you get some answers soon.

My mum didnt have me until she was 40 from all of her problems, she died when i was 21. My husband is now 32 i hope that we are not that old when or if we have one.